As a Bi, Which Gender Do You Prefer?

[cdstefi]

Hi all. I'm Charlie. I have a thread that chronicles my recent foray into bisexuality. Actually need to update it, because I sucked off my new buddy the other night. Only the third time I've sucked, and just the second guy. And I'm currently talking with a Lit friend, who's currently only bi-curious. But a thought occurred to me when I was talking to him. That I'm still much more attracted to women. I just happen to have found that I love cock, especially making a guy cum in my mouth. Haven't ventured into anal yet, but I definitely want to experience everything.

Anyway, I was curious how all of you feel about your gender preferences, if you have any. I want to know if those of you who have always been bi are more likely to enjoy men and women and others equally. And for those like me who were straight their entire lives, do you still prefer the opposite sex, even though you now enjoy same sex relationships? Or do you guys now prefer other men over women?

Hoping everyone shares their experiences and preferences here.

For a romantic, long-term relationship which is based in love, it'd have to be a woman every time. There's just something about the dynamic of both sexes and their differences and how they interlock that retains a huge appeal for me.

For occasional hard, rough sex that scratches an itch, you can't beat a stiff cock and anal.

That's about where I've got to in my 62 years.

 

[cdstefi]

In my girlfriend's case, it was something she wrote. On that site, you could see who visited your profile and she could see that I had visited a bunch of times without sending her a message.

TBH, I thought she was out of my league. Finally she sent me a message and she said it was the first and only time she messaged someone first. She said, "You don't have to say anything." That surprised me and I started chatting with her. I thought then and I think now, this is no ordinary girl.

That kind of reminds me of the time I pulled a woman I thought was way out of my league.

I simply asked "what's your username about?" It was a single word, returned nothing at all on Google, and turned out to be a made-up word that was part of her family history.

I piqued her interest just by asking that, not by complimenting her (extremely) sexy profile pics or saying I wanted to shag her, which were the inevitable first messages from hundreds of other guys on the dating site she was using.

Pleasingly, the word still returns zero hits on Google even 15 years later. We didn't last, which was a bit of a shame but there were big incompatibilities.

 

[Dee_LiciousCD]

I guess sometimes you feel like a nut and sometimes you don’t?

I’m in a relationship with a woman I love dearly and have always been attracted to women. BUT I’ve also had a powerful attraction to big burly men. For years and years I never gave myself full permission to explore my attraction to men or my fem side.

But that’s changed a bit. I played with a couple guys in my 20s and wish I had done more before meeting my spouse.

If reincarnation is real and I have to come back to Earth I’ll demand to be a bi woman.

The more I explore my fem self the more I find me.

 

[curiousguy80]

While I've had thoughts of playing with a cock that wasn't mine for most of my life, I've always been attracted to women. I recently had a brief experience with a guy where I stroked and sucked him for a few minutes. While my experience lived up to the fantasies I had, my preference has not changed. I'm attracted to cock only, not the person it's attached to. While I expect to have more meetups with my new friend, I don't see my preference for women ever changing.

 

[SteveXR]

While I've had thoughts of playing with a cock that wasn't mine for most of my life, I've always been attracted to women. I recently had a brief experience with a guy where I stroked and sucked him for a few minutes. While my experience lived up to the fantasies I had, my preference has not changed. I'm attracted to cock only, not the person it's attached to. While I expect to have more meetups with my new friend, I don't see my preference for women ever changing.

Did you make him cum?

 

[curiousguy80]

Did you make him cum?

Unfortunately no. I didn't have enough time. Next time I'm hoping that happens. He already knows I want to feel him cum in my mouth.

 

[KinkStevens]

I’m bi, prefer women, but a hard cock is also a pure delight. Just a totally different experience. Only done oral with guys, perhaps my preferences would change if I’d had a cock, or three, up my ass. Not all at the same time, obviously…lol!

With some work you could get 3 in there

 

[CliimaxForYou]

Absolutely 100% prefer women in every way.

I’m not attracted to men. Won’t kiss them. (Ew for me). But I’m not scared of a nice penis, and love to make them cum.

I tend to be a boob man. Give me an athletic hermaphrodite with nice “B” cups

 

[subbyclarajane]

Prefer girls when I'm the Domme, guys when I'm the sub.

Theoretically. Not been with a guy.

Yet.

 

[KinkStevens]

An uninhibited woman has always been my preference sexually over any guy. I’ll choose her 10 out of 10 times. But the perfect situation is a TS woman that is feminine and a stiff rod.

 

[KinkStevens]

Absolutely 100% prefer women in every way.

I’m not attracted to men. Won’t kiss them. (Ew for me). But I’m not scared of a nice penis, and love to make them cum.

I tend to be a boob man. Give me an athletic hermaphrodite with nice “B” cups

I can relate!

 

[KinkStevens]

That kind of reminds me of the time I pulled a woman I thought was way out of my league.

