Submissive/Slave Haven

After posing this idea and receiving positive responses, let me be the first to welcome you all to this Haven. All submissives and slaves please feel free to pose your thoughts, questions, concerns, ideas, qualms, praises, and anything else (within reason) you'd like here. This thread will give us all the chance to meet other subs and slaves, converse with like minds and get feed back on the everyday things in our lifes we might need advice on. Masters, Doms and Dommes, please feel free to join us and apply your very own special brand of feed back as well. Over all I want this to be a place where we can come without the postures of status getting in the way of getting what we need... true friends.

Welcome!!

Good idea!

Now, about that problem you mentioned in the other thread!

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HA!!!!

I was just teasin'. No rash or breakout to speak of. All is well on that front... and back for that matter.



thanks though for the concern!!

how are you today??

My Drama!

Hey SweetGigi! Thanks for taking the plunge and creating this thread. It's about damned time the subs were given adequate space and time for their concerns! Doesn't everyone realize that WE subbies are the ones yanking the proverbial puppet strings around here?

(*ducks and covers from snapping whips aimed her way by uppity - ha! - doms.*)

Anyhoo... here is my concern du jour...

I was in a 24/7 r/l intense M/s relationship for 2.5 years. It ended about 2 years ago. It ended badly. I was devastated as the breakup brought up a lot of unreconciled issues from my past. It has taken me a looong time to get back to where I feel like me again. In the interim, I dated both vanilla and spicy. I had my doubts to which camp I belonged to. I was trying to convince myself that I am only kinky in the bedroom.

Then, a few weeks ago, I was contacted by a potential dom suitor who saw my profile on one of the Big 3 sites. I thought I had disabled it, but I guess not. He helped awaken the slumbering subbie spirit inside of me. And now that she is awake, she is like a hyperactive kid on a sugar binge: bouncing all over the place, constantly intruding on my daily life, shouting "Lookitme! Lookitme!" Whatta brat, huh? Sheesh.

I have been corresponding via email with the new dom. It has all been very heady and cerebral as we talk about why we seek a D&S power surrender relationship. These email "conversations" have helped me to focus on what worked/failed in the former relationship and what I would like to pursue in the next one. The suitor dom has been very cautious about leading me too fast, too soon into anything. That is why, even though he is local, we have been maintaining email communication only.

Meanwhile, little Miss ADHD Subbie is bouncing off the walls, singing, dancing, and creaing havoc in my life. Havoc in a good way. To say my erotic fires are burning brightly again are an understatement. More like a Disco Inferno! I feel like a damned newbie again (no offense to newbies) but I am impatient, antsy and super horny 24/7! Yikes!

I got up the gumption to express to the suitor dom that I am very physically affected by our discussions. I thought I would get a similarly spicy reply. Instead he responded that maybe I needed to do some serious thinking on whether or not I am turned on by *his* attentions or by the reawakened self-awareness. Grr... Damn logical dominant thought processes! Drat!

I know he is right. (Which, ironically, only increases my esteem of him as a thoughtful, insightful dominant and not one of the cyber trolls looking for me to "Neel, bithc!" {Misspelling is intentional.} ) Yet here I am, self-aware, yes, but distracted and horny as a fruit cup. (No, I don't know what that means either.)

So I am glad that SweetGigi opened this thread up. I am not sure what my purpose is in posting my drama to y'all, but I am grateful that there is a forum where I can post my drama.

Thank you.

oh my! and what a heavy issue to have as our first topic too.

Let me think on it and I'll respond in a bit. I'm working right now and don't want to address this in a drollish fashion. Anyone else wanna take a stab at this??

SweetGigi said:

oh my! and what a heavy issue to have as our first topic too.

Anyone else wanna take a stab at this??

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Or anyone could take a running THRUST at it. Hey, I said I was as horny as Mary Jane Naughtybritches at her first gangbang. So sue me.

Anyhoo, SweetGigi, I don't know if it is a "heavy" issue. Just me being honest about where I am at the moment. I am not sure there is much to *do* here but be patient and see if suitor dom is the potential next One or not. *shrug* Meanwhile, I suggest to y'all to buy stock in Duracell. From my ... ahem, proclivities... you are sure to have a most excellent return on your investment!

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you are gonna be a hand full aren't you?

You are in my thoughts, hun. I'm sure you know what really needs to be done here. IMHO, you need to just maintain and enjoy-- following His lead. This new time with a potiental Dom is always one of the most fun times a sub can have, IF she knows how to enjoy it.

