What percentage of white women fantasize about being with a black man

[lily_wall_]

I've been with black men so that part is not a fantasy on its own. But I fantasize about having threesome with a bi black guy and my husband

 

[LMWM321]

black men tend to be more bold in general when it comes to pursing a woman and letting their interest be known. They know how to express themselves with the ladies and women love that sort of confidence they carry themselves with. Generally speaking many also tend to taller/have more fitter athletic body types.

I think that's why so many women, white and non white tend to gravitate or have fantasies about black men.

As far as the whole notion that they are all big, I don't think it's necessarily true. I'm sure there are plenty of average size black guys out there but from what I know from some women who sleep around they are on average bigger than us other groups of men at least as far as penis length goes.

(sigh) I'm guessing you haven't read the whole thread and would therefore have seen my earlier comments on these disgusting racist tropes.

I'll summarize...

• If most women really crave a huge cock, then most women would have a fat 10" dildo in their nightstand. But they don't. The most commonly purchased dildo size resembles the average size penis.
• If most women really crave a BBC, then most women would have a fat 10" BLACK dildo in their nightstand. But they don't.
• If either or both of the above were true then they would certainly appear somewhere on lists of Women's Top Sexual Fantasies in at least one of the 6 or so lists published in Woman's periodicals such as Vogue, Cosmo, Oprah, etc.. . But they don't. Huge Cock and BBC Bull are nowhere to be found on such lists.
• Black men are NOT generally fitter. Indeed, thanks to disparities in access to healthy food and health care Black men tend to have higher BMI's and suffer higher rates of prostate cancer, T2 diabetes, hyperlipidemia, strokes, and heart-attacks, just to name a few. ..In fact, black men's life expectancy trails white mens by 4 years. 78 vs. 74. So, are they generally fitter? ..Um, no.

The notion that most women, no matter their relationship status, crave Big and/or Big Black Cock is a figment of men's imaginations and is perpetuated and monetized by the male-driven Porn industry. The underlying premise that Black Men are hyper-sexual brutes determined to fuck every white woman in their orbit has deeply sinister origins dating back to slavery. BBC and Bull porn that promote these tropes are inherently racist and harmful to our culture, but sadly that doesn't seem to garner much interest here on Lit.

Oh, well.

 

[madlapper]

I dont know how many but My wife has always been so turned on by bbc .One of the biggest turn ons was her admitting it to me

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

That’s a shame that black guy just ruined a good thing . What a wonderful husband you have to knock him out and end it.
We also knew a black couple in the service. They both were very polite my wife enjoyed him as much as I enjoyed her.
Have you met any more black couples?

No we have not. Still, I fantasize about it. My husband and I chat about it sometimes while having sex. We even watch BBC porn and I do on my own as well.

 

[Islander55]

I suspect that most women fantasize about some naughty sexual things. Fucking a stranger, trying a big cock and for white women, that cock may well be black.

 

[PintlerMan]

pfffft, white gay man interested on this!

 

[lc69hunter]

My second wife liked the color contrast, so once or twice a year we would hook up with a black friend of ours for a threesome. Sometimes we would talk shit and raceplay just for the fun of it, and then laugh about it when the three of us were laying there after.

 

[LMWM321]

I suspect that most women fantasize about some naughty sexual things. Fucking a stranger, trying a big cock and for white women, that cock may well be black.

There's nothing wrong with what you're describing, @Islander55

It's the relentless fetishizing of racist tropes that is fucking grotesque. ..The idea that Black men have bigger dicks, are hyper-sexual, and will aggressively pursue a white woman no matter what his or her relationship status is, are all ugly and dehumanizing myths. And they were started by white men during slavery so white women wouldn't take a sexual interest in them. ..But now, mostly thanks to porn, these notions have been turned on their head, fetishized and highly monetized.

I find it surprising and disappointing how so many of the well-informed and progressive leaning people of Literotica will quickly quash horrible myths regarding LGBTQ people - e.g, they are mentally ill, predatory and untrustworthy around children, etc.. - but at the same time, blissfully celebrate and promote these horrible sexual myths about Black men.

