Bottoms, is your asshole a cunt or a pussy? Or not?

[SPARTAN047]

Yes, indeed. All these terms are used in many different ways and there does not seem to be any consistent meaning. I notice that my girlfriend does not use ANY of these words to describe herself. It's always transgender woman with the emphasis on the woman!

It's somewhat better to have concrete definitions, but that can lead to rigid ideas.

 

[Escierto]

It's somewhat better to have concrete definitions, but that can lead to rigid ideas.

Well, we don't want rigid ideas but when everyone has a different idea of what a word means, it certainly makes communication more difficult. Maybe the terms are evolving right now?

 

[SPARTAN047]

Well, we don't want rigid ideas but when everyone has a different idea of what a word means, it certainly makes communication more difficult. Maybe the terms are evolving right now?

Hard to say. There are new letters added to the community and new genders every day.

 

[AvgMan9000]

My asshole is my ass, nothing more, nothing less. I'm not femme and I don't want to be feminized.

 

[Bi4Older84]

Then why are you here

Wanting to have gay/bi sex doesn't require any sense of feminization. There are plenty of guys who enjoy the raw maleness of m2m sex, with zero desire for anything feminine. There are other men who love to feel feminine while playing with a guy-there not one monolithic sexual rule for any sort of sex play

 

[Escierto]

Wanting to have gay/bi sex doesn't require any sense of feminization. There are plenty of guys who enjoy the raw maleness of m2m sex, with zero desire for anything feminine. There are other men who love to feel feminine while playing with a guy-there not one monolithic sexual rule for any sort of sex play

You are absolutely right.

 

[artgorden]

I am a man. I am a lesser man giving my body to please a real man.

 

[Samantha47]

I love dirty talk from my top. So if he wants it to be a cunt or a pussy I`m super good with that. Asshole works just as well.

Me too

 

[SPARTAN047]

I am a man. I am a lesser man giving my body to please a real man.

My thoughts exactly!

 

[Escierto]

I have always been a man and I am still a man but while I am sucking cock or being ass fucked, "Man! I Feel Like a Woman!"

 

[AvgMan9000]

My asshole is my ass, nothing more, nothing less. I'm not femme and I don't want to be feminized.

Then why are you here

A question was asked, and I responded. I didn't know that there was a specific answer required. And yes, I am a bottom.

 

[subdudeme13]

Depending on who is using me I have been both, not at the same time. I love a hard vicious pegging.

 

[Escierto]

I refer to my ass as my mangina.

Nice one.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I refer to my ass as my mangina.

Good one, though when I heard that term used it had a very different meaning as an insult!

https://www.dictionary.com/e/slang/mangina/

 

[Spoogecup]

It would seem obvious to me that it would have to be established if you are a gay bottom or a faggot bottom.... Two totally different genres .... I understand that, in a gay sex relationship, the bottom may well be and feel every bit a man as his top counterpart as their relationship has dynamics other than the simple sex act involved.... Pet names for body parts may be used during sex BUT, they are just that...PET names used in fun between 2 partners.... As a faggot, my situation is quite different... He is using me as an outlet, a tool to achieve sexual gratification.... He is also a straight guy , with a live-in girlfriend from time to time.... I understood my role as a "personal faggot" as he explained it to me at the start.... We are NOT equals in this arrangement by any means.... He dictates the scenario so whether my second hole is a pussy, a cunt, a twat or whatever is HIS choosing... He usually refers to it as my pussy, so that's what it is....period..... It's very possible that the next time he could call it my cunt .... If so, it IS my cunt .... I'm his faggot and I love it.....

 

[RNbiguyOH]

For me (personally), if someone calls my ass a pussy or cunt...That is a huge turn off to me. Same thing along the lines of if someone is like "I'm going to make you pregnant." Just because I'm a bottom (virgin, well, outside of my ex wife pegging me..I've never had a real cock in my ass before (still looking for the right one)), doesn't mean I'm a girl, femme, or sissy. I'm a masculine bottom. I may be submissive, but I'm not feminine. I have had several tops that I've chatted with and had GREAT chemistry with (even met one IRL) ruin the chemistry by saying they were going to fuck my man pussy or make me pregnant...totally ruins the mood and turns me off. Again, it is different for each bottom out there..

 

[Phatfeet]

For me (personally), if someone calls my ass a pussy or cunt...That is a huge turn off to me. Same thing along the lines of if someone is like "I'm going to make you pregnant." Just because I'm a bottom (virgin, well, outside of my ex wife pegging me..I've never had a real cock in my ass before (still looking for the right one)), doesn't mean I'm a girl, femme, or sissy. I'm a masculine bottom. I may be submissive, but I'm not feminine. I have had several tops that I've chatted with and had GREAT chemistry with (even met one IRL) ruin the chemistry by saying they were going to fuck my man pussy or make me pregnant...totally ruins the mood and turns me off. Again, it is different for each bottom out there..

