That is a great way to do it, very hot.
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I prefer to know in advance, but its not always possible.
SexyAruna
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That’s it!
Some guys jerk off to their wives taking bigger, thicker cocks
Some guys want to clean up afterwards
And some gals like me really find the whole scene… quite erotic mmmm
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I'm not sure how I'd feel if it was my wife, but the scenario in general is very hot.
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I've definitely had fantasies about it. Being locked in chastity, watching some Idris Elba type having his way while I just have to watch then clean up afterwards. That a pretty hot thought.
But I'd also love to join a couple too, though that's more of a bi oriented fantasy.
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Now explain that to me! Why is it so hot to be cast aside and have to watch and clean up?
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Honestly, I'm not 100% sure myself.
Maybe that's part of the fascination -- knowing that you want it but not quite why
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I think that's quite common with a lot of kinks, not necessarily understanding the why, but enjoying it anyway.
Agreed. And even if you know the reason it doesn't help that much or increase the pleasure. Just better to lay back and enjoy the fantasies and realities
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Absolutely!
yes and go in search of one if they can't love the one they're with
During our first 2 decades together if either of us had sex with someone else it would have contaminated our marriage with everlasting toxic doubts about whether or not we married the right person..
But now, after about 25 yrs of raising kids, supporting each other through numerous tragedies & health crises, forging lifelong shared friendships, travel, a planned retirement, etc.. it is clear that NOTHING is going to break up our marriage, or diminish our deep love for each other. That is how strong our bond is. So, several years ago I was very comfortable with telling my wife, “From now on, go ahead and have sex with someone else once in a while if you want to. I'm fine with it because I know with absolute certainty that the ties that bind us will hold strong - that your home and your future will always be with ME.” It felt very liberating tell her this.
I adore my wife. If being with a different man once in a while would allow her to experience "like young again" orgasms - especially since menopause has made them so elusive - why wouldn't I want that for her? My wife and I have had sex over 3000 times (>2/wk for >30yrs), so of course sex with someone else is going to be more exciting! It wouldn't be because he's a better lover. Indeed, I'm quite certain there's nothing he could do with his fingers, mouth or dick that I haven't done hundreds and hundreds of times already or would eagerly do if she asked. It would be more exciting for the simple reason that it's someone OTHER than me - someone new. I wouldn't take her enjoying it personally and I wouldn't feel threatened by it.
So tell me, why should I stand in the way of it?
But now, after about 25 yrs of raising kids, supporting each other through numerous tragedies & health crises, forging lifelong shared friendships, travel, a planned retirement, etc.. it is clear that NOTHING is going to break up our marriage, or diminish our deep love for each other. That is how strong our bond is. So, several years ago I was very comfortable with telling my wife, “From now on, go ahead and have sex with someone else once in a while if you want to. I'm fine with it because I know with absolute certainty that the ties that bind us will hold strong - that your home and your future will always be with ME.” It felt very liberating tell her this.
I adore my wife. If being with a different man once in a while would allow her to experience "like young again" orgasms - especially since menopause has made them so elusive - why wouldn't I want that for her? My wife and I have had sex over 3000 times (>2/wk for >30yrs), so of course sex with someone else is going to be more exciting! It wouldn't be because he's a better lover. Indeed, I'm quite certain there's nothing he could do with his fingers, mouth or dick that I haven't done hundreds and hundreds of times already or would eagerly do if she asked. It would be more exciting for the simple reason that it's someone OTHER than me - someone new. I wouldn't take her enjoying it personally and I wouldn't feel threatened by it.
So tell me, why should I stand in the way of it?
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Its amazing to watch while your wife is being pleasued by another man.
It is.
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When my wife cheated on me, it was a humiliationfest. I do think hearing about sex with her boyfriend that she had during our “break” is hot. That sex isn’t associated with any public betrayal.
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My wife cheated on me. Afterwards, she felt a ton of guilt and went to counseling. She confessed to me at the suggestion of her counselor (mistake) and wanted forgiveness.