Have fun!!

It seems somewhat simple to me-

If you can't imagine doing all those lovely kinky things with anyone other than the gentleman you've been chatting with, then you're interested in him, more than looking for an outlet for the newly re-discovered sub-frenzies.

If you simply want/need to do XYZ deliciously kinky activity, and chatting with said gentleman reminded you of that, then the fact that he brought forth such a desire is lovely, but not necessarily indicative of this gentleman being "the one".

Figuring out the motivation behind the desires, will determine how the situation would best be managed.

CutieMouse said:

It seems somewhat simple to me -

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Thank you, CutieMouse. That is exactly the kind of response I needed to hear. Because it did not seem simple to me. Thank you.

Is this the submissive/slave haven or Heaven?

You are welcome, Quix. I look forward to swappin' stories with you.

(thanks to you too, mouse, for your input. Glad to have you *here*)

I'll add my 'situation' later on along with my two .02$. I'm still at work and can't really go into it just yet. Then I have a blog to write or I'll be in big heaps o trouble.

Both if you're lucky.

::wiggles::

Now for my dish

Mebbe my sorted tale will bring the fun bunch in.

I am 28. I had tried to break into the M/s lifestyle once before and got totally shammed by this complete jerk off. Broken and beaten (and not in a good way) I turned to a good friend of mine to console me in my time of need. It turned out that He was a natural Dominant and in search of someone to mentor.

It was never intended for me to become His. Being in different cities, it was agreed that it would be too much for us and we chose to keep things simple... it's funny how life makes different plans for us, huh?

Skip forward 6 years. (only two of which have been spent in the same city) During that time, it has been very hard to go without His firm hand to guide me when I need it most. Not to degrade or refute LD(M/s)R's, but it is very very very hard to follow a certain path when so much space spans between. With such a our plight, He granted me the gift of a vanilla toy. Unfortunately, with the nature of my job, when my contract was up I relocated again and was again in search of a new toy.

Enter the Guardian/Benefactor. While looking for another play thing to occupy my idle hands with, I happened across an available Dominant who was looking for a mutually benefital relationship with a natural submissive. I wasn't sure if I was willing to take on another Dominant, but soon enough I realized that this Man could offer me an outlet of release as well as an extra guiding hand while my Amato was so far away. So last night, we consummated our new relationship. It has been so long since the last time I was taken... it was so wonderful... so pacifying... so rewarding.

le sigh

Now, my Amato and my Guardian are conspiring together to keep me on my toes, I'm sure. Double the pleasure and double the pain. I have a feeling things are gonna get very exciting soon. Stay tuned.

*popping my head in*

hi!!

*ducks back out again*

oh, hiya!!

pop in any time.

my haven is your haven.

Good afternoon Gigi. and others

Good afternoon, sir. how are you today??

Heyas everyone

Here's one submissive girl new to these forums.

hiya, Miss. welcome.

tell us a little about you...

:: pulls up a chair::

Uh oh.. Im 24 years old bi and single. I have been submissive always(?). I dont fantasize about being a slave though - I love to please on my own. I also want my partner to be stronger and able to "use" me in sex.

I have never really had a D/s relationship. Not that I have had too many relationships so far anyways. I have experience from real life though so that I can well say I know what I like.

Recently I met a girl who likes being rough on me. I have no idea where it will go. Maybe we will be "fuckbuddies" or maybe it will develop into something more serious. (At least my friend told me I sound like I would have a crush...)

Thats me..

misspihla said:

Uh oh.. Im 24 years old bi and single. I have been submissive always(?). I dont fantasize about being a slave though - I love to please on my own. I also want my partner to be stronger and able to "use" me in sex.

I have never really had a D/s relationship. Not that I have had too many relationships so far anyways. I have experience from real life though so that I can well say I know what I like.

Recently I met a girl who likes being rough on me. I have no idea where it will go. Maybe we will be "fuckbuddies" or maybe it will develop into something more serious. (At least my friend told me I sound like I would have a crush...)

Thats me..

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What a yummy av. Speaking of avs sg is 19 or less away.

WriterDom said:

What a yummy av. Speaking of avs sg is 19 or less away.

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Um. Thanks I guess. What does "sg is 19 or less away" mean?

SweetGigi is sg. She needs just a few more posts for her av.

<waves at everyone> Hi, I'm new. Thought I'd poke my head in to listen to the conversation.