How Do You Get Comfortable Sharing Your Writing?

[madelinemasoch]

I have remained active as a writer despite not publishing on this site for a year and a half. I’m still unsure about whether I will return to publishing here. Nothing I would like to publish here is even finished and ready yet.

Something always feels risqué about writing for me. There are intimate fantasies of intricate detail that I can sketch out and flesh out and bring to life, but do I really want that stuff out there? How do you get to a point where you feel comfortable enough to put what you’ve written out into the world? Do you even think about the fact that you may be unfurling the most intimate parts of your own mind out there to the public, or is that even what you do as a writer? For me, it is, and I don’t know how to get to a point where I’m comfortable with that. I am looking for advice and insight into other peoples’ mindsets around this topic.

 

[iwatchus]

I think this is partially why things can get so touchy when talking about a category or a kink.

 

[dirk2024]

I have remained active as a writer despite not publishing on this site for a year and a half. I’m still unsure about whether I will return to publishing here. Nothing I would like to publish here is even finished and ready yet.

Something always feels risqué about writing for me. There are intimate fantasies of intricate detail that I can sketch out and flesh out and bring to life, but do I really want that stuff out there? How do you get to a point where you feel comfortable enough to put what you’ve written out into the world? Do you even think about the fact that you may be unfurling the most intimate parts of your own mind out there to the public, or is that even what you do as a writer? For me, it is, and I don’t know how to get to a point where I’m comfortable with that. I am looking for advice and insight into other peoples’ mindsets around this topic.

#1 - no one in my real world knows that I am a member of Literotica, much less that I have posted stories here.

#2 - I rely on the members here to be the deviant perverts I need them to be to share my intimate thoughts and fantasies with them. No one has let me down yet!

#3 - no one, save for a maybe a few judgemental assholes will give you a problem for what you write. If they do, remember something that has been posted in this forum many times. You are writing for you, your pleasure and your satisfaction. Fuck the few who might possibly take umbrage with any of your words.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

There is a probably made up quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
I write because I enjoy it, and I hope other people will too.
If they don't, they don't.
I've honestly never felt I was baring my soul here. They are just ideas... ideas want to be free.

 

[EmmAgain]

This is a great thread. I have the same block. Big thank-you to everyone who contributes.

 

[Azuldrgon]

To be honest, I was beyond the point when I cared about what people thought just because I just enjoyed throwing it into the mix. The feeling of submitting at times felt more like relief because the stories bounced around in my mind until I typed them out.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Do you even think about the fact that you may be unfurling the most intimate parts of your own mind out there to the public, or is that even what you do as a writer?

That’s what all writing is, even if it’s not erotica. Even a paid hack regurgitating slop for a pittance can’t avoid part of themselves leaking into their work.

 

[EmilyMiller]

This is a great thread. I have the same block. Big thank-you to everyone who contributes.

Just try it, hun. It’s really stimulating, in all meanings of the word .

 

[Areala-chan]

The same way you adapt to the temperature of the water in the swimming pool. Splash right in, it's freezing cold for about 30 seconds, then you forget why you were mincing about a minute ago.

 

[SmilingLez]

For me the anonymity of the literotica platform makes it easier to post my prose and short stories. It's not like anyone from my neighborhood is gonna say "oh look it's that kinky literotica writer SmilingLez" as I put out out trash.

 

[gunhilltrain]

I have remained active as a writer despite not publishing on this site for a year and a half. I’m still unsure about whether I will return to publishing here. Nothing I would like to publish here is even finished and ready yet.

Something always feels risqué about writing for me. There are intimate fantasies of intricate detail that I can sketch out and flesh out and bring to life, but do I really want that stuff out there? How do you get to a point where you feel comfortable enough to put what you’ve written out into the world? Do you even think about the fact that you may be unfurling the most intimate parts of your own mind out there to the public, or is that even what you do as a writer? For me, it is, and I don’t know how to get to a point where I’m comfortable with that. I am looking for advice and insight into other peoples’ mindsets around this topic.

I see they killed off your avatar. That whole avatar project (is it still going on?) was strangely passive-aggressive on their part.

