When do you bail out of a thread?

[NuclearFairy]

Please do. I can't be the only person bitching about my bad days. I quit my own thread for lack of participation, like no one had a bad day, week, month, year, or life. LOL

lol, no I just get supper down and anxious when I have a bad day and feel like no one wants to hear this shit and if I voice it they'll all either point and laugh or hate me.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Now, I think you're wrong on that!

lol, no I just get supper down and anxious when I have a bad day and feel like no one wants to hear this shit and if I voice it they'll all either point and laugh or hate me.

 

[NuclearFairy]

Now, I think you're wrong on that!

Anxieties don't always make sense, if they did then I'd be able to drive.

Or no one would be able to drive? I dunno man, they're flying death traps on wheels how does anyone manage to get behind the wheel?

 

[gunhilltrain]

Most question based threads are essentially finished by the end of the second page, sometimes the first. Discussion topic threads might go 4 or 5 pages.

I find that beyond there, not much is worthwhile. Sometimes I'll read a bit farther to see if anything changes. Usually by 6 or 7 pages, I've unsubscribed. Yes, there are exceptions like the contest threads, but even they get repetitive after a few pages.

Just stop responding and ignore them when you think you're finished contributing. Unless it's the Playground subforum of the Personals section, they all end eventually.

 

[Omenainen]

Funny how different people have different uses for a discussion forum. I’m pretty boring and use it for, you know, discussing, which usually means reading what’s been said about the topic so far and then replying to the comments I have something to say about.

And then there’s this:

When I say what I feel I need to. I'd say more often than not I don't return to a thread at all, even if someone quotes me. Some threads I might post more because I'm replying to specific people, but I generally won't keep going and going.

Honestly, if you look at most threads that ask a specific question about rules, categories, rejections, things like that. The answer comes within the first couple of replies. After that it's just everyone feeling compelled to give the same answer they've given countless times before. Then the thread derails into the topic being all about them and we go from there.

That's my experience from threads I post in. A lot of threads I pass on through lack of interest, maybe lack of knowledge on that topic or the fact I'm too tired of the subject to contribute. I do see others like that, but many who seem incapable of letting anything go by without chiming in.

“I don’t read the threads I post in, and I don’t read if someone tries to reply to me, I just swoop in and toot my turd wherever I see fit” …is that like a pidgeon approach to discussion threads?

Not that LC will read that I reckon

I don’t quite understand why he thinks everyone else should pay attention to his brain farts, when he doesn’t bother to return the courtesy. Maybe this is some kind of old man entitlement.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Funny how different people have different uses for a discussion forum. I’m pretty boring and use it for, you know, discussing, which usually means reading what’s been said about the topic so far and then replying to the comments I have something to say about.

Me too. But there's that point where they turn into Charlie Brown's Teacher.

 

[Omenainen]

Me too. But there's that point where they turn into Charlie Brown's Teacher.

What’s that? I don’t get the reference.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

What’s that? I don’t get the reference.

Youngins' ..... Sheesh ....

Missed all the good stuff.

"in the Peanuts animated cartoons, this was adapted as the adults' "speaking" being represented by the unintelligible sounds of a muted trombone ("mwah-mwah-mwah"). "

"In the cartoons, a muffled horn was used for her voice. This became her—and all other voices of adult characters—trademark in the cartoons and is sometimes parodied in other programs."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Peanuts_characters#Adults

 

[Omenainen]

Youngins' ..... Sheesh ....

Missed all the good stuff.

"in the Peanuts animated cartoons, this was adapted as the adults' "speaking" being represented by the unintelligible sounds of a muted trombone ("mwah-mwah-mwah"). "

"In the cartoons, a muffled horn was used for her voice. This became her—and all other voices of adult characters—trademark in the cartoons and is sometimes parodied in other programs."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Peanuts_characters#Adults

Ah riiiight, you see, I do know Peanuts but I’ve only read the comics. I haven’t seen the cartoons. They didn’t show them around here.

 

[TheLobster]

I don’t quite understand why he thinks everyone else should pay attention to his brain farts, when he doesn’t bother to return the courtesy.

Maybe if you paid attention to this particular “brain fart” of his, you’d notice that:

“I don’t read the threads I post in, (…) I just swoop in and toot my turd wherever I see fit”

is not actually what he said at all.

