Meaningful relationships

[jayde2318]

Hi everyone

I’m new here and find myself wondering about the chat relationships people look for here. Are they as meaningful as they sound? I worry about further heartbreak

I’d be interested in hearing of your experiences, and how you’ve found it here.

Open to chatting with the right person.

Jayde
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[CuriousRick]

Hi Jayde, welcome to Lit. I think you can find meaningful relationships online. It does take an understanding in what each person is looking to find. It is also easy for people to be here one day and gone the next. The old grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Finding the right person is hard, but not impossible.

 

[Persephonem3]

I think it’s easier than you think and harder. It’s possible to find deep connections, but it takes a lot of wading through people seeking something different.

I think the best thing you can do is be transparent about your needs and boundaries, and don’t feel obliged to invest energy or time or emotion in those that aren’t in line with those needs and desires.

 

[Axill]

Heartbreak should be minimal if it's just a chat relationship. Give it a try.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I wasnt looking for the connections I've had with some other lit members, they kinda just happened over the last 3½ years.
Some have ended mutually, some dramatically..
Some I've still in my life!!

One particular one... It's hard to describe the magnitude of my feelings for him.

Your definitely going to find all genres and dynamics here...
I wish you luck, and most importantly..

Have Fun!

 

[Glamguy7]

Meaningful connections does happen here. The key is to stay authentic and let your intuition guide you. Give it time and have the patience to see where the flow goes. I am grateful for having found some very great friendships here, some stay, some phase off, but something beautiful always comes from it. I actually found LIT, amidst a breakup and found those who helped me heal and stay open. Best of luck to you!

 

[CuriousInAR78]

Hi everyone

I’m new here and find myself wondering about the chat relationships people look for here. Are they as meaningful as they sound? I worry about further heartbreak

I’d be interested in hearing of your experiences, and how you’ve found it here.

Open to chatting with the right person.

Jayde
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In all honesty it depends on what you are looking for. I met two off here and the one is now my best friend and the other is like a big sister to me. Then I met one who became a straight up stalker and started messaging other females that I commented on their post and shit. You just got to be careful and remember have fun and you make the rules

 

[KatieDoes]

Hi everyone

I’m new here and find myself wondering about the chat relationships people look for here. Are they as meaningful as they sound? I worry about further heartbreak

I’d be interested in hearing of your experiences, and how you’ve found it here.

Open to chatting with the right person.

Jayde
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There are lots of good people here, and authentic relationships can be had.

Unfortunately, 90% of the men on this site view women essentially as interactive fleshlights, and weeding through them can be exhausting.

Be incredibly choosy, and don’t feel that you have to be polite and considerate to every pervert who attempts to engage you. You don’t owe anyone here anything at all, and you’re allowed to click on ignore and leave conversations at any time, without an apology or explanation. That will help keep it from being overwhelming.

If you participate in the forums (or just read them ) and see someone who strikes a chord with you, do not be afraid to message them and tell them that. It might go nowhere, it might lead to friendship, it might lead to something delightfully more.

Welcome, and may the odds be ever in your favor.

 

[jodiesfuntoo]

Absolutely agree with the above. There are lots of things you may not like about some of the conversations, leave them if you ever feel that ick feeling. Make sure you get what you want, not a compromise for what he/they want. Some conversations cane be great and lead to more, unfortunately most will not. Ive had some success, but also have to weed out a lot.

 

[Cultivateddesires]

All meaningful relationships risk heartbreak.

That is kind of the point.

As for those on here — depends how much you’re willing to bare. They can be superficial only. They are better when they aren’t.

 

[SoReadyNow]

There are lots of good people here, and authentic relationships can be had.

Unfortunately, 90% of the men on this site view women essentially as interactive fleshlights, and weeding through them can be exhausting.

Be incredibly choosy, and don’t feel that you have to be polite and considerate to every pervert who attempts to engage you. You don’t owe anyone here anything at all, and you’re allowed to click on ignore and leave conversations at any time, without an apology or explanation. That will help keep it from being overwhelming.

If you participate in the forums (or just read them ) and see someone who strikes a chord with you, do not be afraid to message them and tell them that. It might go nowhere, it might lead to friendship, it might lead to something delightfully more.

Welcome, and may the odds be ever in your favor.