I can certainly understand this and empathetic to you regarding it, but at the same time it might be a life-long lesson in frustration if there is no communication between you and the person that said it. It does not even have to be good communication, just some sort of communication, but people often tell you what you think you want to hear. So when a great guy says something you may not like or be into, simply make a little silly grimace and say, "that's really not my thing", which may be enough to negate that kind of interaction. Its one thing if you tell them and they keep doing it, but quite another of you thinking they can read your mind somehow.

Human interaction is very diverse and first time meet-ups are awkward; for you as well as them. It is going to take some communication to figure out how each can achieve what they are looking for. It is unrealistic for you to think a complete stranger is going to know exactly how to treat you, and what to say to you without some feedback.

 

[Escierto]

For me (personally), if someone calls my ass a pussy or cunt...That is a huge turn off to me. Same thing along the lines of if someone is like "I'm going to make you pregnant." Just because I'm a bottom (virgin, well, outside of my ex wife pegging me..I've never had a real cock in my ass before (still looking for the right one)), doesn't mean I'm a girl, femme, or sissy. I'm a masculine bottom. I may be submissive, but I'm not feminine. I have had several tops that I've chatted with and had GREAT chemistry with (even met one IRL) ruin the chemistry by saying they were going to fuck my man pussy or make me pregnant...totally ruins the mood and turns me off. Again, it is different for each bottom out there..

You are definitely right. It is different for each one. Both my girlfriend and I get turned on by the idea that she is making me pregnant even though there is nothing masculine about her except her cock. Who can explain it really?

 

[KinkStevens]

For a long time, I resisted the idea of thinking of my asshole as a cunt or pussy for my partner's cock. I guess it was too much for me to completely accept being the "woman" in our sexual relationship. Of course my girlfriend had told me quite clearly in our earliest conversations, "I will be the man in bed and you will be the woman." What was so hard to understand about that?

I guess it felt threatening to me somehow to acknowledge this fact. One day, I sheepishly confessed to her that I fantasized she was impregnating me when she had her orgasm fucking me. She laughed and said, "I fantasize the exact same thing!"

So I had to admit that even though she might not like the words cunt or pussy, my asshole was providing the same purpose as a female cunt or pussy for her male cock. Since then, I have grown to accept the idea and by now I routinely think of my ass hole as a pussy.

What do other bottoms think? Can you relate to this idea or not? Why?

The thought is sexy

 

[Xisis]

For a long time, I resisted the idea of thinking of my asshole as a cunt or pussy for my partner's cock. I guess it was too much for me to completely accept being the "woman" in our sexual relationship. Of course my girlfriend had told me quite clearly in our earliest conversations, "I will be the man in bed and you will be the woman." What was so hard to understand about that?

I guess it felt threatening to me somehow to acknowledge this fact. One day, I sheepishly confessed to her that I fantasized she was impregnating me when she had her orgasm fucking me. She laughed and said, "I fantasize the exact same thing!"

So I had to admit that even though she might not like the words cunt or pussy, my asshole was providing the same purpose as a female cunt or pussy for her male cock. Since then, I have grown to accept the idea and by now I routinely think of my ass hole as a pussy.

What do other bottoms think? Can you relate to this idea or not? Why?

pussy… much as you’ve noted, i’m the sexual receiver, penetrated. That is female and my penetrator is male. And of course, it excites me to no end thinking i am being impregnated!

 

[Escierto]

pussy… much as you’ve noted, i’m the sexual receiver, penetrated. That is female and my penetrator is male. And of course, it excites me to no end thinking i am being impregnated!

Yeah, me too! My penetrator is a trans woman but her cock is all male.

 

[Escierto]

OMG

This is what she looks like. OMG is right.
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[Swuchro]

It is what my tops wants it to be…ass, hole, boipussy, pussy, cunt, etc

Personally I refer to it as my pussy. It’s tight.

I keep my pussy clean, smooth and pink. My tops appreciate this.

 

[Xisis]

For a long time, I resisted the idea of thinking of my asshole as a cunt or pussy for my partner's cock. I guess it was too much for me to completely accept being the "woman" in our sexual relationship. Of course my girlfriend had told me quite clearly in our earliest conversations, "I will be the man in bed and you will be the woman." What was so hard to understand about that?

I guess it felt threatening to me somehow to acknowledge this fact. One day, I sheepishly confessed to her that I fantasized she was impregnating me when she had her orgasm fucking me. She laughed and said, "I fantasize the exact same thing!"

So I had to admit that even though she might not like the words cunt or pussy, my asshole was providing the same purpose as a female cunt or pussy for her male cock. Since then, I have grown to accept the idea and by now I routinely think of my ass hole as a pussy.

What do other bottoms think? Can you relate to this idea or not? Why?

its a pussy

 

[TrailerHitch]

its a pussy

It's my asshole and my fwb fucks me there. I have no feminine desires, no pregnancy fantasies, I am a man being fucked by a man.

But whatever works for others is fine by me.