Too much objectification of women ?

[Escierto]

When we chat on cam, my girlfriend sometimes will pose for what she calls a "pictorial". Sometimes I post these pics but she knows this - in fact it's why she is posing. As a trans woman, she feels it validates her as a woman that people look at her and see how beautiful she is.

I think it's good for people to see a trans woman who is a regular woman with a regular job with her clothes on.

 

[LMWM321]

Of course, I'd never post anything of my wife without her telling me to do so. I just point out to her the interesting double-standard she seems to ignore, after she chooses to appear in public at a venue where thousands of strangers could be taking her pic and posting them to the Internet, but she seems reluctant later to show her friends.

But it's not important that you understand her reasons... Or that you believe it's inconsistent. Nor is there any onus on her to explain it further to make you understand. What matters is that you abide by her wishes and don't post ANY pictures of her without her consent.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I think it’s the exploitation of women here that’s the biggest problem. Women (anyone, really) posting their own photos on a porn site are owning their sexuality and clearly enjoy the objectification to some level. That’s their choice and I don’t see anything wrong with that.

However. Lots, LOTS of men post photos of their wives, girlfriends, exes, without their knowledge or consent. There are endless threads about it. Asking strangers to ‘tribute’ their wife. Offering to send photos. Asking to ‘chat about my wife’. There’s one in particular who’s entire lit personality is to share photos of his ‘catholic wife’ that he openly admits were taken without her knowledge and dudes line up for it. Some are less obvious and open about it. I fully believe that at least half of the photos of women in ampics are men with fake accounts posting pictures that were entrusted to them.

To put it plainly, there are a whole bunch of men on this site that hate women. They want a woman to be a dick receptacle, but they hate women as people. They hate their wives most of all. Not just the men who actively post the photos, but the men who don’t care that the photos they’re jerking off to were shared without the woman’s permission. Rarely do I see a man even ask if the wife is aware and consents to it. They just don’t care.

I don’t tell most of my real life friends that I participate in a forum on a porn site. So when Dominique Pelicot was charged with drugging his wife and facilitating her being raped unconscious hundreds of times, I had to also appear as shocked as my friends were. They were stunned and couldn’t believe that he was able to find so many men who were so willing to rape an unconscious woman, disregard her autotomy, and view her as her husbands property to loan out.

I wasn’t shocked at all. There are thousands of men who participate on this site who would do exactly t

I think it’s the exploitation of women here that’s the biggest problem. Women (anyone, really) posting their own photos on a porn site are owning their sexuality and clearly enjoy the objectification to some level. That’s their choice and I don’t see anything wrong with that.

However. Lots, LOTS of men post photos of their wives, girlfriends, exes, without their knowledge or consent. There are endless threads about it. Asking strangers to ‘tribute’ their wife. Offering to send photos. Asking to ‘chat about my wife’. There’s one in particular who’s entire lit personality is to share photos of his ‘catholic wife’ that he openly admits were taken without her knowledge and dudes line up for it. Some are less obvious and open about it. I fully believe that at least half of the photos of women in ampics are men with fake accounts posting pictures that were entrusted to them.

To put it plainly, there are a whole bunch of men on this site that hate women. They want a woman to be a dick receptacle, but they hate women as people. They hate their wives most of all. Not just the men who actively post the photos, but the men who don’t care that the photos they’re jerking off to were shared without the woman’s permission. Rarely do I see a man even ask if the wife is aware and consents to it. They just don’t care.

I don’t tell most of my real life friends that I participate in a forum on a porn site. So when Dominique Pelicot was charged with drugging his wife and facilitating her being raped unconscious hundreds of times, I had to also appear as shocked as my friends were. They were stunned and couldn’t believe that he was able to find so many men who were so willing to rape an unconscious woman, disregard her autotomy, and view her as her husbands property to loan out.

I wasn’t shocked at all. There are thousands of men who participate on this site who would do exactly that.

Wow I'm shocked that your of this opinion

 

[KatieDoes]

Wow I'm shocked that your of this opinion

I’m not at all shocked that you’re dismissive of women being exploited and mistreated.

 

[LMWM321]

I think people here on Literotica should ask themselves this...

"What if your true identity was exposed and the threads, posts, stories and pictures you've contributed became known to all of your friends and family? Would you be ashamed?"

