I guess I have been a cuckold by the strict definition. My ex-wife had at least two affairs that I became aware of, and I suspect there may have been more.
I tried for years to convince her to add another male or couple to our sex life. She expressed interest, but she never would go through with it. The closest we came was having sex in the same room with another couple who were also having sex. When I began to suspect she was having an affair, I have to admit to being turned on by the thought of her having sex with another man and then coming home to me. But that feeling was tempered by the fact that she found it necessary to cheat. I was able to confirm she was having an affair and confronted her, she ended the affair, and things were actually better between us for a few years. I again offered to add any male of her choice to our relationship but she said she didn't want to take the chance. We did go to a couple of swinger's clubs and had sex publicly and watched others, but neither of us had sex with another male or couple during that four-year period. She did offer to let me have an affair to "make us even" but I never took her up on it.
I spent seven months in the desert in 2007 and she started another affair while I was away. It took a while for me to find out about it, and this time I did not feel turned on at all by the thought of her fucking another man. As soon as I was able to verify she was having an affair, I filed for divorce.
My current relationship is everything I wanted my marriage to be. My girlfriend and I love each other, but we enjoy sex with others, both together and separately. Our relationship depends on trust and a level of communication that my ex-wife and I never had. I love seeing her with other men because it gives me pleasure to see her having pleasure. I don't feel or act submissive when she is with other men, but I do enjoy cleaning her thoroughly after the fact.
I tried for years to convince her to add another male or couple to our sex life. She expressed interest, but she never would go through with it. The closest we came was having sex in the same room with another couple who were also having sex. When I began to suspect she was having an affair, I have to admit to being turned on by the thought of her having sex with another man and then coming home to me. But that feeling was tempered by the fact that she found it necessary to cheat. I was able to confirm she was having an affair and confronted her, she ended the affair, and things were actually better between us for a few years. I again offered to add any male of her choice to our relationship but she said she didn't want to take the chance. We did go to a couple of swinger's clubs and had sex publicly and watched others, but neither of us had sex with another male or couple during that four-year period. She did offer to let me have an affair to "make us even" but I never took her up on it.
I spent seven months in the desert in 2007 and she started another affair while I was away. It took a while for me to find out about it, and this time I did not feel turned on at all by the thought of her fucking another man. As soon as I was able to verify she was having an affair, I filed for divorce.
My current relationship is everything I wanted my marriage to be. My girlfriend and I love each other, but we enjoy sex with others, both together and separately. Our relationship depends on trust and a level of communication that my ex-wife and I never had. I love seeing her with other men because it gives me pleasure to see her having pleasure. I don't feel or act submissive when she is with other men, but I do enjoy cleaning her thoroughly after the fact.