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Jack Dawkins
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I like questions 1-6 and would add:
7. What do your parents do? Do you have any brothers or sisters? What's your relationship with them like?
No one's family is perfect, but I find the way a person will introduce them says a lot about their own identity and self esteem. An immaculately clean image (especially after knowing the person a little while) can be a bad sign, but a fiercely disparaging one (especially right at first) is much worse.
8. What are your thoughts on spirituality? Are you religious?
This is something people don't often talk about right up front, but if you have major differences in this area it can be a very big deal later on. Personally, I avoid people who are ardently religious and people who give no thought or have no confidence in their thoughts about spirituality, ethics, etc.
9. Are you just getting over any major life changes or expecting any in the near future?
Death of a family member, divorce, a move, illness, etc. Can help put things into perspective. It's possible that the person you're meeting is not them in their normative state.
10. Are you looking to get married or have children? When?
Does this jive with your plans?
7. What do your parents do? Do you have any brothers or sisters? What's your relationship with them like?
No one's family is perfect, but I find the way a person will introduce them says a lot about their own identity and self esteem. An immaculately clean image (especially after knowing the person a little while) can be a bad sign, but a fiercely disparaging one (especially right at first) is much worse.
8. What are your thoughts on spirituality? Are you religious?
This is something people don't often talk about right up front, but if you have major differences in this area it can be a very big deal later on. Personally, I avoid people who are ardently religious and people who give no thought or have no confidence in their thoughts about spirituality, ethics, etc.
9. Are you just getting over any major life changes or expecting any in the near future?
Death of a family member, divorce, a move, illness, etc. Can help put things into perspective. It's possible that the person you're meeting is not them in their normative state.
10. Are you looking to get married or have children? When?
Does this jive with your plans?