Years later, she was back with him again, sneaking around at night. Her lover’s wife caught them and told me. I confronted her about it and told her to decide who she wanted to be with.
Her stories about what she and her lover did have changed thru the years. Things she admitted to before she now denies.
I suspect she got freaky with him to the point that it shocked her. She won’t talk about it anymore though. That means I am left to beat my meat while wondering if her inner slut will ever be released when she is with me. Maybe only her lovers get that special treat.
Years later, she was back with him again, sneaking around at night. Her lover’s wife caught them and told me. I confronted her about it and told her to decide who she wanted to be with.
Her stories about what she and her lover did have changed thru the years. Things she admitted to before she now denies.
I suspect she got freaky with him to the point that it shocked her. She won’t talk about it anymore though. That means I am left to beat my meat while wondering if her inner slut will ever be released when she is with me. Maybe only her lovers get that special treat.
Good for you - truly! I thought the very same way.
Being non-monogamous wouldn't have entered my mind when my wife and I dated for 7 years, then for next 20 years of being married. And I don't mind those who have strong contrary opinions about it, but I don't put much stock in any of them unless they've also been very happily married almost 35 years and stil have an active and exciting sex life. But sadly, most of the people who might criticize me weren't able to keep their marriage together. Indeed, many of them didn't last as long as my wife and I were monogamous. Remember, 1/2 of marriages fail, and of the half that remain married, many aren't all that happy. Hmm.... think on that!
My wife and I have had sex over well 3000 times (2 or more times per wk for almost 35 years). Is it really such an outrage that my wife might have sex with someone else 5-10 times during that period? I'm not sure that even makes us non-monogamous. That's a ratio of between 300-600/1. Sex w/ each other vs. someone else.
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Wish I knew exactly ... but I know that this is my greatest (but unfulfilled) wish
Part of it for sure but I don't know if humilation is the right word
Don't think so. I wouldn't want to watch them having sex
Not entirely but ...
In my fantasy, I experience how I lose badly against the other guy. For example, we would be in a bar or on vacation at the beach. All of a sudden, I would notice her looking at another guy. He responds, eye contact, flirting... He comes closer, as if I didn't even exist. Conversations, giggling, first touches. She doesn't seem to know me anymore, as if I had never been there. Makeout, kisses, real kisses, passionate smooching...
... and suddenly, as if on a secret command, the new found lovers take each other's hands and disappear without even looking back at me. I don't know where they go. But it's clear whats gonna happen there... I'm left alone. Defeated, a loser all round...
So, what is it? Humilation? Maybe kind of. Longing to be the loser? Being allowed to be the loser? Longing to be defeated? I'm not a psychologist. All I know is that I want nothing more than for this fantasy to come true.
When a woman is in an exclusive relationship she gets bored with sex and either weaponizes it or takes it away completely. When she's free to have fun and can share it with her significant other she keeps the thrill of something new and even the sex with her significant other goes on far longer
At least that's been my experience
At least that's been my experience
That's part of my thinking....
Because I've given my wife permission to occasionally have sex with others, I now feel like I'm almost competing with others for her sexual affection. While this may strike some as dysfunctional and outrageous, I like that it compels me to try to be the most appealing guy in her orbit - just like I always tried to be when we were dating. I do my reasonable best to be charming and engaged when we are together, to mind my appearance, my manners, my hygiene, my attire, etc.. Basically, I try to earn her sexual attention rather than simply take it for granted because "we're married."
I don't want my wife to merely "let" me fuck her, I want her to WANT me to fuck her. And in our case, this strategy works. ..At near 60, our sex life is the best it's ever been. And she initiates sex more often than I.
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If you can’t then don’t get in the lifestyle
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And if they mutually agree to something extramarital, isn’t that just their right and their business?
The problem is when it isn’t “one” decision, but when there are two separate intentions and they don’t match and one of the two people decides to go do it anyway, without the other person’s consent or agreement.
That’s cheating.
A couple can decide what “cheating” means to them, and it doesn’t have to match your own narrow definition.
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You can justify it anyway you wanna do it, cheating is cheating? No matter if both agree on it.
