Bad Boys

[Jay142]

Why are women attracted to bad boys? You know the type. The guys that will never marry and are only looking for the next woman to fuck. Are the good guys boring? Are you just looking for someone to bring out your wild side and then go back to the nice guy?

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I'm sure there's a science behind why we like bad boys. The adrenaline rush, the dopamine overload..

I was raised being treated like shit. So, I never liked the nice guys because I personally felt like I didn't deserve to be treated good.
The true bad boys treat you like shit.
I just fucked them.. ok .Rather, they fucked me.

My late husband was not a "bad boy", but the same summer I met him, I was in lust with a bad druggie boy..
I married the best choice ..

Even as an older adult, after my husband passed, I chose to stay in a dynamic that was odd.. I thought being called names was what I needed and deserved...

Now, I chose the nice guy ...
But ladies, the nicest men are some of the best guys, the sexiest guys!!!

 

[Jw75766]

Bad boys or "alphas" tend to express a type of confidence that I believe is attractive to women. A strength but often ends up not being what they are seeking in the long term.... Alphas tend to be self important and arrogant. Yes, plenty of exceptions to the rules, I'm generalizing. My experience with "alphas" is not positive. I see them as taking for granted the special someone others will die to cherish...

 

[Jw75766]

I'm sure there's a science behind why we like bad boys. The adrenaline rush, the dopamine overload..

Nice guys provide emotional support, will be there to hear your opinions and feelings. Bad boys will have a disconnect in their ability to emphasize with your feelings (typically).

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Exactly!!!!

The guy in my life now, , he is amazing about my emotions, my mood swings, my feelings.. Everything!!

Plus, good guys want to pleasure you first..

Bad boys only want to get off!!

 

[Jw75766]

Exactly!!! A nice guy (typically called a beta by the alphas) will put others needs before his own, will seek satisfaction of his/her lover before his own. Betas are vulnerable, open, empathetic, soft but with an undertone of strong. I feel we betas often express the best mix of emotions, mildly strong without being overbearing but vulnerable enough to hurt when our lover is hurting. Expressing emotions is not a complete sign of weakness to us.

 

[Boat1]

Exactly!!! A nice guy (typically called a beta by the alphas) will put others needs before his own, will seek satisfaction of his/her lover before his own. Betas are vulnerable, open, empathetic, soft but with an undertone of strong. I feel we betas often express the best mix of emotions, mildly strong without being overbearing but vulnerable enough to hurt when our lover is hurting. Expressing emotions is not a complete sign of weakness to us.

Kudos!
IMHO, you stated that PERFECTLY!
Betas have an inner alpha, but know how and when to bring it out and use it.

 

[Jw75766]

Kudos!
IMHO, you stated that PERFECTLY!
Betas have an inner alpha, but know how and when to bring it out and use it.

You make me smile. Thank you for your comment. Oftentimes I feel like the oddball in how I approch intimacy. You're comment helps reinforce my natural nurturing but protective side.

 

[Boat1]

You make me smile. Thank you for your comment. Oftentimes I feel like the oddball in how I approch intimacy. You're comment helps reinforce my natural nurturing but protective side.

Thank you for making me smile as well!
I'm hardwired the same way you are and when I read your comment, I lit up like a Christmas tree!

 

[Jw75766]

Thank you for making me smile as well!
I'm hardwired the same way you are and when I read your comment, I lit up like a Christmas tree!

I'm glad it's not just me that feels this way!

 

[Jay142]

Bad boys or "alphas" tend to express a type of confidence that I believe is attractive to women. A strength but often ends up not being what they are seeking in the long term.... Alphas tend to be self important and arrogant. Yes, plenty of exceptions to the rules, I'm generalizing. My experience with "alphas" is not positive. I see them as taking for granted the special someone others will die to cherish...

I agree. I think a lot of the attraction is the confidence and arrogance. I also think women need to sow some wild oats of their own and bad boys fit the bill.