Not many pics yet.
So I will play.
Usually I shoot specifically to minimize or not show my stomach.
But here's one that does show my marshmallow middle.
In spite of that fact, I liked the picture.
Not many pics yet.
So I will play.
Usually I shoot specifically to minimize or not show my stomach.
But here's one that does show my marshmallow middle.
In spite of that fact, I liked the picture.
Not many pics yet.
So I will play.
Usually I shoot specifically to minimize or not show my stomach.
But here's one that does show my marshmallow middle.
In spite of that fact, I liked the picture.
Not yours. A different tummy. Maybe shot from a low point of view. Like the viewer is... never mind.
This thread makes me want to cry - in a good way, for the most part. I considered just sending a pm to the ladies supporting this thread, but that would be cowardly given what y'all have posted.
I get a great deal of satisfaction and ego stroking from posting pics here. Yet, it is always tempered by the thoughts that go, "Yeah, thanks, but angles and lighting are hiding the bad parts," so the comments, while nice, are still tainted by a measure of what I consider to be deception. I've always been Type A and competitive, and, although it's petty and immature, it always stings when I see someone else getting attention for something I'm trying my best at. No matter how many times I tell myself there is no single body type that "wins," I don't really believe it. I "know" what body type ultimately wins and I don't have it any more.
What ought to be an opportunity without true cost to put myself out here and receive validation just for who I am, still remains impossible in my mind. It's a constant struggle between achieving true body acceptance and being the best. An astute Lit man (whom we all love) even mentioned to me once how clever I am at subtly covering the challenging parts of my anatomy. I believe he truly meant it as a message of acceptance, but the acknowledgement that parts of my body are a "challenge" when I've tried so hard to camouflage them, hurt.
My husband, whom I've been with for 30 years, is ONLY into fitness models and athletic slim body types. While he tells me he is still attracted to me, his actions (at least in my mind) are asynchronous with his words. Given this is the message I've heard from the person who loves me most, it is difficult to comes to grips with the idea that anyone who doesn't have true affection for me could ever accept, much less be attracted to, the parts of me neither of us are happy with. And don't tell me that intelligence and confidence and a sassy sense of humor are what you find most attractive - because its very nice to hear, but deep down I don't believe you.
How pathetic is it that I cling to the shreds of body acceptance I receive here? How pathetic is it that at my age, the 20 pounds I gained in the last several months as my hormones decided to skip town permanently, are what weighs heaviest (pun intended) on my mind? How ridiculous is it that they intrude on my thoughts of how to pose and which pics to post here? How ludicrous is it that I actually stress a bit over letting people down by not being hot enough?
So, I suppose I just wanted to say that I envy you ladies - your personal acceptance of your bodies and the acceptance provided you by your significant others. Until I can get my hormones back in check I won't have that. I need to lose the weight for health reasons, and I'm working on that, but I gotta say how much I love this thread.
Thank you ladies -
This thread makes me want to cry - in a good way, for the most part.
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I get a great deal of satisfaction and ego stroking from posting pics here. Yet, it is always tempered by the thoughts that go, "Yeah, thanks, but angles and lighting are hiding the bad parts," so the comments, while nice, are still tainted by a measure of what I consider to be deception.
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Thank you ladies -
Katherine you're not the only one using angles and lighting. It's very common in the small group of male posters too. It's the rare few Litsters that can snap from any angle under any light and then feel good about posting it. There's a reason, beyond thematic consistency (Shady Goods), I use black and white. You know I don't look exactly like my photos.
I won't wax all philosophical. I've done that plenty of times before. I'll just say it's not all deception. Sometimes people see the real us no matter how much we try to hide it in smoke or mirrors. And quite often those people still like us.
Cheers
guilty!I agree with HR in the fact that, for the most part, there are very few men on here who can take a picture from any angle and capture their 6 pack everytime, I'm not one of them. But mist men here know what every woman looks for, the rock hard chiseled body of an earlier 20's male. Where angels and lighting are perfect ways of hiding ones flaws, some of us crop and edit the shit of them.
I would like to just say this, I'll try to not vent too much on it, but as a father of a set of beautiful twins, I could not look myself in the mirror in the mornings if I didn't think that my wife, whom I chose to marry, was not the most beautiful person in the world! It takes a shallow male to look at the woman he married, who gave life to his kids and think.."you are no longer my body type." fucking sad!
For what it is worth, my opinion may not be worth much, but a real man who truely loves, you sees no flaws, only the beauty of you.
".. I'm about to make an extremely repugnant statement, but it's okay, because I opened with a qualifier that excuses me for being a racist asshole." Gotta love people that use that logic, let me try:
Thank you for being here.
I've always had a big ass.
When I was a teenager, I wore a tight skirt, and my mother declared my ass in that skirt as I walked looked like "two boys fighting under a blanket." She has a way with words, that woman.
I never wore a fitted skirt or dress again. I wore long tops that came past my hips to hide my bottom, or gathered skirts.
Suddenly, big asses are in! How is it the thing I have tried to conceal for years is a "thing"?
But when I posted a short video the other day of my plump posterior in a pair of new panties, one of the comments was along the line of "Oh, I didn't realize your bottom was quite so big and round..." Instantly transported back to the two boys fighting under a blanket comment. I don't believe the person meant it bad, but of course because I am sensitive about the issue, I considered pulling the vid. I didn't, but it crossed my mind. Sad but true.
However, when it comes right down to it, my pictures are almost as much for me as for anyone. For the few moments, however brief, when I shoot or edit pics, I allow myself that indulgence of feeling like a sexy fucking Goddess of a woman. Suspending my insecurities and trying to find the best way to use what I got goin' on. And if looking for good lighting, or cropping, or using filters makes me an artist of subterfuge, so be it. Even Kim Kardashian photoshops her cellulite.
Big group hug, to anyone and everyone who has ever felt diminished because of weight, size, shape and appearance. Thanks to all who have shared their hearts.
on the matter.
Not many pics yet.
So I will play.
Usually I shoot specifically to minimize or not show my stomach.
But here's one that does show my marshmallow middle.
In spite of that fact, I liked the picture.
