Cock Talk

[Apisto42]

Gotta love a good coach.

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Most excellent gif. 2 eggplants and waterspouts for sure.

Speaking of a good coach . . .

Does anyone use “JOI” (jerk off instruction) videos?

Did not know this was a thing. I instinctively took to wanking, wanging, and waggling the walrus like a fat man to street tacos.

Do you find them sexy or just odd?

Unnecessary?

Have you ever made a JOI for a friend?

No, but I might have some time next week to send something like that.

Is there a Jill Off Instruction version of this?

That could be educational but only if it was an actual real life partner as every woman is different.

When you look at porn, do you imagine yourself as the person in the video, or do you feel more voyeuristic?

When I read erotica I do.

Does breaking the fourth wall ruin the fantasy or increase it?

Hm. I’ve had some really hot phone sex, which is breaking the fourth wall in some ways compared to cybering I suppose.

 

[Apisto42]

The breast I could do.

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I went through a scary time in my life where I thought I might never get to see Lily James’ boobs.
But I believed in myself, I worked hard at it and I made it. I’m basically an American hero.

Who did you or do you want to see naked?
Was it worth it?

The hero we needed for reals.

The eldest daughter from Downton Abbey- then I saw the western show she was in and that was rewarding.

 

[Apisto42]

You need me too?

FIFY and yes, always.

 

[SixShooter14]

Gotta love a good coach.

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Speaking of a good coach . . .

Does anyone use “JOI” (jerk off instruction) videos?

I've watched a few.

Do you find them sexy or just odd?

Most are odd. I'm not into edging or femdom. I enjoy the ones that have a more intimate feeling like they are foreplay before the main event.

Have you ever made a JOI for a friend?

I wouldn't say that, but "JOE" is a similar genre I've done some audio for.

Is there a Jill Off Instruction version of this?

Yes, of course. Lol

When you look at porn, do you imagine yourself as the person in the video, or do you feel more voyeuristic?

Yes, I prefer POV type videos

Does breaking the fourth wall ruin the fantasy or increase it?

It depends on the situation. Hearing the guy moan a bit in the background doesn't bother me much. But if he is talking a lot. Or if his voice/moans are 5x louder than the woman's then Ill turn the sound off or just find something else.

 

[Endless_Night]

Who did you or do you want to see naked?
Was it worth it?

This is one of those questions I just don't know how to answer. I am not really motivated to see people naked.

I feel like I should be ashamed for not being interested or something.

Perhaps because it's easy to see men mostly naked? Shirtless guys are not hard to come by. There are body types I like, and I'm very tactile with a sexual partner, but, just to see naked? Not so much.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

The breast I could do.

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I went through a scary time in my life where I thought I might never get to see Lily James’ boobs.

If that gif had a counter for number of times it was allowed to play ...

But I believed in myself, I worked hard at it and I made it. I’m basically an American hero.

Who did you or do you want to see naked?

Unlike my johnson, this list is long and distinguished. I want to see many. So. Fucking. Many.
Kat Dennings, Alexandra Doddario, Felicia Day. Just to name a few.

Was it worth it?

It would be. Touching is better than looking. Looking is better than guessing.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Take my wife, please.

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Every now and then I wander into the Fetish & Sexuality forum. I am surprised how many threads there are about a guy seeing his wife have sex with another man. Especially because, it seems, most of the interest is on the guy’s side of watching the sex and not the wife who would be getting the sex.

This topic interests me from a purely anthropological angle.

Does seeing your partner with another man interest you?
Has your partner ever suggested this in your relationship? What if they did?
Do you want your man to watch you have sex with another man (or woman), does that interest you?
What is it about watching your wife or girlfriend have sex with another dude that guys find erotic?
Would you feel differently if you got to watch her with another woman?
Would you rather have sex with another woman for your guy’s enjoyment instead of another guy?

(I realize not all of these questions apply to everyone, feel free to answer whatever works for you and anything I didn’t think of asking)

 

[hotoldrguy]

(I realize not all of these questions apply to everyone, feel free to answer whatever works for you and anything I didn’t think of asking)
How would you feel about being the other man in this situation?

 

[SixShooter14]

...

