Check lists?

i know they have a limit check lists... wooho.. already filled a couple out for my Master..

but what about a fantasy check list? like pee humiliation?


or rape scenarios? or any of the other fantasies that are hard to think of on the spot, but if you "Read" it.. might be nice to try???

I am having trouble coming up with a good list for him... makes me feel kinda boring.. yeah i liked spanked? woohoo, i like the idea of peeing on his command.. okay, rape fantasies.. awesome.. uhh thats it? damn.. i am boring...

So I was hoping someone would have some resources or idea's on how to come up with a fantasy check list to get idea's on what might appeal to me that i can't think of off the top of my head...

You could always find one of the big long check lists for ideas as well as limits. I did something fairly recently with my Dom where he had me list out my favorite things we'd done, my least favorite, what I'd tried for the first time with him, and what I was interested in trying in the future and used on of the big long lists as a guide. I believe there are some in the library if you check there.

Literotica BDSM Forum Library Checklist Links

http://ms.ha.md.us/~tammad/over21/b...-checklist.html
http://smvillage.com/Modules/checklist2/default.asp
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_checklist.html
http://members.aol.com/MasterNik/BDSMCheckList.html
http://www.domsubfriends.com/library/question1.shtml
http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/checklst.html

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I found this site w/ this checklist. Its different from most I've seen http://www.fetishexchange.org/bdsm-checklist.shtml

@}-}rebecca---- said:

http://ms.ha.md.us/~tammad/over21/b...-checklist.html
http://smvillage.com/Modules/checklist2/default.asp
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_checklist.html
http://members.aol.com/MasterNik/BDSMCheckList.html
http://www.domsubfriends.com/library/question1.shtml
http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/checklst.html

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these are the check lists iv'e already filled out covering things i'd try and absoloutely no too.... but not specifically "Fantasy" idea's or role play scenario's..


they don't give us any idea's like... puppy play idea's.. (they talk about it but don't give suggsetions or idea's on how to do it)

etc .. like role play stories that we could act out sort of, or get an idea to try on our own...

Check out the link I posted. It is different than most- you may get some ideas.

Another idea is to read BDSM related fiction. You may get some ideas of things you may like to do even if it isn't to the extreme that is in some fiction books.

I never filled out a fantasy checklist. Any of the scenerios I use to masturbate to tell my Dom or write as stories for him. I find that as I am writing them other ideas come to mind. He gives me feedback, sometimes adding an idea or two wheich expands the fantasy even more.

I like fantasy sharing as a processover time rather than a checklist. Much more fun that way...

PrimalGirl said:

Check out the link I posted. It is different than most- you may get some ideas.

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your link is deff by far the best i've come accross so far.. thank you.. *salute*

ecstaticsub said:

Another idea is to read BDSM related fiction. You may get some ideas of things you may like to do even if it isn't to the extreme that is in some fiction books.

I never filled out a fantasy checklist. Any of the scenerios I use to masturbate to tell my Dom or write as stories for him. I find that as I am writing them other ideas come to mind. He gives me feedback, sometimes adding an idea or two wheich expands the fantasy even more.

I like fantasy sharing as a processover time rather than a checklist. Much more fun that way...

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I have erotica published on here.. but its not something we could do because alot of it includes other people and neither of us are willing to share....


some of it includes things like bananna's with girls eating it out of the other slaves ass as a erotic punishment.. etc

I liked it because it is different. I think it is best when used in conjunction with a more thorough list, which you have already

PrimalGirl said:

I found this site w/ this checklist. Its different from most I've seen http://www.fetishexchange.org/bdsm-checklist.shtml

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This is a great link! I filled out a checklist for him a long time ago, but it was nothing like this. Gonna have to send him this one too.

SheDevilShay said:

i know they have a limit check lists... wooho.. already filled a couple out for my Master..

but what about a fantasy check list? like pee humiliation?


or rape scenarios? or any of the other fantasies that are hard to think of on the spot, but if you "Read" it.. might be nice to try???

I am having trouble coming up with a good list for him... makes me feel kinda boring.. yeah i liked spanked? woohoo, i like the idea of peeing on his command.. okay, rape fantasies.. awesome.. uhh thats it? damn.. i am boring...

So I was hoping someone would have some resources or idea's on how to come up with a fantasy check list to get idea's on what might appeal to me that i can't think of off the top of my head...

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While going through checklists can be fun and educational about one another it can also mislead at times.

