Affair partner

Markie100

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I'm 60 years old, I have an on again off again relationship with my wife as we live 3 hours apart. 10 months ago I started a relationship with a co-worker she is only 33, she has been with her partner for 14 years. She starting flirting with me, at first I wasn't sure with the flirting as I'm 28 years her senior and I was thinking she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I have 2 boys roughly the same age. Once I worked out she was flirting with me a sexual affair started quickly. We have been fucking ever since, Monday is a big day because we had the weekend apart, we've done it in my office her office but mostly at my place as I have a house on site. I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself. Its the first time I've cheated and she says the same. She is absolutely my own little porn star she swallows and squirts which she only just learned to do with me. The question or advice I'm looking for is why would she want to have an affair with me, she never ruled out leaving her partner but I'm pretty she has no intention of do so. sorry about the grammar and spelling.
 
I'm 60 years old, I have an on again off again relationship with my wife as we live 3 hours apart. 10 months ago I started a relationship with a co-worker she is only 33, she has been with her partner for 14 years. She starting flirting with me, at first I wasn't sure with the flirting as I'm 28 years her senior and I was thinking she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I have 2 boys roughly the same age. Once I worked out she was flirting with me a sexual affair started quickly. We have been fucking ever since, Monday is a big day because we had the weekend apart, we've done it in my office her office but mostly at my place as I have a house on site. I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself. Its the first time I've cheated and she says the same. She is absolutely my own little porn star she swallows and squirts which she only just learned to do with me. The question or advice I'm looking for is why would she want to have an affair with me, she never ruled out leaving her partner but I'm pretty she has no intention of do so. sorry about the grammar and spelling.
Wouldn't it be more convenient to live closer to your wife? That way she could beat you for being a cheating bastard. :)
 
I'm 60 years old, I have an on again off again relationship with my wife as we live 3 hours apart. 10 months ago I started a relationship with a co-worker she is only 33, she has been with her partner for 14 years. She starting flirting with me, at first I wasn't sure with the flirting as I'm 28 years her senior and I was thinking she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I have 2 boys roughly the same age. Once I worked out she was flirting with me a sexual affair started quickly. We have been fucking ever since, Monday is a big day because we had the weekend apart, we've done it in my office her office but mostly at my place as I have a house on site. I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself. Its the first time I've cheated and she says the same. She is absolutely my own little porn star she swallows and squirts which she only just learned to do with me. The question or advice I'm looking for is why would she want to have an affair with me, she never ruled out leaving her partner but I'm pretty she has no intention of do so. sorry about the grammar and spelling.
As BrokenQuill said, it may just be the planets lined up and and you have a special connection. Don’t read too much into it and enjoy it for as long as you can. Trust me, these relationships don’t happen every day.

I spoke with a gentleman on the chat side a week ago. He‘s the husband of girl who is screwing a man twice her age. He is more than happy and freely admits that his wife just needed the sex she gets from her lover. In his works “the rotten bastard even made her squirt…I’ve seen it.”

You just may be what this girl needs due to the fact she’s not getting it out of her marriage. Enjoy!
 
As BrokenQuill said, it may just be the planets lined up and and you have a special connection. Don’t read too much into it and enjoy it for as long as you can. Trust me, these relationships don’t happen every day.

I spoke with a gentleman on the chat side a week ago. He‘s the husband of girl who is screwing a man twice her age. He is more than happy and freely admits that his wife just needed the sex she gets from her lover. In his works “the rotten bastard even made her squirt…I’ve seen it.”

You just may be what this girl needs due to the fact she’s not getting it out of her marriage. Enjoy!
Why don't they both make her squirt?
 
When I was told that someone always gets hurt when a partner has an affair, I thought it would not necessarily be so. It could have been any one the three people in the triangle depending on what caused the affair to finish. In our case it was my lover. I felt really guilty and sad that she was so hurt and felt abandoned. I still love her. The only way I can see it working is to have an open or polyamorous relationship where all are okay with the arrangement.
 