Does seeing your partner with another man interest you?

Not at all.

Has your partner ever suggested this in your relationship? What if they did?

No. I'd probably ask why, what is it they are lacking and trying to get from someone else.

What is it about watching your wife or girlfriend have sex with another dude that guys find erotic?

No idea. Their subconscious sub tendencies?

Would you feel differently if you got to watch her with another woman?

That's certainly more fun. Especially if I got to join at some point.

 

[hotwords229_A]

How would you feel about being the other man in this situation?

This seems infinitely better!

 

[Endless_Night]

Does seeing your partner with another man interest you?
Nope.

Has your partner ever suggested this in your relationship? What if they did?
Nope. I would faint from shock. He's about as hetero as it gets.

Do you want your man to watch you have sex with another man (or woman), does that interest you?
Nope. Not a shred of exhibitionism exists in my body.

What is it about watching your wife or girlfriend have sex with another dude that guys find erotic?
Voyeurism? Cuckoldism?

Would you feel differently if you got to watch her with another woman?
Nope. Gender would be a matter of indifference.

Would you rather have sex with another woman for your guy’s enjoyment instead of another guy?
Under the right circumstances, with the right partner, I might consider. If I really felt a strong drive to please. Mostly because that seems to be such a fantasy for guys.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Take my wife, please.

Every now and then I wander into the Fetish & Sexuality forum. I am surprised how many threads there are about a guy seeing his wife have sex with another man. Especially because, it seems, most of the interest is on the guy’s side of watching the sex and not the wife who would be getting the sex.

This topic interests me from a purely anthropological angle.

Does seeing your partner with another man interest you?

Yes. 100%. But she isn't keen on sex, so it would also be a little weird. If she had half the sex drive I do, it would be fun. Wait, is this asking ladies if they'd like to see their guy with a dude? My wife would NOT want that.

Has your partner ever suggested this in your relationship?

I mean, no.

What if they did?

Game on, if this is about my wife banging someone else. If it's me and a dude? Not really my thing.

Do you want your man to watch you have sex with another man (or woman), does that interest you?

Okay, I really don't know how to answer all these this time. No, she doesn't want to see me with a dude, or a dudette. I would gladly watch her with either, but she'd never do so.

What is it about watching your wife or girlfriend have sex with another dude that guys find erotic?

Seeing her pleasure for a different vantage point. Possibly learn a better way to please her. Maybe see that there's something in common between me and the visitor that she doesn't care for. And watching sex in person is just hot.

Would you feel differently if you got to watch her with another woman?

An enthusiastic yes just became an outpouring of abso-fucking-lutely!

Would you rather have sex with another woman for your guy’s enjoyment instead of another guy?

She wants no part of either and would never do either. Not even a little.

(I realize not all of these questions apply to everyone, feel free to answer whatever works for you and anything I didn’t think of asking)

 

[UnquietDreams]

Gotta love a good coach.

Speaking of a good coach . . .

Does anyone use “JOI” (jerk off instruction) videos?

No

Do you find them sexy or just odd?

Just odd.

Have you ever made a JOI for a friend?

Not Jerk Off Instructions, no, but see below.

Is there a Jill Off Instruction version of this?

I have made Jill Off Instructions, or more accurately "guided masturbation" for someone. It was a mixed bag. I started with some relaxation breathing to get focused, and some things to increase sensitization. She thought that part was boring. The rest, me telling her a fantasy and what to do while listening, went perfectly well. It was a one-time experiment, though I have incorporated some ideas into other games. But I would be open to trying it again, or making a new one to publish on Lit. The Dom in me likes to give instructions.

And yes, there is a genre for that.

When you look at porn, do you imagine yourself as the person in the video, or do you feel more voyeuristic?

It depends on the video. Sometimes one, sometimes the other, sometimes both: I enjoy watching women masturbate, and I often fantasize it is a mutual situation.

Does breaking the fourth wall ruin the fantasy or increase it?

I don't remember seeing meta porn that breaks the fourth wall, other than the end of Michael Ninn's Latex, and that was very well incorporated into the story's mythology (not a phrase I often use referring to porn).

 

[Neanderthal247]

Take my wife, please.

