Cheating in the relationship

[BiggDogg91]

I have another personal question, since the last one was taken out of context. Why do men and women feel like it's okay to have fun on the side? If you are a man or woman if you are going to cheat, don't get involved in any kind of relationship. Loyalty and respect is a big part of any relationship. I would like to hear from the married men, married women, single men, and single women. Let's keep it and tell the truth.

 

[LoneMilf]

Fully agree. It's very simple: If you are in a relationship (that isn't an open one), you stay faithful to your partner. If you can't resist someone else, then you end the relationship before acting on the temptation. If you can't manage that, then you're not mature enough to be in any relationship.

 

[jodiesfuntoo]

Sometimes it is not that simple. With long term relationships more than just the interaction between the couple gets built or created (kids, families, mortgages, etc). Those things will also go away if something within the relationship is not being met unless cheating is an option.

 

[LoneMilf]

Sometimes it is not that simple. With long term relationships more than just the interaction between the couple gets built or created (kids, families, mortgages, etc). Those things will also go away if something within the relationship is not being met unless cheating is an option.

Those are all good additional reasons for staying faithful

If something within the relationship is not being met, that has to be addressed. Cheating is never a solution

 

[jodiesfuntoo]

We might have to agree to disagree on that one. Just dealing with is is not something that most people put up with long term to stay faithful.

 

[BiggDogg91]

Fully agree. It's very simple: If you are in a relationship (that isn't an open one), you stay faithful to your partner. If you can't resist someone else, then you end the relationship before acting on the temptation. If you can't manage that, then you're not mature enough to be in any relationship.

I fully agree with that

 

[cowboyup6977]

We have a rule
It’s not cheating if the other is present

 

[BiggDogg91]

Sometimes it is not that simple. With long term relationships more than just the interaction between the couple gets built or created (kids, families, mortgages, etc). Those things will also go away if something within the relationship is not being met unless cheating is an option.

Cheating is never an option. Cheating is the start of a big problem .

 

[LoneMilf]

We might have to agree to disagree on that one. Just dealing with is is not something that most people put up with long term to stay faithful.

That's alright.
Fortunately, we're not all alike

 

[Lighthouse370]

Some people go for the boring rides at an amusement park, and others ride the rollercoasters.

 

[LoneMilf]

Some people go for the boring rides at an amusement park, and others ride the rollercoasters.

Some pay to get in, and others jump the turnstiles

 

[cowboyup6977]

Some of us jump more than others

 

[Noor]

We might have to agree to disagree on that one. Just dealing with is is not something that most people put up with long term to stay faithful.

Statistically many more men than women cheat, but I wouldn’t say most people cheat. Also most cheaters can’t handle being cheated on, so at some level they know it’s wrong.

 

[Noor]

Cheating is never an option. Cheating is the start of a big problem .

Agreed, it a broken agreement.

 

[BiggDogg91]

Some people go for the boring rides at an amusement park, and others ride the rollercoasters.

I like boring it's more safer that way

 

[cowboyup6977]

I like boring it's more safer that way

We did till we didn’t

 

[BiggDogg91]

Agreed, it a broken agreement.

I just wish more people understood that cheating is never a good idea. It just leads to bigger problems than anyone can ever imagine .

 

[cowboyup6977]

We’ve been in the lifestyle for 20 years and we couldn’t be happier
You wouldn’t want to eat the same meal morning noon and night forever
It’s basically the same thing

 

[jodiesfuntoo]

How can you say that the way you think i s the only right answer and will be for everyone? Aren't other peoples perspectives, histories, situations, etc. different and require them to decide for themselves what is right?

 

[BiggDogg91]

People have the right to do whatever they wanna do. I know a lot of situations where things did not turn out right. You can say that you are happy, but are you truly happy ? I'm just gonna eat my same meal everyday and be happy .

 

[LoneMilf]

We’ve been in the lifestyle for 20 years and we couldn’t be happier
You wouldn’t want to eat the same meal morning noon and night forever
It’s basically the same thing

What you're talking about isn't cheating, though. Cheating implies that the partner does not consent to it and (usually) isn't aware it's happening.

Whatever a couple agree on is good

 

[BiggDogg91]

What you're talking about isn't cheating, though. Cheating implies that the partner does not consent to it and (usually) isn't aware it's happening.

Whatever a couple agree on is good

How can you say that isn't cheating? You can justify it anyway you wanna, it's still cheating. Let's be honest with ourselves on this fact .

 

[LoneMilf]

I don't understand. Why would it be cheating if both people in the relationship know about it and are fine with it? Who is getting cheated on?

 

[cowboyup6977]

What you're talking about isn't cheating, though. Cheating implies that the partner does not consent to it and (usually) isn't aware it's happening.

Whatever a couple agree on is good

I know that was just trying to prove a point and I know it’s not for everyone

 

[LoneMilf]

The title says cheating and the original post mentions it too. To me, that is something completely different than 'fun in the side' that is approved by both people in a relationship.