Amen. It is indeed exhausting, fending off the Fleshlight crew... That said, when you find a couple of people who are great, they tend to be really great, and the connection is satisfying -- on so many levels.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Hi everyone

I’m new here and find myself wondering about the chat relationships people look for here. Are they as meaningful as they sound? I worry about further heartbreak

I’d be interested in hearing of your experiences, and how you’ve found it here.

Open to chatting with the right person.

Jayde
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The responses so far should provide you with helpful insights. I would suggest that, to some extent, you should ask yourself what you mean by a "meaningful" relationship before embarking on a quest for one. I think you should not expect a "chat relationship" to be the same as a real life relationship. For most of us on here, real life has to take priority. Many of us have real life relationships that must take precedence, and the chat relationships we have are designed to fill something that is missing in that relationship, without displacing it.

I have met several women on here with whom I have carried on fairly extensive, ongoing chat relationships in which we would speak several times a week, sometimes about sex, sometimes about other things in our lives. Over time, perhaps because of the demands of real life, those relationships seem to have petered out. (Is "peter" still a word for a dick? I didn't mean it in that sense) I have one major regret. There was one woman I communicated with almost daily. I found our communications very gratifying, both personally masturbation-wise. Then, a major event in my real life caused me to delete the ap we used for our correspondence. I reacted to real life without even bothering to let her know why I was disappearing.

Not sure if that last bit is relevant to you. Anyway, I encourage you to give it a shot, Just keep in mind the inherent limitations. And, if you want to find someone, you may want to put something in your profile about what you are seeking.

 

[Lighthouse370]

I’ve been lucky to find a few genuine, respectful, and very pleasant people to talk with. I usually talk to women but even a few cool dudes. Everyone seems to come and go for different reasons, but if you’re looking for connections and something more, it is out there! Good luck!

I’ve found reading profiles, stories, or even skimming the things people have written to post helps paint who someone is and can help you understand where they’re coming from and what they might be looking for and enjoy.

It’s a powerful spark when you do connect!

 

[Mac7597]

First of all, welcome. Glad you are here. Secondly, I’ve seen too many people share that it can happen through connections you make here so I can’t say it doesn’t happen. But, It doesn’t happen for everyone though. I hope you can find what you are looking for.

 

[KyleR215]

I have found a few very good relationships over the years on here that were meaningful and connected in every way. But it does depend on what you are looking for. I think that when you have someone that you are talking to that you are honest with what you want from the relationship and what you are looking for. And ask your chat partner the same thing. Communication is important.

 

[elizaloo]

I believe that a really important element in a chat is NOT TO GHOST!

I find it SO very frustrating to have a fulfilling chat happening..lots of back and forth, ideas exchanged, flirting, feeling a sense of pleasure that you’ve met someone you really click with…..and poof….they’re gone.

At least be an adult ffs and say, ‘Hey, issues at home or I’m not really feeling a connection…’ say something instead of disappearing.

I’ve had a thousand bajillion chats over the years and the good ones turn into actual friendships, which has been amazing. Others, I think could have gone that way..if the other person had been transparent instead of being a jerk.

 

[Chilllax]

Hi everyone

I’m new here and find myself wondering about the chat relationships people look for here. Are they as meaningful as they sound? I worry about further heartbreak

I’d be interested in hearing of your experiences, and how you’ve found it here.

Open to chatting with the right person.

Jayde
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I am a newish member myself so welcome! I'll offer my perspectives for what it's worth.

I came to this site to have some fun banter but also to form some meaningful connections. Personally I have found those opportunities to be very few and very far between. I found myself putting myself out there with genuineness only to be rewarded with people flaking out and in one case even worse. Think a few others mentioned that too, one day you are having a great conversation and the next day they are gone. If you can deal with that, great, but if you cannot I would encourage you to tread gently. I, for one, don't think I have it in me anymore, barring a miracle

I have also observed that the veil of anonymity that this side provides encourages bad behavior, thats my hypothesis . People don't hold up social contracts as they would in the real world. It's pretty easy for them to do and say whatever without any repercussions.

Of course, I am sharing my thoughts as a man. Perhaps is different if you are a woman.

We are almost there so "May the 4th" be with you

 

[Jake6900]

Hi everyone

I’m new here and find myself wondering about the chat relationships people look for here. Are they as meaningful as they sound? I worry about further heartbreak

I’d be interested in hearing of your experiences, and how you’ve found it here.

Open to chatting with the right person.

