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[Missk_2022]

With the right teaching, a mentoring, sometimes a cast off are the best.

Or worst…

Or somewhere on the curve.

This probably hasn’t helped at all!

I think they send cast offs to wat to either reform them or give them the boot

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

Well hopefully this institutes a move out.... she was looking at houses .. this may move up her timeliness. Easier if they leave willingly...but my sister and I are ready to step in... my dad is the problem...he wants to be king of the white trash douche bags

I can’t find the appropriate emoji. Maybe

 

[Crankbait88]

Good Monday morning all (if that is actually a thing.) Trying to recover from my Father's Day meat coma. Looks like rain for most of the week here in the Mid-Atlantic, so Im glad I got the yard mowed last Friday.

Be safe everyone!

 

[Wonderer67]

I think they send cast offs to wat to either reform them or give them the boot

With that tactic, it’s gonna get sorted one way or the other!

 

[Crankbait88]

So long post...but I am so fucking over this situation

So my sister is disabled and she has a caregiver who was going through some stuff (self induced imo) and my dad decided to be king of the white trash douche bags and invite her her 10 yr old mouthy daughter and their dog and cat to live with my parents.... so over the last 2 years

1. No rent utilities etc required to be paid
2 my 85/86 year old parents would take care of the animals up to and including getting their shots and spayed spraying the yard for fleas, buying some of their food etc...
3. Their rooms look like a bomb went off...
4. The upstairs bathroom is ruined and will require repair because they dont know how to get in the shower without praying water everywhere
5. The 10 yr old talks to my mom like an adult and is disrespectful as hell....
6. They do nothing to be helpful....nothing
7. Throws my mom's silverware away


So a couple weeks ago There was a heated conversation where she ...let's call her b... and my mom talked about it being told she needs to find a new place to live it has been 2 years and it's time to go. She threatened to not take care of my sister anymore if she couldn't live there ...and how my other sister and I dont help pat but his sisters do (we aren't welcome) and then she was like i dont see why it is such a problem just because you dont like the dog... my mom had to explain to her about 8 months ago that she isn't a dog sitter a cat sitter or kid sitter .....

Well tonight my parents were going out to dinner for father's day and b and the brat were on their phone doing laundry. They put the dog out on the chain ..with no water... when they got back from the pizza place. My nephew heard the dog making noise and asked if it was OK. Mom said yeah it makes those noises and they went intside. Apparently it wasn't.. they dog was in distress.... as they were rushing by my nephew said " I asked grandma if the dog was ok" and b called my mom a fucking bitch and rushed to the vet....

Update: the dog died

My mom did nothing wrong... has never except given a ungrateful bitch a place to live.... while my dad sits back to be Mr good guy.... I am so fucking over it

That's a very tough situation with a family member needing care with elderly parents in the mix. Throw in free loading trash "helpers," it's unsustainable. Sorry you are dealing with that. I know a small bit what that's like and the stress is a killer.

 

[Crankbait88]

Exactly this. Your parents should not be burdened with this AT ALL.

They shouldn't be, but many time feel that responsibility no matter the child's age. Tough, tough situation...

 

[Missk_2022]

I can’t find the appropriate emoji. Maybe

Middle finger with a leg kicking

 

[Missk_2022]

That's a very tough situation with a family member needing care with elderly parents in the mix. Throw in free loading trash "helpers," it's unsustainable. Sorry you are dealing with that. I know a small bit what that's like and the stress is a killer.

I am the dumping pot for everything... they dont want me to do anything... or dont need me to "fix it" they just want me to listen.... well tell that shit to someone else.... oh and when I say dont dump that shit in me...they say that they aren't and that I am a bad listener.... my sister wants to talk things out...well I have heard the same shit for 20 years...get fucking over it and move on...

 

[Boat1]

It may come to that.... but my parents are the ones who have to initiate. Always better if they just leave.

One of my first thoughts when I read your initial post was "Is this a "Licensed Caregiver?"
If so, as much as I don't like involving Govt in anything I do, that b... sounds like a great candidate for license revocation... just a thought.

 

[Boat1]

It may come to that.... but my parents are the ones who have to initiate. Always better if they just leave.

One of my first thoughts when I read your initial post was "Is this a "Licensed Caregiver?"
If so, as much as I don't like involving Govt in anything I do, that b... sounds like a great candidate

 

[Boat1]

Good Monday morning all (if that is actually a thing.) Trying to recover from my Father's Day meat coma. Looks like rain for most of the week here in the Mid-Atlantic, so Im glad I got the yard mowed last Friday.

Be safe everyone!

lol... I got up and treated my meat coma with the "hair of the dog " method!

You stay safe as well and have a great day!

 

[Boat1]

I am the dumping pot for everything... they dont want me to do anything... or dont need me to "fix it" they just want me to listen.... well tell that shit to someone else.... oh and when I say dont dump that shit in me...they say that they aren't and that I am a bad listener.... my sister wants to talk things out...well I have heard the same shit for 20 years...get fucking over it and move on...

You shouldn't be and don't have to be used as "an emotional tampon."

 

[Missk_2022]

One of my first thoughts when I read your initial post was "Is this a "Licensed Caregiver?"
If so, as much as I don't like involving Govt in anything I do, that b... sounds like a great candidate for license revocation... just a thought.