 

[Omenainen]

Maybe if you paid attention to this particular “brain fart” of his, you’d notice that:

is not actually what he said at all.

It’s what he does though.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Ah riiiight, you see, I do know Peanuts but I’ve only read the comics. I haven’t seen the cartoons. They didn’t show them around here.

The point is that after a while, some threads just become unintelligible background drivel, unworthy of further attention.

 

[Omenainen]

The point is that after a while, some threads just become unintelligible background drivel, unworthy of further attention.

Oh, definitely. 100% with you there.

 

[SpicyBean99]

Anxieties don't always make sense, if they did then I'd be able to drive.

Or no one would be able to drive? I dunno man, they're flying death traps on wheels how does anyone manage to get behind the wheel?

I wasn’t going to be posting anything until later on but this… this is so freaking true. They’re basically tin boxes that have wheels, engines, they run off oil and petrol and can literally EXPLODE?!!

Not to mention that if you ARE a careful/slow driver you have to be aware of the C U next Tuesdays who really can’t drive and treat the motorway like silverstone race track. GAWD!

But yeah anxiety’s do not make sense. I also don’t drive myself.

lol, no I just get supper down and anxious when I have a bad day and feel like no one wants to hear this shit and if I voice it they'll all either point and laugh or hate me.

Also, sometimes reading about other people’s bad days actually helps when you’re having one too. It reminds you you’re not the only one struggling, and weirdly, that can make things feel a bit lighter. So even if it feels hard to share, it might mean more to someone else than you think. No normal person will point and laugh at you, it’s also important to remember that one persons worst day ever could be another persons “normal” or vice Versa! Worlds full of silly people but sharing the bad and having a giggle and realising it really isn’t all that bad is helpful too! Shame the thread didn’t do well, I would have posted there too!

 

[MaturemanAJ]

It depends on the topic if I get tired of it or others start arguing I am out and unwatch it.
When someone starts a thread and then does nothing but post pictures they find on the internet I am out the second I see they are the most prolific poster.
Politics I just quit even looking at those now.
Contests nooe
Add a letter, stand on your head and do something else no thanks. Not a game player so I pass right buy them.
Would you do this or that to the poster above you. Stupid in my eyes and won't look at all.
Sometimes I just go back to the stories and stay away from forum completely

 

[lovecraft68]

Funny how different people have different uses for a discussion forum. I’m pretty boring and use it for, you know, discussing, which usually means reading what’s been said about the topic so far and then replying to the comments I have something to say about.

And then there’s this:



“I don’t read the threads I post in, and I don’t read if someone tries to reply to me, I just swoop in and toot my turd wherever I see fit” …is that like a pidgeon approach to discussion threads?

Not that LC will read that I reckon

I don’t quite understand why he thinks everyone else should pay attention to his brain farts, when he doesn’t bother to return the courtesy. Maybe this is some kind of old man entitlement.

But I gave you the chance to shoot the shot you've been dying to, so you're welcome.

There's a variety of entitlement here, especially in the realm of victimhood because passive aggressive 'you don't agree with me because' and many here know the ones who do this and what the 'because' is.

Entitlement is not the right word, but I understand its a cool buzzword that gets thrown around along with privilege which exists in many ways across life but only has one meaning to certain people and it plays into victimhood. I'm sure there's a couple of words you want to add but that would make the attack cheaper and more obvious. Good control.

I'm from the say the quiet part out loud time coupled with not caring if I'm agreed with or not. It's called apathy but also perspective. IN the grand scheme of life, especially for those who have had a troubled one at some point, what the approval or disapproval of anonymous people behind a keyboard is worth isn't much.

Your insults have the same effect on me as if you were being flattering, what's the value to me in real life?

Like the line in Psycho Killer goes "I said it once, why say it again?" and that's why I don't reply to many replies. I said it, someone agreed or did not, what's the point of round and round? Desperate need to be right? Reciprocal fawning if they agreed?

I come here for the same reason I tell really bad dad jokes, to amuse myself. I mean nothing personal in replies and take nothing personal if someone is rude to me. It's pretty much the same way I take comments on stories. Like it, great, hate it great.