As for me.. I'd be embarrassed because I've revealed details about my sexual life I wouldn't discuss publicly, but I would not feel one iota of shame. There's nothing I've posted, liked, or have written about in my stories that embraces misogyny, hate, violence, or non-consensual sex to even the smallest degree.

Others should ask themselves the same..

 

[Lifestyle66]

But it's not important that you understand her reasons... Or that you believe it's inconsistent. Nor is there any onus on her to explain it further to make you understand. What matters is that you abide by her wishes and don't post ANY pictures of her without her consent.

Should my wife have considered asking MY permission before telling others I write porn stories for Literotica?


EDIT: And you didn't answer the second question I posed when I said:
"I have several photos of a guy standing in the middle of the street in front of my wife as he swung his hips to wave his "sleeve covered" schlong in a dance for her. That cloth sleeve over his cock was the ONLY thing he was wearing!

Should that guy have a "right to privacy" and not allow (or expect) anyone to post those pics on the Internet of him doing it in front of women, ... in the middle of Duval Street in Key West? (BTW: He was "dressed" enough for the Fantasy Zone rules during that festival, so what he was doing was legal.)"


Basically, does the guy have a right to privacy when publicly exposing himself in front of women???? Or is it just the women who have that right?


EDIT 2: There's a website "://liveduvalstreet.com" which has two live video cams, which have the option to look at any pic second by second for the past 24 hours. Those two cams are showing everyone as they are on the street outside of the Sloppy Joe's Bar. This is in a high walking traffic street corner in the Fantasy Zone. And anyone going to Fantasy Fest, dressed or undressed as they choose would probably pass those cams several times in an evening there.

There is no expectation of privacy when you're out in public. So, it's only maintaining the peace at home which keeps me from showing any specific person how my wife was dressed in front of those Internet cameras. But they could have watched her live, via the Internet while she was doing it.

 

[LMWM321]

Lifestyle... I don't know how to respond...how to help you understand.

If I were a woman and some bozo on Bourbon Street took a picture of me flashing my breasts during MardiGras I would feel some degree of embarrassment if that pic was discovered on the internet by my family or friends. But if my HUSBAND took a picture, or even took a screen shot of the picture by said bozo, and sent it to his friends without my consent, that would feel like a huge FUCKING betrayal!

And 'No', your wife shouldn't be telling people you post here on Lit without your consent. But I see that as a lesser offense than posting nude pics of her.

 

[Lifestyle66]

Lifestyle... I don't know to respond... How to help you understand.

If I were a woman and some bozo on Bourbon street took a pic of me flashing my breasts during MardiGras I would feel some degree of embarrassment if that pic was discovered on the internet by my family or friends. But if my HUSBAND took a picture, or even took a screen shot of the picture by said Bozo, and sent it to his friends without my consent, that would feel like a huge FUCKING betrayal!

You didn't answer the question of whether my wife should have asked for my permission before telling others of my stories here. She knew I wasn't going to tell them.

Should I feel that was a huge fucking betrayal? My DAUGHTER now knows where to find my stories!

Or should I just accept that writing my stories is what I choose to do and take responsibility for doing it?


I mentioned in one of my posts above about a woman at Fantasy Fest posing for nude pics in a bar while spreading her legs. In looking for the Internet live cams, I found a pic of her on Flickr.com via a Microsoft Bing search. When my wife talked to her after she was done posing (we're talking about sitting with her legs spread wide with bright lights shining on her crotch) for a half hour and asking her why she did it, she just casually said "My husband likes it when I do, so I do it for him. They had been married for over 30 years (and she wasn't drunk.)

Some prudish or judgmental people here may be appalled at things like that. But are they trying to impose their standards on other women, trying to rob them of their agency to choose what THEY want to do with their bodies?

 

[ShinyCrazyDi]

Of course, I'd never post anything of my wife without her telling me to do so. I just point out to her the interesting double-standard she seems to ignore, after she chooses to appear in public at a venue where thousands of strangers could be taking her pic and posting them to the Internet, but she seems reluctant later to show her friends.


Anything we do voluntarily in public (particularly in today's world of everyone holding a digital camera in their hand) is already opened to the public, and we can't later demand our privacy returned to us. They saw it, and they record it to share with their friends. And some of those strangers live on Facebook, showing pics of everything they see.

