I'm not asking for the guy to do him. I want them both paying attention to ME.
Good morning all! Love Monday mornings!! (said no person ever)
Morning!
Hopefully better on my way home, I'm sure the highway will be clear at least! Now, the county road, that's a different story! Thankfully, the Toyota has AWD.
Still looks pretty, and the stencil is cute!I did a heart stencil in my ring finger, I don't have any stickers, just stencils.
This is before the top glitter coat, you can't really see them that well once I put the top coat on. And the nail guides I used don't match the curve of my smile line, and my middle finger nail grows slightly crooked, lol. That's partially why I never do french manicures with my natural nails.
Sheeesh! Start your own thread for ladies fashion tips!! Lol unless it's stockings. Or panties. Yes, that would be ok......
I think perhaps your husband's thing with friends flirting with you isn't that weird, far as Y-chromosome based logic goes. His friends are his friends, I should hope, because he knows and has some level of trust with them. So, for one of them to say some variation on, "You're really hot" to you wouldn't necessarily raise his blood pressure. He doesn't see it as a sexual advance, because, hey, it's his pal.
In an arena that involves strangers, however, territorialism can quite easily raise its head. If you receive any level of enjoyable attention from an unknown person he only sees his wife enjoying what he perceives to be someone elses' advances. Again, that sets off the Y chromosome in many. Results can vary widely.
Some of the problem may be insecurity on his part, some may be a sort of sense of entitlement if he's working 12 hour days and bringing home most of the bacon, could be any number of things.
Far as fixing things, I recognize it's presumptuous as hell to offer advice, so do please forgive me, but....
IMO, you need to simply have a talk. If he's a reasonably intelligent dude, it should be easy to spell out to him that you have physical needs. That's a reasonable statement, and one he should understand. He believes in the sanctity of marriage, well that's certainly laudable, but in addition to that "forsaking all others" part, he also (if the vows were traditional) swore to have and to hold you. I've been led to believe that that's relatively important.
Be honest. Tell him you need to get filled out like an application a couple times a week. If you're open to it, suggest trading three ways with him - inviting a lady to one and a dude to another. It might make it easier to get a second dude involved if you find a guy you are attracted to et al, but the guy approaches your husband first and shows a proper level of respect. Maybe goes on a few man dates so your husband ceases to view him as a marital liability? If the dude you choose comports himself as a gentleman and makes it clear that he isn't interested in causing marital strife, you might get a nice surprise occasionally.
Anyway, sorry if this was an overstep, but best of luck to you.
I shall be back later.
Nap time for me. The only perk of being a stay at home mom. 3 hours in the afternoon, during which one child is at school, and the other naps. Since I slept so fitfully last night, I need one so I may study later.