End of the day what I am is honest even if what I say is unpopular its how I feel and unlike the majority of our sheeple of a society I'm not afraid to be unpopular. My wife uses the term "Speaking truth to power" a little to dramatic and fancy for me, but there's two kinds of truth. The literal "Water is wet" then what's true for the self. Not many are true to themselves, at least on line because OMG what if someone thinks I'm one of them? Them usually meaning someone with the audacity to think or believe differently from said ideological cult member.

Blessed be the net for making honesty an acquired taste for sure, but you'll always know where you stand with people if more did it. Problem is we live in a world where people love to be lied to as long as the lie resonates with them. Its why we're a mess these days.

I also have never had an issue with you and read a lot of your posts, I just don't reply. You have an issue with me, and know what? That's fine.

See how easy that is?

 

[AwkwardlySet]

Funny how different people have different uses for a discussion forum. I’m pretty boring and use it for, you know, discussing, which usually means reading what’s been said about the topic so far and then replying to the comments I have something to say about.

And then there’s this:



“I don’t read the threads I post in, and I don’t read if someone tries to reply to me, I just swoop in and toot my turd wherever I see fit” …is that like a pidgeon approach to discussion threads?

Not that LC will read that I reckon

I don’t quite understand why he thinks everyone else should pay attention to his brain farts, when he doesn’t bother to return the courtesy. Maybe this is some kind of old man entitlement.

These are the moments when I wish there were a god/goddess of irony so I could invoke their name.

 

[Omenainen]

But I gave you the chance to shoot the shot you've been dying to, so you're welcome.

Thank you, though “dying to” is stretching it a bit.

There's a variety of entitlement here, especially in the realm of victimhood because passive aggressive 'you don't agree with me because' and many here know the ones who do this and what the 'because' is.

Actually, I for one have no idea what you’re alluding to with these vague accusations you sometimes cast around.

Entitlement is not the right word, but I understand its a cool buzzword that gets thrown around along with privilege which exists in many ways across life but only has one meaning to certain people and it plays into victimhood. I'm sure there's a couple of words you want to add but that would make the attack cheaper and more obvious. Good control.

I don’t know what words those might be but that might be cultural. I do, however, know several old men.

I'm from the say the quiet part out loud time coupled with not caring if I'm agreed with or not. It's called apathy but also perspective. IN the grand scheme of life, especially for those who have had a troubled one at some point, what the approval or disapproval of anonymous people behind a keyboard is worth isn't much.

This I agree with.

Your insults have the same effect on me as if you were being flattering, what's the value to me in real life?

Insults? But it is what you do, isn’t it? How is describing your behavior insulting?

I come here for the same reason I tell really bad dad jokes, to amuse myself.

*cough* old man *cough* dad jokes *cough cough*

End of the day what I am is honest even if what I say is unpopular its how I feel and unlike the majority of our sheeple of a society I'm not afraid to be unpopular. My wife uses the term "Speaking truth to power" a little to dramatic and fancy for me, but there's two kinds of truth. The literal "Water is wet" then what's true for the self. Not many are true to themselves, at least on line because OMG what if someone thinks I'm one of them? Them usually meaning someone with the audacity to think or believe differently from said ideological cult member.

No, I’m with you on this one. In Finland, we don’t really do this politically correct -thing, the vibe is more “don’t ask and I won’t tell.” Coupled with “if you do ask, be prepared to hear it.” We value integrity and honesty over being polite every day of the week.

Someone once said on this forum that they would never say anything negative to another forum member about their stories, and that made me lose all respect for that person. If I can’t trust someone to be honest with me, then any praise they have is meaningless. I’ve heard similar sentiment be expressed as “if you can’t say no, your yes doesn’t mean a thing.”

 

[lovecraft68]

No, I’m with you on this one. In Finland, we don’t really do this politically correct -thing, the vibe is more “don’t ask and I won’t tell.” Coupled with “if you do ask, be prepared to hear it.” We value integrity and honesty over being polite every day of the week.

Interesting.

Back in the not all that distant past here in US there was a slogan Live and Let Live. Now, it's originally from the AA 12 step program, but its also a great model for life. Do your thing and let others do theirs. My version is feel free to feel free but don't feel free with me. I support anyone doing their thing unless they're hurting themselves or others. Unfortunately, many societies-with this one being the worst-lost that to the nth degree, now its agree of be persecuted on both sides of the aisle.

