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[Wonderer67]

Time for another depressing post. I could use some advice here....

That lady I mentioned that I had been speaking too. Turns out she's having some major family problems. Her parents are likely splitting up and it's affecting her. This is on top of an ugly break up she had (which I knew about) a couple of years ago. It's really getting on top of her. I've tried to offer some support, mindful of our closeness (although I think that has become a thing o fthe past and certainly isn't a priority now). Us meeting isn't really on the cards simply due to distance.

And I think she's started drinking.

I am not a therapist, nor a counsellor and I am in no place to offer expert advice to her. I've shown her some of the simple breathing exercises I do to cope with stress. She has spoken to the Samaritans (here in the UK, I don't think she was about to do anything stupid and they help with anyone that's feeling low). I've told her that they are the experts.

I don't want to just walk away I think that would be cruel honestly. But by god I have to tread carefully. I'm not entirely sure what to do here. I'm happy being supportive, but I think she might need serious help rather than just advice. I told her earlier that she might benefit from talking it out with her family or with her uncle whom she mentioned. Just now she ame online and said she had been drinking. I don't know if she legit has a problem or was just having a drink, but that's how it starts ofc. I said, speak to the Samaritans they are the experts. I can really only signpost to organisations.

It's not so much how I feel that I'm concerned about. It's her wellbeing. Her past experience I think has kinda messed her up. Understandably.

Thanks for any advice, and for reading this.
Not really sure what I should do for the best

I don’t like giving advice.

But here’s how I feel about people. They are either additive to your life or take something from you. Yes - it’s also a continuum and maybe a little of both. I do not see this person being additive.

You have done a good deed by suggesting the samaritans.

But I wouldn’t get any more involved. You will not change her. Change comes from within.

IMO, you only stand to get further embroiled with her.

JMO.

 

[Tweedledude]

I don’t like giving advice.

But here’s how I feel about people. They are either additive to your life or take something from you. Yes - it’s also a continuum and maybe a little of both. I do not see this person being additive.

You have done a good deed by suggesting the samaritans.

But I wouldn’t get any more involved. You will not change her. Change comes from within.

IMO, you only stand to get further embroiled with her.

JMO.

I have to agree. We all suffer from some level of White Knight syndrome but as is stated she needs professional guidance. Most times it seems when a knight charges in on the faithful stead and puts his heart soul and resources Into a person with issues he will wake up in the future and find his heart his soul and his resources depleted. Okay enough from me. Oh by the way this is true regardless of the gender of the knight. Truth in advertising

 

[Wonderer67]

Swimming pools…

(Sigh) I’m pretty over having one. It came with the house, but it’s always something. I opened it up yesterday afternoon, treated it, cleaned it, got the filter going. Water was a bit low, but nothing terrible. Left the filter going all night and this morning the pool was down nearly a foot!

The liner is a bit old and I’ve patched it many times but the pool held water over the winter.

Asked a buddy and did some troubleshooting. We decided to reroute the water from the filter and bypass the returns to see if that takes that variable out of the equation.

We’ll see in the morning.

https://media4.giphy.com/media/xGdv...6&ep=v1_internal_gif_by_id&rid=giphy.gif&ct=g

 

[Mittering]

Swimming pools…

(Sigh) I’m pretty over having one. It came with the house, but it’s always something. I opened it up yesterday afternoon, treated it, cleaned it, got the filter going. Water was a bit low, but nothing terrible. Left the filter going all night and this morning the pool was down nearly a foot!

The liner is a bit old and I’ve patched it many times but the pool held water over the winter.

Asked a buddy and did some troubleshooting. We decided to reroute the water from the filter and bypass the returns to see if that takes that variable out of the equation.

We’ll see in the morning.

https://media4.giphy.com/media/xGdv...6&ep=v1_internal_gif_by_id&rid=giphy.gif&ct=g

GAWD I miss my pool. Especially the naked stuff.

 

[Wonderer67]

GAWD I miss my pool. Especially the naked stuff.

Yeah - we are out there in the buff quite often. The advantages of being an empty nester.

 

[Wonderer67]

Breaking news:

Why are hot dogs sold in ten packs and buns in 8 packs….

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/mystery-explained-why-hot-dogs-200000170.html

 

[Missk_2022]

Morning/Afternoon all... Hope everyone got a good night's sleep - especially those traveling.
I'm easing into the day the right way... with coffee
(and chia seed pudding IYKYK )
Let's see what's up on the thread - I feel like I've been away for ages!!

Sure to be a whirlwind of old memories and new. Have a marvelous time, you two!!!

Whoo-Hoo!!! So glad you made this a reality!!
Love the energy and excitement in this post, too.

Thanks for the tip, Rj

Who couldn't?

