The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Hornymwtxn]

Thank you mister horny
I was thinking about you that, damn this guy is soo good with words,
You're same as me at first, and now you have improved soo much that gives me hope and motivation!
Thank you again mister horny

You are so very welcome!

Thank you for your kind words!

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Where are all the boys at?

Hopefully, taking notes!

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Another important thing is patience. Yes, we all want to feel wanted and maybe have something physical ASAP, but like anything, this takes time. Be patient and put in the work and good things usually happen. If you were looking for a quick bang, there are services out there for that. If you are looking for a connection that is actually more fulfilling, you have to work at it and build it. Trust me, it's worth it.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Another important thing is patience. Yes, we all want to feel wanted and maybe have something physical ASAP, but like anything, this takes time. Be patient and put in the work and good things usually happen. If you were looking for a quick bang, there are services out there for that. If you are looking for a connection that is actually more fulfilling, you have to work at it and build it. Trust me, it's worth it.

So true!

patience is not one of my virtues, like at all.

Thanks for taking the time to share your wisdom with all of us.

 

[Carmina24]

The Real Game

Gentlemen, come closer.
I’ll tell you a secret - though I’m not sure I should.

It’s not your body I want at first.
It’s your presence.
Your voice in the morning, your words at night.
The way you slip into my day until I can’t remember when you weren’t there.

We trade stories.
We laugh in the spaces between them.
We build a secret language only we can speak.
And then… you stop chasing.

That’s when I notice.
That’s when I want.

By the time I see the rest of you, it’s not curiosity - it’s hunger.
A slow-burn inferno that’s been building for days, weeks…
and when it breaks, it’s beautiful, ruinous, unforgettable.

Ladies - is it just me?

Men - here’s your lesson:
Woo her, but don’t rush her. Let the story write itself instead of skipping to the last page.
Be present in the small ways: the morning check-in, the shared joke, the question you actually listen to the answer of.
Make her feel seen, not just looked at.
Take your time as if you know the ending will be worth the wait.
Because it will be.
Slow is not passive - slow is deliberate.
It’s the difference between a match that flares and dies… and a fire that burns until she can’t sleep without its heat.
Don’t just want her body - earn her trust, her laughter, her anticipation.
And when she finally asks for more, it will be because she’s starving for you.

That’s the real game.

The Art of Getting Lit Laid:
The Gentleman's Guide (Disclaimer: cobbled together from the entirely fallible, slightly mischievous mind of Carmina).

1. The Real Game (above)

2. The Secret Weapon

Gentlemen, lean in. I’ll let you in on something that changes everything.

It’s not the grand gestures. Not the perfect lines. It’s attention.

The way you notice the pause before she answers. The shift in tone when she’s tired but still smiling. The details she thought you’d forget - and you bring back later like treasures.

Attention tells her she’s not just another voice in the crowd. It says I see you, I hear you, I remember you.

Do you know how dangerous that is?
To a woman, it’s intoxicating. Because once she feels truly seen, her guard lowers. Her laughter comes quicker. Her words spill freer. Desire stops being something she hides - and starts being something she shares.

Ladies - tell me I’m wrong.
Gentlemen - here’s your weapon:
Don’t just talk. Listen.
Don’t just compliment. Observe.
Don’t just touch - notice where she wants to be touched.

Attention is presence sharpened.
It’s the reason she’ll stay up too late just to hear one more story from you.
It’s the reason she’ll replay your words in her head long after you’ve logged off.

So if you want her trust, her heat, her surrender - give her your attention first.
Because that’s the secret weapon.

 

[mustang_driver]

So much good advice in this thread and so many places I see that I went wrong by misreading what was going on in the moment. (Although at other times, the same things worked).

 

[Carmina24]

So much good advice in this thread and so many places I see that I went wrong by misreading what was going on in the moment. (Although at other times, the same things worked).

@mustang_driver

I think that’s the art of it - not a fixed formula, but a dance where the same step looks different each time. Misreading happens to all of us, but it also means you were brave enough to try. And sometimes, that’s what matters most.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

So much good advice in this thread and so many places I see that I went wrong by misreading what was going on in the moment. (Although at other times, the same things worked).