Anyway, those are good questions. When I was younger, I would never have believed that I'd write for a site like this or two other similar sites. When I first published on Lit, I was sixty-three (now I'm seventy). I had already been doing some "scribbling" while recovering from surgery. It seemed to have some momentum so I went looking for a place to publish some it. I don't even remember how I found Lit. So I can't say exactly why I made the decision. Because I knew I didn't have to use my real name? Because I felt I had done some work and I wanted to do something with it? Because I hadn't published anything "creative" since I was on a college paper fifty years ago? (I had to use my real name as the byline.)

Maybe I need to think about this further.

 

[gunhilltrain]

This is a great thread. I have the same block. Big thank-you to everyone who contributes.

I hope my reply above helps, although I need to add something to it. (Tomorrow.) Anyway, congratulations on reaching the age of 125. What was it really like during the Harding administration?

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[EmmAgain]

I hope my reply above helps, although I need to add something to it. (Tomorrow.) Anyway, congratulations on reaching the age of 125. What was it really like during the Harding administration?

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Thank you! People here are very helpful. Really appreciate it.

Yes, I do seem to struggle a bit with numbers, don’t I?

 

[SimonDoom]

For whatever reason, this has never been an issue for me. I suppose, before I published my first story (almost nine years ago), I had moments of trepidation and wondered whether I really wanted to put kinky fantasies into words that the "world" would see. But once I did it, I never looked back.

Part of it, perhaps, is that the stories only partly represent "me." Some of the fantasies hit close to home, I suppose, but they're not revealing about how I actually live my life and what I do, other than perhaps representing some aspects, very generally, of my background, the kinds of places I've lived, little pieces of erotic experiences I've had, that sort of thing.

In any event, the fun far outweighs the fear, and the fun keeps me going. If I wasn't having fun with it, I might feel differently.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Something always feels risqué about writing for me. There are intimate fantasies of intricate detail that I can sketch out and flesh out and bring to life, but do I really want that stuff out there?

True enough, but we're all anonymous, unknown to each other, and if we like writing - my view is, let someone read it.

For me, unlike many others, this isn't therapy. It's personal and intimate, sure, but there's no emotional or mental well-being burden attached, not for me.

Some might think I need therapy, haha, but that's an entirely different topic!

How do you get to a point where you feel comfortable enough to put what you’ve written out into the world? Do you even think about the fact that you may be unfurling the most intimate parts of your own mind out there to the public, or is that even what you do as a writer?

After eleven years and a million and half words, that's a moot point for me. I'm well past any judgement from others - and don't give a toss what they might think anyway. They don't know me, other what they might glean from my stories - and I've often observed that readers aren't always very good at separating truth from fiction.

But they're all my words in the first place, so I'm in control of all that disclosure. Or sharing, which is a word I get often in comments, which I like. Sharing my gift, if that's what it is, of my writing, or sharing parts of my life. Readers seem to like it when one does that.

For me, it is, and I don’t know how to get to a point where I’m comfortable with that. I am looking for advice and insight into other peoples’ mindsets around this topic.

I think your life might be a lot harder than mine has ever been, and all I can offer is: make sure you care for yourself first, before any other consideration.

 

[Erozetta]

How do you get to a point where you feel comfortable enough to put what you’ve written out into the world?

Personally, I haven't gotten comfortable with it yet and it's been like five years.

Do you even think about the fact that you may be unfurling the most intimate parts of your own mind out there to the public, or is that even what you do as a writer?

I do think about that, but I also know no one in my real life knows all that much about me. This is pretty much the only place where I can be genuine and open about myself without feeling extremely judged. That does make it easier to post my writing here, but it also makes it a little more uncomfortable.

I struggle with being human.

 

[SkyBubble]

I can't imagine why that wouldn't be comfortable.

 

[MK_Whimsy]

This is a very personal choice and everyone needs to find their own comfort level. I probably have even more reason to be nervous about this because of my predilection for bizarre and possibly unsettling content.

Still, I set aside my fear of putting my stuff out there for a few reasons. One, I figured I didn't really have anything to lose. Two, I thought some people might enjoy it. And three, it just seemed like a fun (if not daring) thing to do.