Cock Talk

[Biswingers4cock]

Our gym showers are coed ,interesting to say ! Great place to work out !

 

[Endless_Night]

I exclusively speak in innuendo.

Can confirm.


Most of which goes straight over my head.

Hi, you must be new to the world. Most men and many women see everything as sexual. Literally everything.

I keep my head buried in the sand as much as possible?

 

[hotwords229_A]

I keep my head buried in the sand as much as possible?

This could, in fact, be a very dangerous position to be in with all these sexual people walking around!
(This one requires the visual).

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

This could, in fact, be a very dangerous position to be in with all these sexual people walking around!
(This one requires the visual).

"Trapped in the ... Sand?"
Oh no, step son, help me get my head unstuck!
Oh, I will, but first....

Poor enny. She doesn't see it coming.

 

[hotoldrguy]

Our gym showers are coed ,interesting to say ! Great place to work out !

I had no idea there was such a thing!

 

[Endless_Night]

Ha. Ha ha. Ha.

You guys are so funny.

*throws sand and runs*

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Most of which goes straight over my head.

And provides unending delight to the rest of us

I keep my head buried in the sand as much as possible?

I was picturing more you living under a cabbage leaf…

 

[Endless_Night]

I was picturing more you living under a cabbage leaf…

I suspect that would be safer.

 

[Apisto42]

Can confirm.


Most of which goes straight over my head.


I keep my head buried in the sand as much as possible?

I’d like to bury my head somewhere…

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I’d like to bury my head somewhere…

Please elaborate…

 

[Bbl87]

Please elaborate…

I'm going to say perhaps betwixt thine thighs. But maybe I'm projecting there.

 

[Apisto42]

Please elaborate…

Let’s see what Enny can come up with.

 

[Endless_Night]

I’d like to bury my head somewhere…

*laughs nervously*

Please elaborate…

Let’s see what Enny can come up with.

*jets*

 

[Mei5ter]

Teasing and pleasing
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Disclaimer: I’m going to use the word “tease” to imply a friendly, good natured, well intended, fun suggestion by a trusted and/or sexy person. This is one of those times where there is probably a better word to choose, but I can’t think of what it is, so feel free to use whatever word works better for you.

Additional disclaimer: I wanted to use a pic of a Bronie wearing lobster pants, but that pic doesn’t exist . . . or does it?!

Are you teasing with this Bronie talk? If that's what you want, just tell Shining Armor here.

Do you enjoy being teased about a sexual proclivity you have?

In the sense you define it here, where you're using humour to raise a sexual suggestion? Sure, why not? It's not something I particularly like or dislike but it can be fun sometimes?

Have you ever been teased about something sexual that awoke a kink you didn’t know you had?

I was going to say no. But actually i can think of one specific instance where we both raised a particular thing, each said we definitely didn't like it, and then found we both absolutely do.

Do you like to tease your partner about something sexual to get a rise out of them? Do they like to tease you?

I'd say any teasing was more affectionate than to get a rise out of her? Unless it's to provoke a reaction in the bedroom.

Have you ever jokingly suggested something sexual that your partner showed more interest in than you expected? Or they to you?
If you had a kink that you were embarrassed to bring up, would you use teasing as a way to pretend it was a joke, in case it wasn’t received well?

Yeah

When you're invested in a relationship, and want to raise a kink which the other might struggle with, it gives you a get-out if they don't respond well.

Unfortunately, teasing can also harm communication. My kinks matter to me, and there is nothing good about a partner satisfying them reluctantly (unless reluctance is your kink... but who wants their partner to squeal, "No! NO! You mustn't..." ... sorry, lost my train of thought briefly). So yes, teasing reduces the risk of rejection, but it also reduces the chances of things working out, because you aren't communicating what you honestly want and why.

Would you like to be sexually teased (define that that how you will) more or less on Lit? About what?

I think that kind of sexual teasing on Lit is quite interesting to see in the threads. Lit, as I tend to whang on about interminably, is where you don't know people's names, but know what they look like naked, and whether or not they secretly want their partner to dress as a My Little Pony so they can fulfil their ultimate "Tail Up, Rainbow Dash" fantasy. At work, people tease me about my sports team, because that's something they know about me. On Lit, the things people are likely to know about me will be sexual, so that kind of friendly teasing will be about sexual things, even if it isn't intended to be sexual or flirty in itself. Which can be a tricky line to navigate when you aren't sure if people are flirting or teasing.