When I referenced the Fantasy Fest pics above, you can check the "Fantasy Fest" website, and you'll find pics of people in costume from past events there. Those are the "safe" pics of people both posing for a pic in the street, and many just showing dozens of people randomly and cluelessly walking around the streets. The official FF website carefully avoids posting some pics of people in far less clothing and performing scandalous acts. I have several photos of a guy standing in the middle of the street in front of my wife as he swung his hips to wave his "sleeve covered" schlong in a dance for her. That cloth sleeve over his cock was the ONLY thing he was wearing!

Should that guy have a "right to privacy" and not allow (or expect) anyone to post those pics on the Internet of him doing it in front of women, ... in the middle of Duval Street in Key West? (BTW: He was "dressed" enough for the Fantasy Zone rules during that festival, so what he was doing was legal.)

EDIT: And I also don't tell others of my presence in these forums or stories posted here on LitE. But my wife tells others I write those stories! So, has she violated MY right to privacy without my permission?

EDIT 2: I just occurred to me, there are thousands (millions) of traffic cams around the cities, which are all Internet accessible. If you do anything in a public place, it is possible you are already posting yourself to the Internet for the world to see!

I think we can separate your questions into two categories: the general category is probably best answered by the Privacy Act of 1974. There are certain scenarios where you operate without 'a reasonable expectation of privacy' (like in public) & aren't legally protected by the legislation.

The second category is more intimate, your relationships with friends/family/your spouse/people you know.

You may be legally in the clear to disclose information but should you decide to do so, depends on how much you love & respect the people in your circle. You know your wife tells people about your writing, have you told her not to tell people? If you feel violated, perhaps it's time to let her know you'd like your authorship to remain secret.

 

[Lifestyle66]

I think we can separate your questions into two categories: the general category is probably best answered by the Privacy Act of 1974. There are certain scenarios where you operate without 'a reasonable expectation of privacy' (like in public) & aren't legally protected by the legislation.

The second category is more intimate, your relationships with friends/family/your spouse/people you know.

You may be legally in the clear to disclose information but should you decide to do so, depends on how much you love & respect the people in your circle. You know your wife tells people about your writing, have you told her not to tell people? If you feel violated, perhaps it's time to let her know you'd like your authorship to remain secret.

Well, that's like "closing the barn door after the horse is gone." That ship sailed, when she just blurted it out at a family gathering. There's no forgetting that happened, and my daughter (and others) now know where to find my stories unless I club them over the head to beat it out of their memories!

Now, should I just divorce the bitch over her insensitive fucking betrayal? Or should I get revenge by posting pics of her on the Internet?

OR, maybe, in a healthy and loving relationship, we just laugh such things off, taking personal responsibility for who we are and continue trusting each other. Did she knowingly pose for pics at Fantasy Fest with her arms around strange men as she was scantily clad? ((EDIT: Scantily, in just small black panties and pasties, in the middle of Duval Street in Key West!) Did she reach under a guys kilt to see if he was wearing underwear, just because his T-shirt dare girls to find out? (He wasn't, and she enjoyed playing with and teasing him!) Did I/Do I write porn stories and post them to LitE? The answer to those questions is "Yes, that's who we are," (Unless one of us is in denial.)

But we would both like to keep such things relatively quiet in our vanilla world.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I’m not at all shocked that you’re dismissive of women being exploited and mistreated.

Yeah yeah yeah. Your same tired hypocritical soap box. You play this misandrist card all the time when A guy post something about a woman. Being rejected by guys all the time will do that.
Now here comes your multiple accounts to " defend" you.

 

[ShinyCrazyDi]

Well, that's like "closing the barn door after the horse is gone." That ship sailed, when she just blurted it out at a family gathering. There's no forgetting that happened, and my daughter (and others) now know where to find my stories unless I club them over the head to beat it out of their memories!

Now, should I just divorce the bitch over her insensitive fucking betrayal? Or should I get revenge by posting pics of her on the Internet?

OR, maybe, in a healthy and loving relationship, we just laugh such things off, taking personal responsibility for who we are and continue trusting each other. Did she knowingly pose for pics at Fantasy Fest with her arms around strange men as she was scantily clad? ((EDIT: Scantily, in just small black panties and pasties, in the middle of Duval Street in Key West!) Did she reach under a guys kilt to see if he was wearing underwear, just because his T-shirt dare girls to find out? (He wasn't, and she enjoyed playing with and teasing him!) Did I/Do I write porn stories and post them to LitE? The answer to those questions is "Yes, that's who we are," (Unless one of us is in denial.)