I guess this is because they think that, even if untrue, BBC and Bull myths are flattering. Well, they are not flattering! And they create a cultural headwind for Black parents who want to raise their boys to treat women as equals, to understand the all-importance of consent, to respect fidelity AND to love their own bodies, regardless of their dick size.

 

[Islander55]

There's nothing wrong with what you're describing, @Islander55

It's the fetishizing of a Black Man's Blackness - ie., his race - that is fucking grotesque. ..The idea that Black men have bigger dicks, are hypersexual, and will aggressively pursue a white woman no matter what his or her relationship status is are all ugly myths started by white men when slavery ended so that white women wouldn't see them as equals and take a romantic interest in one. ..But now, mostly thanks to porn, these notions have have been fetishized.

It's quite surprising how the people of Literotica do a wonderful job of destigmatizing and celebrating the equality of Gay, Lesbian, Trans, and Bi people but at the same time, continue to celebrate and promote these horrible myths about Black Men.

I guess it's because they think that these myths are at least flattering, even if untrue. Well, they are not flattering, and they create a cultural headwind for Black parents who want to raise their boys to treat women as equals, to understand the all-importance of consent, the virtues of fidelity AND to love their own bodies, regardless of their dick size.

I think the fantasy of bedding a black man has been around for a long time and perhaps originating during the period of slavery and a truly forbidden fantasy. I have met a number of black men and they certainly the fetish aspect you describe do not apply to any that I have met. I take your point that we need to be aware of and denigrating of any race or any people that we may have in our fantasies.

 

[Islander55]

I knew of a Mexican woman who all throughout her early and mid 20s pretty much only fooled around with black men exclusively. I assumed it was likely a kink or fetish she had or because it is rumored they have bigger penises but she insisted it was actually because that was who showed most interest in her most often than not. She had that body type many black men like (larger fullers breasts, small waist, big butt). With that said she ended up settling down with a man from her own culture.

What you do to have fun and what you do for long term can be quite different. You can be a lot less picky if it is only about getting laid.

 

[Islander55]

That is very much true. Im not casting any judgments either but the fact that she did all those black guys only to settle down with one of her own was something I found somewhat amusing.

If she settles down with a black man, she will probably have to deal with a lot of issues, family, society, etc. While she may have enjoyed having sex with the black men, she probably did not want the hassle of marrying one.

 

[blksoldier]

I’m white, and I’ve had sex with a few Black men. It was because of who they were as people, not because of their race or some sort of race based fantasy. They were just cool sexy men who happened to be Black.

Fetishizing someone for their race is, of course, racist. Thinking that it’s a compliment doesn’t change that it’s racist. That will make some defensive, I’m sure. God knows the only thing worse than experiencing racism is being called out for being racist.

In my experience, way more white men than white women fantasize about black men having sex Usually they fantasize about Black men fucking their wife or girlfriend. Men are also way more obsessed with dick size than any woman I’ve ever known.

i must say when I have any fantasize, you often cross my mind. you have such a sexy mind i am just complimenting. well said.

 

[policywank]

I knew of a Mexican woman who all throughout her early and mid 20s pretty much only fooled around with black men exclusively. I assumed it was likely a kink or fetish she had or because it is rumored they have bigger penises but she insisted it was actually because that was who showed most interest in her most often than not. She had that body type many black men like (larger fullers breasts, small waist, big butt). With that said she ended up settling down with a man from her own culture.

I think that a lot of times we read too much into what we observe. It sounds like this woman was just going with the flow of the opportunities available to her.

What you do to have fun and what you do for long term can be quite different. You can be a lot less picky if it is only about getting laid.

I think that it is true that when one is exploring sexually one can be less picky. But to me that doesn't mean my standards are lower per se. It just means that I am not looking for the complete package so much as whatever interests me at that moment. And a short-term or casual relationship does not entail the same standards of compatibility as a longer-term relationship.

Guys struggle with the idea that a woman can sow her wild oats with a variety of men then settle down with a man that perhaps has different characteristics. That is especially the case if the guys she sowed her wild oats with had certain sexual characteristics that her eventual long-term partner does not possess. They seem to infer something nefarious or unfair as if she is expecting him to be on stand-by while she has her fun. But the more balanced way to look at it is that both parties should feel that they have the latitude to explore their sexuality as they see fit. It is only logical that we look for different things in different types of relationships or at different stages in life.