As for negative, are you alluding to me? I have said that I won't bash anyone's stories or writing in comments or if I give some feedback in the forum. But if I hate a story I'll say nothing. Why? Guess I'm going to go against my asshat reputation and be a softy. I think most people work hard on their stories and are proud of them. Should I tear them down? Is it my place to say your baby is hot garbage? I pass on that. I've bitten back a lot of comments when people have sent me something. I don't lie to them but just say "Hey, this is what's good, but yeah, this could use some work.

You have a review thread, someone submits something and if your critique is harsh is that negative or legit feedback and tough love? Whichever it is, they asked for it, right?

To me negative is "You're shitty fucking writer" feedback is a different story. But even with that? I'll stick with being unpopular and say there are people here in this forum who think they are the shit how do I know this? They will tell you over and over again and fawn over others just to get fawned over. "Enough about me, let's talk about you, what do you think of me?"

Talk's cheap, don't talk it, walk it, back your smack, show up and show out. Pick your cliche, but the proving ground-whether accurate or not because we all know its a flawed system and everything is subjective, is on story side, not here. You can put your neck in a noose so to speak and ask for feedback in the forum, but you'll get the opinions of a few people, but on the story platform there's a lot of votes, favs, comments and private feedback that give a wider view. I tend to focus more on doing well there than being popular here.

Now, see, I'll reply, if it's an interesting conversation. We're both agreeing and disagreeing. Not a lot of that to be found these days.

Or maybe that's just me defaulting to the line from Peace Sells but Who's Buying "What do you mean I'm not kind, just not your kind."

But we're jacking the thread of why we leave threads now, aren't we?

 

[TheLobster]

But we're jacking the thread of why we leave threads now, aren't we?

It's okay. You're just making others leave this thread and get back to their writing. It's basically public service!

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I wasn’t going to be posting anything until later on but this… this is so freaking true. They’re basically tin boxes that have wheels, engines, they run off oil and petrol and can literally EXPLODE?!!

Not to mention that if you ARE a careful/slow driver you have to be aware of the C U next Tuesdays who really can’t drive and treat the motorway like silverstone race track. GAWD!

But yeah anxiety’s do not make sense. I also don’t drive myself.

I wonder how you'd feel about driving motorcycles then. The way the traffic is here where I live, I often have to squeeze and weave in between cars, but my favorite is passing between two moving buses.

 

[Omenainen]

As for negative, are you alluding to me? I have said that I won't bash anyone's stories or writing in comments or if I give some feedback in the forum. But if I hate a story I'll say nothing. Why? Guess I'm going to go against my asshat reputation and be a softy. I think most people work hard on their stories and are proud of them. Should I tear them down? Is it my place to say your baby is hot garbage? I pass on that. I've bitten back a lot of comments when people have sent me something. I don't lie to them but just say "Hey, this is what's good, but yeah, this could use some work.

No, I wasn’t alluding to you. I was under the impression that you do toot your opinion quite honestly and freely, I didn’t remember you have this softy policy according stories, though now that you said it, it faintly rings a bell. I have some mental image of who’s said what on here but I don’t go around memorizing everything everyone says.

See how difficult it is to interpret vague accusations like that?

Talk's cheap, don't talk it, walk it, back your smack, show up and show out. Pick your cliche, but the proving ground-whether accurate or not because we all know it’s a flawed system and everything is subjective, is on story side, not here. You can put your neck in a noose so to speak and ask for feedback in the forum, but you'll get the opinions of a few people, but on the story platform there's a lot of votes, favs, comments and private feedback that give a wider view. I tend to focus more on doing well there than being popular here.

Yeah, I know you’re a Big Man over there. What sometimes annoys me is that some people seem to feel it gives your opinions some kind of weight here on forum side. I was especially salty the first year I held my event and you ran around in unrelated threads trying to intimidate people from participating, and some people were folding because of that.

I do think you have credence on writing, especially writing incest, and publishing, and all that. What I don’t think is that it extends to anything else, and a lot of your opinions I don’t agree with. I think it’s each issue case by case. Someone I disagree with might have something interesting to say on some other topic.

But we're jacking the thread of why we leave threads now, aren't we?

We are, but that’s just par for the course around here, isn’t it?

 

[lovecraft68]

No, I wasn’t alluding to you. I was under the impression that you do toot your opinion quite honestly and freely, I didn’t remember you have this softy policy according stories, though now that you said it, it faintly rings a bell. I have some mental image of who’s said what on here but I don’t go around memorizing everything everyone says.

