How do tell wife i want a ffm

[kanefan69]

I want to have a 3 some with my wife and another woman how do I tell her that

 

[DHerbert]

Have a lot of booze, watch something sexy in the way of movies, say "I'd love to try that." A film like "Vicky Cristina Barcelona" is only a 13 rating in the UK, but would get the conversation started.

 

[Greedy_lion]

Maybe see if she likes the idea by initiating some foreplay and then using your words. Being direct, but also a good listener and attentive to her wants and desires.

Also try exploring her sexuality to its deepest. Make it a journey with her and see how you respond to her desires. Who knows what adventures await? I mean it’s probs you getting spanked by some ladies in a hardcore BDSM session. Not my thing but you do you.

 

[Britva415]

Can you use the words you used with us?

Seemed effective.

Or was the question really "how do I make her agree?" Or was it "how do I make her not get mad?"

Maybe start by saying something different from "I want this." Maybe start by just saying you thought about it. And escalate from there IF it seems like her reaction isn't too negative.

There is no way to just make her be OK with it, though. Maybe she will and maybe she won't. How badly do you want to find out?

 

[dennissara]

Is there any chance she'd have buy in on the idea, such as having bi-curiousity? Otherwise it's going to look like shopping to her, I'm guessing.

 

[Carnevil9]

"Hey, baby, I had this crazy dream. You were having sex with another woman. Crazy, huh?" See where that goes.

 

[Britva415]

"Hey, baby, I had this crazy dream. You were having sex with another woman. Crazy, huh?" See where that goes.

You'd need to do it twice: Once for "you were," and once for "I was"

 

[lovecraft68]

Reality check, you just don't. Stop being a grabby little boy and grow up and be with your wife, or get divorced so you can play around with whoever you want.

 

[WCSGarland]

A couple of times, when my wife and I were making love, the pillow talk ended up revolving around a threesome between her and another woman... but that was it. It ended up being just pillow talk. Outside of that, she never expressed any interest. Be prepared to accept it and her if it never happens.

 

[aziegmann]

Maybe see if she likes the idea by initiating some foreplay and then using your words. Being direct, but also a good listener and attentive to her wants and desires.

Also try exploring her sexuality to its deepest. Make it a journey with her and see how you respond to her desires. Who knows what adventures await? I mean it’s probs you getting spanked by some ladies in a hardcore BDSM session. Not my thing but you do you.

But how can I be direct without making it awkward or making her feel uncomfortable?

In my case, my wife has mentioned on two occasions (a long time apart), right after sex,that she’s curious or interested in knowing what it would be like to receive oral sex from another woman. I’ve been thinking about bringing the subject back up to see how far it goes—whether it’s an actual desire or just a fantasy of hers—but at the same time, I don’t want her to feel like I’m pushing anything on her.

 

[aziegmann]

Maybe try to find out her feelings about 3somes - if she finds it hot or not. If she’s not into it, then don’t force the issue because that could only cause arguments.

My husband wanted us to have a 3some and I was reluctant but the more I thought about it, the more I got into the idea. We’ve had a few since that time but I think the reason it started to appeal was because he never forced the issue. He was fine if we didn’t but did think it would be hot

So how exactly did he bring it up to you? Did he just come right out and say it, or did he ease into it, kind of testing the waters to see how you’d react?

You mentioned you were hesitant—but what was your actual response in that moment? Was it more like, “No way!” or more of a “Maybe… I’m not sure, I’d have to think about it”?

 

[ericalauren]

I want to have a 3 some with my wife and another woman how do I tell her that

Have an open, honest, and sober conversation about what you’d like to do. If your wife doesn’t like the idea and you’re in a monogamous marriage, do not keep begging her. Just accept it.

 

[Greedy_lion]

But how can I be direct without making it awkward or making her feel uncomfortable?

In my case, my wife has mentioned on two occasions (a long time apart), right after sex,that she’s curious or interested in knowing what it would be like to receive oral sex from another woman. I’ve been thinking about bringing the subject back up to see how far it goes—whether it’s an actual desire or just a fantasy of hers—but at the same time, I don’t want her to feel like I’m pushing anything on her.

Just literally be direct as fuck, while you are turned on, and say, “you know what would be hot? Watching a girl go down on you.”
Or, take a more vulnerable approach and ask her what her most depraved desires are and tell her you want to hear about them and make them real.

 

[kreemi_pi]

Wear a helmet in case she throws dishes at you.

 

[aziegmann]

He tested the waters by asking me when we were both horny, saying that he found the idea of me being with another guy very hot. I told him I wasn’t sure, the first time he asked. He kept bringing it up and over time the idea started to appeal, seeing how much it turned him on

Can I send you a private message to understand more details about this?

 

[Michael_Keaton]

Ok, let's start with the dog park.
If you see someone you'd like to chat with casually saunter up to them and ask, "So... which one is yours?" You'll probably get a reply after which you say something complimentary about the dog. "Wow, he's a big [or small, or cute, or hairy] boy/girl isn't he?"

If she's at all interested in chatting with you she'll have a reply to that and if she doesn't - nothing ventured, nothing gained. Move on.

If she replies, start asking non-threatening, non-specific questions (How long have you live around here, etc") and go from there. My experiences is that once that ice gets broken people love to talk about themselves.

One caveat though... as in everything in life 'you have to give in order to get'. Be prepared to give as much information about yourself as you're getting from here. Then let the conversation take its course.

But remember to ask generic questions. Questions like, "Are you dom or sub?. or "Do you swallow"? probably aren't going to get you where you want to go, at least at first.

 

[John_Q_Dough]

Be ready to answer when she wants a MMF first.
Game on?

 

[Johhnyrotten]

I don't see any of this shit working! do you have any idea how women work? i mean come on. if it's her idea yes. have you seen the movie inception ? because until you can do that, all this is just bull shit

 

[Nightaelf]

I want to have a 3 some with my wife and another woman how do I tell her that

Well usually one opens their mouth and words come out.
Maybe she wants a mmf 3 some what are your thougts about that?

 

[LookN2Talk]

Wear a helmet in case she throws dishes at you.

To funny, I was thinking along the same lines. Ask her, duck immediately covering head, and protect other vitals.

Be ready to answer when she wants a MMF first.
Game on?

That would definitely be my wife. She is a Huge Believer of, "You First!" and she means in E V E R Y T H I N G. I always wonder how many guys are willing to go the full mile to get what they want.

 

[curioustxn]

A couple of times, when my wife and I were making love, the pillow talk ended up revolving around a threesome between her and another woman... but that was it. It ended up being just pillow talk. Outside of that, she never expressed any interest. Be prepared to accept it and her if it never happens.

Afterwards, perhaps she just thought it was no more than pillow talk for you, and being so, never brings it up outside of the bedroom? Perhaps one day outside of the bedroom, you should just ask her what she thinks about a threesome? Since she has already embraced the concept in the bedroom, I doubt she will be offended by the question.

 

[curioustxn]

Maybe try to find out her feelings about 3somes - if she finds it hot or not. If she’s not into it, then don’t force the issue because that could only cause arguments.

My husband wanted us to have a 3some and I was reluctant but the more I thought about it, the more I got into the idea. We’ve had a few since that time but I think the reason it started to appeal was because he never forced the issue. He was fine if we didn’t but did think it would be hot

This is good advice!!!!