Same!! It was college - so no dinero... and it wasn't Spring Break - so no time off to go anywhere even if we did have money. So... bring the beach (vibe) to you. Those two were so creative that way!!

Did you ever buy that stepladder? Just wondering...

Highly recommend!!

I'm sorry for your loss, B2. Hope the memories are more fond than fraught this year.

They've never worked using the Media icon - YouTube does, but not gihpy or tenor. So I tried and they did work using the "Insert Image" option and pasting the URL there. But a few days ago this week all that changed and I get the same result as @Wonderer67 . Weird.
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Those are some of the best jokes and best stories!!!
"You had to be there"

I don't even know what that is, but I'll make a note in case I run into a car person along the way

(most I can glean w/o google is tach=speed , o'meter=measure... now whether that's mph/kph or rpm IDK)

Very true! I did similar trips (separately) with my mom, and two aunties. They were fun but exhausting.

I'm biased but agree

Ah yes - we have 2 seasons up in these parts:
Winter and Construction
Too much truth to be a complete joke

Pretty sure that's some sort of sports car... but looks to me like a Dune Buggy with an axe to grind

I had to put out there that I am not a machine and driving on unfamiliar roads in the dark I the rain with construction was a no go for me.... we stopped early tonight...hahahaha

Yes it is a speed thingy...oh and the color is grabber orange

 

[Missk_2022]

Time for another depressing post. I could use some advice here....

That lady I mentioned that I had been speaking too. Turns out she's having some major family problems. Her parents are likely splitting up and it's affecting her. This is on top of an ugly break up she had (which I knew about) a couple of years ago. It's really getting on top of her. I've tried to offer some support, mindful of our closeness (although I think that has become a thing o fthe past and certainly isn't a priority now). Us meeting isn't really on the cards simply due to distance.

And I think she's started drinking.

I am not a therapist, nor a counsellor and I am in no place to offer expert advice to her. I've shown her some of the simple breathing exercises I do to cope with stress. She has spoken to the Samaritans (here in the UK, I don't think she was about to do anything stupid and they help with anyone that's feeling low). I've told her that they are the experts.

I don't want to just walk away I think that would be cruel honestly. But by god I have to tread carefully. I'm not entirely sure what to do here. I'm happy being supportive, but I think she might need serious help rather than just advice. I told her earlier that she might benefit from talking it out with her family or with her uncle whom she mentioned. Just now she ame online and said she had been drinking. I don't know if she legit has a problem or was just having a drink, but that's how it starts ofc. I said, speak to the Samaritans they are the experts. I can really only signpost to organisations.

It's not so much how I feel that I'm concerned about. It's her wellbeing. Her past experience I think has kinda messed her up. Understandably.

Thanks for any advice, and for reading this.
Not really sure what I should do for the best

Tread carefully... you are essentially a stranger.... she needs to get advice from a licensed professional .....

 

[Oldermom935]

I had to put out there that I am not a machine and driving on unfamiliar roads in the dark I the rain with construction was a no go for me.... we stopped early tonight...hahahaha

Yes it is a speed thingy...oh and the color is grabber orange

As long as you're safe, that's all that matters...

 

[Tweedledude]

I’ve loaded up in the NyQuil just waiting for the affect to kick in. Dang colds

 

[Tweedledude]

As long as you're safe, that's all that matters...

Agreed. Be safe

 

[dkak001]

Breaking news:

Why are hot dogs sold in ten packs and buns in 8 packs….

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/mystery-explained-why-hot-dogs-200000170.html

And here I thought it was just nature. With more weiners than buns to put them in being the natural state of things.

We see that quite often, even on this forum.

 

[dkak001]

Long drive today. I'm just whipped. Some rain on the way back, but only about enough to wash the bugs off the windshield.

 

[likes2watchU]

*Strolls in for a nightcap*
Weiners and Buns
Yep, right place

I could use some advice here....

I don’t like giving advice.

But here’s how I feel about people. They are either additive to your life or take something from you. Yes - it’s also a continuum and maybe a little of both. I do not see this person being additive.

You have done a good deed by suggesting the samaritans.

But I wouldn’t get any more involved. You will not change her. Change comes from within.

IMO, you only stand to get further embroiled with her.

JMO.

I have to agree.

Tread carefully... you are essentially a stranger.... she needs to get advice from a licensed professional .....

I concur.
The issues continue to stack up and while this person may feel they're getting piled on by life and others, the best resource for her is professional assistance - especially if substance use is involved. Perhaps it's not problem use at present... more self-medicating? But that's a poor coping mechanism best addressed by a professional as well.
As others have said, change is possible but must come from her - internal not external.
I wish you both good luck.