Jayde
x

Hi

 

[Noor]

I don’t know about lit chat, but I’ve been I’m, email, dm, skye, phone, Facebook, FaceTime with people on lit for 22 years. Some have morphed into friends so off lit, that I don’t remember what their lit name was.
About a decade ago, I got involved with someone from here whom I’ll never forget, I had known on lit since I started, but we didn’t really know each other. We got to know each other off lit, we had future plans but unfortunately he died. A link to his lit wake is in my profile.
I’ve have a bunch of cyber guys from here, but I’ve not had a rl sexual
relationship with any of them, though I’ve met several.
I have gotten work from people on lit, I’ve been helped in various ways that I really appreciate. As said above, I’d stay away from people who ghost.
Look for fun and laughter, cyber sex, but don’t look for anything deep.
Keep in mind that many here are married, even if they say they are not or say they are in an open relationship when they aren’t. Many are running several sexual relationships at once. Anyone says you are there one and only, run!
I’ve seen too many people destroyed by narcissists and players here.
Anyone who posts that they aren’t a player, probably is
There are men who pretend to be women. People who lie about their age, many of those.
Check out a persons profile and posts before getting involved, search back to when they first came here. Don’t give out any more information about yourself than you have and can independently confirm about them.
Lit can be a lot of fun, but protect yourself.

 

[Chilllax]

I don’t know about lit chat, but I’ve been I’m, email, dm, skye, phone, Facebook, FaceTime with people on lit for 22 years. Some have morphed into friends so off lit, that I don’t remember what their lit name was.
About a decade ago, I got involved with someone from here whom I’ll never forget, I had known on lit since I started, but we didn’t really know each other. We got to know each other off lit, we had future plans but unfortunately he died. A link to his lit wake is in my profile.
I’ve have a bunch of cyber guys from here, but I’ve not had a rl sexual
relationship with any of them, though I’ve met several.
I have gotten work from people on lit, I’ve been helped in various ways that I really appreciate. As said above, I’d stay away from people who ghost.
Look for fun and laughter, cyber sex, but don’t look for anything deep.
Keep in mind that many here are married, even if they say they are not or say they are in an open relationship when they aren’t. Many are running several sexual relationships at once. Anyone says you are there one and only, run!
I’ve seen too many people destroyed by narcissists and players here.
Anyone who posts that they aren’t a player, probably is
There are men who pretend to be women. People who lie about their age, many of those.
Check out a persons profile and posts before getting involved, search back to when they first came here. Don’t give out any more information about yourself than you have and can independently confirm about them.
Lit can be a lot of fun, but protect yourself.

You have been around for a bit so you know this place better. But, for the life of me, I cannot understand why people would lie on this site. If there is one place people can be themselves and be accepted for who they are this is the place, well - except for that asshole who started a thread saying he slept around telling women he was snipped even though he wasn't.
So yeah, many probably lie, but there are others who don't.
100% agree with everything else, especially with not revealing any of personally identifiable information.

 

[Noor]

You have been around for a bit so you know this place better. But, for the life of me, I cannot understand why people would lie on this site. If there is one place people can be themselves and be accepted for who they are this is the place, well - except for that asshole who started a thread saying he slept around telling women he was snipped even though he wasn't.
So yeah, many probably lie, but there are others who don't.
100% agree with everything else, especially with not revealing any of personally identifiable information.

Maybe the ones who lie know they won’t get what they want if they were truthful?

 

[Chilllax]

Maybe the ones who lie know they won’t get what they want if they were truthful?

Good point. Really good point.

 

[Crzyasfck]

Hi everyone

I’m new here and find myself wondering about the chat relationships people look for here. Are they as meaningful as they sound? I worry about further heartbreak

I’d be interested in hearing of your experiences, and how you’ve found it here.

Open to chatting with the right person.

Jayde
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Hi Jade, first of all welcome, being a newbie myself I would not yet be the best one to talk to.

 

[jayde2318]

Thank you everyone for the advice, a lot to digest!

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I believe that a really important element in a chat is NOT TO GHOST!

I find it SO very frustrating to have a fulfilling chat happening..lots of back and forth, ideas exchanged, flirting, feeling a sense of pleasure that you’ve met someone you really click with…..and poof….they’re gone.

At least be an adult ffs and say, ‘Hey, issues at home or I’m not really feeling a connection…’ say something instead of disappearing.

I agree. It has happened to me several times. It is probably the biggest regret of my on-line life to have done that to a very nice woman.
(I have bigger regrets in my real life)