Oh that was a thought...but she needs to work to pay for a place... she is a medical assistant NOT a nurse

 

[Missk_2022]

lol... I got up and treated my meat coma with the "hair of the dog " method!

You stay safe as well and have a great day!

Bacon...lots of bacon

 

[Missk_2022]

You shouldn't be and don't have to be used as "an emotional tampon."

Emotional crash test dummy

 

[Boat1]

Emotional crash test dummy

I stole "emotional tampon" from the late, great Sam Kinison...
I guess that kinda "dates" my old ass, doesn't it?

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

I LOVE that movie! I have the DVD and the soundtrack. The score is so dreamy! I've also read Dinesen's book. I haven't read the biography on Denys. I should try to find it. Now, I want to watch the movie again!

We do also! It’s in my top five movies for sure. Won a ton of awards, top notch acting, cinematography is off the charts. What’s not to love? I’m so easily led…now I want to watch the movie again! Found your Denys book/s…


OK…that’s the hardcover and for a Buck-0-Seven it better be signed!


This is the one I nabbed and I promise you, it’ll read just like the Cadillac version!

Two other books popped up when I went to retrieve this…one on the relationship between Karen and Denys and the other a focus on the relationship with Beryl Markham. Her book is a good read also, as her life story is little more adventurous than Baroness von Blixen’s…IMO. Have fun going down the Out of Africa rabbit hole!

Tummy was upset all day…took my charcoal which worked too well…. Now I’m scrambling to get ready for work and deal with this issue….. It must be Monday…

Let’s go to a happy place…Bonsai MZ

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

You can come over to my house and watch it! I make great popcorn!

Deal! I’ll bring some wine! Haven’t had a watch party in a long time!

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

With the right teaching, a mentoring, sometimes a cast off are the best.

Or worst…

Or somewhere on the curve.

This probably hasn’t helped at all!

Exactly. You never know when that cast off realizes this is his last chance and straightens up an marches right.

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

Middle finger with a leg kicking

Yep

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

 

[Boat1]

I LOVE that movie! I have the DVD and the soundtrack. The score is so dreamy! I've also read Dinesen's book. I haven't read the biography on Denys. I should try to find it. Now, I want to watch the movie again!

We ordered and received an oldie...
"At Play In The Fields Of The Lord"
I'm looking forward to watching it when I get home.

 

[dkak001]

Been watching Turkeys, Cranes, Geese, and Deer wander around the field constantly. All sorts of riffraff that would be laying waste to the garden if we didn't have a fence.
Tried a few hills of cucumbers and melons without the fence the other year, nothing would let them grow. Anything inside that fence will find it's way inside my freezer, one way or another!

 

[likes2watchU]

Oh, Monday... why are you so... Monday
What's everyone else up to?

I am so fucking over it

Yep, the picture is from our local county sheriff’s dept, they are good at finding people.

Peace of mind for many
Kudos to the neighbor that spotted something on their trail cams and reported it

I read this as PORTLAND!

well... kinda?

What I LOVED about graveyard shift (11pm to 7am) was that it was like a three day weekend, every week.... I'd pack my camping gear and was free from 7 o'clock Friday morning, until 11 o'clock Sunday night... I got the best choice of campsites, beating the other "weekend warriors" to the punch...
That shift was also cooler, plus, a bit more "lax" as management wasn't around.

my days off w/ graveyard were Mon and Tues.
Great for appointments and errands, but otherwise a bit isolating w/ family/friends who worked M-F days

OMG! He can wash my hair ANY day! ️

Washed my hair last night - it was not the same

Old dog got me up too early and going to get some more sleep. See you folks later.

hope you got a bit more sleep, B2

Early road trip Monday!!! In some rain. Old cat is kinda fussy. I hope he doesn't hurt.
Meh . . . .
Oh, and I get a newbie at work - a transfer.
He may be more a cast-off.

to old cat
Safe travels
transfer? careful... at this rate you'll end up with a new nickname: The Weasel King l

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oooh, it's even spelled correctly

I think they send cast offs to wat to either reform them or give them the boot

sound plan

Father's Day meat coma

TIL: This is such a thing, there's even greeting cards

well tell that shit to someone else

New boundary just dropped
Had to do this w/ my mom - of course 1/2 the reason she would dump on me was to avoid having to tell someone directly. backfired as everything would go in The Vault When she caught on, she stopped coming to me to talk about it. Win!

Bacon...lots of bacon

order up

Have fun going down the Out of Africa rabbit hole!

Tummy was upset all day…took my charcoal which worked too well…. Now I’m scrambling to get ready for work and deal with this issue….. It must be Monday

Thanks for the book reccos
Hope you're feeling better

Exactly. You never know when that cast off realizes this is his last chance and straightens up an marches right.

 

[Boat1]

Been watching Turkeys, Cranes, Geese, and Deer wander around the field constantly. All sorts of riffraff that would be laying waste to the garden if we didn't have a fence.
Tried a few hills of cucumbers and melons without the fence the other year, nothing would let them grow. Anything inside that fence will find it's way inside my freezer, one way or another!

I feel your pain!
I had a huge groundhog that LOVED my sweet potato vines and I swear that thing could smell gun oil at 50 yards... I could step outside armed and see his tail rounding the corner of the barn... I could step out unarmed and that sumbitch would stand up on its hind legs, smile and wave at me....
Think, Bill Murray in Caddyshack!