I’m just a submissive guy who wants his gf to dom him

[SfMM]

Hi there not sure how to really start this or even what to say, but as the title says I’m submissive, I’m a guy and the only way I’ve lived/interacted with my fantasies is online. Whether that’s reading erotic fiction, chatting with ppl etc. I’m not sure how to bring up my real desires with my partner plus I’d also just like to talk about them behind her back too…

 

[Fuqueue]

Just make sure that when you do get around to to communicating about this, have the courage to be direct about what you want to do and have some discussion about why you want to do it. This will make it easier for her to visualize what she is expected to do with some intention as to how it will be expected to play out. This is very important that she understands the dynamics intimately because she’s the one will be driving.

 

[Erosfan]

Just make sure that when you do get around to to communicating about this, have the courage to be direct about what you want to do and have some discussion about why you want to do it. This will make it easier for her to visualize what she is expected to do with some intention as to how it will be expected to play out. This is very important that she understands the dynamics intimately because she’s the one will be driving.

Without a doubt, communication is key. My fantasies, kinks/desires, that have been acted upon (successfully) all happened because my wife and I spent a lot of time discussing what would or could happen. Things we did were way more exciting than my fantasies because we spent the time to understand each other's desires and expectations.

 

[Inthelastrow]

Great advice above. Communication is key. Be sure you understand what submissive means to you! Does it mean submissive only in bed, with sex in general, or other aspects of your relationship. Do you want a female led relationship? What do you want to "give" her. Submissive provide support, encouragement and devotion to their Domme. So be willing to understand what role you want to play, what role you would like her to play and know your limits...hers as well. Unless she has been dominant before, it's probably going to be a new experience for her as well. She might not be into the same things you are. I would start off by doing little things first and build from there so she can be comfortable too. And communicate always.

 

[Erosfan]

Great advice above. Communication is key. Be sure you understand what submissive means to you! Does it mean submissive only in bed, with sex in general, or other aspects of your relationship. Do you want a female led relationship? What do you want to "give" her. Submissive provide support, encouragement and devotion to their Domme. So be willing to understand what role you want to play, what role you would like her to play and know your limits...hers as well. Unless she has been dominant before, it's probably going to be a new experience for her as well. She might not be into the same things you are. I would start off by doing little things first and build from there so she can be comfortable too. And communicate always.

Knowing each other's limits is so important. So is understanding roles.

 

[OlderBtm4U]

Communication, while important, isn’t always enough. Mrs Older tried (at my request) but she just isn’t and can’t dominate sexually.

 

[Erosfan]

Great advice above. Communication is key. Be sure you understand what submissive means to you! Does it mean submissive only in bed, with sex in general, or other aspects of your relationship. Do you want a female led relationship? What do you want to "give" her. Submissive provide support, encouragement and devotion to their Domme. So be willing to understand what role you want to play, what role you would like her to play and know your limits...hers as well. Unless she has been dominant before, it's probably going to be a new experience for her as well. She might not be into the same things you are. I would start off by doing little things first and build from there so she can be comfortable too. And communicate always.

I want to give her all of me! I'm hers, to do with as she wishes, when and where she wishes. When I give myself to her, I lose all inhibitions. I will do absolutely anything. That being said, you both need to know where this is going. Open discussion builds trust and understanding.

 

[Bottomlover]

A long time ago, my SO and I had a series of conversations about separating "play time" and "real life". We came to an understanding that both of us can switch between being submissive and dominant during "play time" and disconnect that from our normal IRL personal roles. We agreed upon limits and rules. It's not purist BDSM, as we are role-playing during playtime and are careful not to drag any real life conflicts into it, but who cares what it's called if you're both satisfied. We both respect the limits and rules we agreed upon. That's what works for us. If you're looking for a broader D/S thing, role playing is a way to explore. YMMV

BTW, being submissive doesn't have to be a lifestyle or personality change. It can be a temporary escape from real life pressures and responsibilities. It's still better than drugs.