But we would both like to keep such things relatively quiet in our vanilla world.

I can't tell if you're being serious but no, 'getting revenge by posting pics of her on the internet' because she blurted out something she may or may not have known was a secret would definitely make you the bad guy in this scenario.

As for 'divorce the bitch' it kind of sounds like maybe you should already be considering divorce if that's the way you refer to her? Do you actually like your wife? Like, I'm a total stranger & have only read a few of your posts & it comes across like maybe you don't. Maybe that's incorrect - but that's how it's coming across in these few posts (just FYI)

As for 'one of us is in denial'. So what? You're married, you're not each other's therapists. I'm sure neither of you is perfect. You're probably both in denial about certain things at different times to different degrees. Most people are complicated. But your wife, your partner, your friend, your lover has said that when it comes to photos of herself, check before sharing them. That's not a hardship to do. It shouldn't be a problem.

If you want her not to share things like your writing - tell her in the future to check first, neither of you can read each other's mind.

As for fondling someone else - again, neither of you can read each other's mind & it sounds like you both went to the party to let loose, if anything she did made you uncomfortable, tell her, & have a conversation about boundaries before you go to the next party.

 

[Lifestyle66]

I can't tell if you're being serious but no, 'getting revenge by posting pics of her on the internet' because she blurted out something she may or may not have known was a secret would definitely make you the bad guy in this scenario.

As for 'divorce the bitch' it kind of sounds like maybe you should already be considering divorce if that's the way you refer to her? Do you actually like your wife? Like, I'm a total stranger & have only read a few of your posts & it comes across like maybe you don't. Maybe that's incorrect - but that's how it's coming across in these few posts (just FYI)

As for 'one of us is in denial'. So what? You're married, you're not each other's therapists. I'm sure neither of you is perfect. You're probably both in denial about certain things at different times to different degrees. Most people are complicated. But your wife, your partner, your friend, your lover has said that when it comes to photos of herself, check before sharing them. That's not a hardship to do. It shouldn't be a problem.

If you want her not to share things like your writing - tell her in the future to check first, neither of you can read each other's mind.

As for fondling someone else - again, neither of you can read each other's mind & it sounds like you both went to the party to let loose, if anything she did made you uncomfortable, tell her, & have a conversation about boundaries before you go to the next party.

But that's the problem with these forums and such harsh judgements, calling people misogynists, a using terms like betrayal. It's making assumptions about relationships you know nothing about. Even posting pics here, there are those ASSUMING that the wives or girlfriends are clueless and being exploited.

My wife has easy access to my cellphone, tablet computer, all e-mails, and all passwords I use on all sites! She can check my postings here any time she wants.

My referring to my wife as a "bitch" is an endearing term between us. She always replies, "But I'm YOUR bitch!"

My favorite character in my stories, Jan, is patterned off of my wife, and she has read many of those stories and sees herself in Jan. A quick snapshot of her characteristics and attitude would be in "A Different Proposition - 750 Words" "The Barbie girl wants everything.""

But, going back to the pics and postings, it would have been an appropriate payback for her outing my profile ID to our kids and friends (which she KNEW I wasn't sharing with them) if I then posted her face-covered nude pics here! Then the only ones who would associate those anonymous naked female body pics to her would be those people SHE told of my ID!

 

[ShinyCrazyDi]

I think if you're looking at nude photos of your wife as something you can use as 'appropriate payback' whatever that means, you might want to examine why you think of your relationship in those terms.

 

[Lifestyle66]

I think if you're looking at nude photos of your wife as something you can use as 'appropriate payback' whatever that means, you might want to examine why you think of your relationship in those terms.

You're just not paying attention.

If SHE betrayed my trust, what would you think is an appropriate response for her betrayal?


Of course, I didn't post pics of her! Feminists seem to believe that betrayal only works one way, when a man does it to a woman. But how many times does a wife betray her husband's trust? And what should a husband do about it?

I don't keep secrets from my wife, but I made it clear that my fantasy stories on an erotic site were not something I wanted to share with the kids or certain judgmental friends. She would prefer to keep her antics at Fantasy Fest less specific and not with sharing any pics. So, we both have our "sensitivities" about certain personal subjects. Now, after SHE blurted out MY secret, ... I'm asking the question: what's an appropriate response from me?

