A lot of people like it forced. To have someone else take them knowing that they're wanted.
Confidence factors in of course but there's more to it then that. It could be knowing someone else isn't afraid to put you in line. To be trust that it's not a bad thing to do.
So who here likes it forced and, even if you haven't given it much thought, why do you think that is the case? There's reasons even if we're not aware of them. Beyond "being wired that way". Took me a while to figure it out myself so give it some careful thought and see if anything comes from it. It can get in depth with the emotional side of things and how people get hurt in bad ways in the past which is why I like getting put in line and punished in the present. Ironic that. To have had the bad things happen in that area to only be into them in good ways now.
My answer: Long story short people that care tend to hurt us. Sometimes badly. Normally due to fear genially speaking. Which tends to lead to anger. Which can have negative repercussions. When such fear is absent "going along with the bad of things" can bring people closer. Perhaps even more then before even. It's because I done that genially that I got into it in BDSM terms. Goes pretty well in both areas too. Makes me and others happier and builds up trust.
There's also the whole "I know it's best for me and need another to care enough to be rough with me" thing. A hug isn't what's best for me at times. Definitely not all the time. So it's mainly a trust/support thing.
Ok, now what about you lot?
Confidence factors in of course but there's more to it then that. It could be knowing someone else isn't afraid to put you in line. To be trust that it's not a bad thing to do.
So who here likes it forced and, even if you haven't given it much thought, why do you think that is the case? There's reasons even if we're not aware of them. Beyond "being wired that way". Took me a while to figure it out myself so give it some careful thought and see if anything comes from it. It can get in depth with the emotional side of things and how people get hurt in bad ways in the past which is why I like getting put in line and punished in the present. Ironic that. To have had the bad things happen in that area to only be into them in good ways now.
My answer: Long story short people that care tend to hurt us. Sometimes badly. Normally due to fear genially speaking. Which tends to lead to anger. Which can have negative repercussions. When such fear is absent "going along with the bad of things" can bring people closer. Perhaps even more then before even. It's because I done that genially that I got into it in BDSM terms. Goes pretty well in both areas too. Makes me and others happier and builds up trust.
There's also the whole "I know it's best for me and need another to care enough to be rough with me" thing. A hug isn't what's best for me at times. Definitely not all the time. So it's mainly a trust/support thing.
Ok, now what about you lot?