I simply asked "what's your username about?" It was a single word, returned nothing at all on Google, and turned out to be a made-up word that was part of her family history.

I piqued her interest just by asking that, not by complimenting her (extremely) sexy profile pics or saying I wanted to shag her, which were the inevitable first messages from hundreds of other guys on the dating site she was using.

Pleasingly, the word still returns zero hits on Google even 15 years later. We didn't last, which was a bit of a shame but there were big incompatibilities.

Thats cool. I never could wrap my mind around masculinity with masculinity. In my pervy world one has to be feminine, whether it be her, him, or even me

 

[subbyclarajane]

An uninhibited woman has always been my preference sexually over any guy. I’ll choose her 10 out of 10 times. But the perfect situation is a TS woman that is feminine and a stiff rod.

I think uninhibited female feels much safer than uninhibited male. Never really understood that until I grew tits and started passing, especially after being followed to my car. A woman uninhibited feels like ecstasy. A man uninhibited feels... dangerous. And hey, danger is exciting as long as I trust him.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I think uninhibited female feels much safer than uninhibited male. Never really understood that until I grew tits and started passing, especially after being followed to my car. A woman uninhibited feels like ecstasy. A man uninhibited feels... dangerous. And hey, danger is exciting as long as I trust him.

As someone who's groped in clubs multiple times, I get you. I'd honestly be scared of an uninhibited woman like that too, maybe even more because no one will call them out. An uninhibited man will possibly drag you out kicking and screaming to the back alley. If he looks dangerous enough, no one will stop him, but that's very unlikely.

Women haven't done this to me but they've been very insulting about my sissy status in very subtle and dangerous ways, so it's given me a good enough insight to how and what they'd do if they wanted to trick or force someone into sex. They don't do it physically so it's much harder to fight back. Maybe trans women and other sissies are the same if they're without morals.

 

[SmokingFap]

Absolutely 100% prefer women in every way.

I’m not attracted to men. Won’t kiss them. (Ew for me). But I’m not scared of a nice penis, and love to make them cum.

I tend to be a boob man. Give me an athletic hermaphrodite with nice “B” cups

This is me to a T.

 

[subbyclarajane]

As someone who's groped in clubs multiple times, I get you. I'd honestly be scared of an uninhibited woman like that too, maybe even more because no one will call them out. An uninhibited man will possibly drag you out kicking and screaming to the back alley. If he looks dangerous enough, no one will stop him, but that's very unlikely.

Women haven't done this to me but they've been very insulting about my sissy status in very subtle and dangerous ways, so it's given me a good enough insight to how and what they'd do if they wanted to trick or force someone into sex. They don't do it physically so it's much harder to fight back. Maybe trans women and other sissies are the same if they're without morals.

My first SA was a girl. I was a virgin and she didn't ask. And that kept happening. But I didn't know I was allowed to say no, you know? If I had, I believe she would have respected my wishes. She was sexually unhinged, just absolutely liberated in every way, and I was a timid, closeted trans girl playing at masculinity. Which we can all agree I was TERRIBLE AT. (That's another reason I didn't speak up - males are supposed to crave sex. I DO crave sex. But not like a dude).

I've had small encounters with men since then, and they are much scarier. Because I was socialize male, right? I know the messaging - no means try harder, real men hunt - and of course, the thirst is potent when you have testosterone. It's like, sometimes it's better not to know how the sausage is made. (budumching)

(EDIT: I DON'T THINK ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS THERE SO MANY MORE AMAZING MEN THAN SHITTY ONES IF YOU'RE A NICE GUY I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU THANK YOU)

 

[SPARTAN047]

My first SA was a girl. I was a virgin and she didn't ask. And that kept happening. But I didn't know I was allowed to say no, you know? If I had, I believe she would have respected my wishes. She was sexually unhinged, just absolutely liberated in every way, and I was a timid, closeted trans girl playing at masculinity. Which we can all agree I was TERRIBLE AT. (That's another reason I didn't speak up - males are supposed to crave sex. I DO crave sex. But not like a dude).

I've had small encounters with men since then, and they are much scarier. Because I was socialize male, right? I know the messaging - no means try harder, real men hunt - and of course, the thirst is potent when you have testosterone. It's like, sometimes it's better not to know how the sausage is made. (budumching)

(EDIT: I DON'T THINK ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS THERE SO MANY MORE AMAZING MEN THAN SHITTY ONES IF YOU'RE A NICE GUY I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU THANK YOU)

Oh yes. The propaganda that men should want sex all the time so women can't assault men is very damaging.

This has happened to me by women but it's mostly men who did it to me. It's also men who insulted me the worst, but they also gave the best compliments. Women's insults were sneakier, but most were very nice and complimentary.

 

[Escierto]

I don't think most men are aware of how different their world is than for a woman. When I was a student visiting my girlfriend at the time, I used to walk through some dangerous neighborhoods at 2 am. No worries lol!