EDIT: The idea I proposed of posting her risqué Fantasy Fest photos here under my ID would have her feel the repercussions of her own betrayal. The only ones who could associate those pics with her would be those she betrayed my trust to!


And if your suggestion of "forgive and forget her betrayal", then why are you so harshly judging men on their betraying their wives and girlfriends by posting pics? Should those wives and GFs apply that same "forgiveness"?

Or is this a double-standards thingy?


My wife and I are just in a much better place in our relationship.

 

[Greyvision]

I'd like to see more hot older men objectifying themselves on here.

I don't mind being objectified on my photos by women. In fact, I find the role reversal aspect of it quite a turn on. Perhaps it's my submissive side coming out

 

[UtilityCurve]

As I see it, the problem isn't that men see women as sexual objects. The problem is when men see women ONLY as sexual objects, ONLY as sexual playthings and NOT as equals in every other aspect of life.

I read a piece by (I think) a female writer for it in National Review(!)--Annie Hall jokes welcomed (IYKYK)--in which she stated that there was a time and a place (and in her case a partner) where she insisted that she be objectified: In bed with her husband when he was aroused. To paraphrase, that's when she wants not only to put her stuff on display, but to have it well-used to satisfy her man, not that only to keep him from looking elsewhere for what he wants at home, but to feel intoxicatingly sexy for herself.

There are men who can't value a woman for more than her sexual utility. But not many. Most of us are perfectly capable of working side-by-side with attractive women wearing flattering clothes, jewelry, shoes, fragrances, etc., as peers.

And want to fuck them silly after hours.

And do it all over again the following day.

 

[ShinyCrazyDi]

You're just not paying attention.

If SHE betrayed my trust, what would you think is an appropriate response for her betrayal?


Of course, I didn't post pics of her! Feminists seem to believe that betrayal only works one way, when a man does it to a woman. But how many times does a wife betray her husband's trust? And what should a husband do about it?

I don't keep secrets from my wife, but I made it clear that my fantasy stories on an erotic site were not something I wanted to share with the kids or certain judgmental friends. She would prefer to keep her antics at Fantasy Fest less specific and not with sharing any pics. So, we both have our "sensitivities" about certain personal subjects. Now, after SHE blurted out MY secret, ... I'm asking the question: what's an appropriate response from me?

And if your suggestion of "forgive and forget her betrayal", then why are you so harshly judging men on their betraying their wives and girlfriends by posting pics? Should those wives and GFs apply that same "forgiveness"?

Or is this a double-standards thingy?


My wife and I are just in a much better place in our relationship.

Jeepers man. Jeepers.

After blurting out your secret? I'd suggest you guys try & talk it out. Maybe if you sit down & talk together about how you feel you won't feel the need to retaliate. I'm not sure why you're bringing feminism into it but getting a real red-flag vibe. Retaliation? In a loving relationship?

Yeah, it sounds like it sucks that your wife told people, she sounds like a gossip or something. But you're in an adult relationship, why are you so fixated on 'getting revenge'? That's weird. You say you're in a good place in your relationship, so I'm assuming you mean that you both love each other. Would you feel better if you hurt her? She obviously hurt you. Have you talked? Has she apologised? Has she said she understands & that it won't happen again?

As for people who post graphic pictures online against the consent of the subjects - I'm not sure why you're trying to defend that? Regardless of gender? Lots of men are victims of revenge porn too, especially gay men. It's terrible, it can cause life-long issues & trauma, it doesn't matter what these men or women 'did to deserve it'. There's a reason it's a crime in most places. Just don't do it! If you can't think of any other way to feel better after your partner 'betrays' your trust than posting graphic pictures against their consent, I think you might have a pretty massive problem in your relationship, I'd be thinking therapy, separation, maybe even divorce.

 

[Lifestyle66]

Jeepers man. Jeepers.

After blurting out your secret? I'd suggest you guys try & talk it out. Maybe if you sit down & talk together about how you feel you won't feel the need to retaliate. I'm not sure why you're bringing feminism into it but getting a real red-flag vibe. Retaliation? In a loving relationship?

Yeah, it sounds like it sucks that your wife told people, she sounds like a gossip or something. But you're in an adult relationship, why are you so fixated on 'getting revenge'? That's weird. You say you're in a good place in your relationship, so I'm assuming you mean that you both love each other. Would you feel better if you hurt her? She obviously hurt you. Have you talked? Has she apologised? Has she said she understands & that it won't happen again?