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Every now and then I wander into the Fetish & Sexuality forum. I am surprised how many threads there are about a guy seeing his wife have sex with another man. Especially because, it seems, most of the interest is on the guy’s side of watching the sex and not the wife who would be getting the sex.

This topic interests me from a purely anthropological angle.

Does seeing your partner with another man interest you?

Fuck no! She wouldn't be with me, if she wanted that.

Has your partner ever suggested this in your relationship? What if they did?

No woman has brought this up, I'm possessive and they know it would be a problem

Do you want your man to watch you have sex with another man (or woman), does that interest you?

I wouldn't want to watch my woman with anyone else, I don't even care if it's with another woman.
I wouldn't want my lady to watch me have sex with someone else, it would crush her.

What is it about watching your wife or girlfriend pikinghour another woman for your guy’s enjoyment instead of another guy?

I am against her sleeping with anyone, that's not me.

(I realize not all of these questions apply to everyone, feel free to answer whatever works for you and anything I didn’t think of asking)

 

[UnquietDreams]

Does seeing your partner with another man interest you?

No, not when I had a partner.

Has your partner ever suggested this in your relationship? What if they did?

No. If she suggested it, I would schedule a CT. It would be that far out of her orbit.

What is it about watching your wife or girlfriend have sex with another dude that guys find erotic?

I have thought about this. One, you have guys who are into humiliation kink. But there is the other side, the anger side. I remember when I found my girlfriend cheating with the neighbor (who had a wife and newborn kid next door). And I remember that rush of anger and righteous fury. (I wanted to smash in his pretty face and throw him into his apartment without opening the door.) It floods you with endorphins -- fight or flight-- and it can be a horrible but powerful emotional rush. Damaging, but powerful. The human mind is such a screwed up place, I could see how that rush could also include arousal, and how that would be attractive or even addicting.

Would you feel differently if you got to watch her with another woman?

That would also have been outside my ex-wife's orbit. I was involved in multiple partner groupings before, but I was usually the outside party, or we were three uninvolved people. I have never been in a relationship where the other was willing to go outside of our pairing. That said, I wouldn't hate watching my ex with a woman, even if that makes me a hypocrite. I can accept that.

 

[Endless_Night]

I have thought about this. One, you have guys who are into humiliation kink. But there is the other side, the anger side. I remember when I found my girlfriend cheating with the neighbor (who had a wife and newborn kid next door). And I remember that rush of anger and righteous fury. (I wanted to smash in his pretty face and throw him into his apartment without opening the door.) It floods you with endorphins -- fight or flight-- and it can be a horrible but powerful emotional rush. Damaging, but powerful. The human mind is such a screwed up place, I could see how that rush could also include arousal, and how that would be attractive or even addicting.

Interesting answer. Not one that would have occurred to me.

 

[hotwords229_A]

The Alcohol Lick

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Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?
What is your drink of choice?
What kind of drunk are you?
Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?
What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?
Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?
If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?
Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

(answer that last one however you choose—butt sex, same sex, orgy, public sex—surprise us!)

 

[Neanderthal247]

The Alcohol Lick

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Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?

Not anymore, when I was younger I did.

What is your drink of choice?

Now, mostly beer, Guinness

What kind of drunk are you?

If comfortable happy drunk and horn dog

Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?

If in a comfortable setting I begin to be the life of the party and outgoing

What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?

Fuck a woman outside in Time Sqare behind a NYPD Paddy Wagon, during New Year's Eve to New Years.

Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?

Yup, it did not turn out well. I call it Tequila Dick.

If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?

I don't drink much anymore, I don't have anxiety and am very confident

Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

0 drinks, If I want to do something adventurous sex is all the motivation I need

(answer that last one however you choose—butt sex, same sex, orgy, public sex—surprise us!)

