How Do You View Yourself?

[Cwtchseeker]

I’m probably too harsh on myself. I don’t find myself overly attractive, have flaws and imperfections but hey who doesn’t?

I am my own harshest critic. If I get something wrong I blame myself harder than most will.

I also overthink a lot. Sometimes too much.

 

[Dapperdanman67]

How do I view myself? In the mirror.

 

[summer_reine]

Kind but selfish, smart but naive, independent, cowardly, and creative.

 

[sister jenny]

I have a huge problem with how I view myself. At times crippling self hatred, and very low self esteem, and filled with anxiety.
I wish I had some useful advice, but I don’t, it’s a daily struggle. For me what ”works” is therapy and meds. And when I say works, I mean it’s a fucking struggle and some days are better than others.

I wanna like myself so much and I wanna be pretty and funny and cute and sexy. But it’s so fucking hard. I dont like photos of myself and I dont like mirrors.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I have a huge problem with how I view myself. At times crippling self hatred, and very low self esteem, and filled with anxiety.
I wish I had some useful advice, but I don’t, it’s a daily struggle. For me what ”works” is therapy and meds. And when I say works, I mean it’s a fucking struggle and some days are better than others.

For what it's worth, you don't come across like that in lit. What comes across like a spotlight is your honesty...like in your post...

 

[sister jenny]

For what it's worth, you don't come across like that in lit. What comes across like a spotlight is your honesty...like in your post...

Thank you
I always try to be honest, it’s my promise to myself on here.

 

[Neanderthal247]

Equanimous and content.

 

[Neanderthal247]

I have a huge problem with how I view myself. At times crippling self hatred, and very low self esteem, and filled with anxiety.
I wish I had some useful advice, but I don’t, it’s a daily struggle. For me what ”works” is therapy and meds. And when I say works, I mean it’s a fucking struggle and some days are better than others.

I wanna like myself so much and I wanna be pretty and funny and cute and sexy. But it’s so fucking hard. I dont like photos of myself and I dont like mirrors.

Wish this wasn't the case, many people no matter how beautiful and amazing they are, are not happy with how they see themselves. I am sure the world looks differently to you, but what matters most is you keeping up the fight. If you ever need to talk, I'm a great listener. Sincerely rooting for you in this fight within yourself.

 

[AllAmericanMale]

In certain aspects of my life I'm a massive failure. In others, some would say I'm a success.

So, I guess I would categorize myself as average.

 

[sister jenny]

Wish this wasn't the case, many people no matter how beautiful and amazing they are, are not happy with how they see themselves. I am sure the world looks differently to you, but what matters most is you keeping up the fight. If you ever need to talk, I'm a great listener. Sincerely rooting for you in this fight within yourself.

Thank you

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I don't like how I look at all.
I'm too big. Too plain. Too many things that I would magic away if I was able.

I try to be good and kind and empathetic.
I keep an open mind, I'm non judgemental, patient. I want to be a safe place for people because I know how it feels to not have one.

I am curious, love to learn, can be silly or sarcastic - depending on how comfortable I am with someone.

I am awkward though. I don't know how to fit in and I'm not sure I ever have done. I have atrocious mental health struggles and I know that could impact what I think about myself but generally I'm pretty realistic. I know my personality is my best feature but I also know it's not enough to make anyone stay.

That's hard to deal with so I focus on my family, doing the best by my kid, being a good friend. Encouraging and supporting and being someone to depend on.

Is it enough? No. But it's more than a lot of people have so I'm grateful.

 

[trinething1ns]

I’m intelligent, but in ways it just doesn’t matter anymore. I am shockingly stupid in other ways. I’m not, nor have I ever been, physically attractive in my view so I’ve tried to focus on being funny and kind.

I make selfish decisions sometimes, but I don’t really mean to be that way. I look back at some of the things I’ve done and said and it pains my heart.

I’m getting older and I don’t like it. I used to be almost overly optimistic about everything but it gets just a little tougher every day.

 

[Bloodandglitter]

I'm way too harsh on myself. I suffer from low self esteem thanks to my "wonderful" parents.
I just feel awkward about my body. I don't feel skinny enough and think my breasts are too big. Though I have a couple people who tell me they are just fine.

 

[Saltfountain]

I don't like how I look at all.
I'm too big. Too plain. Too many things that I would magic away if I was able.

I try to be good and kind and empathetic.
I keep an open mind, I'm non judgemental, patient. I want to be a safe place for people because I know how it feels to not have one.

I am curious, love to learn, can be silly or sarcastic - depending on how comfortable I am with someone.

I am awkward though. I don't know how to fit in and I'm not sure I ever have done. I have atrocious mental health struggles and I know that could impact what I think about myself but generally I'm pretty realistic. I know my personality is my best feature but I also know it's not enough to make anyone stay.

That's hard to deal with so I focus on my family, doing the best by my kid, being a good friend. Encouraging and supporting and being someone to depend on.

Is it enough? No. But it's more than a lot of people have so I'm grateful.

You're one of the nicest, most trustworthy people on here.

You say you're curious and love to learn. I see someone who is wise and caring. And someone who still has optimism and hope at their core no matter how often someone tries to extinguish that flame.