As for people who post graphic pictures online against the consent of the subjects - I'm not sure why you're trying to defend that? Regardless of gender? Lots of men are victims of revenge porn too, especially gay men. It's terrible, it can cause life-long issues & trauma, it doesn't matter what these men or women 'did to deserve it'. There's a reason it's a crime in most places. Just don't do it! If you can't think of any other way to feel better after your partner 'betrays' your trust than posting graphic pictures against their consent, I think you might have a pretty massive problem in your relationship, I'd be thinking therapy, separation, maybe even divorce.

But you're not seeing my point or the question.

Betrayal of trust is betrayal of trust, whether it's revealing a story-writing hobby or posting Fantasy Fest photos THOUSANDS of strangers might already have taken and shared.

So, if a wife or girlfriend discovers that her husband or boyfriend posted a pic of her online, do you think that's an unforgivable betrayal of trust? Or should they "talk it out"? Should she get revenge? Or would that just be "weird"? Do they have a massive problem needing therapy, separation or divorce?

It works both ways.

When it comes to defending the pics posted here on LitE, only the person posting the pic knows the source and subject, and whether there's consent or not. Others here saying, "it's wrong" or "That's objectifying her" are just spouting opinions with no knowledge of the facts. It assuming the worst in people they've never met. And I find that a sad way to live.

 

[ShinyCrazyDi]

But you're not seeing my point or the question.

Betrayal of trust is betrayal of trust, whether it's revealing a story-writing hobby or posting Fantasy Fest photos THOUSANDS of strangers might already have taken and shared.

So, if a wife or girlfriend discovers that her husband or boyfriend posted a pic of her online, do you think that's an unforgivable betrayal of trust? Or should they "talk it out"? Should she get revenge? Or would that just be "weird"? Do they have a massive problem needing therapy, separation or divorce?

It works both ways.

When it comes to defending the pics posted here on LitE, only the person posting the pic knows the source and subject, and whether there's consent or not. Others here saying, "it's wrong" or "That's objectifying her" are just spouting opinions with no knowledge of the facts. It assuming the worst in people they've never met. And I find that a sad way to live.

I guess it would depend on the people involved, & a million other factors that could change the context. I don't think I've actually seen anyone on this site say that definitively, a picture they're unfamiliar with is without a person's consent (yet) - but I think there are types of pictures where it's only natural that people question it (so hopefully the person who posted it can assure them that it was consensual or whatever).

But don't post graphic pictures of people, male, female, NB etc without their consent, that's a dick-move. & don't use intimate pictures as ways to 'retaliate' against people.

You seem awfully concerned with partners getting 'revenge' on each other. Seems like your theoretical always circles back to 'revenge'.

 

[canonrfshooter]

However. Lots, LOTS of men post photos of their wives, girlfriends, exes, without their knowledge or consent. There are endless threads about it. Asking strangers to ‘tribute’ their wife. Offering to send photos. Asking to ‘chat about my wife’. There’s one in particular who’s entire lit personality is to share photos of his ‘catholic wife’ that he openly admits were taken without her knowledge and dudes line up for it. Some are less obvious and open about it. I fully believe that at least half of the photos of women in ampics are men with fake accounts posting pictures that were entrusted to them.

When he really admits this, he should be banned from Lit, it is against the TOS.
Such men are sometimes misogynists.
And sometimes pics of women on this forum can just be grabbed from the internet and posted here, I mean, the poster does not know her in person.
Another problem is that we live in an online smartphone culture: everyone has a camera and can take pictures and post them online instantly without regard to the privacy or consent of the person being photographed.

 

[LMWM321]

People who post nude pictures of their wives or girlfriends without consent should consider that they may be putting them in harms way.

If not already then very soon face-recognition software will enable people to match someone's picture from a kink website to their other pictures on the internet, including those where a name is provided like LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, etc.. And after finding her name it takes just a tiny bit of sleuth-work to find at least a work address. ..And from there, she could be followed home.

There are many creeps in this world who are bent on doing harm and the on-line Kink world is certainly no exception. So imagine having to explain to your children that their mothers injury, rape or death - perhaps occurring in her own home - resulted from you posting a nude picture of her in the "Hot Wives Preparing For a Date" thread of a Kink website. And you did it without her knowledge and consent.

