Married People

[BiggDogg91]

Im new to Literotica I have been around for about a week now. I have seen that a lot of married people think that cheating is okay. Let me ask some of you married people do you remember what your marriage vows were and do you still believe in them?

 

[Lifestyle66]

I saw a woman with a T-shirt that said "It's not cheating if he's watching."

Regardless of what YOU think your wedding vows might have IMPLIED, when my wife and I married, she NEVER said I own her pussy! It's still her body, just as I still own my body.

We consider "cheating" as when one of us lies to or hides things from the other! If she's doing something and not willing to tell me about it, when I find out, I will never again be able to trust her. And that wouldn't need to be just about extra-marital sex!

I was at a resort walking behind a young couple when they passed a woman who was sunbathing topless. As they passed her, the husband's head turned to admire the view. Then his wife angrily smacked him in the back of his head! Was he cheating? I believe that couple has a hard time ahead, as they start hiding such feelings and desires from each other.

So, my wife and I have the attitude: "Never lie to me and tell me anything you might want. And I'll seriously consider it." And if a one-time fling would make her happy, tell us that you wouldn't want to see your wife happy!

Our vows are to see each other HAPPY for the rest of our lives!

 

[NOBGE]

Im new to Literotica I have been around for about a week now. I have seen that a lot of married people think that cheating is okay. Let me ask some of you married people do you remember what your marriage vows were and do you still believe in them?

Don’t come to a porn website and start preaching.

 

[Gecko1961]

Does your wife know you are on Literotica? Would she consider it cheating if she found out? Would she consider it cheating if she knew the pics and videos you look at or the conversations you have with female members?

 

[BiggDogg91]

Don’t come to a porn website and start preaching.

I'm not preaching to no one I'm just asking a simple question.

 

[BiggDogg91]

I saw a woman with a T-shirt that said "It's not cheating if he's watching."

Regardless of what YOU think your wedding vows might have IMPLIED, when my wife and I married, she NEVER said I own her pussy! It's still her body, just as I still own my body.

We consider "cheating" as when one of us lies to or hides things from the other! If she's doing something and not willing to tell me about it, when I find out, I will never again be able to trust her. And that wouldn't need to be just about extra-marital sex!

I was at a resort walking behind a young couple when they passed a woman who was sunbathing topless. As they passed her, the husband's head turned to admire the view. Then his wife angrily smacked him in the back of his head! Was he cheating? I believe that couple has a hard time ahead, as they start hiding such feelings and desires from each other.

So, my wife and I have the attitude: "Never lie to me and tell me anything you might want. And I'll seriously consider it." And if a one-time fling would make her happy, tell us that you wouldn't want to see your wife happy!

Our vows are to see each other HAPPY for the rest of our lives!

If that works for you and your wife that's fine. I just see things a little different than you do.

 

[screwher]

It’s not cheating if your partner gives their full approval. My wife and I decided together that we would enter the hotwife lifestyle.

 

[BiggDogg91]

Does your wife know you are on Literotica? Would she consider it cheating if she found out? Would she consider it cheating if she knew the pics and videos you look at or the conversations you have with female members?

First of all I don't have a wife because I'm single. Another thing I have not had any conversations with female members because I have only been on Literotica for a about a week now. If I did have a wife,she would know everything about me and what I like. I'm asking married people about cheating, because I have a certain view point on cheating.

 

[rainbowbite]

Let me ask some of you married people do you remember what your marriage vows were and do you still believe in them?

I don't think it's a matter of 'believing' in them. Marriages, like any relationship, fluctuate and evolve over time. Vows taken at one point in life may not mutually coincide with present life, and that's okay because people change.

If I did have a wife,she would know everything about me and what I like. I'm asking married people about cheating, because I have a certain view point on cheating.

It is okay to have viewpoints of your own but don't assume marriage vows are the same for everyone. You shouldn't assume others circumstances here. It is easy to say 'you will do it this way' when you are on the outside looking in, but your partner may not be on that same level with you.

 

[BiggDogg91]

I don't think it's a matter of 'believing' in them. Marriages, like any relationship, fluctuate and evolve over time. Vows taken at one point in life may not mutually coincide with present life, and that's okay because people change.

It is okay to have viewpoints of your own but don't assume marriage vows are the same for everyone. You shouldn't assume others circumstances here. It is easy to say 'you will do it this way' when you are on the outside looking in, but your partner may not be on that same level with you.

Thanks for the information. I guess will be single for the rest of my life. Cause women are not going to be faithful no matter what.

 

[rainbowbite]

Thanks for the information. I guess will be single for the rest of my life. Cause women are not going to be faithful no matter what.