That is very much true. Im not casting any judgments either but the fact that she did all those black guys only to settle down with one of her own was something I found somewhat amusing.

Generally speaking guys see no problem in going through a phase of dating wild women or having one-night stands with one "type" of woman then settling down with someone totally different. They get the appeal and suitability of both. Yet when women do it there seems to be an assumption or assertion that there is some kind of internal contradiction and perhaps hypocrisy, as if we are not perfectly capable of seeing exactly what we are doing and doing so intentionally.

 

[Islander55]

I think that a lot of times we read too much into what we observe. It sounds like this woman was just going with the flow of the opportunities available to her.



I think that it is true that when one is exploring sexually one can be less picky. But to me that doesn't mean my standards are lower per se. It just means that I am not looking for the complete package so much as whatever interests me at that moment. And a short-term or casual relationship does not entail the same standards of compatibility as a longer-term relationship.

Guys struggle with the idea that a woman can sow her wild oats with a variety of men then settle down with a man that perhaps has different characteristics. That is especially the case if the guys she sowed her wild oats with had certain sexual characteristics that her eventual long-term partner does not possess. They seem to infer something nefarious or unfair as if she is expecting him to be on stand-by while she has her fun. But the more balanced way to look at it is that both parties should feel that they have the latitude to explore their sexuality as they see fit. It is only logical that we look for different things in different types of relationships or at different stages in life.



Generally speaking guys see no problem in going through a phase of dating wild women or having one-night stands with one "type" of woman then settling down with someone totally different. They get the appeal and suitability of both. Yet when women do it there seems to be an assumption or assertion that there is some kind of internal contradiction and perhaps hypocrisy, as if we are not perfectly capable of seeing exactly what we are doing and doing so intentionally.

I agree that certain standards need to be met whether it is one time or long term but if I am looking for a long term partner, the list gets longer.

 

[policywank]

I agree that certain standards need to be met whether it is one time or long term but if I am looking for a long term partner, the list gets longer.

Absolutely. Plus you need to be more sure that he possesses certain characteristics as opposed to oh well I thought he was X but he wasn't so I won't see him again. And for the longer-term relationship one must be more wary of characteristics that you may dislike - as long as he isn't an asshole I don't have to like everything about him if all I am going to do is ride his dick now and then.

 

[Islander55]

Absolutely. Plus you need to be more sure that he possesses certain characteristics as opposed to oh well I thought he was X but he wasn't so I won't see him again. And for the longer-term relationship one must be more wary of characteristics that you may dislike - as long as he isn't an asshole I don't have to like everything about him if all I am going to do is ride his dick now and then.

Right on and well said.

 

[desire30]

I have had a fascination with black men since HS and College sports days. the contrast in body form . Strong , in shape zero body fat, mostly charming and direct and appreciative of being wanted. AND SUPER SEXED the same can be said for some Brown men

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

I’ve been crazy about hot black men since middle school, have had some and will again.

 

[LisaMayTurner]

Could be 12% or 40% or 2% or whatever % you want to conjure up.

 

[Foxed]

Been there, done that! Although it wasn’t really a fantasy, it just happened

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

Yep

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

Honestly, I fantasize about it, even though as I wrote earlier I have done it for real. My husband knows about and is likewise turned on by my fantasy. If we could find the right male (as I am selective) it would happen. My ideal would be an educated younger black male late 20's, early 30's. Muscular and while hung not TOO big. (8-9" at the max) with a sweet and sexy personality. Even now, I am turned on thinking of being in her position.

https://www.pictoa.com/albums/wives-fuck-bbc-2278-wedding-ring-swingers-3689370/81913824.html

 

[Elle4u2use2]

As a black woman, it turns me on knowing

 

[Elle4u2use2]

Very interesting . We should dm and play with some ideas.

Include me

 

[Easypeter]

As a black woman, it turns me on knowing

Are you into white guys like black guys are into married white women ?