You're someone I'm proud to count as a friend

 

[Saltfountain]

I'm way too harsh on myself. I suffer from low self esteem thanks to my "wonderful" parents.
I just feel awkward about my body. I don't feel skinny enough and think my breasts are too big. Though I have a couple people who tell me they are just fine.

You don't feel skinny enough for whom?

If the answer is you, then that's one thing. If the answer is for anyone else, then that's their problem, not yours.

Your bio says you're attached, so someone must feel you're sexy and worthwhile. They won't be the only one. But the secret is to accept who you are, and that you are enough.

Don't get me wrong, everyone has things they wish to change (even, or maybe especially your plastic coworker) but make the changes for you, not for anyone else.

 

[Bloodandglitter]

You don't feel skinny enough for whom?

If the answer is you, then that's one thing. If the answer is for anyone else, then that's their problem, not yours.

Your bio says you're attached, so someone must feel you're sexy and worthwhile. They won't be the only one. But the secret is to accept who you are, and that you are enough.

Don't get me wrong, everyone has things they wish to change (even, or maybe especially your plastic coworker) but make the changes for you, not for anyone else.

It's pretty much who doesn't think I'm skinny enough. I am slowly trying to rid myself of all the negativity that I was brought up with. It's a long journey but I think I will get there eventually

 

[Bassytian]

I am a very solitary and independent individual irl, which tends to put some people off, but it helps me filter out people I don't need to be talking to anyway. I do also tend to be aloof, which I need to fix.

I struggle with massive self-esteem issues, which I'm working on. A lot of it comes from comparing myself to other men who have success with dating/sex (I have had very little) and I let that nearly destroy me. It feels like I would have to become a completely different person to have any success in that regard. But I would rather be authentic and die without ever again knowing romantic/sexual intimacy than act like someone else for any reason.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

I generally view myself pretty positively, but one thing I struggle with sometimes is other people's perception of me. I've had people (after getting to know me) confess that they initially thought I was standoffish/aloof because of the way I look and how reserved I typically am with new people. I've questioned whether or not I am standoffish in general, or what about myself gives off that vibe.

I've also had to deal with people's expectation of how I'm supposed to act. I'm an introvert at heart, and a huge fucking nerd, so I feel more at home setting up a game night with a group of friends or watching anime vs at some party/function. I prefer small-group interactions, but I've had people give me the shocked Pikachu face when I state that I'm an introvert, and its because I'm not a shy person, which people mistakenly use interchangeably with introvert. I can small talk with the best of them, but I absolutely hate it and want to immediately go home and nap for about 2-3 business days afterwards.

Other people's expectations can be a drag, especially when they begin affecting how you perceive yourself, but I always try to maintain a healthy balance between understanding that everyone perceives things differently, and that I shouldn't take certain things to heart.

 

[munch2much]

I've also had to deal with people's expectation of how I'm supposed to act. I'm an introvert at heart, and a huge fucking nerd, so I feel more at home setting up a game night with a group of friends or watching anime vs at some party/function. I prefer small-group interactions, but I've had people give me the shocked Pikachu face when I state that I'm an introvert, and its because I'm not a shy person, which people mistakenly use interchangeably with introvert. I can small talk with the best of them, but I absolutely hate it and want to immediately go home and nap for about 2-3 business days afterwards.

This bit sounded similar to me.
Only I love meeting up with THE RIGHT people. One on one is ideal. The bigger the group the more likely I am to leave and seize some quiet time.
And it seams I’m very choosy about who I hang with.
I have a love of well meaning, positive people and that is what I seek to be myself.
I get lots of positive feedback from people but am always surprised/touched when I hear it.
I am somewhat nerdy. I have a very curious mind and have done a lot of both formal and informal learning as an adult.
I have a twinkle in my eye, can be cheeky, and am sometimes drawn to situations others may say no to.
I find it easy to talk to strangers and am very good at shaping my life.
Someone once said life is easy for me and that I’m always making people laugh etc. But no life isn’t always easy? I’m very likely to be judging myself and overthinking. And I do LOTS of things on my own. It amazes me how it opens up fun possibilities and interactions and randomness. I love a bit of randomness!

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

I think I'm a hot mess - a constantly changing intro/extrovert. There are times where I feel alive when in a group setting and other times where I just want to become a recluse with a good book and a glass of wine.

I didn't have the most idyllic upbringing and I struggled to break out of my shell as a young adult. But work/career necessitated learning how to grow thick skin and get out there. Now, in my mid-40s, I feel I have somewhat of a solid handle about when and where I can pull back vs. engaging.

To sum it up, I see myself as still a work in progress!

 

[munch2much]

I think I'm a hot mess - a constantly changing intro/extrovert. There are times where I feel alive when in a group setting and other times where I just want to become a recluse with a good book and a glass of wine.

I didn't have the most idyllic upbringing and I struggled to break out of my shell as a young adult. But work/career necessitated learning how to grow thick skin and get out there. Now, in my mid-40s, I feel I have somewhat of a solid handle about when and where I can pull back vs. engaging.

To sum it up, I see myself as still a work in progress!

I think this is a common feeling. More so than people realise as onlookers.

 

[SusanHoward]

I think I am a very fortunate woman.