Yes I have learned so much from this thread.

I like sports so will put a sports metaphor out there....

Sometimes a last second hail Mary actuallyworks, pulling victory out of the jaws of defeat.

But we need to be cognizant of the success odds

Increase our chances at success.

We can also do everything right and still end up on the losing side sometimes.

 

[mustang_driver]

@mustang_driver

I think that’s the art of it - not a fixed formula, but a dance where the same step looks different each time. Misreading happens to all of us, but it also means you were brave enough to try. And sometimes, that’s what matters most.

Thank you.

 

[mustang_driver]

Yes I have learned so much from this thread.

I like sports so will put a sports metaphor out there....

Sometimes a last second hail Mary actuallyworks, pulling victory out of the jaws of defeat.

But we need to be cognizant of the success odds

Increase our chances at success.

We can also do everything right and still end up on the losing side sometimes.

I like this analogy.

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Girls can learn something here too. It's a little secret not many people know about. Ready??

Men can be oblivious sometimes. They may not be able to notice clues that you are giving out. It has nothing to do with intelligence or anything like that. Men have just misread signs their whole lives that now they think a sign isn't a sign. So subtly is not always the best option.

My advice? If you are interested, go for subtly. If it doesn't seem like they are picking up on it, switch to bluntness. Hey, I dig you. Sometimes we need that kick in the pants.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Girls can learn something here too. It's a little secret not many people know about. Ready??

Men can be oblivious sometimes. They may not be able to notice clues that you are giving out. It has nothing to do with intelligence or anything like that. Men have just misread signs their whole lives that now they think a sign isn't a sign. So subtly is not always the best option.

My advice? If you are interested, go for subtly. If it doesn't seem like they are picking up on it, switch to bluntness. Hey, I dig you. Sometimes we need that kick in the pants.

Ohhh I like this!

I am guilty as charged to being terrible at picking up on subtle hints.

Me, and I think a lot of guys, just aren't very good at multitasking.
One step at a time, complete that one, and on to the next step.
I have trouble thinking outside the box and thinking several steps ahead.

I have a task in front of me and I want to concentrate on that task and that task alone before thinking about the next one.

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Ohhh I like this!

I am guilty as charged to be terrible at picking up subtle hints.

Me, and I think a lot of guys, just aren't very good at multitasking.
One step at a time, complete that one, and on to the next step.
I have trouble thinking outside the box and thinking several steps ahead.

I have a task in front of me and I want to concentrate on that task and that task alone before thinking about the next one.

Seriously. It doesn't mean we are stupid or anything like that. We are just not picking up the hints.

 

[Carmina24]

Girls can learn something here too. It's a little secret not many people know about. Ready??

Men can be oblivious sometimes. They may not be able to notice clues that you are giving out. It has nothing to do with intelligence or anything like that. Men have just misread signs their whole lives that now they think a sign isn't a sign. So subtly is not always the best option.

My advice? If you are interested, go for subtly. If it doesn't seem like they are picking up on it, switch to bluntness. Hey, I dig you. Sometimes we need that kick in the pants.

@Ratchetman1982

I love this! You’re so right - sometimes subtlety is like whispering in a crowded room. We think we’re dropping hints, but they’re really just floating into the void. Bluntness can feel scary, but it’s also such a relief - clear, direct, and impossible to misread. Thank you for the reminder that sometimes the best way to be heard… is just to say it.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Also ladies not only are we terrible at subtle hints to pick up the pace, the same is true on the subtle hints to tap the brakes.

Just be blunt for us when the first 2 or 3 subtle hints aren't landing.

 

[cascadiabound]

I think this thread should be required reading for newbies.

 

[Carmina24]

I think this thread should be required reading for newbies.

That is the best compliment, thank you @cascadiabound !

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I think this thread should be required reading for newbies.

You know I was saying that exact same thing to Carmina earlier today.

So glad you think so too!

 

[Mike130]

The Real Game

Gentlemen, come closer.
I’ll tell you a secret - though I’m not sure I should.