That is a very broad judgement to make, but do whatever makes you happy.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Thanks for the information. I guess will be single for the rest of my life. Cause women are not going to be faithful no matter what.

 

[Bi4Older84]

Thanks for the information. I guess will be single for the rest of my life. Cause women are not going to be faithful no matter what.

If you have that general attitude about women, you're either going to make them very miserable or be personally tied yo with issues of trust and insecurities.

With that being said, you have to remember your audience. This is a sex website that lends itself to people who are probably more open minded than you would encounter IRL or in other communities online. There are plenty of people here who are 100% faithful to their partners and are ok with enjoying fantasy. There are swingers here who don't care if their SO has sex with someone, as long as there is no emotional intimacy. There are people here who will hump anything with a pulse. There is no one definitive way that all people are, and every relationship is different.

You should live by your own personal code of conduct without casting aspersions or judgements on others. Respect other peoples choices and they will respect yours. It might be a great way to learn about people and engage in meaningful conversations, but you shouldn't assume that everyone agrees with you-or that your way of thinking is right. It's just right for you.

 

[BiggDogg91]

That is a very broad judgement to make, but do whatever makes you happy

From all of the information I have gotten so far it seems like women are going to do whatever they wanna do. That's why I'm happy with being single. I don't have to deal with the heartache of being cheated on.

 

[rainbowbite]

From the all of the information I have gotten so far it seems like women are going to do whatever they wanna do. That's why I'm happy with being single. I don't have to deal with the heartache of being cheated on.

Men will do what they want to do as well. It isn't dependent on one gender or another. But that's okay because women don't need incels in their life anyway. Enjoy being single, or, perhaps open your mind a little at the possibilities of other lifestyles existing that aren't considered by your standards to be blasphemous.

 

[NOBGE]

I'm not preaching to no one I'm just asking a simple question.

Sounds like you’re wanting to preach. Or at least tell us how evil we are.

 

[jjxes29]

I think it’s way more complicated than you make it seem. Would I have cheated 10 years ago? Absolutely not. Now it’s different for me. Things change. People change. Doesn't make them evil. Doesn’t mean you can’t find and maintain a complete monogamous relationship if that’s what you want.

 

[BiggDogg91]

Sounds like you’re wanting to preach. Or at least tell us how evil we are.

Like I said I'm just asking a question. You can take it however you wanna take it.

 

[rainbowbite]

Like I said I'm just asking a question. You can take it however you wanna take it.

You asked a question and then made a judgement on an entire gender based on things you've "seen" around Lit over the last week and a few responses on this thread.

 

[BiggDogg91]

Why are so many married people mad at me? Just because I asked a damn question. None of you answered the question,more like justified cheating. I know that this is a erotic site but there is just some things I just don't understand. I'm not about to do this whole back and forth thing with you married people.

 

[merrilylirrem]

Married men who cheat? Sounds like my type

 

[rainbowbite]

Why are so many married people mad at me? Just because I asked a damn question. None of you answered the question,more like justified cheating. I know that this is a erotic site but there is just some things I just don't understand. I'm not about to do this whole back and forth thing with you married people.

You're not listening to the replies at all and assuming all women are cheaters... You're just not hearing the answer you want to hear is all.

 

[Carson19820]

I'm not about to do this whole back and forth thing with you married people.

And yet, you're doing just that.

 

[Lifestyle66]

Why are so many married people mad at me? Just because I asked a damn question. None of you answered the question,more like justified cheating. I know that this is a erotic site but there is just some things I just don't understand. I'm not about to do this whole back and forth thing with you married people.

I answered your question. You merely failed to read.

You asked "do you remember what your marriage vows were and do you still believe in them?"

I answered: "Our vows are to see each other HAPPY for the rest of our lives!"

You are ASSuming that the vows my wife and I took with each other are from nebulous set of penis-pussy-ownership-exchange rules which you hold universal in your own mind!

EDIT: Some people get married with the knowledge from the start that it's a marriage of convenience. For whatever reasons, they may not hold each other in bondage to an exclusive sexual relationship. Maybe they just want the financial and partner support assurance which comes from two people sharing the household, including health insurance or possible job losses for one or the other. THAT security may be more important to them than some ancient sexual ownership rule. Others may want the assured companionship at the end of every day, and not care at all about sex with their spouse.

So, when you ask "Do we REMEMBER OUR MARRIAGE VOWS", don't assume they are the same as YOUR marriage vows.

 

[Utmale48]

Married men who cheat? Sounds like my type

And you sound like my type.