Why I hate bi-curious men.

[TrailerHitch]

When I started looking for a man to be a FWB I labeled myself bi-curious because, let's be serious, having never been with a man I was indeed curious. I'm not gay, my wife and I have a good sex life. She knows and supports my bi side, just as I know and support her having other male lovers.

Labels, and how each individual defines the labels, almost always lead to division and conflict. Just live, have experiences, and be happy with who you are.

 

[daveincr]

I never understand guys that complain that can't find someone. I can get online and get dick just about anytime I want. Of course I definitely understand guys being nervous to try, and looking for a certain situation.

It can also be a turn on that you were coerced or it was out of your control.

 

[Swuchro]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

I always qualify a response to an ad that I am a bi bottom. That enjoys sucking cock to completion and/or riding a hard cock.

 

[KingDavid234]

I surely don't understand hatred towards bi-curious men???

 

[easyoff]

I surely don't understand hatred towards bi-curious men???

Either do I. One of my hottest encounters was with a married friend that said, "I'm not gay but I want to try it".

 

[SPARTAN047]

I surely don't understand hatred towards bi-curious men???

Perhaps it's an extreme thing to say.

 

[jbird4]

Not sure how old you are but I’m guessing much younger than me (55). If that’s the case, you gotta consider that for those of us from older generations, we’ve been programmed by society all our lives to reject anything outside a ‘normal’ heterosexual relationship. Even cheating was heavily frowned on.

It’s a lie, yes, but calling myself curious rather than bi is an easier pill to swallow.

The last 10-20 years has opened all that up but you can’t unprogram a person so easily. And as mentioned, most of us have been married to women for thirty years who generally can’t or won’t accept this. Not to mention lifelong friendships that will also end. I marvel at the elasticity of younger generations but for me to just be out with it means my entire world goes upside down and I’m not sure I want that. Not when I can have my cake and eat it too.

This sums it up pretty well for me. It’s at least in part generational. I am also over 55. It was indoctrinated into me since I was a little boy that you don’t want to be that way.

Also I am married and love my wife. I don’t want to loose her. She is also of that generation where being gay is not acceptable. To my wife you are either straight or not straight.

So the difficulty admitting to urges and the things you may have done is very deep seated and painful. A lot of people talked about selfishness, only wanting to receive without reciprocating. That’s not necessarily it. It’s just being confronted with a question or a check box - and it feels safer to say you are curious. Even for those guys who love sucking and swallowing.

There is a lot of shame and guilt. And so it’s just safer and easier. And also it’s not necessarily about admitting it to someone else. It’s about admitting it to yourself that’s hard enough.

 

[Escierto]

There is a lot of shame and guilt. And so it’s just safer and easier. And also it’s not necessarily about admitting it to someone else. It’s about admitting it to yourself that’s hard enough.

Very true. I wanted cock on trans women but it took me a decade to get the courage to act. I should have acted sooner but better late than never.

 

[deucie]

Seems easier to just avoid them than to hate them. Hate is so drastic. Everyone is on their own journey through life and you don`t know how they came to decide they were bi curious. Take a pill or something.

 

[Roark098]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

If a man is not interested in reciprocating, it's off.

 

[passn3r0tic]

That's why I like to play with gay couples.

That’s fucking hot.

I played with a gay couple once and one was riding the other and kissing me, then Ashe started to cum and forced my head down to his cock and made me swallow it (I had no choice, choked, then moaned, and became rounded). Then his husband started to cum, so he pulled it out and fucked my throat and forced me swallow. His cock barely fit in my mouth, let alone my throat, and his husband saw me cumming, and swallowed my load. Then we all made out, and the guy with the big cock slowly put it in me and we all fucked again.

I became good friends with them and the sex beyond that was always amazing.

 

[jackthelad11]

When I started looking for a man to be a FWB I labeled myself bi-curious because, let's be serious, having never been with a man I was indeed curious. I'm not gay, my wife and I have a good sex life. She knows and supports my bi side, just as I know and support her having other male lovers.

Labels, and how each individual defines the labels, almost always lead to division and conflict. Just live, have experiences, and be happy with who you are.

Did you find a man to be a FWB?

 

[NCMaleMan74]

Is it really "hate"? Or just masculine aggression?

 

[NCMaleMan74]

Is it really "hate"? Or just masculine aggression?

Sometimes aggression can be fun.

 

[TrailerHitch]

Did you find a man to be a FWB?

I did we see each other a few times a month.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Is it really "hate"? Or just masculine aggression?

Sometimes aggression can be fun.

Hear, hear. If it's the controlled and the right kind. Same for female aggression and cruelty.

 

[Sol41]

Less hate, more live and let live.
Its the only way society is ever going to be able to heal.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Very unlikely to happen but it's a utopic idea.

 

[Uncut1969]

I am so curious and I would absolutely return tone favor I want to experience it
Both ways! So hard to find first one !

 

[ChasBozwell30]

I'm still only "curious," but that's only because I want to be safe. I'd like to meet the right person the right way. That's the only thing holding me back. I would want to give, personally, more than receive...

 

[Bearkat14]

I'm still only "curious," but that's only because I want to be safe. I'd like to meet the right person the right way. That's the only thing holding me back. I would want to give, personally, more than receive...

Me too

 

[Mike302]

I'm still only "curious," but that's only because I want to be safe. I'd like to meet the right person the right way. That's the only thing holding me back. I would want to give, personally, more than receive...

3rd. I'd just want to suck and be fucked. But if he wants me to return the favor it's only fair.

 

[cdjenni4u]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

I live in a very small country town where everybody knows everybody and teach there too. It wouldn't work very well if I came out as bi and so far don't know anyone for 100 miles that is.

 

[passn3r0tic]

I'm still only "curious," but that's only because I want to be safe. I'd like to meet the right person the right way. That's the only thing holding me back. I would want to give, personally, more than receive...

Second that. I run into more guys that like to be a sub, be dominated, give and not receive. I often think - from my perspective - why the universe seems to be completely lopsided with regard to straight/bi/giving/receiving/top/bottom.

 

[Escierto]

Second that. I run into more guys that like to be a sub, be dominated, give and not receive. I often think - from my perspective - why the universe seems to be completely lopsided with regard to straight/bi/giving/receiving/top/bottom.

There is a site for trans dating which allows the users to indicate their sexual role. I was curious about the percentages of the participants.

Among the trans women, 5% were tops, 35% versa and 60% bottoms. Among the men, 5% were bottoms, 25% versa and 70% tops.