My wife cheated. I found out. After I got over the initial shock, hurt, and anger, the whole thing became an intense turn-on.

[Grindallnight]

I wish I was mature enough at the time to appreciate my x cheating. It surprised me one heartbroken night when I jerked off thinking about what she was doing.

I had no idea that my wife's affair would turn me on as much as it did. It still does.

 

[desire30]

I found out a few years ago that my wife had been getting plowed behind my back for years by a good-looking single stud who works for her company in another part of the country. It started at the company's annual sales meeting in Orlando. They were part of a big group drinking in one of the resort bars on the last night, and were introduced by a mutual friend. He started coming on to her right away, undeterred by her wedding ring and learning that she was a married mom of two. He bought her a Cosmo, then another. He flirted, she flirted back. He was smooth, confident, charming. As the alcohol took hold she became excited, probably quite obviously so. Eventually he suggested they go up to her room for "a nightcap" and without hesitating she agreed. They fucked and sucked all night, until he had to go back to his room and pack up for his flight home. That first night was so good, he was so fit, so hung, so skilled, she came so hard, that she was literally addicted and kept going back for more, over and over for 10 years before I finally found out.

Edit: I'd love to hear from other cheated-on husbands or boyfriends who have experienced this roller coaster ride, and anyone else interested in thoughtful discussion of female infidelity, hypergamy, betrayal and humiliation.

David has much the same reaction... and wanted all the details ...giggle

 

[desire30]

I love reading the situations and results of other in this thread.....I LOVE David but at times I don't like sex with him for a few reasons.. Sharing it perfect for us.

 

[secretSanna]

after my ex cheated after a while I became hugely into cuckqueaning. happy to say I stayed with him back then and he found a new gf on the side. he sometimes told me what they had done together while he fucked me. they're still together and we're great friends.

 

[Kolejdayz]

after my ex cheated after a while I became hugely into cuckqueaning. happy to say I stayed with him back then and he found a new gf on the side. he sometimes told me what they had done together while he fucked me. they're still together and we're great friends.

I have discovered that regular couples are not enough for all of us

 

[Stopokochac]

after my ex cheated after a while I became hugely into cuckqueaning. happy to say I stayed with him back then and he found a new gf on the side. he sometimes told me what they had done together while he fucked me. they're still together and we're great friends.

Interesting. Why does it turn you on?

 

[Robert58]

My wife cheated on me with a work friend two years into our marriage. I never knew. She confessed two years later. She was free and clear and had gotten away with it. I was completely ignorant. The signs were there but I ignored them as I didn't think she would ever do anything like that. I thought that was impossible. I was wrong. I'm glad she told me but a part of me wishes she hadn't. We have been married a long time, over fifty years now, and I love her and do trust her but there is a piece of me that can't quite get over that infidelity. To this day I still have dreams where she cheats on me. I tell her about the dreams and she will ask me why I have them. The answer is obvious but she acts like she doesn't know why. It still hurts, especially the emotional aspect of her affair; however, over time I've eroticizied the memory and for a long time now it has been sexually exciting for me to imagine her having sex with him.

Your story sounds a lot like my experience. My wife cheated on me after 35 years of marriage. Looking back there may have been a couple others but I really have no proof. Hers was with a man she played with in a community band. She always talked about him, but she talked about other people in the band also. She played Words with Friends on the computer with him. Other signs were there also. I just thought she would never cheat. I totally trusted her. I found out when I opened the computer and her Facebook was open. There was a message from him asking for her to send a picture of her tits. I confronted her and she admitted everything. We worked things out, She agreed not to ever see him again. I had a talk with him, he agreed to leave band otherwise his wife would find out. Even though we are still together 13 years later, things will never be the same. The level of trust will never be like it was. Now I realize she is capable of cheating. I also now get off thinking of the two of them together. I also wonder if a threesome might have been fun.

 

[amigayorbi]

It’s actually humbling to hear your experiences as you have been full circle.

To those of for whom its a fantasy or turn on, the impact it could have if were or became true would be REAL.

And then you wonder, if it’s worth hoping for.

 

[Easypeter]

My situation is different from most of what I’ve read in this thread.

Since first being introduced to sex, I’ve had a sharing/showing fetish. My partner being seen and/or shared has always been a huge turn on for me. In fact, I’ve always encouraged my partners to let others see their exposed body parts (tits, ass, pussy, etc.), flirt with other men, or explore with them (to the point of actually fucking another man).

Therefore, any dalliances that my partner may have encountered, could not be considered “cheating”.

After 15 years of asking, my wife finally had sex with another man. We met with him only twice, but they engaged in every possible act, except anal. Afterwards, she said that she would not do it again.

