Changes in libido and sexuality thanks to HRT

[Honeysuckleboi]

So before I started taking testosterone (which I've now been on for 7 years!!), I was sure I was both asexual and had absolutely no libido, or at least no interest in sex beyond secretive shameful masturbating.

For most of my early adult life while still in the closet, I had a boyfriend that wanted me to be as hairless, feminine, and sexually available as possible, all while I was working a full-time job and unknowingly closeted. I knew I'd never be able to do enough to please him and it really stamped out my libido altogether, made me fear sex. And when I finally tried to talk to him about my gender struggles, he didn't react well. That relationship lasted probably 6 years too long! Oops.

After figuring out that I was trans and beginning HRT, I began to get VERY horny. In place of a regular menstrual cycle, I developed a cycle of being intensely horny for about a week straight every month. Getting top surgery made me even more comfortable with myself, and now I'm realizing that I really enjoy being sexual, exploring a ton of kink, and getting off. I even began to develop attraction to women despite not being very interested beyond admiration pre-T.

I would have thought myself straight pre-T, but I definitely now know I'm pansexual and much hornier than originally believed. Kind of funny in hindsight that if my ex had accepted and supported me, he might have gotten that horny little slut he was hoping for, minus the little tomboy tits and with maybe just a bit more body hair than he'd have liked. I sure know I'd have been much more willing to submit to him if he'd respected my needs too! A lot of the kinks he wanted to engage in would be so so sexy to me now that I'm more comfortable in my body, but he probably wouldn't be able to get past the fact that I can grow nicer facial hair than him after only a few years on T.

Funny enough, I enjoy certain parts of my femininity way more now that I'm not tied to womanhood. Lacy lingerie? Hell yeah! Being called a good girl and having my boypussy edged and teased? Yes please! Creampie/breeding kink? I'm embarrassingly wet just thinking about it.

Any other trans folks experience changes to their sexuality/libido over time? I'm sure I'm not the only one. What does it for you now that you were maybe too scared or uncomfortable to admit to before transition?

 

[AnnieLit]

It might be transition, or it might be just age. Getting comfortable with your body, getting to know your own body better makes a lot of different people hornier with age.

Same with kinks. One needs time to try different things and figure out what they like better. Some things can be tried on your own, for others one needs a partner to be sure this is really their thing. It all takes time, years if not decades.

 

[stickygirl]

Great question. I’m super pleased for you and your new lust in life!

For MtF trans folk, it’s typical for our libido to shrivel smaller than our nuts after several months of hormones. Our natal sexual desire is suppressed by anti androgens and estrogen but that doesn’t mean we lose our desire for ever. It’s a matter of readjusting to what we then find sexy.

Before I transitioned, feeling horny was mostly ‘red mist’, blindly rushing ahead and focused on orgasm to the exclusion of everything else. I’ve had surgery and been on hormones for more than half my life ( yippee! Omg I’m that old?! ) so my desire is what I’d call holistic, in as much that I am sensitive to everything around me to fire my lust.

From countless posts in this forum, men of a certain age report feelings of bisexuality they’d never had before, or not since their teens. I often wonder if falling t-levels is responsible for that? To a degree, I hear that women find a different level of desire with age ( but it can up or down ).

My suggestion to you is to hang on and enjoy the ride!! It sounds wild

 

[Honeysuckleboi]

Great question. I’m super pleased for you and your new lust in life!

For MtF trans folk, it’s typical for our libido to shrivel smaller than our nuts after several months of hormones. Our natal sexual desire is suppressed by anti androgens and estrogen but that doesn’t mean we lose our desire for ever. It’s a matter of readjusting to what we then find sexy.

Before I transitioned, feeling horny was mostly ‘red mist’, blindly rushing ahead and focused on orgasm to the exclusion of everything else. I’ve had surgery and been on hormones for more than half my life ( yippee! Omg I’m that old?! ) so my desire is what I’d call holistic, in as much that I am sensitive to everything around me to fire my lust.

From countless posts in this forum, men of a certain age report feelings of bisexuality they’d never had before, or not since their teens. I often wonder if falling t-levels is responsible for that? To a degree, I hear that women find a different level of desire with age ( but it can up or down ).

My suggestion to you is to hang on and enjoy the ride!! It sounds wild

I've heard from transfemme friends that have also had the shrivelling sex drive from blockers I'm glad it's more something that can be worked through!

And you're right, I've definitely seen plenty of discussion of bisexuality amongst older men, on Lit and elsewhere. Falling testosterone levels could play a part! But then I'm no hormone expert, I just inject mine and hope for the best hehe

Thank you so much for the genuine and kind answer!