How do I have an intense orgasm?

[FuriousCurious]

I'm a mid thirties woman, and though I've had really great orgasms, I feel like there's more out there. When I get off, it's always just a few seconds of pleasure and then it's over. I've tried having multiple orgasms, but it doesn't happen for me. If I can manage to have a second one, it's never very strong. My husband tries, but he doesn't really make me cum. If I get off during sex, it's all because of the work I've put into it. My best orgasms are alone. I've come up with some really creative ways of masturbating and I love the build up. Reading stories, watching porn or chatting dirty with a stranger always makes me wet and hot, but when I finally let myself cum, it's just disappointing. Sometimes I'll walk around all day while doing my errands and such, all the while getting more and more turned on by leaning forward and giving a stranger a glimpse of my tits or subtly spreading my legs and letting them see my pussy. Like I said, the build up from this is delicious. I'll be so hot that I can barely things straight, but as soon as I let go and orgasm, it doesn't live up to what I was expecting. So, I guess I'd just like to know if anybody has any tips on how to make my orgasms more intense and last longer. I'd really love to be able to have multiple or learn to make myself squirt.

 

[Privates1stClass]

My wife didn't orgasm through normal PIV sex, so I purchased a vibrator and used it on her to give her orgasms during foreplay until she begged me to quit. We wore out a couple vibrators, but it was worth it for her--she always told me I'd satisfied her sexual needs. We found the Hitachi Magic Wand was the vibrator which gave her the most pleasure.

I think the Magic Wand will make your orgasms more intense, and when they are all over, you'll feel exhausted--but very happy.

 

[Travler99921]

Giving me a hand

Either with a man or a woman my most intense orgasms came from what i call assisted masturbation. I would give my partner an orgasm and then I would masturbate with their help. They would stroke me at first. Then I would take over while they would play with my balls. My wife also like to play with my nipples.

 

[VitoCorleone]

Float like a butterfly

I find that after giving oral to a woman for several minutes that if I flutter my tongue lightly over their clit the orgasm will be intense, sometimes including a squirt. By pressing my mouth around the clit, I can feel the clit get hard in my mouth. Just barely touch that clit when that tongue is quickly fluttering over it! Never failed me...or more importantly...any woman, yet!

 

[Lovethefox]

I'm a mid thirties woman, and though I've had really great orgasms, I feel like there's more out there. When I get off, it's always just a few seconds of pleasure and then it's over. I've tried having multiple orgasms, but it doesn't happen for me. If I can manage to have a second one, it's never very strong. My husband tries, but he doesn't really make me cum. If I get off during sex, it's all because of the work I've put into it. My best orgasms are alone. I've come up with some really creative ways of masturbating and I love the build up. Reading stories, watching porn or chatting dirty with a stranger always makes me wet and hot, but when I finally let myself cum, it's just disappointing. Sometimes I'll walk around all day while doing my errands and such, all the while getting more and more turned on by leaning forward and giving a stranger a glimpse of my tits or subtly spreading my legs and letting them see my pussy. Like I said, the build up from this is delicious. I'll be so hot that I can barely things straight, but as soon as I let go and orgasm, it doesn't live up to what I was expecting. So, I guess I'd just like to know if anybody has any tips on how to make my orgasms more intense and last longer. I'd really love to be able to have multiple or learn to make myself squirt.

You should try using a clitoris pump.
My wife and I tried one and she just loves how sensitive it makes her. I pump her up for a few minutes and then go down on her.
I have never seen her cum so hard and so many times repeatedly.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.refinery29.com/amp/en-us/clit-pump-sex-toy

 

[BadAmy]

You should try using a clitoris pump.
My wife and I tried one and she just loves how sensitive it makes her. I pump her up for a few minutes and then go down on her.
I have never seen her cum so hard and so many times repeatedly.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.refinery29.com/amp/en-us/clit-pump-sex-toy

aaaaaand add to cart.

 

[Buscando]

Sounds a bit complex

I say this not at all in a pejorative way, but as an observational comment, which is that it would appear to perhaps be a control issue, both with respect to yourself and others.
By that I mean that you may find it very difficult to relinquish control of yourself in response to stimulation by others or yourself to a degree that will allow for a truly satisfying orgasm. I say this partly because you seem to become the most aroused by instigating situations where you are completely in control, since the other person(s) involved remains only an observer from some distance.
Paradoxically, while an orgasm will usually provide great relief from stress, whether generated from within or without, that same stress can make achieving an orgasm difficult to impossible - or even getting into the mood for sex at all.
My first suggestion, then, would be preparation; cocktails, hot bath, music, extensive foreplay and most of all, some nice weed, preferably a sativa. However, if in fact control is the base of the problem, you'll probably have a tough time giving yourself over to the effects of either the first or last item in the above list.
If you have not experienced sex while high, though, I strongly encourage you to do so, since one of the nicest results is the incredibly strong and long-lasting orgasms produced in both males and females, and I believe a big part of that is the result of being so much more relaxed, mentally and physically, while at the same time having all the senses greatly magnified. There are a number of threads here that discuss this very subject, and you may find them helpful.
Best wishes for better sex.