Why don't they both make her squirt?
He didn’t say and I didn’t ask.

My take on it is he has strong cuckold tendencies, the lover is very dominant, an older gentleman who is very experienced, and the couple seem younger. They’ve basically entered a Poly relationship where she will take vacations and spend weekends with her lover. She loves her husband and gives him as much love and sex as he desires. He also gets to share her gf’s as threesomes and watches and participates with her lover at times.

Seems like a nice setup.
 
Definitely sounds nice! I was just having a little fun. Maybe he didn't even mean to imply that the other guy was the only one to do so. But if he were, I'd be watching closely and taking notes so it didn't stay that way!
 
I'm 60 years old, I have an on again off again relationship with my wife as we live 3 hours apart. 10 months ago I started a relationship with a co-worker she is only 33, she has been with her partner for 14 years. She starting flirting with me, at first I wasn't sure with the flirting as I'm 28 years her senior and I was thinking she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I have 2 boys roughly the same age. Once I worked out she was flirting with me a sexual affair started quickly. We have been fucking ever since, Monday is a big day because we had the weekend apart, we've done it in my office her office but mostly at my place as I have a house on site. I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself. Its the first time I've cheated and she says the same. She is absolutely my own little porn star she swallows and squirts which she only just learned to do with me. The question or advice I'm looking for is why would she want to have an affair with me, she never ruled out leaving her partner but I'm pretty she has no intention of do so. sorry about the grammar and spelling.
Why would she want an affair with you?

Being older, married, and with two kids, she might see you as safer for her sexual experimentation, in case her husband finds out, or he might already know and approve. A younger, single guy might present more of a threat to her marriage.
 
I'm 60 years old, I have an on again off again relationship with my wife as we live 3 hours apart. 10 months ago I started a relationship with a co-worker she is only 33, she has been with her partner for 14 years. She starting flirting with me, at first I wasn't sure with the flirting as I'm 28 years her senior and I was thinking she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I have 2 boys roughly the same age. Once I worked out she was flirting with me a sexual affair started quickly. We have been fucking ever since, Monday is a big day because we had the weekend apart, we've done it in my office her office but mostly at my place as I have a house on site. I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself. Its the first time I've cheated and she says the same. She is absolutely my own little porn star she swallows and squirts which she only just learned to do with me. The question or advice I'm looking for is why would she want to have an affair with me, she never ruled out leaving her partner but I'm pretty she has no intention of do so. sorry about the grammar and spelling.
You're fucking a much younger woman, why are you even questioning it? Consider yourself lucky and just enjoy the time together. She probably sees you as a safe FWB and nothing more.
 
As BrokenQuill said, it may just be the planets lined up and and you have a special connection. Don’t read too much into it and enjoy it for as long as you can. Trust me, these relationships don’t happen every day.

I spoke with a gentleman on the chat side a week ago. He‘s the husband of girl who is screwing a man twice her age. He is more than happy and freely admits that his wife just needed the sex she gets from her lover. In his works “the rotten bastard even made her squirt…I’ve seen it.”

You just may be what this girl needs due to the fact she’s not getting it out of her marriage. Enjoy!

I fully agree with this theory.
We all have one or more desires our primary partner isn't interested in.
When we can safely get it somewhere else, it should be appreciated.

They say all relationships require compromise. But that only means one or more partner is disappointed.
 
I read where the French view the ideal age of a younger lover as half the age plus 7.
In your case, 60/2 +7 = 37

For those of you who haven't reached their 60's yet, once you do, things are often different when married/with a partner from when you were younger. Nowadays you are often fitter than previous generations. One of you may want sex and still be capable, the other may not. So what do you do? Divorce, when you don't really want to? Live like a monk or nun?
 
It may just be the connection that you have that is enough. Enjoy the moments together
Those connections can be very important, my wife developed fond feelings for a work colleague. Lots of flirting, then she initiated an affair with him that lasted a couple of years. She told me about it in great detail, and I was okay with their relationship. She wouldn’t leave me for him, and the affair was sexually liberating for her. In the end that affair led to a better sex life for us.
 
