Stella_Omega
No Gentleman
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- Jul 14, 2005
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Beautiful,baby.Woo Hoo. Was that a breakthru?
Again, I was not trying to label anyone, just trying to learn the proper adjectives needed to accurately describe various characteristics of a persona that is related to B/d, D/s and SM?
The end goal for me is to identify what this dark little monster inside me is, so I know how to feed it properly, in hopes that I can live in harmony with it, and not be eaten alive by it. (A little over-dramatic, just because)...
Here's what I learned on this journey...
1. Labels Suck.
2. Even if they didn't suck there aren't enough Labels to describe the number of Different people in the world.
3. There never were enough words to properly describe the individual feeling of a person. Whether they are falling in love for the first time, or submitting to their partner for the first time. In either case, it's a beautiful thang.
Not quite. BDSM has always contained D/s but it didn't use to be the default, the automatic assumption, the only words far too many people know.4. BDSM today, contains D/s, but didn't use to, and some people don't like the new definition so we should be clear as to whether we are talking about B/d, S/m or D/s and skip the entire acronym to start with.
Au contraire. Top/bottom describe the leading/following roles in ALL BDSM activities.5. Top/bottom and Master/slave are still confusing, but I plan to never use the terms because they can be adequately described using various levels of B/d, D/s and/or SM.
Dom/sub, Master/slave, sadist/masochist, these words describe top/bottom roles for (very important and very much overlapping) varieties of BDSM activities.
Or more accurately, top partners who top in many different ways...6. AND, Yes, there are an infinite number of different Dominant Partners who Dominate in many different ways. I can tell that by the different posts in this thread alone.
However I admit that not so many people will know what you're talking about as will if you say "dominant."
There should be cookies and milk after this class is over-- or steak and beer. Possibly blowjobs. I know I could use one...