Repressed wife to Naughty lady? Any success stories and how did you get there?

[MH2024hot]

There are a lot of men struggling with little to no sex in their marriages. I'm curious to hear of men who started out with a sexually repressed wife who later turned fun and erotic.

What do you think led to it, anything you did, was it just natural over time or did you have to work on it? What specifically did you do if anything to help get her over to the other side?

 

[JohnyJ09]

My wife had always been a very sexual and confident woman. After she had her first kid though, both her libido and confidence plummeted. It was like one was directly impacting the other and no matter how complimentary I was of her, she just did not feel sexy anymore which in turn affected her desire for sex. Of course I gave her time, but aside from our sex life taking a huge hit, I could see it also affecting her confidence in everyday life. Up to that point, we had been in the lifestyle and she would regularly have fun with other men, but all of that went out the window as well. Well. She simply did not feel attractive and swore that no man could possibly desire her, even though the guys that she was involved with prior, and during the pregnancy, were still very much in touch with her and still wanted to see her. She dismissed them, just like she dismissed me, and chalked it up to all of us just being "nice" because we knew her.

After about a year, I made her go out with her friends one night while I stayed home with the kid. I basically arranged for her to get hit on and that was when things finally started to turn around. She came home pretty tipsy and extremely horny which I hadn't seen from her since having the baby. It still took some time for things to get back to normal, but it seemed like realizing that an attractive stranger could find her attractive, gave her enough of a confidence boost to slowly get back to her normal self and embrace her new body.

 

[MH2024hot]

My wife had always been a very sexual and confident woman. After she had her first kid though, both her libido and confidence plummeted. It was like one was directly impacting the other and no matter how complimentary I was of her, she just did not feel sexy anymore which in turn affected her desire for sex. Of course I gave her time, but aside from our sex life taking a huge hit, I could see it also affecting her confidence in everyday life. Up to that point, we had been in the lifestyle and she would regularly have fun with other men, but all of that went out the window as well. Well. She simply did not feel attractive and swore that no man could possibly desire her, even though the guys that she was involved with prior, and during the pregnancy, were still very much in touch with her and still wanted to see her. She dismissed them, just like she dismissed me, and chalked it up to all of us just being "nice" because we knew her.

After about a year, I made her go out with her friends one night while I stayed home with the kid. I basically arranged for her to get hit on and that was when things finally started to turn around. She came home pretty tipsy and extremely horny which I hadn't seen from her since having the baby. It still took some time for things to get back to normal, but it seemed like realizing that an attractive stranger could find her attractive, gave her enough of a confidence boost to slowly get back to her normal self and embrace her new body.

That's interesting. I think some women experience this sort of change after pregnancy. My wife was pretty even all the way through, just a product up a deeply religious background. She still is but has opened up to using erotica which is something she previously condemned and she's much more open to enjoying her own pleasure, sex for the sake of sex. I'd say she's enjoyed sex much more so the last decade of our 25 year marriage and the erotica thing has been a recent development, took a lot of effort and opening her to discussing it.

 

[Mrman69]

My wife had always been a very sexual and confident woman. After she had her first kid though, both her libido and confidence plummeted. It was like one was directly impacting the other and no matter how complimentary I was of her, she just did not feel sexy anymore which in turn affected her desire for sex. Of course I gave her time, but aside from our sex life taking a huge hit, I could see it also affecting her confidence in everyday life. Up to that point, we had been in the lifestyle and she would regularly have fun with other men, but all of that went out the window as well. Well. She simply did not feel attractive and swore that no man could possibly desire her, even though the guys that she was involved with prior, and during the pregnancy, were still very much in touch with her and still wanted to see her. She dismissed them, just like she dismissed me, and chalked it up to all of us just being "nice" because we knew her.

After about a year, I made her go out with her friends one night while I stayed home with the kid. I basically arranged for her to get hit on and that was when things finally started to turn around. She came home pretty tipsy and extremely horny which I hadn't seen from her since having the baby. It still took some time for things to get back to normal, but it seemed like realizing that an attractive stranger could find her attractive, gave her enough of a confidence boost to slowly get back to her normal self and embrace her new body.

Did she know you set it up?