I'm 60 years old, I have an on again off again relationship with my wife as we live 3 hours apart. 10 months ago I started a relationship with a co-worker she is only 33, she has been with her partner for 14 years. She starting flirting with me, at first I wasn't sure with the flirting as I'm 28 years her senior and I was thinking she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I have 2 boys roughly the same age. Once I worked out she was flirting with me a sexual affair started quickly. We have been fucking ever since, Monday is a big day because we had the weekend apart, we've done it in my office her office but mostly at my place as I have a house on site. I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself. Its the first time I've cheated and she says the same. She is absolutely my own little porn star she swallows and squirts which she only just learned to do with me. The question or advice I'm looking for is why would she want to have an affair with me, she never ruled out leaving her partner but I'm pretty she has no intention of do so. sorry about the grammar and spelling.
Could be things had grown stale sexually with her husband and the idea of something new and taboo excited her. The scenario of an older man and coworker may have turned her on.
 
I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself.
Loving her and wanting her for yourself? Your own little porn star? Doesn't sound like love. Sounds like you're 16, not 60. Your wife and your sons will not be happy with you "loving" this co-worker while ignoring them. Trust me. Been there. Done that. Have the scars to prove it.
 
There is a biological angle of this too. In many societies and in the animal world too, there are many pairing off where there is a young man and older woman or a young woman and older man. When it comes to sheer offspring success, younger females will look for established males in their prime. Ones who have proven their reproductive prowess (check), their ability to provide (check) and their ability to satisfy (check). Conversely, older women who are no longer at their reproductive peak, still have a driving need to get one more offspring in before they are done. If the prime male is not available, then they turn to the subprime male, who certainly has reproductive potential but not much of anything else. But that's not a deal killer, because the older female has that already in some form or fashion.

So, just go into any old timely graveyard and look at the headstones - you'll be surprised at just how many marriages were 20 or 30 years in age difference. It often took that long before a man had enough resources to afford a woman. So why wouldn't he want someone nubile to make up for the years he had lost, reproductively.

Personally, I have two relationships with men who are 20 years older than me. I've always gravitated to older men. That's who I was really comfortable with. I didn't have competition with them - they were secure enough in their masculinity to have a relationship with me. That said, my ex left me for someone who is 30 years younger. I am a pretty big package - so by having a partner 30 years younger, he's definitely got the upper hand. There is so much she has no idea she doesn't know.

Like others on this thread have pointed out, you're not that unusual. And the one statement that is problematic is 'wanting her for your own." Personally, I would use that concept all day long as it applies to making sex more intense. But that's where I would leave it. I've heard more than that the greener grass on the other side is about 20% of your existing relationship. So people think that this extra curricular affair will get them to 100%. Not so. If you tear apart your life and hers, what you will find is that you are still at 80%. There is just something that you had in your first relationship that is now missing.

Enjoy it for what it is - a supplement to fill in the cracks. You don't want to hurt your kids or hurts chasing an ideal. Enjoy the buzz while you can, and if you become good friends, mores the better.
 
I'm 60 years old, I have an on again off again relationship with my wife as we live 3 hours apart. 10 months ago I started a relationship with a co-worker she is only 33, she has been with her partner for 14 years. She starting flirting with me, at first I wasn't sure with the flirting as I'm 28 years her senior and I was thinking she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I have 2 boys roughly the same age. Once I worked out she was flirting with me a sexual affair started quickly. We have been fucking ever since, Monday is a big day because we had the weekend apart, we've done it in my office her office but mostly at my place as I have a house on site. I'm not proud of what I'm doing but I do love her I want her for myself. Its the first time I've cheated and she says the same. She is absolutely my own little porn star she swallows and squirts which she only just learned to do with me. The question or advice I'm looking for is why would she want to have an affair with me, she never ruled out leaving her partner but I'm pretty she has no intention of do so. sorry about the grammar and spelling.
Enjoy while lasts . Be kind to each other and you to yourself.
 
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