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cheekygirl75 said:
Do I ask the temp agency recruiter or the position manager about flexibility of hours? And how do I ask? Is it weird and presumptuous to ask if I can take a couple of hours here and there for taking my parents to appointments when first being offered the job? Or do I reschedule all the appointments they have coming up so that I’ll have been there for a while before needing flexible hours? I could really use advice if anyone has some!
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Just my opinion, but I think I’d wait before I asked favors.
 
cheekygirl75 said:
Do I ask the temp agency recruiter or the position manager about flexibility of hours? And how do I ask? Is it weird and presumptuous to ask if I can take a couple of hours here and there for taking my parents to appointments when first being offered the job? Or do I reschedule all the appointments they have coming up so that I’ll have been there for a while before needing flexible hours? I could really use advice if anyone has some!
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Ok, I might go against the grain here.

The sad truth is that most companies don’t reward honesty. If they hear “ailing parents,” they don’t think empathetically, they think PTO, time off, complications. It’s cruel, but it’s the reality, especially in at-will states.

My advice is to hold off. Get through the probation period (if there is one?). Once you’re a little more secure in your role, you’ll have more leeway to ask for flexibility without it raising red flags.

It’ll be hard and yea, it sucks, but it’s a strategic delay, not a moral failing like it might feel 💗
 
Japansurfer said:
The best thing to do is ask. Just say that you want to understand the situation upfront so you can make informed decisions. The business will know and they should share with you ahead of tome
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OrdinaryPerson said:
It's not weird and presumptuous. I would assume that a company that would not allow some time off to take parents to appointments is not a company I want to work for if that is something I have to do.

I think the important thing is to not sound like an entitled asshole when asking these kind of questions. Explain your situation and be upfront with what you already have booked. Ask if it interferes with anything important (like a training that you have to be at on a certain day might warrant an appointment reschedule).

I would start with asking the recruiter if they know the company's policy/ stance. And work from there. Recruiters want to place you and might have some pointers for you to how to approach asking for the time off.
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fsa52 said:
Just my opinion, but I think I’d wait before I asked favors.
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EvaLane said:
Ok, I might go against the grain here.

The sad truth is that most companies don’t reward honesty. If they hear “ailing parents,” they don’t think empathetically, they think PTO, time off, complications. It’s cruel, but it’s the reality, especially in at-will states.

My advice is to hold off. Get through the probation period (if there is one?). Once you’re a little more secure in your role, you’ll have more leeway to ask for flexibility without it raising red flags.

It’ll be hard and yea, it sucks, but it’s a strategic delay, not a moral failing like it might feel 💗
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So I’ve got two ask now and two wait to ask… I find it interesting that the two I think are from men (?not sure about Ordinary Person) are to ask now and the two from women are to wait… is this the dichotomy of men and women being different in how they approach work? Or is there something to this kind of thing coming across more entitled and worse from a woman, since we’re often punished in the workplace for being direct and having caregiving duties? Or is it that women often are too timid about asking for what they need and I should go for it despite my gender?

For waiting, the thing that makes me feel guilty is that my parents already have a few appointments coming up in the next 3-4 weeks that I would have to reschedule if I waited. How do I know how that will affect them, with having to wait to get the care they need? Some of these appointments won’t be easy to reschedule…
 
cheekygirl75 said:
So I’ve got two ask now and two wait to ask… I find it interesting that the two I think are from men (?not sure about Ordinary Person) are to ask now and the two from women are to wait… is this the dichotomy of men and women being different in how they approach work? Or is there something to this kind of thing coming across more entitled and worse from a woman, since we’re often punished in the workplace for being direct and having caregiving duties? Or is it that women often are too timid about asking for what they need and I should go for it despite my gender?

For waiting, the thing that makes me feel guilty is that my parents already have a few appointments coming up in the next 3-4 weeks that I would have to reschedule if I waited. How do I know how that will affect them, with having to wait to get the care they need? Some of these appointments won’t be easy to reschedule…
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Could you possibly change the less important visits and keep the ones that could create serious problems if you postponed the visits?
Ultimately you know your parents’ conditions and you’ll have to make the call. Good luck!! Hugs!!!
 
Right now, all I can think about is how hungry and tired I am. Honestly, I’ve been feeling this way the whole week — low energy, sluggish, just not like myself. I guess it's finally catching up to me, and it’s a clear sign that I need to take better care of my body. I think it’s a good time to reach out to Canadian Pharmacy Partner and order something to give my immune system a proper boost. They always have quality supplements and great advice, and I trust them to help me get back on track. It’s better to act early than let this tiredness turn into something worse.
 
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cheekygirl75 said:
So I’ve got two ask now and two wait to ask… I find it interesting that the two I think are from men (?not sure about Ordinary Person) are to ask now and the two from women are to wait… is this the dichotomy of men and women being different in how they approach work? Or is there something to this kind of thing coming across more entitled and worse from a woman, since we’re often punished in the workplace for being direct and having caregiving duties? Or is it that women often are too timid about asking for what they need and I should go for it despite my gender?

For waiting, the thing that makes me feel guilty is that my parents already have a few appointments coming up in the next 3-4 weeks that I would have to reschedule if I waited. How do I know how that will affect them, with having to wait to get the care they need? Some of these appointments won’t be easy to reschedule…
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I'm a woman (I just joke about having a dick) but I think it's awful that corporate culture has made allowing you time to take parents to doctor appointments seem like a "favor" a company is doing for you.

My kids and parents come first. Doctor appointments are often months out to book. Some companies will allow you to go into negative PTO or will give you a certain amount right when you start. This is what you should ask the recruiter about.

How much time will you need off? Is the job something that you can do on your own hours where you can make up the time later or earlier on during the day? The other option if it's an excessive amount of appointments is to ask if you can have a later start date (explain why and maybe they will accommodate you.)

The bottom line for me is this ... Even new employees are human beings who may have responsibilities outside of work. Companies I want to work for are not companies who think they should always come first no matter what.
 
cheekygirl75 said:
So I’ve got two ask now and two wait to ask… I find it interesting that the two I think are from men (?not sure about Ordinary Person) are to ask now and the two from women are to wait… is this the dichotomy of men and women being different in how they approach work? Or is there something to this kind of thing coming across more entitled and worse from a woman, since we’re often punished in the workplace for being direct and having caregiving duties? Or is it that women often are too timid about asking for what they need and I should go for it despite my gender?

For waiting, the thing that makes me feel guilty is that my parents already have a few appointments coming up in the next 3-4 weeks that I would have to reschedule if I waited. How do I know how that will affect them, with having to wait to get the care they need? Some of these appointments won’t be easy to reschedule…
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No matter what you choose look into their FMLA policy. I had to apply for that so that I could take the time off needed without repercussions. It’s crappy that you have to protect yourself but in these times you really do.
 
fsa52 said:
Ok, what ever happened to the girls’ day or did you start without me?
🥲
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MidwestPrincess23 said:
Okay... girls day, day drinking

ummmm beach???
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MidwestPrincess23 said:
bring your wide brimmed beach hats ladies! We're heading out!
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fsa52 said:
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Shymidwestgirl said:
I going to get all of us the cute little canvas totes with our names embroidered on them and drink cozies because I want to be “that” girl group!
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I’m having a super anemic nauseous day, so no drinking for me, but I am good with sitting in a lounge chair doing absofuckinglutely nothing. Can we get something like this embroidered instead though? Has mesh to filter out sand, and an insulated compartment for cold drinks and snackies!
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