The Highly Controversial Rape Fantasy

[sereneone4u]

Heh. Hello, you. How's life?

Good.

Hello.

How is life for you?

 

[TwistingEther]

Good.

Hello.

How is life for you?

At the moment, insanely hot. 35 degrees celsius is not conducive to any kind of frantic behaviour. I'm in boxer shorts and still sweating!

Have you been up to anything exciting?

 

[ZenPretzel]

I'm one of the many women who have this fantasy - or a form of it, at least. For me it's definitely about power exchange and control. Not just about giving both up, but very much about the fighting for it. I don't wish to give it up on my own just like that, but I do love not having control. That is what makes it so powerful for me. Having said that, I have found that the same effect can be gained in non-rape scenarios, too. I think calling mine reluctance-fantasies would be most appropriate, since I'm perfectly happy to fear what's being/going to be done to me, but not interested in fearing my partner.

That is probably one of the best descriptions of what I have been looking for. I don't think I could have said it any better.

 

[sereneone4u]

At the moment, insanely hot. 35 degrees celsius is not conducive to any kind of frantic behaviour. I'm in boxer shorts and still sweating!

Have you been up to anything exciting?

Lots of exciting things.

 

[TwistingEther]

Lots of exciting things.

Well colour me intrigued - care to share the details, or do I have to coax them from you?

 

[sereneone4u]

Well colour me intrigued - care to share the details, or do I have to coax them from you?

I have a very delightful Sir that takes me to heights previously unknown and he keeps taking me higher.

 

[TwistingEther]

I have a very delightful Sir that takes me to heights previously unknown and he keeps taking me higher.

That's fantastic news!

 

[sereneone4u]

That's fantastic news!

Why yes, yes it is.

so back to the conversation of the thread.

You did not call me Reni at all.

 

[TwistingEther]

Why yes, yes it is.

so back to the conversation of the thread.

You did not call me Reni at all.

I wasn't sure you wanted me to, love. It's been awhile, after all - and as I remember it, that name was always a precursor for some hot and heavy walls of text.

 

[screwher]

My wife

Many years ago my wife confessed to me one of her fantasies was being raped by another man. As I recall we had some pretty hot sex later that night. Since then I'll often hold my wife's arm down above her head as we screw. This get her pretty hot and responds quite well.

Since then I've masturbated to her fantasy myself.

 

[sereneone4u]

I wasn't sure you wanted me to, love. It's been awhile, after all - and as I remember it, that name was always a precursor for some hot and heavy walls of text.

Call me Reni.

Just no hot and heavy walls of text.

 

[Alanija]

This is very much what I'm interested in. I want my partner to be confident, and sexy, and powerful - and want to compete, and to win. I want her to fight me every step of tbe way, and to love it when I pin her down and tear her clothes from her.

The physical lead-up fight is a wonderful foreplay. For me that fight for control is what shows the mind of the man, since I'm a slender woman and not the strongest one either, even delicate looking perhaps. However I can fight for a long time, I'm agile and I like to give it my all. So if the man is too afraid to accidentally hurt me or not really into it, it'll probably not work out well.

I actually enjoy being weaker than my partner cause that keeps me on my toes and makes me use my brain in combination with my strength. That is far more interesting than just repeatedly trying to tug my hand out of someone's grip.

 

[Alanija]

That is probably one of the best descriptions of what I have been looking for. I don't think I could have said it any better.

Thank you It has taken me quite some experimentation and analysis to figure out what is what for me.

 

[Aphro]

Rape fantasy...I don't know that I have what would be considered a "rape" fantasy per se, because in a real rape, I assume there is violence and pain. In my "rape" fantasies, there is no injury or pain involved. It's more of a, well...I dunno.

I'm taken by a man, I'm told that I will not be hurt, however, he does sexual things to me in spite of my protests, things that usually involve restraining me in some way to prevent my escape, etc...BUT...he does not physically hurt me, and naturally, I end up having a wonderful time that involves several orgasms along the way, and am later released, unharmed, if a little wobbly on my feet.

It's fantasy, and I know it has no similarity to what a real rape would be like. I do not, in any way, shape or form, think I would enjoy being raped in real life.

I hypothesize that perhaps a lot of women enjoy forced sex/rape fantasies because in the fantasy, the control is taken away, and that we are then able to enjoy the sexual encounter without the whole "good girls don't" issue. If he takes you, ostensibly against your will, then it isn't your fault because it is something that has been "done unto" you as opposed to something you went out actively seeking, hence, the burden of guilt is relieved. Just my two cents, I'm sure there are myriad other reasons possible for such fantasies.

 

[sereneone4u]

For me it is not just the overpowering and physical restraint. Of course a man is stronger than me and eventually going to overcome me with that greater strength. However to mentally overpower you too, to make you go from fear and disgust to enjoying it and wanting him to continue. For you to welcome him instead of fighting him every inch of the way or just submitting helplessly.