Is the risk of such a thing happening high? No, of course it isn't. But it's definitely not zero.

If she choses to take such a risk by posting nude pictures of herself, that's her choice to make...but not his.

 

[KatieDoes]

When he really admits this, he should be banned from Lit, it is against the TOS.
Such men are sometimes misogynists.
And sometimes pics of women on this forum can just be grabbed from the internet and posted here, I mean, the poster does not know her in person.
Another problem is that we live in an online smartphone culture: everyone has a camera and can take pictures and post them online instantly without regard to the privacy or consent of the person being photographed.

He’s had several accounts, so I suspect he’s been banned a few times. The syntax and vernacular are easy to identify, though. So it’s always been obvious that it’s the same person back again.

 

[Erosfan]

It's possible and even likely some of the pics are posted without the woman's knowledge. But there are probably most of them in which the woman gave her consent, without specifying any limitations, either not caring or not thinking of the possibilities.

My wife and I have gone to Key West during Fantasy Fest. And for those who have never been or never heard of that, it's a week-look party of bar hopping and drinking even in the street within a few blocks of a cordoned off area. The costumes range from PRUDE to (not legally) nude body painted people wearing so little as to be scandalous back home.

And while my wife hasn't gone down the street there in the nude, she has worn so little as to be illegal outside of that cordoned off area. I've taken some pictures of her posing (with her consent). But when it comes to showing anyone else those pictures, she insists I must ask her permission on a case-by-case basis.

I've pointed out to her that when I took some of those pictures, she was in the middle of a crowded street with HUNDREDS of other people around her with cellphone cameras, and that she walked around dressed that way for hours, for potentially THOUSANDS of people taking her picture and posting it to Facebook! So, at that point, what the fucks the difference if I show it to one other person? That's HER restricting ME, and not the thousands of others she gave implicit permission to by doing it in public!

If a girl wears a string bikini to a crowded public beach to catch the eye of some boys she wants to attract, she can't bitch about EVERYONE else there who looks!

EDIT: My point is essentially that people need to take some personal responsibility for their own actions and show some common sense if they choose to allow others to take their picture! I have a picture of a woman who I don't even know because she was wearing heavy makeup covering her face. But she was otherwise naked spreading her legs in a bar for a room full of people to take pictures and posing any way anyone asked. When my wife asked her why she was doing that, she shrugged and just said "My husband likes it, and it turns him on. So, I'm doing it for him."

So, question: Do I have her permission to post her pics?

"And while my wife hasn't gone down the street there in the nude, she has worn so little as to be illegal outside of that cordoned off area. I've taken some pictures of her posing (with her consent). But when it comes to showing anyone else those pictures, she insists I must ask her permission on a case-by-case basis."

My late wife and I discussed going to one of these events, many times. We would have had pictures of each other in compromising attire. She would have definitely controlled what I could post or show.

 

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"And while my wife hasn't gone down the street there in the nude, she has worn so little as to be illegal outside of that cordoned off area. I've taken some pictures of her posing (with her consent). But when it comes to showing anyone else those pictures, she insists I must ask her permission on a case-by-case basis."

My late wife and I discussed going to one of these events, many times. We would have had pictures of each other in compromising attire. She would have definitely controlled what I could post or show.

My point is that while my wife insists that I get her permission to show anyone those pics of her at Fantasy Fest, she can't do the same for the thousands of other people who were there and took her picture! She even posed for pictures with other people, knowing they'll show their pictures to other people because they are in the picture!

My wife even stood for a picture on Duval St in Key West with four other men around her, posing with them and smiling at the camera as a friend took their pic. And she was wearing just pasties and panties. I'm sure those five men are all showing that picture to their friends and may even have posted it to some picture sharing site online.

Now how does that work? Can someone post a picture if they are in it, and it happens to have four other people in it? Do those other four people ALL have to give their permission for any one of them to post it? That would drastically limit how many photos we all see on Facebook!

But I ask my wife's permission ... to keep the peace.

BTW: If you ever DO go to Fantasy Fest and dress down with next to nothing as you walk along Duval St, be aware that there are Internet street cams online which anyone in the world can access to see you at some intersections. (So much for "privacy" and "permission". It's ALREADY out there!)

EDIT: Personally, if I knowingly pose for a picture in any position, dressed or undressed, I EXPECT others will see it! I'm giving my permission by deliberately doing it!