Did your religion influence your life style?

What is the influence of your religious upbring on your choice of life style

  • It made me submissive

    Votes: 3 9.1%
  • It made me Dominant

    Votes: 2 6.1%
  • I was brought up religious, but it had no influence

    Votes: 15 45.5%
  • religion? what religion!!

    Votes: 13 39.4%

  • Total voters
    33
  • Poll closed .

realwanderer

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I had some nice e-mail exhange with some one who gave me the idea for the following poll:
What was the influence of your religious upbring on your choice of lief style. It fits a bit in with the are Dominants natural question.
I think it could be an interesting confersation, becasue in many confersations about sex, the religion comes in place.
No religious child hood? Who cares let us know as well!!
 
Oddly, I grew up in an atheistic household and developed spirituality pretty much by myself. I don't think my religious believes are entirely responsible for what I do in the lifestyle, other than to keep me with one partner at a time and to respect the people that I am with (even if the relationship involves spanking them, tying them down, insulting them, etc.).
 
This is probably gonna surprise people, but I wasn't raised religious. My mother became a Christian when I was in my teens, but we still didn't do church or anything. I started going to church, by myself, when I was 17.
 
I was raised somewhat religious -- born, baptised and "communion-ized" as Catholic, did my Confirmation as protestant -- and I blame that for having been raised somewhat clueless and sheltered, but I don't know one way or the other if it affected my being submissive.

I left the church when I was 16 anyway, so I'd have had plenty of time to change my mind if I wanted to. :)
 
I was raised very religious.. it was a big part of my upbringing.. my foundation and for the longest time, my only identity. Then.. one day.. I felt a different calling.. I'm no fan of organized religion..and I'm a practicing celtic pagan.. .. I have an abundance of faith.. as far as influencing me as submissive..maybe years of being taught..as a woman.. my place was to be submissive to men in all things..
 
I worked for a Methodist church for 8 years. I think that the traditional woman's role in the religions that I have been intimate with, has indeed played a part with me no longer restricting the dominant person that I am.
 
I've always thought that much of the thought and behavior in Catholicism could be easily interpreted as similar in nature to that found in BDSM.

And also, nuns are HAWT!!1
 
Yes, I think it was more the strict private school. Have you ever noticed how violent and sexual repressed some of the prescribed literature is? I think my school text of whippings and prostrating yourself gave me some hot fantasies.
 
I don't think religion has had any influence at all, in my case. At least I hope not! Let me just add that I completely agree with the Douglas Adams quote in my signature.

Yes; I think some religions provide some meaningful directions to live by, but at an unnecessary high cost of other rubbish that goes with the religion. In my opinion, normally intelligent people shouldn't need religious guiding in order to be able to behave in a decent and purposeful manner.

I have spoken.

Edited to add: I haven't voted, as none of the options fits what I would like to express.
 
Very non-religious household - No good answers to questions about God. We're JEWS yes! but we never went to temple or anything.

I'm interested in religions but never felt motivated to practise. I thought about declaring myself an atheist, but the way atheists and humanists and whatnot get together for coffee is just like Unitarians or Baptists or Buddhists with fervor. I don't like meetings is the bottom line.
 
I was brought up Catholic, but chose to go to church from a young age.
I liked the ritualistic aspects of the latin mass, so I went more for the ceremony and splendour than the teachings.
I soon realised it was not right for me, but it was not easy to go into another church and start a process of finding where I belonged.
I am now a Spiritualist and have deep beliefs in the concept that people we loved remain close to us after death.

My religion has not affected my submission, other than kneeling for hours in church was good practice for later life.

I meditate and work with Spirit on a daily basis,
I would say that his ability to focus my mind so it 'disappears' is similiar to that of deep meditation.
My religion and Spiritual beliefs sit well with who I am, the whole 360 degree person, not just the submissive, the mother or any other role I have.

My religion is not seperate from who I am, but I am not aware that it had a direct influence on my desire to become a slave
 
Hmmm this question made me think. My first reaction was hell no. But then I thought about it and perhaps there was a minor influence. I was raised Catholic till I was 14. My step-grandparents were devout, but my mom wasnt. I spent the majority of my time with my grandparents. I went to church 3 times a week, ccd on Wednesdays, etc. But I was never interested in it. In fact I couldnt stand it. I hated having to sit there for hours and listen to somebody talking. After we moved I stopped going. I wont get into what my beliefs are now, as they tend to be controversial. But I think the submissive in me was affected by it. I got that from my mother. You took care of your man, his needs came first, dinner was ready for him when he got home...etc. etc. I think she got that from them, and in turn passed it to me. But I think directly the religion doesnt have anything to do with my kink, just the environment. Does that make sense? lol
And I have no clue where my dominance came from :rolleyes: lol
 
I was raised Catholic before Vatican II changed a lot of stuff in the church. I have left the church, all churches for that matter and refer to myself as more Buddhist or Taoist than anything else. I came into BDSM as a het submissive but started calling myself a bi switch several years ago. In fact I am a gay Top most of the time. I give my Catholic upbringing full responsibility for being all messed up about my identity.