Do you like to tease your partner physically? Like gentle kisses to the inner thigh while prolonging the inevitable?

What, you mean making her beg and beg and beg, and then pinching or biting so she can't, and telling her she has to start all over again and be a good girl next time, and then maybe the inevitable might be permitted? Of course not. What kind of pervert does that?

 

[hotwords229_A]

It’s all in the behind.

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After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?
Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?
On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?
Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?
What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?
Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?
Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?
If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

It’s all in the behind.

https://64.media.tumblr.com/5f05d70e6cd9319be22483ad069ae1d1/1d56a998ff1e8aca-b1/s500x750/44dfc518fe5f992db94bd1b40c014f009c408e1a.webp

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

I feel like I'm pretty good about it. I don't have an ego that prevents me from acknowledging my own fault or contribution to a relationship's end.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

Really hard to quantity that due to lack of data points and relative youthfulness during them. Mostly, we were just not good matches. One failure was primarily my fault and it haunts me to this day.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

Yep, where it was logical.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

See question #2

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

Boldness, openness. I lacked both. If I can't be honest with my partner, we're doomed.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

One went very well. Extremely emotional.
The other one is not what it was, but something is better than nothing.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Because sharing all of life with a person isn't always best due to personality differences.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

I'm sorry. I'm sorry how it all went, I'm sorry for my youthful ignorance and foolishness. I'm sorry I didn't know who I was then. But, I'm glad we keep in touch now, after almost 2 decades of silence. I want nothing the best for you, and I hope you event reach that.

 

[Endless_Night]

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?
Pretty honest. I am my own worst critic.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?
That is a tough one. I am difficult to deal with, which is something I'm very upfront about. No one ever believes me, which has the tendency to lead to a certain amount of chaos.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?
Nope. I always wonder how people manage that type of thing.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?
I've been thinking on this lately and recidivism leans in certain areas.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?
I need honesty, transparency, and steady communication. Anything resembling duplicity is guaranteed to spike my temper.

I wouldn't necessarily say that it's something I've done wrong, but I've come to realize that my boundaries in that area are unusually rigid. I've learned to be more careful as far as vetting other peoples' standards before becoming involved to any degree./

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?
Yes, but as a friendship. Let's call it a miserable failure.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?
Presumably they are better as friends than lovers?

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?
I clear that type of thing out once the relationship I've finished the post mortem and reached closure. Make whatever apologies I feel are due. It's important to me to take responsibility for my actions and I like definitive endings.

The only downside is that sometimes the other party wants to think you are apologizing for everything that went wrong.

 

[hotwords229_A]

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

I’m fairly honest. And I very much consider as many possibilities as I can.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

I blame me, mostly. Even if it was her, I still chose her, so isn’t it still kind of my fault?

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

Yes. I have no ill will toward anyone I was ever in a relationship with and would be glad to sit down and discuss the past.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

Nope.
I have made the same mistakes multiple times.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

Taking them too seriously. Instead of letting things happen as they should, I tried to make things work that clearly weren’t going to.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

No.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Because that attraction that may have been sexual or passionate turns to an attraction of friendship which is probably all it was ever meant to be, but genitals interfered.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

Can I just touch them one more time for old time’s sake?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

I've never done an after action review on a relationship...
Probably because in my mind relationships never actually end, they simple evolve to a new state. With the exception of one person, I'm still in relationship with every person I've shared a life with in one way or another.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

There's no fault. It honestly doesn't matter.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

Yes.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

No, but I'm also not really collecting partners. I've been married for 16 years and dating my current beau for 18 months. I will say, I'm attracted to certain characteristics and above all else, it's my nervous system that lets me know if someone is worth going in to a relationship with. I have to feel safe.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

Putting their needs above my own.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

No.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

They no longer live together and therefore aren't constantly reminded of how annoying it can be to share a space with someone else.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

I still dream of you

 

[MedicalMuse]

It’s all in the behind.

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After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

Pretty honest. I know where I am to blame and I’m usually harder on my role than the other party.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

I don’t have a lot that have fallen apart. I’m usually friends afterward. I have cut off contact with a couple people completely. But generally there’s no lasting animosity.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

Yep. Higher than average.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

I don’t keep having relationships! lol I just take a looooooong break in between

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

Learning to see things from someone else’s point of view. To objectively look at the situation and see both sides.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship?

Oh yeah.

How did that go?

