Swingers

[magic_rat]

Curious to know how many here are genuine, practising swingers?

Really not interested in fantasists and wannabes. Please don't post if you wank thinking about your best mate sorting your wife out for you.

 

[Nanna2009]

Hi we are swinger couple

 

[Handydan]

Open marriage, we swing and swap with friends.

 

[Nanna2009]

Were are you from were from Minnesota

 

[Handydan]

Washington....state

 

[Sgts19]

We tried it for a cpl years wasn't for us.

 

[Handydan]

We've settled in with a couple of close couples.

 

[Kimlikes]

My husband and I are still practicing swingers , and still really enjoy the experience

 

[ManOfOne]

My wife and I were into it for a long time. Parties and set couples. She’s gone now but I still am involved with certain couples.

 

[hoozierbond]

Open relationship. She plays with others more often than I do, but I'm not neglected at all.

 

[Waiter519123]

My husband and I are still practicing swingers , and still really enjoy the experience

Yes it’s always nice to meet couples and feel the nes excitement

 

[miska_darling]

We have indulged, more or less irregularly over the years.

 

[Handydan]

We have indulged, more or less irregularly over the years.

A fun indulgence

 

[jd_sw]

Used to very active in the lifestyle from '15 - '22. Until one of the swap partner turns into her master.

 

[bondandmoneypenny]

Here. We've been dabbling in the LS since 2020.
~MP

 

[Waiter519123]

We are trying swingers for the first time this memorial day weekend.

Good luck enjoy watching your wife as you pound his

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

My husband and I have been involved in swinging on one level or another since the early 90's. I was already bisexual when I met him, confessed my needs to him and thankfully, he was opening and understanding. I was content to share him with other women, until about three years after we married, he was the one who suggested bringing another male into our bed. From there the venture into the lifestyle evolved further, at one point even volunteering as councilors for a local swinger group working with newbies to the life.

We still keep in touch with several friends from the old days, two in particular we partied with just yesterday. Due to life circumstances our group is much smaller than it once was, not that the number was "huge" to begin with. It's not a lifestyle that is for everyone. As I said, we were councilors at one point, and actually recommended to a number of people they not get involved. Their motivations were all wrong. But for those who are open minded, sexually adventurous and can isolate the difference between "making love" and just good sex, for sex sake, it can be an exciting experience.

 

[LMWM321]

I have zero ethical objections to swinging, but have to wonder.... What are the chances of two couples meeting and the sexual attraction is sufficient in all four directions? It seems somewhat remote, to me... It would seem likely that at least one of the four people isn't particularly turned on by their partner. Does this often happen and how do swinging couples deal with it?

That's why I would personally favor an arrangement where my wife finds her NSA (no strings attached) hookup, and I'll find mine. ..And the two need not be married to each other.

 

[Handydan]

We are trying swingers for the first time this memorial day weekend.

Hope you enjoy it as much as we do.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I have zero objections with swinging, but have to wonder.... What are the chances of two couples meeting and the sexual attraction is sufficient in all four directions? It seems somewhat remote, to me... It would seem likely that at least one of the four people isn't particularly turned on by their partner. Does this often happen and how do swinging couples deal with it?

That's why I would personally favor an arrangement where my wife finds her NSA (no strings attached) hookup, and I'll find mine. ..And the two need not be married to each other.

I can only speak for my wife and myself. I have no idea how other couples handled this situation.

Our very first full swap with another couple was a disaster. We had arranged to meet a couple who was vacationing in our area. We had dinner and drinks, then ended up at their hotel room. The other wife and I were totally hot for each other and had a great time together. The other husband was totally into my wife, but she was disgusted by him. They fucked, but she was miserable. She didn't say anything until the ride home, when she voiced all her objections.

After that night we implemented a new policy. No taking one for the team. The first time we met a couple was a meet and greet only. No pressure, and no sex. Then we could all go home and decide if we wanted to meet again and proceed to the bedroom. Often we said yes and met again a week or two later, sometimes she said no, once or twice I said no. Sometimes the other couple was not interested. More than 50% of the time we met again and had sex.