Edited to add: Orgy, Public Sex, Vampire sex, NC role play

 

[Endless_Night]

1) Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?
2) What is your drink of choice?
3) What kind of drunk are you?
4) Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?
5) What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?
6) Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?
7) If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?
8) Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

1) No.
2) Not much of a drinker. The tase is unpalatable. I do like a couple of cocktails. French 75 and Kir Royale. I'll also drink very stout stout, but that's about all.
3) Affectionate.
4) Happy
5) Jumped off a second story canopy once when very young. Rather like Louisa in Jane Austin's Persuasion. Unlike Louisa, someone caught me. (Tequila. )
6) *not even going to ask what that is*
7) I . . . don't? If my anxiety is high and it's to do with other people I'm unlikely to want to dim my faculties with alcohol.
8) Alcohol is an unlikely trigger for me.

 

[ImpishSeraph]

The Alcohol Lick

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Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?

Nope

What is your drink of choice?

Don't drink

What kind of drunk are you?

I was always a happy naked one

Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?

silly and horny

What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?

Took picture of a friend's cock was probably the last one

Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?

N/A

If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or
overcoming (minor) social anxieties?

I don't use anything. I find it a thrill to have these anxieties

Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

no drinks to have a MMF

(answer that last one however you choose—butt sex, same sex, orgy, public sex—surprise us!)

 

[cactusjack0584]

Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?
-I don’t drink
What is your drink of choice?
-Same answer
What kind of drunk are you?
-I was a lousy one
Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?
-Don’t remember anymore
What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?
-Probably a lot of things
Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?
-Never had any issues with that
If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?
-I usually just don’t
Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?
-Honestly one, and there’s not many limits after that

 

[Cogan]

The Alcohol Lick

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Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?

When I was young, but not anymore.

What is your drink of choice?

Back in the days beer.
Today I enjoy a lot of different drinks, but not as a sex boost.

What kind of drunk are you?

I'm tha kind that boost the mood I'm in. If I'm happy, that will increase, if I'm sad, horny and so on.

Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?

Silly and horny.

What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?

Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?

Yes I have. No fun at all.

If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?

NA.

Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

Today? Non!

 

[AlwaysDancing]

The Alcohol Lick

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Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex? …

No. Never needed to.

What is your drink of choice?

Wine.

What kind of drunk are you?

I don’t drink enough to get drunk. But I just talk … even more.

Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?
What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?

Silly … horny. Never been drink and lucky so ultimately a little lonely

Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?

Nope.

If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?

This is part of it!! I dunno. This is a non-issue.

Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

I just need a little mutual trust

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

The Alcohol Lick

Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?

Nope. They aren't related in any way.

What is your drink of choice?

Probably craft beer. I like bourbon straight or simple cocktail. I can drink an obscene amount of margaritas. I fact, I can drink an obscene amount of anything. I like all forms of alcohol. I don't metabolize alcohol as much as the normal person, so it takes a staggering amount to effect me.

What kind of drunk are you?

Happy, funny, handsy.

Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?

It makes me calm down a little, enjoy the moment more, and lessens the perpetual depression I live with.

What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?

N/A. I'm almost never drunk, and there's nothing I wouldn't do sober that alcohol would overcome.

Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?

Sort of. It was a combination of that and a medicine I was on. Just gave up after a while.

If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?

Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

No alcohol needed, just a willing participant(s). I'm quite adventurous and want to experience much more than I have.

(answer that last one however you choose—butt sex, same sex, orgy, public sex—surprise us!)

 

[__Nathan1968]

The Alcohol Lick

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Do you (generally) use alcohol to relax before sex?

Relax/eliminate inhibitions, yes

What is your drink of choice?

New England style IPAs, Cabernet, or Rye.

What kind of drunk are you?

Goofy and happy, or sometimes quiet and contemplative

Do a few drinks make you silly, horny, tired, angry, sad, confident, or something else?

Silly and confident.

What crazy sexual thing did you do while drunk?

Hooked up behind a bar. We’ve now been married 33 years.

Have you experienced the horror of Whiskey Dick? How’d that go?

I’ve never had whiskey dick or any other ED issues.

If you are not a drinker, how do you relax before going out, getting laid, and/or overcoming (minor) social anxieties?

N/A

Let’s say you were willingly going to try something sexually adventurous, how many drinks would it take you to . . . (Fill in the blank)?

(answer that last one however you choose—butt sex, same sex, orgy, public sex—surprise us!)

I’m guessing a half dozen or more rye and gingers might get me bold enough to engage in public sex (assuming I really liked the ginger).