See how difficult it is to interpret vague accusations like that?



Yeah, I know you’re a Big Man over there. What sometimes annoys me is that some people seem to feel it gives your opinions some kind of weight here on forum side. I was especially salty the first year I held my event and you ran around in unrelated threads trying to intimidate people from participating, and some people were folding because of that.

I do think you have credence on writing, especially writing incest, and publishing, and all that. What I don’t think is that it extends to anything else, and a lot of your opinions I don’t agree with. I think it’s each issue case by case. Someone I disagree with might have something interesting to say on some other topic.



We are, but that’s just par for the course around here, isn’t it?

I've done well here, but I know that 25k followers isn't worth .25 outside of here. I won't say I'm not proud of what I've managed here in the damn, I never saw this coming way, but I know a lot of things factor in and talent is not always one of them. But going to continue on the roll of being straightforward and say although I don't get caught up on my numbers, they are a good way to take down some egos.

I'll say to you what I've said to Notalenthack a few times when we bicker over LW. He always says "you're an expert in I/T"" No, I have done well there, but this I/T whisperer thing makes me laugh. End of the day I'm a fan of the genre in both stories and porn so it stands to reason I'd write decent stories there as I'm my own target audience.

FWIW if someone gives my opinion more weight than another person's based on stats, that's their thing, I don't think that, nor do I push that narrative for the most part but occasionally I'll put it in the way of, look, you asked, you don't like the answer, but I've been here a long time and have a good feel of how things work here. That's more from 'time served' than talking numbers. Reject Reality is the same way, if he gives an opinion, it does have weight to it as in his vast experience on this site since 2006 when he used other pen names. But again, if its one of those times the me me crowd is really performing? Its a useful ace up the figurative sleeve.

It took me a moment to recall what you meant by an event. But that was never about the concept of the event which is an important one that goes far beyond writing stories. My issue was the male authors entering it that I know are the antithesis of that cause and just looking for white knight points with female authors and extra attention on a story. If you're interested in specifics I can PM you, but only if you say that's okay. If I came across as disparaging you or the actual event, that was never my intent. Maybe I came across wrong because that type pisses me off on and off the net so perhaps I wasn't thinking as carefully as I should have been.

I think I was going to enter one, asked you about length in the thread, then I backed off. I saw who else was coming in and didn't want to be lumped in with them especially after I read through some of the thread and saw one of them showing their true colors. Consider it a weird moral code.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

What's cool here is we can explore things in words that we'd never have a chance to, or maybe even consider in the world.

 

[Omenainen]

FWIW if someone gives my opinion more weight than another person's based on stats, that's their thing,

This, I agree with.

It took me a moment to recall what you meant by an event.

What, are you saying I’m not a celebrity around here?
Could have given the event name. My bad. (Pink Orchid, for the people in the back.)

But that was never about the concept of the event which is an important one that goes far beyond writing stories. My issue was the male authors entering it that I know are the antithesis of that cause and just looking for white knight points with female authors and extra attention on a story. If you're interested in specifics I can PM you, but only if you say that's okay. If I came across as disparaging you or the actual event, that was never my intent. Maybe I came across wrong because that type pisses me off on and off the net so perhaps I wasn't thinking as carefully as I should have been.

Well, some weasels took it as “I was going to attend, but since LC thinks it isn’t cool, I’m not going to.” And, as you pointed out, it’s on them and not you, but it sure annoyed me back then. I was new here and it was my first rodeo and I was worried nobody would show up. Now that people did indeed show up, and have shown up for all the following years, I’m not as bothered anymore. Maybe I can even forget about it now that I’ve said my piece to you.

Sure you can send me the flak over PM. That being said…

I think I was going to enter one, asked you about length in the thread, then I backed off. I saw who else was coming in and didn't want to be lumped in with them especially after I read through some of the thread and saw one of them showing their true colors. Consider it a weird moral code.

…I’ve taken the stance with my event that if anyone wants to participate, they’re welcome. No matter what else they’ve written, or how they may think in private life, if they make an honest effort, it’s good enough for me.

I also don’t hold it against people if they don’t participate, or say they will and then won’t. People have all kinds of reasons and sometimes life happens. I’m not super positive person in general, but regarding my event I’ve decided to approach it from a positive place and give people the benefit of the doubt.