 

[GD88]

My wife had always been a very sexual and confident woman. After she had her first kid though, both her libido and confidence plummeted. It was like one was directly impacting the other and no matter how complimentary I was of her, she just did not feel sexy anymore which in turn affected her desire for sex

My wife is like this. Both the sexual and confident part and the struggling with the confidence part after childbirth. Specifically since giving birth to our second child though the same thing happened after she gave birth to our first.

From my experience of the "dry spell" after my wife gave birth to our first, things didn't return to normal until she lost the weight gained during pregnancy and felt confident getting into/wearing/buying skimpy and sexy clothes again.

In the mean time, from my end, when "action" does happen I'd make sure to do things like eat her while she sits on my face or eat her from behind. Anything that says "I still think you're sexy and that's what I want to do to you".

 

[peter49parker]

My wife is like this. Both the sexual and confident part and the struggling with the confidence part after childbirth. Specifically since giving birth to our second child though the same thing happened after she gave birth to our first.

From my experience of the "dry spell" after my wife gave birth to our first, things didn't return to normal until she lost the weight gained during pregnancy and felt confident getting into/wearing/buying skimpy and sexy clothes again.

In the mean time, from my end, when "action" does happen I'd make sure to do things like eat her while she sits on my face or eat her from behind. Anything that says "I still think you're sexy and that's what I want to do to you".

Being married for over 50 years, there have been a few dry spells, and then periods of extremely exciting, can't get enough, sex. Throughout it all. I have encouraged my wife to dress sexy, act sexy, and not to be afraid of trying something new. Like most women, my wife's libido was/is tied directly to her own self sense of attractiveness. If she put on a few pounds, she wasn't in the mood for sex. When she dropped those few pounds, she was like a lioness in bed.

Then around 60, I was having some health issues, one of which, was E.D. Because of other meds, I couldn't take any 'boner' pills making it difficult to cross the finish line with her. This gave her some thought that I didn't find her sexy anymore, which was NOT the case. At 60, my wife was sexier looking than ever. She had kept her weight down, exercised almost every day, had her hair colored, and had confidence in herself. But I couldn't keep up with her, so she announced that she was done with sex, that she had no more interest in it.

After a nearly 10 year drought, I found that she had secretly connected with an old H.S. boyfriend, on F.B. He was recently widowed, and the two of them were having a torrid online affair. The physical distance was the only barrier that kept them from fucking each other's brains out, according to the chat logs I happened to stumble on. (Before I get chastised for invading her privacy, these chats were done on a phone, her and I share.)

Getting to the point, her old H.S boyfriend got her out of her sexual slump. Meeting him in Florida for some 'date' time was just what she needed.

 

[Carson19820]

My wife was extremely repressed when I met her due to being raised by parents who hammered into her and her sisters' brains that looking at boys would label you as a slut. It took al little bit but she finally became more at ease with the idea of sex but it had to be basically behind closed doors in a lead lined bunker. But after marriage and getting out from under her parents iron fist she became much, much more at ease, especially when guys at her work began making compliments about her chest and legs. Also once she found out that a few of my friends made remarks about her when they were inebriated ("I'd love to get hold of your wife", "I'd go down on her in a second") she really became flirtatious with other men. She became more of an exhibitionist and daring. Then the first child came along and every thing came to a screeching halt for a long while and never quite returned to the golden years.

 

[MH2024hot]

I never thought when getting married at the young age of 22 that our children would have the potential to drive a married couple apart. I was raised to believe they were always a blessing. There was about 10-15 years or so of complete joy in raising them but my wife turned into full time mommy mode, forgot her first love and eventually the older teenage years did a number on us.

As the years grew, and as she focused her energies on kids and then pointless church activities rather than me, I had pent up lust that I had to direct somewhere and online porn satiated me, and I gradually increased to jerking off online with cam girls. Went to strip clubs. I also seriously contemplated overseas sex clubs and the like but never did. I really just wanted a connection with my wife.

It's better now, we have had frank conversations (all at my initiative) that have borne fruit. I love my kids but when people talked about the sacrifice of having kids, I guess I never truly understood what that meant.

 

[MH2024hot]

Being married for over 50 years, there have been a few dry spells, and then periods of extremely exciting, can't get enough, sex. Throughout it all. I have encouraged my wife to dress sexy, act sexy, and not to be afraid of trying something new. Like most women, my wife's libido was/is tied directly to her own self sense of attractiveness. If she put on a few pounds, she wasn't in the mood for sex. When she dropped those few pounds, she was like a lioness in bed.

