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Many reasons for that one.The automatic assumption that women are submissive.
Many reasons for that one.
I'd love to discuss this, but I don't really want to bring the thread off-topic.Don't like that conclusion ask yourself why we're the majority of autoimmune cases if you love bio-based-sociology so much.
I'm not entirely sure if this is a gendered phenomenon, but I'm pretty sure most women in here who've ever presented themselves as even slightly submissive will have experienced the approach of the 'dom' who thinks that two exchanges means he can start bossing you around and generally be an arse. I tend to feel like these guys are just fundamentally lazy, and/or a bit misogynistic - positioning themselves as 'dom' means they can make the 'sub' do most of the work in the encounter, and/or they get to just treat a woman like shit under the guise that she wants that. Obviously some women do, but it takes more than a couple of PMS to establish that - IMO at least - and I'm not entirely sure that it's a process that's best based in a general dislike of women.
Is that a gendered thing, or does it happen with female 'doms' too?
(I"m also aware that it's not really a behaviour that's part of the BDSM community - hence the scare quotes around 'dom', so it's possibly a little off-topic.)
It's been talked about before, but the basic idea is that if a woman is on a website such as Lit, she's indiscriminate in who she fucks. Some men are bad at rejection when they find out otherwise and this is pretty well documented in the Asshat thread. With that said, sometimes I think guys learn about d/s, or read the CliffsNotes, and turn up with the idea that if they just call themselves dominant they'll find easy fuckmeats called submissives.
Dommes sometimes get messages from male subs begging them to dominate. Hell, I've received messages from male subs begging me to dominate them. ;; And then there are male supremacists that believe women can never be dominant that think dommes are just lying to themselves and will see their true calling when they get a glimpse of his big swinging dick.
Dommes sometimes get messages from male subs begging them to dominate. Hell, I've received messages from male subs begging me to dominate them. ;; And then there are male supremacists that believe women can never be dominant that think dommes are just lying to themselves and will see their true calling when they get a glimpse of his big swinging dick.
I think that's what I was talking about ... but obviously they're not really part of the BDSM community Primalex was initially addressing ... are they?
tend to feel like these guys are just fundamentally lazy, and/or a bit misogynistic - positioning themselves as 'dom' means they can make the 'sub' do most of the work in the encounter, and/or they get to just treat a woman like shit under the guise that she wants that. Obviously some women do, but it takes more than a couple of PMS to establish that - IMO at least - and I'm not entirely sure that it's a process that's best based in a general dislike of women.
I'm not entirely sure if this is a gendered phenomenon, but I'm pretty sure most women in here who've ever presented themselves as even slightly submissive will have experienced the approach of the 'dom' who thinks that two exchanges means he can start bossing you around and generally be an arse. I tend to feel like these guys are just fundamentally lazy, and/or a bit misogynistic - positioning themselves as 'dom' means they can make the 'sub' do most of the work in the encounter, and/or they get to just treat a woman like shit under the guise that she wants that. Obviously some women do, but it takes more than a couple of PMS to establish that - IMO at least - and I'm not entirely sure that it's a process that's best based in a general dislike of women.
Is that a gendered thing, or does it happen with female 'doms' too?
(I"m also aware that it's not really a behaviour that's part of the BDSM community - hence the scare quotes around 'dom', so it's possibly a little off-topic.)
Actually, there are in my experience as many women around who really have no interest in conversation and just want to have some version of sex as there are who insist on getting to know someone before etc.
Thinking about it, the romance & relationship submissive seems to be even the minority in my experience.
Maybe women need to learn more about women than men...?
*shrugs*
I'd love to discuss this, but I don't really want to bring the thread off-topic.
All I will say that those things I wrote - I don't support that POV. I was merely providing reason for one of MeekMe's points. Society DOES think all those things. Consciously or not. They are the reason for why people tend to place women as submissives.
That doesn't mean they are good reasons. In fact they are most probably delusional, or at the very least their influence is exagerrated.
What really influences us is the society itself. From our first days we are forced into gender roles that are considered the norm. Women must cook, clean and raise children. Men must make a career and fix things. Women can't be rude or vulgar - but for men it's Okay-ish. Men can't really wear silk, satin and frills. Only women can. Girls should play dolls and tea parties, boys should play with soldiers and toy cars.
And this goes on and on. And this builds and affects your mind more than you think.
And as far as submissiveness goes - I believe that there are a lot of subtle and not so subtle ways that the society keeps telling us that Men are the ones who should be in charge, and women are not good for that. Naturally, many women grow submissive, because they are exposed to male domination everywhere - in the family, on TV, in politics - EVERYWHERE.
I never said I agree with this. I could discuss this a long time. I already made this post longer than I wanted.
To reiterate:
I don't think that women are naturally (biologically) submissive.
I do think that there are currently more submissive women than dominant ones.
I do think things are starting to change in favor of being whatever you are, but we are not quite there.
I think that society enforces (or expects) submissive role on women and dominant role on men.
I do believe in equal rights to a point of equal responsibilities, but past that pont the rights and responsibilities should be different. Now, that doesn't mean someone should have less rights or that rights should be gender-specific. They should be person-specific. I don't believe genders will ever be truly equal. Because our physical and emotional needs are biologically unequal and never will be. Unless we count genetic engineering ofc.
That previous point has nothing to do with submissiveness. That's a social role, not a biological need. Even if it is now ingrained there somewhere in female genes, the influence would be minimal.
This raises an interesting point because I believe that EVERYONE is naturally submissive to a person in a stronger position.
Humans tend to submit in order to buy time to gain strength (physical or strength of will) to rebel against, or leave, the situation requiring submission. But, until they do, they submit.