You don't know that he would see what you find hot and think it is boring. I mean this is from his wife, his lover, his best friend and his sub/slave/pyl.

You need to simply supply him with the truth even if you worry it is boring.

You do not need to come up with exciting things just because you want to be exciting. That could easily give him the wrong messages. Then you'll have to come back in and fix that latter when things go wrong.

SheDevilShay said:

these are the check lists iv'e already filled out covering things i'd try and absoloutely no too.... but not specifically "Fantasy" idea's or role play scenario's..


they don't give us any idea's like... puppy play idea's.. (they talk about it but don't give suggsetions or idea's on how to do it)

etc .. like role play stories that we could act out sort of, or get an idea to try on our own...

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That is because they are checklists which are supposed to indictate what you will/won't do, like or want to try, not provide you with the 'how to's' and try to provide you with ideas...they assume you already have the imagination to have your own ideas and fantasies I think and are not usually considered a tool to develop that..could be wrong though. After all, a fantasy is something in your head, and though you can read about other people's fantasies, they are not very helpful if you are supposed to be talking about your own fantasy...many a person has gotten into hot water by trynig to live out someone else's fantasy, especially if doing so only to impress. As to filling out several, sounds a bit like sub frenzy. Pick one (2 at the most) you think covers what you need covered and leave it at that. Believe me, after having to read several myself, last thing you want is to read several from the one person as most of it is repetitive of the previous one.

Catalina

SheDevilShay said:

some of it includes things like bananna's with girls eating it out of the other slaves ass as a erotic punishment.. etc

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Ohh guud lawd that's 'special'.

catalina_francisco said:

That is because they are checklists which are supposed to indictate what you will/won't do, like or want to try, not provide you with the 'how to's' and try to provide you with ideas...they assume you already have the imagination to have your own ideas and fantasies I think and are not usually considered a tool to develop that..could be wrong though. After all, a fantasy is something in your head, and though you can read about other people's fantasies, they are not very helpful if you are supposed to be talking about your own fantasy...many a person has gotten into hot water by trynig to live out someone else's fantasy, especially if doing so only to impress. As to filling out several, sounds a bit like sub frenzy. Pick one (2 at the most) you think covers what you need covered and leave it at that. Believe me, after having to read several myself, last thing you want is to read several from the one person as most of it is repetitive of the previous one.

Catalina

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*shrugs*... no sub frenzy here, just covering all the basics.. I've filled out 3 on his request. (I probably wouldn't have bothered otherwise..)

My imagination is fairly twisted and the things I write about in my erotica I am not sure I'd like done to me, or to act out, so its kind of hard for me to just sit down and say, hey, I think I like this... well I like this in theory, or idea, like for a story, but not nessicarily because I want a piece of fruit shoved up my ass and another girl to eat it out... its unsanitary and I don't think emotionally I could wrap my mind around the idea of exposing her to all kinds of things that could make her sick... like E coli or hep A since thats where it comes from.... (Though if she's vaccinated it probably would be okay, but you never know and since i've had alot of experience with the medical field I tend to be just a little bit of a hypocondriac on health concerns/issues that could be potential risks...)


Edit : I just wanted things that would help us create our own fantasies.. imagination isn't a problem for us, just need a kick start... because the things I write about in my erotica stories aren't something we'd be able to do most of the time anyways, especially as we do not include others in our lifestyle... and never will.... and most of the things I write about include more then one person... (Not all, but much of it.)

SheDevilShay said:

*shrugs*... no sub frenzy here, just covering all the basics.. I've filled out 3 on his request. (I probably wouldn't have bothered otherwise..)

My imagination is fairly twisted and the things I write about in my erotica I am not sure I'd like done to me, or to act out, so its kind of hard for me to just sit down and say, hey, I think I like this... well I like this in theory, or idea, like for a story, but not nessicarily because I want a piece of fruit shoved up my ass and another girl to eat it out... its unsanitary and I don't think emotionally I could wrap my mind around the idea of exposing her to all kinds of things that could make her sick... like E coli or hep A since thats where it comes from.... (Though if she's vaccinated it probably would be okay, but you never know and since i've had alot of experience with the medical field I tend to be just a little bit of a hypocondriac on health concerns/issues that could be potential risks...)


Edit : I just wanted things that would help us create our own fantasies.. imagination isn't a problem for us, just need a kick start... because the things I write about in my erotica stories aren't something we'd be able to do most of the time anyways, especially as we do not include others in our lifestyle... and never will.... and most of the things I write about include more then one person... (Not all, but much of it.)