Then around 60, I was having some health issues, one of which, was E.D. Because of other meds, I couldn't take any 'boner' pills making it difficult to cross the finish line with her. This gave her some thought that I didn't find her sexy anymore, which was NOT the case. At 60, my wife was sexier looking than ever. She had kept her weight down, exercised almost every day, had her hair colored, and had confidence in herself. But I couldn't keep up with her, so she announced that she was done with sex, that she had no more interest in it.

After a nearly 10 year drought, I found that she had secretly connected with an old H.S. boyfriend, on F.B. He was recently widowed, and the two of them were having a torrid online affair. The physical distance was the only barrier that kept them from fucking each other's brains out, according to the chat logs I happened to stumble on. (Before I get chastised for invading her privacy, these chats were done on a phone, her and I share.)

Getting to the point, her old H.S boyfriend got her out of her sexual slump. Meeting him in Florida for some 'date' time was just what she needed.

How is your relationship now?

 

[peter49parker]

We are set to celebrate our 54th anniversary in a few weeks, and things are going great.

My wife has had some health setbacks, and is dealing with having those issues cleared up. Although sex is not an option for her, at the present time, she is still in touch with her old H.S. b/f, and intends to resume sex, when she is able to. It isn't for everyone, but it works for us.

Thank you for asking...

How are you and your wife doing?

 

[MH2024hot]

Congratulations and I hope she heals quickly.

We are pretty good. I've written about our journey on here, still a work in progress. She's gone from "all porn is evil" to me confessing I enjoy it, her watching me jerk off with realistic pussy sex toys modeled from a porn star and helping me jack off to a dirty magazine. We've done it a few times although I feel like she's a bit fickle. She cums very nicely after I'm through though so there is a part of her that is naughty even if she tends to waiver. But I have to keep us the momentum. Most recently I told her I made AI images of her fucking sex toys and had her listen to a recording of me and her having sex while I gave her an erotic massage. I told her I like to stroke my cock while I listen to them and that I want us to masturbate together. So I'm trying to branch out.

 

[MH2024hot]

My ex was not repressed but was very much conservative in that she would never think of fucking around or being with another man. So i started asking her about some of her past sexual experiences with her old BFs while we were being sexual. At first she thought it was strange but I also noticed it turned her on. I reassured her that i found it hot so she loosened up about the. The next thing I did was encouraging her to dress sexy and I told her I would love hearing about other men around town that noticed her and flirted with her. Again she found it strange at first but after a couple of times when she told me how she thought some guy was staring at her chest and it got us both hot. She then started being more forward and dressing in a way that would show more cleavage or not wearing panties under her clothes. She started getting very turned on by it over time. I also loved to see guys lusting for her when I was out with her. This led top us swinging for almost 15 years with lots of exciting times.

What was it like watching another man pleasure her? Any particular time when you felt she was enjoying it more than usual or her reaction to a bigger or different shaped cock?

 

[mortis]

Excellent write up #peter49parker same here 60’s occasionally have the best sex ever, other times it’s not even on the table.

 

[Tessinwales]

I wasn't so much repressed as depressed and not a little bit frustrated. I was in a loveless and sexless marriage. Even when in the beginning we did have sex it was always on a Saturday night, the bedroom light off and he was still in his pyjamas. Needless to say it wasn't in any way, shape or form good sex. I almost never orgasmed.

Eventually my frustration took me to a hook up site on the Web. There I found men who not only could give me what I craved, but they were very willing to do so. I hooked up with quite a few guys and spent many an enjoyable afternoon in a hotel bedroom having very good sex.

Quite often I would serve my husband his evening meal with some other man's cum oozing from my pussy into my knickers following an afternoon of wild sex.

My husband never knew, or at least never let on that he knew. By then we were sleeping in separate bedrooms. Eventually we divorced and I moved out here to Spain.

My sex life did improve after the divorce and although it's ok now, there is always room for improvement.

 

[Zippy100]

That's so horny serving your hubby's meal with another guy's spunk running down your leg. Wow. My cock is getting harder

 

[calmlikeabomb]

Not my wife but an old lover. Our power dynamic was very husband/wife, owner/property. She used to be very tense and I had to be very patient with her.