 

[JamieJ424]

It sounds like maybe you’re rushing it. The long teasing buildup is the right track, but it sounds like when you finally get to open your legs and get down to business, it’s a sprint to the finish line.

Go slow. Get close and stop and let it fade a bit and then go again. Do that a few times. And then when the climax is for real happening...slow down. Slower and slower so when it finally hits your hardly moving.

Hopefully that will help. I realize I’m a man giving a woman masturbation advice, and it sounds bad, so take it as you like.

 

[OnaTangent]

Woman or man...I think the advice to take your time and savor masturbation is always sage!

 

[quietlylooking]

A few ideas:

1. Try to go for a while (multiple days or longer) without an orgasm.
2. Alcohol may not help. And certain antidepressants will really blunt things (but this is not a good reason to discontinue them). Weed may or may not help. Caffeine probably will. Oddly, pseudoephedrine ("real" Sudafed, not phenylephrine) has an effect on me.
3. I'm not a fan of the Magic Wand for really high-quality orgasms, personally. I come really fast with them, but while the stimulation from the MW is really intense, the orgasms are generally really short and not as satisfying (even if I can have several in a row).
4. You might try using something to stimulate your G-spot area while you also also stimulate your clit. This gives me very, very satisfying orgasms, much to my surprise (I was one who never really believed in the G-spot).

 

[goodolboy]

Get Stoned!

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I start by using a good dildo contoured for my body..I insert it and play with my nipples..I fuck my pussy with the dildo for a bit, until I'm really wet and really close to cumming.. Then I turn on my magic wand vibe, and put it on my clit, I keep it running on my clit while fucking my pussy... Until I can't handle the build up, and I cum multiple times..
The key for me is the dildo/vibe combo

 

[hedonisatlurist]

I'm a mid thirties woman, and though I've had really great orgasms, I feel like there's more out there. When I get off, it's always just a few seconds of pleasure and then it's over. I've tried having multiple orgasms, but it doesn't happen for me. If I can manage to have a second one, it's never very strong. My husband tries, but he doesn't really make me cum. If I get off during sex, it's all because of the work I've put into it. My best orgasms are alone. I've come up with some really creative ways of masturbating and I love the build up. Reading stories, watching porn or chatting dirty with a stranger always makes me wet and hot, but when I finally let myself cum, it's just disappointing. Sometimes I'll walk around all day while doing my errands and such, all the while getting more and more turned on by leaning forward and giving a stranger a glimpse of my tits or subtly spreading my legs and letting them see my pussy. Like I said, the build up from this is delicious. I'll be so hot that I can barely things straight, but as soon as I let go and orgasm, it doesn't live up to what I was expecting. So, I guess I'd just like to know if anybody has any tips on how to make my orgasms more intense and last longer. I'd really love to be able to have multiple or learn to make myself squirt.

its a matter of intense masturbation, rubbing harder and faster, not stopping even when you cum. enjoy

 

[hedonisatlurist]

Woman or man...I think the advice to take your time and savor masturbation is always sage!

yes the longer the better

 

[Rexjohnsoninteracial]

Best way to have an intense orgasm is for you or your partner to insert & rotate fingers at your g-spot along the vaginal wall & firmly but gently rub your clit with the thumb. Talking from experience, hope this helps

 

[hedonisatlurist]

but I don't have a G SPOT

 

[hedonisatlurist]

males have the prostrate gland, try rubbing it , if you don't know where is please ask

 

[Digrow4]

I feel like the first one obvious. Use a vibrator to get more intense orgasms. My favourite is the satifyer whenever I cum with it I have to grip the bed for support because the orgasm so strong. You also have to get to know your body. Start experimenting different speeds, insert fingers, use different toys. Just find what is best for YOU and what will make YOU orgasm the hardest.

