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My gripe or rant is about aging and its effects on the body. I have essential tremors and I can’t do fine motor things like electrical as I used to. I now am experiencing some normal short term memory loss and need young folks to slow their conversation down or text it to me. I will likely miss something. I now have aching hips and know it won’t be long before I have a hip operation. And I don’t want to be one of those folks who only talk about their operations etc. but I do need my adult children to understand I am going through this period and I find it frustrating.

I felt I could vent here.
You bc a rant abt time to any one of us.

We are here to help or offer suggestions. Or to just listen. ❤️🫂
 
Telly is prone to get Foot Stuff. He stands in the barn when he needs to be outside. Their feet get sensitive when they stand where they pee for too long. Then you have to clean out the hoof and put stuff on it. He likes the attention and will willingly hold up his feet to have them worked on.


You can also put him out of the barn and set one 2x4 across the door and keep him in the pasture. Now, he was a jumper, but he'll act all oppressed by a piece of framing lumber which he could easily jump.


Silly old poodle.
He has personality...

The horse i used to ride loved jelly sandwiches and loved to mess us my hair qnd pull out the braids/ ponytails out of my hair im a sneak attack.... well as sneaky as a draft cross could be.....
 
A lot was ignorance on their part(s).


A bit felt like vindictiveness.


I was at breakfast with Dr. Tyler yesterday.


DT: My mother was right-handed and hit me in my left ear.

WT: My mother was right-handed and hit me in my left ear. I'm a bit deafer there than the other side.

DT: No I didn't.

WT: I see . . . .
My parents did the best they could
I have to believe that or it would break me

When I was little little (maybe 6ish) my mom said "you look like______" (when I asked who it was she told me the name of a movie star i can't remember)

I asked "was she pretty"

My mom said "no" and laughed..... I will never forget it...she wasn't trying to hurt me.... but I still remember and is not a happy memory
 
My gripe or rant is about aging and its effects on the body. I have essential tremors and I can’t do fine motor things like electrical as I used to. I now am experiencing some normal short term memory loss and need young folks to slow their conversation down or text it to me. I will likely miss something. I now have aching hips and know it won’t be long before I have a hip operation. And I don’t want to be one of those folks who only talk about their operations etc. but I do need my adult children to understand I am going through this period and I find it frustrating.

I felt I could vent here.
Do you have one kid that can help you and also wrangle his or her siblings?

I am that kid to my 85 and 86 yr old parents....
 
Do you have one kid that can help you and also wrangle his or her siblings?

I am that kid to my 85 and 86 yr old parents....
I have a daughter who has to deal with 2 children under 5 and one who is non verbal autistic. My son has high functioning autism but is often needing my help.

I understand your situation with 80+ parents. I had to deal with my mother and then help raise 2 children.

It’s frustrating isn’t it?
 
I have a daughter who has to deal with 2 children under 5 and one who is non verbal autistic. My son has high functioning autism but is often needing my help.

I understand your situation with 80+ parents. I had to deal with my mother and then help raise 2 children.

It’s frustrating isn’t it?
I have to admire you and those that deal with family dynamics like this. Good bless you all
 
He has personality...

The horse i used to ride loved jelly sandwiches and loved to mess us my hair qnd pull out the braids/ ponytails out of my hair im a sneak attack.... well as sneaky as a draft cross could be.....


He does. He's not the horse his buddy was, but he is present, mostly. He's a bit goofy and injury-prone, so his riding days are done. His poodling days are in their prime. As long as he has apples.


I'd like to take him for walks, but Baby Poodle raises such a stink when another horse goes out and he doesn't. Of course, they don't care if he goes, but Baby Poodle isn't my thing, really. Last time, Baby's bellowing made Telly nervous and he got skittish, so back to the pasture we went.


The best part of the next horses will be, no connection to Baby Poodle. They won't give Proverbial Figs what he thinks or does.
 
I encouraged mine to try stuff and to find out what he likes on his own.


Cats will not eat some things. They will refuse and starve themselves into liver failure. If one has several cats and everyone is happy with the food selection, then it gets left alone because all are eating.
I ask mine to take one small bite of anything I tnmake. If they don't like it they don't have to eat it. That's not to say that they don't ever have to try it again. They will try everything I make until they or I am not around anymore. Very few wins but any win keeps it worth while.

It's also taught them to taste their food. I always ask what I could do to help them like it. I give them seasoning and spice queues that seem to stick with them. Hopefully they will take an interest at some point but you can't want to cook if you don't like food.
 
My parents did the best they could
I have to believe that or it would break me

When I was little little (maybe 6ish) my mom said "you look like______" (when I asked who it was she told me the name of a movie star i can't remember)

I asked "was she pretty"

My mom said "no" and laughed..... I will never forget it...she wasn't trying to hurt me.... but I still remember and is not a happy memory


Well, that just sucks monkey nuts.


Mine would tell me wrong things. She'd get a notion and say it like it was so and I'd find out later it wasn't. Both parents, really. Like when they mispronounced "orgy" and I got laughed at at school and didn't know I should have worn the main perp out. It wasn't out of malice on their parts, but how could a child tell the difference?
 
I have a daughter who has to deal with 2 children under 5 and one who is non verbal autistic. My son has high functioning autism but is often needing my help.

I understand your situation with 80+ parents. I had to deal with my mother and then help raise 2 children.

It’s frustrating isn’t it?

Yeah...it sure is on both ends
 
Well, we found out the home care person had COVID. We asked them to stay out till we take Mom to the doctor and get her checked out. She was doing better but those last two days she spent in bed and not eating enough. Today will be better.

Yesterday I walked into her room and she asked me if I had seen those women that were just leaving. I asked her who they were and she pointed at the tv. QVC was on. I asked her if those were the women and she said yes, they just walked out. That's when I light bulb went off in her head and she shut down for a few minutes. She is putting off a doctor's visit. I think she suspects that I'm going to get her tested.

It's interesting around here for sure and I can't help but think the universe is keeping me here and unemployed. It shouldnt have taken this long to give me a start date. A week is just too long. I could have moved on to another company and been at orientation already. But then what would happen with Mom if I were already gone.

*Sigh

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