The trick was to slowly get used to and accept the signals her body was sending her. How her legs would shiver when I sucked her toes, how her nipples got hard when I kissed hee neck, the sound her anklets made when I was inside her, teaching her to be patient, to breathe and to allow herself to feel what her body felt. It took time but over the course of a few months, she discovered her confident sexy side and reveled in it.

 

[Biguy77578]

Good luck. I had a similar experience that came true and were extremely fun times.

 

[Redwoman13305]

I would say that I am one of the success stories. I had been with a number of sex partners but it was literally just sex. I never gave oral, received oral, and only had done missionary or me on top. My man opened my eyes from the start! It definitely started with some rough spots with me giving him oral but he seems to love how I’ve progressed. We are still exploring more but I am far more adventurous than I ever was before him. I guess he woke up my sexual mind and body!

 

[mrdiscreet2]

I would say that I am one of the success stories. I had been with a number of sex partners but it was literally just sex. I never gave oral, received oral, and only had done missionary or me on top. My man opened my eyes from the start! It definitely started with some rough spots with me giving him oral but he seems to love how I’ve progressed. We are still exploring more but I am far more adventurous than I ever was before him. I guess he woke up my sexual mind and body!

What a great story! May I ask how old you are as you have had this awakening?

 

[MaturemanAJ]

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My wife had always been a very sexual and confident woman. After she had her first kid though, both her libido and confidence plummeted. It was like one was directly impacting the other and no matter how complimentary I was of her, she just did not feel sexy anymore which in turn affected her desire for sex. Of course I gave her time, but aside from our sex life taking a huge hit, I could see it also affecting her confidence in everyday life. Up to that point, we had been in the lifestyle and she would regularly have fun with other men, but all of that went out the window as well. Well. She simply did not feel attractive and swore that no man could possibly desire her, even though the guys that she was involved with prior, and during the pregnancy, were still very much in touch with her and still wanted to see her. She dismissed them, just like she dismissed me, and chalked it up to all of us just being "nice" because we knew her.

After about a year, I made her go out with her friends one night while I stayed home with the kid. I basically arranged for her to get hit on and that was when things finally started to turn around. She came home pretty tipsy and extremely horny which I hadn't seen from her since having the baby. It still took some time for things to get back to normal, but it seemed like realizing that an attractive stranger could find her attractive, gave her enough of a confidence boost to slowly get back to her normal self and embrace her new body.

I think you did exactly the right thing.
Everyone talks about just men having fragile egos and if people were really honest and not putting on some show they would realize everyone has a child inside that wants to be loved.
My wife grew up in a very conservative family and it still sticks with her today.
Yup, I got the wild child to come put at times but it reverts very quickly back to the old conservative self.
It's frustrating

 

[Redwoman13305]

What a great story! May I ask how old you are as you have had this awakening?

Not till late 30’s or 40

 

[mrdiscreet2]

Not till late 30’s or 40

Well, I hope you make up for lost time! Congrats!

 

[jodiesfuntoo]

Im trying to go through this right now. I am married, but he isn't really interested. My job has give me the opportunity to travel and I have taken advantage of that.

 

[muycurioso]

Im trying to go through this right now. I am married, but he isn't really interested. My job has give me the opportunity to travel and I have taken advantage of that.

please share

 

[Representingmyhotwife]

To be honest, my wife and I appear to be the typical couple in front of our neighbors and relatives. But things are different when it comes to foreigners we meet during our vacations—it’s easier for my wife to indulge in some of her exhibitionist interests with them, since it feels less risky and doesn’t follow you back into your everyday life. It’s much harder with people from our own country, and honestly, I do feel a bit insecure, because if the man is from here, there’s a greater chance he could actually win her over.

Anyway, I want to add that she wasn’t always this open-minded. When we started dating, she was still a virgin at 17 and I was 18. Back then, we were young, in love, and everything just happened naturally, driven by adrenaline. Over time, though, things changed, and we started questioning everything about our relationship. It was a really tough period, and I wouldn’t want to go through it again.

At one point, she broke up with me—even though we were already engaged—which was extremely hard for me. Sometimes, I still get emotional thinking about it. After a month or two, I reached out to her. By then, she had started dating her best friend. Long story short, I made her realize that the kind of life she truly wanted was something only I could understand and provide. So, she ended that relationship, we got back together, and eventually got married. Now, we’re living our dream together.