Brave Maximus
Returned White Knight
- Joined
- Jan 16, 2004
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Good morning!
So, anyone who's been around here for a while, knows I post about looking for an Asian or Desi girl to talk with. This invariably ends with me explaining why, how no, it's not a fetish - I just grew up with a lot of Asian and Desi friends, etc.
And I get it... there are a lot of people out there who fetishize these groups... it's why we don't see a lot of public traction on threads like this. It's just not worth it for women (and men) of these ethnicities to put themselves out in public like that. Which sucks. But I've had a lot of friends on here tell me that when they post, they're flooded with DM's for months - most of them unpleasant.
But I also realized that... I'm not being completely... "honest" (not sure if that's the right word, but I'll run with it).
Asian is a big term - and using it is a bit of a disservice - but it's also an easier blanket (which is not always a good thing). Desi is also a comfortable blanket term.... but also inaccurate, and both do help to foster fetishization (followed by the "here's why it's not... for me comments).
So, for me: I grew up with Japanese, South Korean and Chinese friends. Particularly Hong Kong, and Southern Coastal China. Though I have, in the past few years, met a lot of good friends from Northern China of a few different ethnic groups. I've also learned a lot about why that matters. I know a bit about the history and culture of Singapore, Taiwan, Thailand, and Laos. I've also been very lucky to have a lot of Filipino friends who... honestly keep me fed really well
But that leaves a ton of ethnic and cultural groups that I know very very little about - but fall under the "Asian" blanket... and I feel I'm being a bit disingenuous when I make that group statement. Am I interested in meeting people from these areas and groups? Sure... but in as much as I would for someone from most European countries that I know very little about (I always love meeting people, talking with them, learning... I'm an anthropologist for a reason).
Same goes for Desi women. Most of my friends/partners have come from Southern India, Goa, Mumbai region, and the Punjab. There's a LOT more out there.
So, this thread is two fold:
1: Still looking to chat with/flirt with/whatever with Women from these areas - I've explained it many times.
But also
2: If you look at sites like this, fet, etc... The lumping in of "Asian" or "Desi" or even "Black" or "Latina" - there tends to be a lot of... lack of knowledge from the out group (lets face it, usually horny white guys...), and a lot of... other issues for the in groups. Legitimately, Watching anime or K-Dramas does not prepare you to... survive a Pinay.
I'd love to see some discussion/thoughts on this... if anyone's interested.
Also, if you don't want to post publicly and want to chat - but nothing else, shoot me a message... Honestly, I love talking with people more than almost anything else.
So, anyone who's been around here for a while, knows I post about looking for an Asian or Desi girl to talk with. This invariably ends with me explaining why, how no, it's not a fetish - I just grew up with a lot of Asian and Desi friends, etc.
And I get it... there are a lot of people out there who fetishize these groups... it's why we don't see a lot of public traction on threads like this. It's just not worth it for women (and men) of these ethnicities to put themselves out in public like that. Which sucks. But I've had a lot of friends on here tell me that when they post, they're flooded with DM's for months - most of them unpleasant.
But I also realized that... I'm not being completely... "honest" (not sure if that's the right word, but I'll run with it).
Asian is a big term - and using it is a bit of a disservice - but it's also an easier blanket (which is not always a good thing). Desi is also a comfortable blanket term.... but also inaccurate, and both do help to foster fetishization (followed by the "here's why it's not... for me comments).
So, for me: I grew up with Japanese, South Korean and Chinese friends. Particularly Hong Kong, and Southern Coastal China. Though I have, in the past few years, met a lot of good friends from Northern China of a few different ethnic groups. I've also learned a lot about why that matters. I know a bit about the history and culture of Singapore, Taiwan, Thailand, and Laos. I've also been very lucky to have a lot of Filipino friends who... honestly keep me fed really well
But that leaves a ton of ethnic and cultural groups that I know very very little about - but fall under the "Asian" blanket... and I feel I'm being a bit disingenuous when I make that group statement. Am I interested in meeting people from these areas and groups? Sure... but in as much as I would for someone from most European countries that I know very little about (I always love meeting people, talking with them, learning... I'm an anthropologist for a reason).
Same goes for Desi women. Most of my friends/partners have come from Southern India, Goa, Mumbai region, and the Punjab. There's a LOT more out there.
So, this thread is two fold:
1: Still looking to chat with/flirt with/whatever with Women from these areas - I've explained it many times.
But also
2: If you look at sites like this, fet, etc... The lumping in of "Asian" or "Desi" or even "Black" or "Latina" - there tends to be a lot of... lack of knowledge from the out group (lets face it, usually horny white guys...), and a lot of... other issues for the in groups. Legitimately, Watching anime or K-Dramas does not prepare you to... survive a Pinay.
I'd love to see some discussion/thoughts on this... if anyone's interested.
Also, if you don't want to post publicly and want to chat - but nothing else, shoot me a message... Honestly, I love talking with people more than almost anything else.
