Ladies - do you like it when a stranger tells you that you are beautiful?

[GuiltyCowboy]

Did something a little different with my hair this morning. Walked into the office and one of my coworkers complimented me on it.

Before this thread I would have thought it was a basic, polite, civil interaction between two human beings.

Based on this thread I've learned that in reality my co-worker is a terrible manipulative person who had an ulterior motives, and I'm apparently terribly insecure.

I really hope that this thread is the usual performative virtue signaling and people aren't actually serious, because I'm reminded of something Ricky Gervais said.
"You were offended.
I thought it was funny.
That's why I'm happier than you are."

Having read this entire thread and, for my sins, contributed a fair bit, I’m pretty sure that there isn’t a single person who has a problem with what you’ve described. Enjoy the compliment!

 

[Kelliezgirl]

Having read this entire thread and, for my sins, contributed a fair bit, I’m pretty sure that there isn’t a single person who has a problem with what you’ve described. Enjoy the compliment!

I wouldn't agree with that assessment. There have been multiple attempts to analyze, and generally impugn the motives of anyone delivering a compliment using some pretty unambiguous language.

 

[nice90sguy]

I was nine years old, when a girl I'd never met said to me, out of the blue, "You know, you're going to be really good-looking when you grow up." I've never, ever forgotten that complement, to this day, and remembering it now makes me feel better about myself.

THAT's the potential differnce to a life you can make. And the potential missed opportunity if you're overly concenred that a compliment will be taken the wrong way.

 

[Venefica]

To be honest:

NO

They all say that with intentions and I know that. I am 49, I heard that often, I know it by myself and hubby tells me that, too.

No need for it ...

 

[Jorunn]

I have never had anyone come up to me and say, “Hey, aren’t you that good writer on Lit?” Nor, “Hey, I like the changes you made to that one website”. Strangers don’t know me or my work. And I am happy for any complements from those few who know me and my accomplishments.

So we return here to things a stranger would say to someone they don’t know. All they have is physical appearance. If my hair looks like an old mop, and I am wearing wrinkled athletic clothing, I don’t expect any compliments (and get very few). If I dress up, and present myself well, I still won’t get asked about my accomplishments. But at that point, I don’t mind a few people noticing and letting me know.

 

[Justtina]

I personally do