 

[lindasuebt]

I'm a mid thirties woman, and though I've had really great orgasms, I feel like there's more out there. When I get off, it's always just a few seconds of pleasure and then it's over. I've tried having multiple orgasms, but it doesn't happen for me. If I can manage to have a second one, it's never very strong. My husband tries, but he doesn't really make me cum. If I get off during sex, it's all because of the work I've put into it. My best orgasms are alone. I've come up with some really creative ways of masturbating and I love the build up. Reading stories, watching porn or chatting dirty with a stranger always makes me wet and hot, but when I finally let myself cum, it's just disappointing. Sometimes I'll walk around all day while doing my errands and such, all the while getting more and more turned on by leaning forward and giving a stranger a glimpse of my tits or subtly spreading my legs and letting them see my pussy. Like I said, the build up from this is delicious. I'll be so hot that I can barely things straight, but as soon as I let go and orgasm, it doesn't live up to what I was expecting. So, I guess I'd just like to know if anybody has any tips on how to make my orgasms more intense and last longer. I'd really love to be able to have multiple or learn to make myself squirt.

It's all about building the excitement. It's difficult for a woman to enjoy a quick fuck. Lots of kissing and touching gets the juices flowing. Oral and mutual masturbation to really warm up. Then slow, sensuous sex. I'm lucky that my hubby comes too soon (don't they all?) but recovers quite quickly and is ready to go again, so then I get long lasting pleasure that usually leads to me having multiple organsms.

 

[Paperslut]

I'm a mid thirties woman, and though I've had really great orgasms, I feel like there's more out there. When I get off, it's always just a few seconds of pleasure and then it's over. I've tried having multiple orgasms, but it doesn't happen for me. If I can manage to have a second one, it's never very strong. My husband tries, but he doesn't really make me cum. If I get off during sex, it's all because of the work I've put into it. My best orgasms are alone. I've come up with some really creative ways of masturbating and I love the build up. Reading stories, watching porn or chatting dirty with a stranger always makes me wet and hot, but when I finally let myself cum, it's just disappointing. Sometimes I'll walk around all day while doing my errands and such, all the while getting more and more turned on by leaning forward and giving a stranger a glimpse of my tits or subtly spreading my legs and letting them see my pussy. Like I said, the build up from this is delicious. I'll be so hot that I can barely things straight, but as soon as I let go and orgasm, it doesn't live up to what I was expecting. So, I guess I'd just like to know if anybody has any tips on how to make my orgasms more intense and last longer. I'd really love to be able to have multiple or learn to make myself squirt.

Alright I’m late to the thread but had to share.

A few months ago, I had been super horny all day and decided to use my medium sized dildo that night. I remember pushing really deep at some point and hitting this incredible spot that sent shivers down my spine. I kept fucking myself in short, shallow and hard strokes but still keeping the dildo super deep. In a few minutes I had the most explosive orgasm I have ever had!

Apparently this is called an A-spot orgasm. It’s the anterior fornex and it’s a spot that’s created when your uterus tents and rises to expose this spot deep within you. It worked best for me with a medium sized dildo thst fit in that little pocket. Please ladies do a bit of research and explore. It is totally worth it!

 

[MichelleD55]

Despite the name Michelle here, I am a guy. A CD but still a guy most of the time.
I agree with taking your time.
My wife says she has the most intense orgasms when we have an extended play time. Up to about 1 1/2 hour.
Usually my wife and I start out with foot/shoulder/back/butt massage then slowly move to more of what we used to call making out when we were young. Probably 10 to 20 minutes and sometimes longer.
Then to the bed/couch/backseat of the car, etc. and start removing some clothes and more intimate touching.
Eventually I more to her vagina and work with fingers, mouth, toys, vibe and SLOWLY bring up the intensity, but only for a brief time and let her settle back some, then start up again. Generally after 30 to 40 minutes of this in the bedroom I bring her off the first time.
Now I slow down and reduce any movement to very little or none for a few minutes and slowly start building her stimulation again and after a while I then move to PIV sex. I keep that going and with a vibe on her clit we generally get her to climax again.
I try to hang on as best I can at this time and slowly start moving inside her again after a couple minutes.
A bit more and I get off, but stay there as best I can.
Often I am able to cuddle a bit and with some more gentle moves and the help of a vibe I can help her finish a third time.
After all this she is usually in good spirits for a while.

 

[xPhantomKissX]

There is a wonderful, albeit expensive (but worth every penny), solution to your problem.

The “womanizer” is a clitoral stimulation toy that uses air and vibration to achieve “life changing orgasms”.

The quote is from my current partner (who had difficulty her entire life achieving anything but a mild, one-off orgasm of sorts, that very little intensity.

The toy (which ranges from a $99 model up to a $199 models), has a soft, silicone attachment that fits snuggly over the clit.

The vibrating air creates a vacuum and draws the clit into the suction area and the pulsing air currents also create vibrations - at varying intensity levels.

Imagine a person kissing your clit with pursed lips, while sucking your clit into their mouth they had a vibrator on their tongue to tease it with.

While the Womanizer alone is amazing for intense orgasms, having your partner provide “g spot” stimulation while using the womanizer will lead from one intense orgasm to another, in faster frequency, and higher intensity until (10 or 15 later) you just lay on the bed writhing around with spasms from sensory overload.

