Endless_Night
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I was just reading about this phenomenon here.
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/
It seems that we all put out bids, as the term du jour, and we really just want some manner of reciprocity to validate ourselves and reeastablish the intimate bonds, the kind that might have been frayed when one partner begins spending a lot more time on new projects outside the domestic sphere or neglecting her stalking responsibilities, as an example.
It's been three days - practicing "turning towards" emotional bids on a daily basis rather than "turning away."
The result - completely transformed relationships with my husband and my daughter - both of whom have felt neglected by me in different ways and expressed it with resentment, criticism and rejection.
It only took one day to make a difference.
And the best part - I didn't have to think about "being kind," I only had to think about "turning towards" or "turning away" when the "bid" was presented. It's much easier.
Interesting. I tend to need a lot of personal down time and as a result often "turn away" from bids for my attention.
I'm going to give this a try and see what shakes out.