I gota blame somebody for being such a mess..... ;)
 
Shankara20 said:
I was raised Catholic before Vatican II changed a lot of stuff in the church. I have left the church, all churches for that matter and refer to myself as more Buddhist or Taoist than anything else. I came into BDSM as a het submissive but started calling myself a bi switch several years ago. In fact I am a gay Top most of the time. I give my Catholic upbringing full responsibility for being all messed up about my identity.

I gota blame somebody for being such a mess..... ;)

Ahh Vatican II, the words alone can cause tremours in my sisters' heart.
She hated the changes (and not all of them were implemented) but then again she is a pious hypocrite and definately slave material.
She bends to her husbands wishes and needs despite him being a complete tosser.
During one of our more memorable 'discussions' I commented that I didn't think Heaven gave extra points for being a martyre. She broke some good china because of that comment. Lucky her aim is poor!!

What a life she has, slavery without the kinky sex :(
 
shy slave said:
Ahh Vatican II, the words alone can cause tremours in my sisters' heart.
She hated the changes (and not all of them were implemented) but then again she is a pious hypocrite and definately slave material.
She bends to her husbands wishes and needs despite him being a complete tosser.
During one of our more memorable 'discussions' I commented that I didn't think Heaven gave extra points for being a martyre. She broke some good china because of that comment. Lucky her aim is poor!!

What a life she has, slavery without the kinky sex :(

She is one of many.

"Heaven gave extra points for being a martyre"
*sigh*

I will stop before I go too far with this subject matter. :kiss:
 
Shankara20 said:
She is one of many.

"Heaven gave extra points for being a martyre"
*sigh*

I will stop before I go too far with this subject matter. :kiss:

I know that feeling well lol
 
shy slave said:
Ahh Vatican II, the words alone can cause tremours in my sisters' heart.
She hated the changes (and not all of them were implemented) but then again she is a pious hypocrite and definately slave material.
She bends to her husbands wishes and needs despite him being a complete tosser.
During one of our more memorable 'discussions' I commented that I didn't think Heaven gave extra points for being a martyre. She broke some good china because of that comment. Lucky her aim is poor!!

What a life she has, slavery without the kinky sex :(

*shakes head* I guess it's a good thing that it's not just with Adante that your mouth gets you in trouble.
 
Religious hopusehold, came out as an agnostic and don't really think it affected my status sexually.
 
I was raised fairly agnostic, so I don't think my religion per se had much to do with my development. However, I was raised in a fairly machismo culture, and I think that probably played a role in my attraction to being dominant in my intimate relationships.
 
realwanderer said:
Did your religion influence your life style?
For me, I think it was the other way around.

Many people tried to instill faith in me while I was growing up. Unfortunately, I kept tripping on the whole 'God the Father' thang.

I don't believe in fairy tales, happy endings, or saviors of any kind. But I envy people who do.
 
Personally I was raised in a strict religious atmosphere. I won't name churches because I don't want to get into a debate about my former faith itself. Suffice it to say that women were not permitted to hold responsibilities in the congregation, they were taught to view their family head (whether father or husband) as having the final say in all things and to obey them at all times. Childbearing was encouraged and secular advancement discouraged - especially for women who should raise a family, not support it. I am certain that this affected my perception of men in general. I never understood my liberated feminist friends while at school and even now I don't understand them completely. It's natural for me to be submissive, partly through instruction over my whole lifetime, I know. The difference now of course, is that I have the choice. The women in my former church don't.
 
I was raised Christian by a very practical woman of faith. That has rubbed off on me. I don't consider my religion to have made me submissive, yet I certainly don't see it conflicting with me being a submissive. Biblically it's pretty much right on target.
 
His_pita said:
. . . I don't consider my religion to have made me submissive, yet I certainly don't see it conflicting with me being a submissive. Biblically it's pretty much right on target.

That's pretty much my view.
 
Catholicism Lite (tm)

I went to an all-boys Episcopal boarding school. I think the only way it influenced my life is I said to myself, "I am a teenager and I'm not seeing any girls. I wanna see girls! When I get out of here, I'm gonna make up for lost time."

I'm almost 42 and still making up for lost time. Hard.

My dad is Baptist, and also very submissive to women. I think in some way, part of me being Dominant is avenging him for being so milquetoast.


(The Episcopal Church, by the way, is Catholicism lite, i.e. Catholicism with half the guilt.)
 
Raised Jewish. I was raised minus a father, but with my mother and her parents. While my family didn't go to temple or anything, my grandparents had been raised very religiously. Men ruled everywhere but within the home. It's was more location (100 miles to temple) which kept us from the formal upbringing. However, the fact that my grandmother played a major role in the house probably has something to do with my dominance. Yes, she cooked and cleaned, but her word was also law and even grandfather had little or no say with in-house decisions. (He even had chores!)
 
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