At this point, you may punch your parter square in the face of they touch your clit just one more time. Really. I’m not joking.

As for the “g spot”, the clitoris is much larger than the small bump we all identify with.

The entire clitoris structure is the clit we know with long extended wings on the sides and two large “ball sacks” that extend down along, but behind your labia.

Men get it stuck in their head that they are searching for a “rough patch” in the upper and forward part of the vaginal wall when they are looking for the “g-spot.”

This is a grave misconception. There are many areas that can be stimulated in the upper, forward part of the vagina.

The important thing is that the “urethra” tube passes up to the bladder through that flesh.

Pushing two fingers directly in, up and curling them forward, will end up pushing the urethra and surrounding flesh into the much deeper, larger clitoral structure.

Pressure on the urethra can cause discomfort. Feeling of a “need to pee” and can cause “squirting” which is actually just sexual incontinence in this case.

If you have an orgasm so intense you pee anyway - well, hooray! That’s pretty sexy too. But if you’re uptight about it and don’t want to pee, you can avoid that feeling easily.

When your partner inserts two fingers, spread them so they would be on either side of the urethra tube. Then, reaching up, he’s basically trying to push on the “backside” of your clit, from within you.

There is a very fine balance on what is enough pressure and what is too much.

The nerve endings in your clit get to it from within your body. Pushing too hard will cause discomfort. Pushing to light will not stimulate the “inner clit.”

Your partner will be pushing your vaginal wall a good 2 inches or me to touch “the back of your clit.”

Be verbal with instructions, deeper, softer, harder, up more, down more. It’s easy enough to give sexy instructions.

All that said, if you pop on a womanizer and he curls two fingers up to the right spot, I fully suspect you will find the magic you are looking for.

 

[Bighammerfucker]

I'm a mid thirties woman, and though I've had really great orgasms, I feel like there's more out there. When I get off, it's always just a few seconds of pleasure and then it's over. I've tried having multiple orgasms, but it doesn't happen for me. If I can manage to have a second one, it's never very strong. My husband tries, but he doesn't really make me cum. If I get off during sex, it's all because of the work I've put into it. My best orgasms are alone. I've come up with some really creative ways of masturbating and I love the build up. Reading stories, watching porn or chatting dirty with a stranger always makes me wet and hot, but when I finally let myself cum, it's just disappointing. Sometimes I'll walk around all day while doing my errands and such, all the while getting more and more turned on by leaning forward and giving a stranger a glimpse of my tits or subtly spreading my legs and letting them see my pussy. Like I said, the build up from this is delicious. I'll be so hot that I can barely things straight, but as soon as I let go and orgasm, it doesn't live up to what I was expecting. So, I guess I'd just like to know if anybody has any tips on how to make my orgasms more intense and last longer. I'd really love to be able to have multiple or learn to make myself squirt.

I don’t think there’s anything abnormal or bad at all for enjoying it most on your own!

I have always sorta had a hard time reaching orgasm too. When I was younger I could not get a multiple and it was always lacklustre.

I did eventually learn. I don’t know how you masturbate, you didn’t say, and not everyone’s the same. But what changed for me personally was, for one, I found things that aroused me better (doesn’t sound like a problem for you, though). I also started to use my gspot more (though at the time I didn’t know that’s what I was doing).

I think it was more a matter of engaging in fantasy and masturbation more, to the point where I was always horny. But if I had never started with the g spot I don’t think the orgasm would ever have got multiple or more intense. I still can’t have multiple without the g spot.

Usually I need some kind of rigid toy for the g spot, that feels best. I tend to like bigger toys although if it’s too big then it will hurt which is fun in a different way but I won’t cum hard. I also won’t cum if I get overstimulated or if I’m too aroused. So getting overexcited and going balls to the wall is great but if I want to cum it isn’t the key (unless it’s forced orgasm which is a different matter). It needs to be a bit slower and steadier. I need to be able to stay mostly relaxed.

When that’s all in play, I’ll cum hard. I feel like once you start to have more of that reaction, it does become default. For me, I usually have to stop the stimulation when I orgasm. After I’m done I can continue with the g spot only, never the clit. The g spot’s hypersensitivity is different than the clit. Intense but not overstimulating. I learned to cum multiple by doing that, then when I feel “ready” to again, I’ll stop, and just rub on or even press on the clit for a second, and I’ll cum again. In best case scenario I could continue that up to maybe 6 times, but by then I’m usually so fried there isn’t any point in continuing. There becomes a point where more orgasms just aren’t worth the exhaustion for me, I’m done and happy to stop and start to remember where the fuck I am again.