I’m not entirely sure how to ask my question without getting into my whole situation, but I’ll give it a shot. I also wanted to post this here because while this isn’t a hardcore bdsm post, I thought the people here would have the best thoughts on the topic. Besides, being a sub myself I feel more comfortable speaking in this thread…I know that’s kind of weird.
So. What are some activities you can think of that can help relieve anxiety, or even negative thoughts toward sex? I’m taking from small things to pretty much anything you can think of that can help encourage one from a frustrating, stressful state to wanting intimacy…except actual sex. I’d appreciate thoughts of things that don’t have anything to do with actually going inside the vagina. Maybe for you, I’m simply using long sentences for foreplay, but this is a person who isn’t even particularly into that most of the time either. Maybe it’s been a bad thing in the past, and they need help being shown even being touched is a good thing. How can someone help them relax and want it, or how can they help themselves? They love reading about even the really rough stuff, so much bdsm SOUNDS like fun, and they've read about and imagined what feels like every act possible, but when it comes to going to the bed...eh.
I know it’s a vague question, but I always feel bad making people read a lot and was hoping the shorter this was, the more response there’d be This may be too silly to ask anyway, I don’t know. No harm in trying I suppose. So any ideas?
Ps- I know this sounds like something for a sex therapist, but did you know they’re crazy expensive? Okay, I’m going to stop reading over and over again what I wrote before I think it’s stupid enough to delete…lol
So. What are some activities you can think of that can help relieve anxiety, or even negative thoughts toward sex? I’m taking from small things to pretty much anything you can think of that can help encourage one from a frustrating, stressful state to wanting intimacy…except actual sex. I’d appreciate thoughts of things that don’t have anything to do with actually going inside the vagina. Maybe for you, I’m simply using long sentences for foreplay, but this is a person who isn’t even particularly into that most of the time either. Maybe it’s been a bad thing in the past, and they need help being shown even being touched is a good thing. How can someone help them relax and want it, or how can they help themselves? They love reading about even the really rough stuff, so much bdsm SOUNDS like fun, and they've read about and imagined what feels like every act possible, but when it comes to going to the bed...eh.
I know it’s a vague question, but I always feel bad making people read a lot and was hoping the shorter this was, the more response there’d be This may be too silly to ask anyway, I don’t know. No harm in trying I suppose. So any ideas?
Ps- I know this sounds like something for a sex therapist, but did you know they’re crazy expensive? Okay, I’m going to stop reading over and over again what I wrote before I think it’s stupid enough to delete…lol
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