It’s not your body I want at first.
It’s your presence.
Your voice in the morning, your words at night.
The way you slip into my day until I can’t remember when you weren’t there.

We trade stories.
We laugh in the spaces between them.
We build a secret language only we can speak.
And then… you stop chasing.

That’s when I notice.
That’s when I want.

By the time I see the rest of you, it’s not curiosity - it’s hunger.
A slow-burn inferno that’s been building for days, weeks…
and when it breaks, it’s beautiful, ruinous, unforgettable.

Ladies - is it just me?

Men - here’s your lesson:
Woo her, but don’t rush her. Let the story write itself instead of skipping to the last page.
Be present in the small ways: the morning check-in, the shared joke, the question you actually listen to the answer of.
Make her feel seen, not just looked at.
Take your time as if you know the ending will be worth the wait.
Because it will be.
Slow is not passive - slow is deliberate.
It’s the difference between a match that flares and dies… and a fire that burns until she can’t sleep without its heat.
Don’t just want her body - earn her trust, her laughter, her anticipation.
And when she finally asks for more, it will be because she’s starving for you.

That’s the real game.

Well said. It’s the journey, not just the destination.

 

[The_Quiet_Man]

I think this thread should be required reading for newbies.

Not just newbies!

 

[kyblue12]

I think this thread should be required reading for newbies.

I'll go one step further.... It should have to be agreed to before you're able to sign up for the site. Make it a part of of the Terms of Service for the place.

 

[Carmina24]

I'll go one step further.... It should have to be agreed to before you're able to sign up for the site. Make it a part of of the Terms of Service for the place.

Awww..you guys are too kind...thank you!

 

[kyblue12]

Awww..you guys are too kind...thank you!

I post pics occasionally, I get creepy emails from guys from those so I can imagine what women go through here.... and its not pretty.

For me, its a simple formula to try and get someones attention. Do a bit of research when someone catches your eye, what do they like what are they into? If there is stuff in common, send a nice introduction, let them know what you like. If you get an answer, keep conversing and get to know them. Its OK to wind up just being friends and never getting naked with them, friendship is a win. Let things develop towards sexuality, isnt it going to be much better knowing what to do to make the react? Finally, a no or no answer means no. Let it go and move on.

I'll admit I only read the first couple pages of the thread before my 2 posts, but I am betting I have not said anything that hasn't already been said by both ladies and gentlemen already.

 

[Carmina24]

I post pics occasionally, I get creepy emails from guys from those so I can imagine what women go through here.... and its not pretty.

For me, its a simple formula to try and get someones attention. Do a bit of research when someone catches your eye, what do they like what are they into? If there is stuff in common, send a nice introduction, let them know what you like. If you get an answer, keep conversing and get to know them. Its OK to wind up just being friends and never getting naked with them, friendship is a win. Let things develop towards sexuality, isnt it going to be much better knowing what to do to make the react? Finally, a no or no answer means no. Let it go and move on.

I'll admit I only read the first couple pages of the thread before my 2 posts, but I am betting I have not said anything that hasn't already been said by both ladies and gentlemen already.

@kyblue12

Thanks for sharing this! Your formula is refreshingly sane in a place where people sometimes forget the basics. Friendship as a win? Yes please. I’ll take laughter, banter, and a good conversation over someone rushing to get me naked any day.

And that last part -“no or no answer means no” - gold star for you. Honestly, if more people here followed your lead, this place would be a lot more fun. You’ve got the right idea… maybe even the right game plan!

 

[kyblue12]

@kyblue12

Thanks for sharing this! Your formula is refreshingly sane in a place where people sometimes forget the basics. Friendship as a win? Yes please. I’ll take laughter, banter, and a good conversation over someone rushing to get me naked any day.

And that last part -“no or no answer means no” - gold star for you. Honestly, if more people here followed your lead, this place would be a lot more fun. You’ve got the right idea… maybe even the right game plan!

Carmina, its just kindergarten rules and stuff. Do unto others and all that.... And if thats too complicated for anyone on the board, just operate on the assumption that there is a living breathing person on the other end of your message and act accordingly.