It's a strange thing. A big guy like me can be seen as a menace or a protector and I have experienced both sides of the coin.

 

[Escierto]

A man uninhibited feels... dangerous. And hey, danger is exciting as long as I trust him.

Very true and that trust has to be earned.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I don't think most men are aware of how different their world is than for a woman. When I was a student visiting my girlfriend, I used to walk through some dangerous neighborhoods at 2 am. No worries lol!

It's a strange thing. A big guy like me can be seen as a menace or a protector and I have experienced both sides of the coin.

It's possible. I suppose you have to be born as a woman to understand that, but I've felt very threatened even in male mode since I'm tiny. 5'5", and I used to be really fat but not so much anymore, so it's worse. Now I can be picked up and abducted much more easily. It's not like I wasn't occasionally harassed in male mode, but it's not the same stories as women.

I've felt even more threatened in sissy and female mode, sure. And as I said, felt up far more often. Men probably think they're supposed to be predators anyway (in the predator- prey sense, not sexual), and any women who touched me up probably thought it's what women do with each other anyway.

I've noticed that women are much more sensitive and tactile in general. I'm not, so I don't really like hugging or even shaking hands on a first meeting. But obviously that's not assault.

It doesn't mean I've been assaulted left, right and centre - most people have been nice enough and some came to my defense the moment they saw what was happening.

We should also recognize that while it's very bad indeed for women, men are more often victims of violent crime and prison rape does happen as well. It counts.

 

[Escierto]

It's possible. I suppose you have to be born as a woman to understand that, but I've felt very threatened even in male mode since I'm tiny. 5'5", and I used to be really fat but not so much anymore, so it's worse. Now I can be picked up and abducted much more easily. It's not like I wasn't occasionally harassed in male mode, but it's not the same stories as women.

I've felt even more threatened in sissy and female mode, sure. And as I said, felt up far more often. Men probably think they're supposed to be predators anyway (in the predator- prey sense, not sexual), and any women who touched me up probably thought it's what women do with each other anyway.

I've noticed that women are much more sensitive and tactile in general. I'm not, so I don't really like hugging or even shaking hands on a first meeting. But obviously that's not assault.

It doesn't mean I've been assaulted left, right and centre - most people have been nice enough and some came to my defense the moment they saw what was happening.

We should also recognize that while it's very bad indeed for women, men are more often victims of violent crime and prison rape does happen as well. It counts.

In this, as in so many things, one person's experience can be so different from someone else's experience and it's important to recognize that. Especially if you are a man. I used to be clueless but I have gotten a lot better. Always room for improvement though...

 

[RodBombadil]

Romantically, I’m almost exclusively interested in women. I’ve never dated a guy, though I wish I’d given it a shot at some point, just to see. But I’ve never been attracted to men in quite the way I’m attracted to women; seeing a hot guy across the room rarely gets my heart racing like seeing a hot woman does.

I am, however, just really, really into cocks. Can’t get enough of the things. I like looking at them, holding them, sucking them, the works. That moment when you first pull a guy’s underwear down and you finally get to see his cock? *chef’s kiss*

I like kissing guys well enough, and rubbing up on them and all that can be fun and all, but I don’t get the same charge from that stuff with a man as I do with a woman. But there are few things in life that I enjoy more than the feel of a nice cock in my mouth.

 

[SPARTAN047]

In this, as in so many things, one person's experience can be so different from someone else's experience and it's important to recognize that. Especially if you are a man. I used to be clueless but I have gotten a lot better. Always room for improvement though...

Also true and very well stated.

No one is all right or all wrong about their experiences. Personal biases can come in between having a clear understanding of people and their experiences.

Whether someone is tiny like me or tall and well built like yourself, it's no guarantee of what you'd experience. There are tough short guys like at my old school years ago and bodybuilders can be targeted by any tiny fella who has a Napoleon complex. No one's situation is consistent all across the board.

 

[Escierto]

Also true and very well stated.

No one is all right or all wrong about their experiences. Personal biases can come in between having a clear understanding of people and their experiences.

Whether someone is tiny like me or tall and well built like yourself, it's no guarantee of what you'd experience. There are tough short guys like at my old school years ago and bodybuilders can be targeted by any tiny fella who has a Napoleon complex. No one's situation is consistent all across the board.

Quite true. There are tough short guys lol

 

[subbyclarajane]

Quite true. There are tough short guys lol

The shorter guys I've known felt forced to be tough. First to get aggressive, but also the first to defend their friends. Big guys relied on size, but the littler guys knew how to scrap. That changed, though, if the guys were in martial arts. One of the guys I did kung fu with was smaller than me, and year over year, his scrappitude went calm. If you're ever in danger at night, pray for a calm short dude to show up.

Why yes, I do know kung fu. Also yes, the tits and ass have thrown off my balance a bit.