Swimming pools

Pool Leak??? Those are the worst! Hope you figure it out w/o too much trouble.
This channel seems to have some good DIY info

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Breaking news:

Why are hot dogs sold in ten packs and buns in 8 packs….

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/mystery-explained-why-hot-dogs-200000170.html

Our family has too many carnivores for a Bun : Wiener Ratio Problem

I had to put out there that I am not a machine and driving on unfamiliar roads in the dark I the rain with construction was a no go for me.... we stopped early tonight...hahahaha

Yes it is a speed thingy...oh and the color is grabber orange

Very wise!! That blaze orange won't keep you awake.
Add rain and a full day of driving?? Uh-uh... hotel was the right call!!

I’ve loaded up in the NyQuil just waiting for the affect to kick in. Dang colds

Feel better soon!!
That NyQuil just doesn't pack the same punch as it used to... before they had to change the formula.
If you're taking it for the decongestant, switch to a different product. Studies show Phenylephrine (PE) is nullified in the stomach, but is still effective as a nasal spray. Many OTCs switched to PE when the "Meth Laws" went into effect c. 2005.
Prior to that, they contained Phenylephrine - which was the effective decongestant but also one of the ingredients for cooking meth.
FDA says decongestant in many cold medicines doesn’t work. What does help?

Long drive today. I'm just whipped. Some rain on the way back, but only about enough to wash the bugs off the windshield.

That's a win in my book - unless you needed something... more... washed off?!?
Glad you got in safely.

Sleep well everyone - especially our drivers who may need to get behind the wheel again tomorrow.


Giphy URL

 

[Missk_2022]

Night all...

 

[Noor]

Time for another depressing post. I could use some advice here....

That lady I mentioned that I had been speaking too. Turns out she's having some major family problems. Her parents are likely splitting up and it's affecting her. This is on top of an ugly break up she had (which I knew about) a couple of years ago. It's really getting on top of her. I've tried to offer some support, mindful of our closeness (although I think that has become a thing o fthe past and certainly isn't a priority now). Us meeting isn't really on the cards simply due to distance.

And I think she's started drinking.

I am not a therapist, nor a counsellor and I am in no place to offer expert advice to her. I've shown her some of the simple breathing exercises I do to cope with stress. She has spoken to the Samaritans (here in the UK, I don't think she was about to do anything stupid and they help with anyone that's feeling low). I've told her that they are the experts.

I don't want to just walk away I think that would be cruel honestly. But by god I have to tread carefully. I'm not entirely sure what to do here. I'm happy being supportive, but I think she might need serious help rather than just advice. I told her earlier that she might benefit from talking it out with her family or with her uncle whom she mentioned. Just now she ame online and said she had been drinking. I don't know if she legit has a problem or was just having a drink, but that's how it starts ofc. I said, speak to the Samaritans they are the experts. I can really only signpost to organisations.

It's not so much how I feel that I'm concerned about. It's her wellbeing. Her past experience I think has kinda messed her up. Understandably.

Thanks for any advice, and for reading this.
Not really sure what I should do for the best

Maybe try watching a funny movie with her? Misdirection is sometimes a good break when people are a bad way.

 

[Rj_1954]

Chrysler 300 Digitally Returns From the Dead With High-End Features​

With only two minivans in its lineup, the Pacifica and Voyager, Chrysler needs some new blood pumped into it. And what better way to make this brand great again than by releasing a fresh-off-the-lot 300 to rule over the large sedan class?

 

[Rj_1954]

1928 Ford Model A Owned By Family For 76 Years Up For Auction​

 

[Rj_1954]

This Perkins-Powered 1959 Plymouth Savoy Is the Diesel Mopar You Never Knew Existed​

What's the most ridiculous Mopar ever built? Is it the 1970 Dodge Charger Daytona? Or the Hellcat-powered classics we keep seeing these days? Nope, it's a 1959 Plymouth Savoy with a diesel engine that packs less oomph than an electric scooter.

 

[likes2watchU]

Misdirection

Good tip - works in many, many situations

 

[likes2watchU]

Little late-night reading and what should appear?

"I need anti-vampire food like a Taylor pork roll sandwich and fries and slaw."

@Oldermom935 @Wonderer67 IYKYK

Now or Never: Thirty-one on the run
- Janet Evanovich (Stephanie Plum Series)

 

[Lilianna23]

Dearly beloved …
Now I’m dancing! How will I ever sleep?
Big sexy Michael toi!

Love Prince! He left us way too soon! RIP, Purple One!

 

[Lilianna23]

Unfortunately no, I wake right up!

My "exercise partner", on the other hand, sleeps like a rock!

Then, you're doing something right!

 

[Lilianna23]

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Uh, oh!

 

[Lilianna23]

I do. Oh please.

Since Miss K is off in a trip, looks like you're stuck with me!