That being said, there were at least 2 occasions I can recall where the attraction and desire was obvious all the way around, and we needed no deliberations. We couldn't wait to fuck and ended up in a room that night. But most times we observed the no sex on the first date rule.

 

[Katieb_38]

When I was married me and hubby enjoyed swinging, we did really enjoy meeting others and having fun. Even now we are divorced I still meet couples and singles for some no string fun. I know he has also carried on his swinging lifestyle with his new wife.

 

[bondandmoneypenny]

I have zero objections with swinging, but have to wonder.... What are the chances of two couples meeting and the sexual attraction is sufficient in all four directions? It seems somewhat remote, to me... It would seem likely that at least one of the four people isn't particularly turned on by their partner. Does this often happen and how do swinging couples deal with it?

That's why I would personally favor an arrangement where my wife finds her NSA (no strings attached) hookup, and I'll find mine. ..And the two need not be married to each other.

Bingo. At least in our case, finding a couple that clicks for us is difficult at best. Some in the LS will "take one for the team". We've done that a couple of times in the past, and we (hubby) didn't enjoy himself. The whole point is to have a fun, exciting time. Hubby has always said that the times he compromised, he still had a good time because I had an enjoyable experience. He's a nurturer, so seeing me enjoying myself was good for him. Having had some discussions after the fact, we decided that we wouldn't compromise again. We are all in or we aren't. That isn't the case for everyone, but for us, no more "taking one for the team".

MP

 

[LittleGreene]

My husband and I have discussed this a lot but haven’t ’pulled the trigger’

We have had a same room experience with another couple but there was no swapping. It was incredibly arousing being that close and watching and being watched.

We asked ourselves the next morning what would have happened if they’d instigated more with us- and we both felt we would have happily gone into it enthusiastically.

But life hasn’t allowed us to go beyond that experience and discussing it so far.

 

[J_Bone]

I can only speak for my wife and myself. I have no idea how other couples handled this situation.

Our very first full swap with another couple was a disaster. We had arranged to meet a couple who was vacationing in our area. We had dinner and drinks, then ended up at their hotel room. The other wife and I were totally hot for each other and had a great time together. The other husband was totally into my wife, but she was disgusted by him. They fucked, but she was miserable. She didn't say anything until the ride home, when she voiced all her objections.

After that night we implemented a new policy. No taking one for the team. The first time we met a couple was a meet and greet only. No pressure, and no sex. Then we could all go home and decide if we wanted to meet again and proceed to the bedroom. Often we said yes and met again a week or two later, sometimes she said no, once or twice I said no. Sometimes the other couple was not interested. More than 50% of the time we met again and had sex.

That being said, there were at least 2 occasions I can recall where the attraction and desire was obvious all the way around, and we needed no deliberations. We couldn't wait to fuck and ended up in a room that night. But most times we observed the no sex on the first date rule.

While I agree that's definitely the right policy to have, I can think of a couple of occasions (opposite of each other) where it went the other way.

We met and ultimately swapped with a couple one time. All attractions were there and prerequisites met as far as personalities, social status, looks, body types, etc., etc. From our perspective, we were excited about it. We took our time and it seemed like a good match. When it happened, the other wife and I had great chemistry which resulted in a great session. However, it was largely absent between my wife and the other husband. Basically, he was just a dud in bed for a variety of reasons I won't go into, "a shitty lay," as my wife described it. So in that sense, she came away very disappointed and ended up inadvertently taking one for the team, as you say.

Another occasion is a woman I know who's dabbled in the LS some on occasion over the years usually on vacation with her husband. They had met a couple at a resort who made clear they were interested in a full swap, separate rooms. Her husband and the other wife were very into each other and the husband was into her, but she wasn't feeling it with him. The way she describes it is he just wasn't anything close to resembling her type and she just felt no real attraction at all. However she agreed because she didn't want to be the party pooper for everyone else, albeit reluctantly. What resulted to her surprise according to her was the best sex she'd ever had bar none and far beyond anything she'd expected. She still thinks and fantasizes about it to this day quite a few years removed.

So good policy to be certain, but goes to show you never know sometimes until you try, I guess.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

We are trying swingers for the first time this memorial day weekend.

Well, I hope the weekend is "memorable"