About how you’d expect . Though, some relationships get better when you’ve had a break and a chance to really see the situation.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Pressure release. When the angst is gone, you can usually find common ground.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

 

[lavendersilk]

It's all in the behind...

Mmmhmmm...

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

Oh! This went a different direction than i thought it would...

I am brutally honest with myself.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

It's pretty equal I would say.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

Not really. I kind of regret that.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

History keeps repeating itself in my case.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

I am currently being honest with myself about what I really want. I can't keep settling for less.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

A friendship turned into more the second go around. It was a bad idea.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Those people are better than me at relationships.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

Why wasn't I enough? Don't get me wrong... I know I am worth it, and enough, but I wonder why they couldn't see that.

 

[Wand3rlust]

It’s all in the behind.

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After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

I try to be. I'm usually much more ready to find reasons why it was all my fault. And I try to be fair. Sometimes, unfairly so.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

it takes 2 to make a relationship work or not. Actions taken as part of that not working is where the fault lies. I believe that. It generally boils down to communication issues.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

On average, yes. But there haven't been loads.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

I don't 'pick' a partner. I usually fall into something that turns uber serious before nice realised it. I'm trying not to do that any more. But the people have all been very different. In my eyes anyway.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

I don't know I've 'fixed' it as such. I'm more self aware. Ready to talk. And I value myself a lot more. I'm an amazing, sexy and ace person. If you dont see that, it is your loss.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

No. Once it's done, it's done.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Everyone is different. Some people need to move onwards through life, leaving behind what has gone before. Some people don't.

Horses for courses.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

Do you see now what you could have had? I know. You're gutted. It's a shame. *shrugs* oh, well.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

It’s all in the behind.

https://64.media.tumblr.com/5f05d70e6cd9319be22483ad069ae1d1/1d56a998ff1e8aca-b1/s500x750/44dfc518fe5f992db94bd1b40c014f009c408e1a.webp

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

Very honest. What’s the point of lying to yourself?

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

Most things are always two sided, both to make it work and to fall apart. Sometimes it skews heavily one way, but does it really matter?

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

I’ve stayed friends with almost all. Some friendships have faded to time and other relationships needed time to let the feelings mellow before platonic friendship was possible. The common theme is that if I cared enough to get involved with someone, then they matter to me. That doesn’t stop just because the type of relationship has changed.

Like @aussiegeekygal mentioned, I similarly consider myself still in relationships with almost all of my past partners. They were intertwined in my life to some extent. I loved them. They helped shape who I am. And I still care a ton about them and value the new relationship we have now.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

I don’t consider any of the relationships I’ve had a mistake. Some were a better fit than others and I’ve learned from each and every one. I take that knowledge with me to be better, make better choices for myself, and be a better partner.

I’m not one for repeatedly putting myself in a scenario that hasn’t worked well for me in the past though. So, very low on the recidivist spectrum.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

I don’t do well with controlling people and am not my best self.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

I have once. It didn’t work out in the long run, but I don’t regret it at all. I would have wondered if it was just timing that got in the way (it wasn’t ) and now I have no “what ifs.”

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Probably lack of self awareness and communication before and during the relationship.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

I still think of you fondly.

 

[SassySheDevil]

It’s all in the behind.



After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

I usually always blame myself.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

again. Me. I'm needy as hell.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

I always hope or try. Obviously, we had a connection. Just isn't smart right away.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

Yes. I try to change my ways. Being needy and jealous are my downfalls.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

Well because of my faults. I just stay away from temptation or relationships now. Friends are different. I don't chase them away.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

Yeah, and it bombed.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

I just assume they are stronger than I am.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

Sorry for being so needy.

 

[Neanderthal247]

It’s all in the behind.

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After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

I'm mostly very honest with myself and accept responsibility for my actions. I take blame and mostly fair about my ex.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

Doesn't matter who, all that matters is trying to make things right. In all my relationships, I played a role in it's downfall.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

Friends rarely, civil 70% of the times

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

I try to choose better and also fix my issues. I don't always react in the right way, I try to correct it, most of the time I do, but it's a constant struggle

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

Do not let past trauma affect your current relationship, be patient and calm. Appreciate what you have, rather than what you don't have. Their happiness is more important than my selfish wants, if you truly love them, you might have to let them go.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

Yes
Obviously didn't work out, but I'd rather try, as opposed to giving up wondering what if

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Because there's no more possessiveness and no more expectations of each other. At that point you want them happy, no matter how much it hurts not being with them.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

I'll keep this to myself, I'd say wayyyyy too much.