Well that is just the ultimate power in my opinion.

 

[TwistingEther]

I actually enjoy being weaker than my partner cause that keeps me on my toes and makes me use my brain in combination with my strength. That is far more interesting than just repeatedly trying to tug my hand out of someone's grip.

This is the part that intrigues me as well. I've actually had a delicate wee lass manage to briefly pin me down by managing to kneel across my chest and pin my shoulders with her knees. The fight to regain dominance - and the exultation that I felt as a result of my victory - was utterly incredible.

 

[Yeskatie]

Who had a rape fantasy, I indulged her one night when she was least expecting it. It was both scary and exciting. I wore a ski mask, covered her head with a dark cloth bag and even came inside her, a first for our relationship. Her cries turned to laughter and kisses when I took off the sack and my mask. If you'd like to hear more, pvt me. I'll be happy to share.................

Now that sounds like something I would like any takers?

 

[cfuhrer]

I enjoy rape fantasies, being the victim. That way I have no responsibility, no guilt.

This.

I hypothesize that perhaps a lot of women enjoy forced sex/rape fantasies because in the fantasy, the control is taken away, and that we are then able to enjoy the sexual encounter without the whole "good girls don't" issue. If he takes you, ostensibly against your will, then it isn't your fault because it is something that has been "done unto" you as opposed to something you went out actively seeking, hence, the burden of guilt is relieved. Just my two cents, I'm sure there are myriad other reasons possible for such fantasies.

Because of this.

 

[callmeismael]

Finally (and I don't really expect this question to be answered b/c of the potential backlash) one thing that I am very curious about is: if you have rape fantasies in which you are the perpetrator, and not the victim, what is it about that that turns you on?

I have explored this in roleplay a few times and that has given me fantasies about it, but even in my fantasies I need to have that roleplay bubble around it. I can be aroused by an obviously roleplayed video, and especially by a woman talking about her rape/non-consent fantasies. So what I fantasize about when I go to that territory might be physically very much like rape, but there is an underlying element of consent and desire from my fantasy victim. It's extremely difficult for me to push past that and fantasize about a scenario completely without consent; it's terrifying and not very sexy.

What is sexy about it from a roleplay perspective is that you can push beyond usual boundaries, not just in terms of consent but in other acts and themes as well. And there's some weird turn-on in trying to come up with the cruelest, harshest things to say (especially because I'm super-polite)!

 

[Debbie920]

I have a Question for you all

I accept you are are saying fantasy and not connected with the real world and that you don't condone rape. BUT how would you feel if someone reading all your comments about how much you love rape went and raped someone for real due to reading what's here?

 

[adamsmd]

I do agree with this but then i also think if someone is so weak minding to not understand the difference between reality and fantasy then no guilt should be felt.

I have a Question for you all

I accept you are are saying fantasy and not connected with the real world and that you don't condone rape. BUT how would you feel if someone reading all your comments about how much you love rape went and raped someone for real due to reading what's here?

 

[Debbie920]

I do agree with this but then i also think if someone is so weak minding to not understand the difference between reality and fantasy then no guilt should be felt.

If person A carries out something based on encouragement from person B then person B must take some responsibility for it even if only slight.

 

[adamsmd]

Putting it like that debbie i agree with you completely.
Its ashame some people are so wrapped up in fantasy they truely believe it is reality.

If person A carries out something based on encouragement from person B then person B must take some responsibility for it even if only slight.

 

[Alanija]

If person A carries out something based on encouragement from person B then person B must take some responsibility for it even if only slight.

Every person must take responsibility for their actions. It's always nice to blame someone else, but ultimately that is only an excuse. Everyone has a head on their shoulders that they can and are highly encouraged to use.

Also, if anyone is on this forum and completely misses its point (which is to have a place where people can freely discuss their kinks, likes, fetishes and fantasies without getting considered freaky), then generalizes what one person says to every person he/she meets and disregards all the disclaimers about this being a FANTASY scenario... Then any and every post will be a dangerous influence. What if s/he believes all men and women really get off on their nipples played with? Perhaps crossdress in their spare time or are really into anal, just because enough of people have said they are? Any generalizing will get a person in trouble, no matter the topic.

We already 'have to' beware of what other people think and how they react to us in our daily lives. Do we really need to add that to Lit as well?

 

[Alanija]

I have a Question for you all

I accept you are are saying fantasy and not connected with the real world and that you don't condone rape. BUT how would you feel if someone reading all your comments about how much you love rape went and raped someone for real due to reading what's here?

If all it takes for someone to go out and rape someone unwilling is to read this thread, then all they really needed was an excuse. They could find it anywhere.