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OK, but I was going on your own words where you quoted rebecca's list of 6 checklists saying you had already filled out all of them....6 and still looking for more ideas etc., coupled with the threads and questions you have already asked in the last 10 days you have been here seemed to resemble sub frenzy, especially given 10 days ago you weren't sure if you were switch, Domme, or sub...we see it often here and I imagine on other boards as well.

As to imagination, I am still not getting why you have trouble coming up with any fantasies you would like to become reality if you say you have a fertile imagination already. I know for ourselves, we could spend a week typing ours up and still come up with more, before even going into high risk or unrealistic realms. I don't think checklists are going to provide you with fantasies if they aren't already there. Maybe it is just me, quite possibly so, but I always think of fantasy as something coming from within you, something you deeply desire but may never have voiced before...if they aren't there I am not sure how you can create them. As I said though, perhaps it is just the difference in how our minds work as my fantasies have always been there without outside influence being needed.

Also you will find as time goes on, some things you think of as not possible now may very well become something you want to do. It is another thing most of us experience, hence the popular saying around these parts, 'never say never'.

Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

OK, but I was going on your own words where you quoted rebecca's list of 6 checklists saying you had already filled out all of them....6 and still looking for more ideas etc., coupled with the threads and questions you have already asked in the last 10 days you have been here seemed to resemble sub frenzy, especially given 10 days ago you weren't sure if you were switch, Domme, or sub...we see it often here and I imagine on other boards as well.

As to imagination, I am still not getting why you have trouble coming up with any fantasies you would like to become reality if you say you have a fertile imagination already. I know for ourselves, we could spend a week typing ours up and still come up with more, before even going into high risk or unrealistic realms. I don't think checklists are going to provide you with fantasies if they aren't already there. Maybe it is just me, quite possibly so, but I always think of fantasy as something coming from within you, something you deeply desire but may never have voiced before...if they aren't there I am not sure how you can create them. As I said though, perhaps it is just the difference in how our minds work as my fantasies have always been there without outside influence being needed.

Also you will find as time goes on, some things you think of as not possible now may very well become something you want to do. It is another thing most of us experience, hence the popular saying around these parts, 'never say never'.

Catalina

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Actaully I found the humilitation check list and a couple specific one's did kick start the imgination and gave me idea's... and my Master.... just because you think differently then I do, doesn't meant it can't work for me...

I know what works for me, thats why I asked for specifics...

the generic check lists of "yes or no" 12345 ... wasn't exactly what I was looking for....

I was looking for more specific things... like on there, there was "pee humilitation" but not... "pee in public humilitation on command" (Like hiking out on trails and being forced to pee like a dog... <-- those are my words but the more detailed version inspired them.) and a whole list of things I probably never would have even thought of on my own that sounded fascinating....

I learn/inspiration comes from reading... so while I can make stuff up on my own, I usually have to kcik start my imgination some how...

(Some of my non erotica stories come from my dreams... but again, thats still inspiration)


Edit : I went through more then 6-7 check lists that I googled, only to find they were all about the same, so I only picked a couple that were different enough from each other to make worth filling out.. I just wanted stuff that was a little more specific... these are very generic and to me I only really have 4 hard limits so its hard to say "okay" or "no" to the generic stuff.. because alot of it I don't think would ever even come up...(at least in our house hold...but since I haven't tried it before, I don't know)

SheDevilShay said:

Actaully I found the humilitation check list and a couple specific one's did kick start the imgination and gave me idea's... and my Master.... just because you think differently then I do, doesn't meant it can't work for me...

I know what works for me, thats why I asked for specifics...

the generic check lists of "yes or no" 12345 ... wasn't exactly what I was looking for....

I was looking for more specific things... like on there, there was "pee humilitation" but not... "pee in public humilitation on command" (Like hiking out on trails and being forced to pee like a dog... <-- those are my words but the more detailed version inspired them.) and a whole list of things I probably never would have even thought of on my own that sounded fascinating....

I learn/inspiration comes from reading... so while I can make stuff up on my own, I usually have to kcik start my imgination some how...

(Some of my non erotica stories come from my dreams... but again, thats still inspiration)

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I didn't say it wouldn't work for you, but like all things I do not understand I try to learn more and get some form of understanding of how it works for that person. All I can say is I am blessed as I think I would get too bogged down and disillusioned if had to read to get a kickstart...you are fortunate it fits well with you. Perhaps reading some of the stories on Lit will help you.

Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

I didn't say it wouldn't work for you, but like all things I do not understand I try to learn more and get some form of understanding of how it works for that person. All I can say is I am blessed as I think I would get too bogged down and disillusioned if had to read to get a kickstart...you are fortunate it fits well with you. Perhaps reading some of the stories on Lit will help you.

Catalina

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Extreme fiction bores me.. (I've read a few hundred of the stories on here the last couple months..) Some of the other stuff is nice and inspirational.. but not ooo lets play act this out.. (as you stated, someone else's fantasy or role play isn't really how it "works" ... at least for me..)

Like if you said pee humilitation on command.. I could come up with quite a few scenario's in my head off the bat... but not specifically other types of humilitation... I don't nessicariyl know what even classifies to "me" as humilitation ebcause i've never sat down and thought about it before the way I have been requested to do now... so doing research and getting idea's is how I figure things out the best in that sense...

SheDevilShay said:

i know they have a limit check lists... wooho.. already filled a couple out for my Master..

but what about a fantasy check list? like pee humiliation?


or rape scenarios? or any of the other fantasies that are hard to think of on the spot, but if you "Read" it.. might be nice to try???

I am having trouble coming up with a good list for him... makes me feel kinda boring.. yeah i liked spanked? woohoo, i like the idea of peeing on his command.. okay, rape fantasies.. awesome.. uhh thats it? damn.. i am boring...

So I was hoping someone would have some resources or idea's on how to come up with a fantasy check list to get idea's on what might appeal to me that i can't think of off the top of my head...

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bondage.com has a pretty good checklist. You'd have to join though.

SheDevilShay said:

Extreme fiction bores me.. (I've read a few hundred of the stories on here the last couple months..) Some of the other stuff is nice and inspirational.. but not ooo lets play act this out.. (as you stated, someone else's fantasy or role play isn't really how it "works" ... at least for me..)

Like if you said pee humilitation on command.. I could come up with quite a few scenario's in my head off the bat... but not specifically other types of humilitation... I don't nessicariyl know what even classifies to "me" as humilitation ebcause i've never sat down and thought about it before the way I have been requested to do now... so doing research and getting idea's is how I figure things out the best in that sense...

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Well if it is humiliation you want to learn about, there are a few threads here discussing it.

Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

Well if it is humiliation you want to learn about, there are a few threads here discussing it.

Catalina

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I was using it as an example as it was like 4 am and the first thing that popped into my head ... (I need to go get my morning coffee... )

but yes, different aspects, what would classify, how it could work.. I am very curious in nature, and I like to research before making an opinion...

SheDevilShay said:

*shrugs*... no sub frenzy here, just covering all the basics.. I've filled out 3 on his request. (I probably wouldn't have bothered otherwise..)

My imagination is fairly twisted and the things I write about in my erotica I am not sure I'd like done to me, or to act out, so its kind of hard for me to just sit down and say, hey, I think I like this... well I like this in theory, or idea, like for a story, but not nessicarily because I want a piece of fruit shoved up my ass and another girl to eat it out... its unsanitary and I don't think emotionally I could wrap my mind around the idea of exposing her to all kinds of things that could make her sick... like E coli or hep A since thats where it comes from.... (Though if she's vaccinated it probably would be okay, but you never know and since i've had alot of experience with the medical field I tend to be just a little bit of a hypocondriac on health concerns/issues that could be potential risks...)


Edit : I just wanted things that would help us create our own fantasies.. imagination isn't a problem for us, just need a kick start... because the things I write about in my erotica stories aren't something we'd be able to do most of the time anyways, especially as we do not include others in our lifestyle... and never will.... and most of the things I write about include more then one person... (Not all, but much of it.)

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I don't know if this is something your serious about or not, but I just wanted to let you know that most people are vaccinated against Hep B not Hep A, and there is no vaccination against E. Coli. Sorry to hijack, just a pet peeve as a nurse.

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I don't know if this is something your serious about or not, but I just wanted to let you know that most people are vaccinated against Hep B not Hep A, and there is no vaccination against E. Coli. Sorry to hijack, just a pet peeve as a nurse.

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There's a vaccination for Hep A.. my grandmother was a respitory therapist and my husband's in the medical field AND my mother (drug addict that she is) was also trained in phlebotomy...

there's a Vaccine for hep A and B.. not C...

there's no vaccine for E coli... I never said there was... I was strictly speaking about hep A.


Edited to add : I am vaccinated for hep A and my Son has both vaccines as does my husband and everyone in my family...