We stopped having sex around 10 years ago, and she would tell me me that she needed to have sex, but I was out of town a lot and never took care of her needs.

I don’t know if she was telling me this to justify having an affair, but I encouraged her to find someone to take care of her sexual needs. She refused, but I’m thinking she may have had a couple affairs to meet her sexual needs.

Nothing wrong with you encouraging your wife to fuck others . My wife gets her a cock or two at times and I get turned on by it

 

[Curious_2]

Yeah I married a cheating whore.Suppdedly a virgin . Bullshit. Then I learn that the daughter of 31 years and 5 grandkids is not a fucking thing to me. Only good that came out of this ,was the kid that she had aborted wasn't a fucking thing to me either,even tho it tormented me for years. And that virgin had that abortion years before we were married. Now I'm just a happy FUCKING camper

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yeah I married a cheating whore.Suppdedly a virgin . Bullshit. Then I learn that the daughter of 31 years and 5 grandkids is not a fucking thing to me. Only good that came out of this ,was the kid that she had aborted wasn't a fucking thing to me either,even tho it tormented me for years. And that virgin had that abortion years before we were married. Now I'm just a happy FUCKING camper

Very sorry to hear that. I've heard so many stories like this, even in my own work place, about cheating whores. You can never believe virgins.

 

[Curious_2]

Very sorry to hear that. I've heard so many stories like this, even in my own work place, about cheating whores. You can never believe virgins.

You can't belueve women

 

[SPARTAN047]

You can't belueve women

Probably not. Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do.

I know relatives whose husbands cheated on them while pregnant, sure, but I've found out that women cheat just as much if not more. People just didn't talk about it.

 

[Curious_2]

Probably not. Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do.

I know relatives whose husbands cheated on them while pregnant, sure, but I've found out that women cheat just as much if not more. People just didn't talk about it.

Yeah and I went thru hell with that kid. I told her before she was born that it wasn't mine

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yeah and I went thru hell with that kid. I told her before she was born that it wasn't mine

I agree. I know some women who made someone else raise their kid and it's disgusting. You didn't deserve that at all. I wouldn't be marrying or getting into most relationships for that reason.

 

[Curious_2]

I agree. I know some women who made someone else raise their kid and it's disgusting. You didn't deserve that at all. I wouldn't be marrying or getting into most relationships for that reason.

No way one will capture me again

 

[SPARTAN047]

No way one will capture me again

It's the right choice. I haven't been hitched and all I want is a kid with IVF or something, maybe a surrogate, and I plan to stay that way. I want my money and my life to stay my way.

 

[southdakota2005]

It's a huge turn on for my husband when I let myself be "seduced' by another man who doesn't know that my husband knows what I'm up to. There are times I will call him and leave my cell phone on while I'm with another man so he can hear everything. My husband is pretty good at knowing what is going on by the sex noises I make. I'm not loud but there are certain noises that I make during certain sex acts such as he knows when I'm being entered for the first time by my unique noise that sounds almost painful for a moment (initial penetration usually is if I'm not wet enough) but then he can hear a low moan once I'm used to the man's penis inside of me. He knows when I'm just enjoying the thrusting and when I orgasm. He loves hearing the moment a man cums inside of me by a combination of hearing the man moan or when he says, "I'm coming," and me moaning when I feel his semen entering my body. That's when he usually climaxes himself and then hangs up.

 

[CEOescape]

I'm really happy now. No interest in cheating myself, or being with another woman, despite wifey offering that up.

I am surprised I feel the same way...it is a completely different type of sexual excitement ........

 

[Kolejdayz]

I am surprised I feel the same way...it is a completely different type of sexual excitement ........

Yes it is. I hope she told you all the details

 

[desire30]

100%. Though she had one actual affair, with feelings, all the rest of my wife's cheating was purely sexual, driven by her uncontrollable lust for one particular tall, good-looking, super fit, charming, well-hung, sexually skilled single coworker of hers.

I am sure there are alot of couples with the wife "cheating " first and they get through it with the husband ending up finding it a turn on and desire to see her enjoy it as long as she is open and honest about it. Also it is a physical desire not emotional.

 

[vandelayatx]

This has definitely been my experience

 

[Ed_Sumner]

I am sure there are alot of couples with the wife "cheating " first and they get through it with the husband ending up finding it a turn on and desire to see her enjoy it as long as she is open and honest about it. Also it is a physical desire not emotional.

I'm sure there are lots of couples who have taken this journey. It's been a roller coaster ride for sure, but paying off big-time now. Others who want to discuss, DM me.