You're married?!?!!

[Silverluna]

Ok....I promise I will only bitch in just this post....for just this teeny tiny problem i see.....
guys....try telling someone you might flirt with that you are married? Before you let it slip? HUH?!?!
Gosh...I will take a page out of Zam's book and start....
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*curls up very small*
no more posting for me for a while....
(maybe an hour....gonna kill some bad
Mo'Fuckers on my playstation....)

 

[penguindance]

 

[Bluesboy2]

Just so the world knows

Im not married or involved. I am available and have no secrets.

 

[Silverluna]

Re: Re: You're married?!?!!

Sorry Luna, baby, I'm married.
Oh yeah, and I'm not a guy.

LoL....aww...

(the odd little issue i was bringing to mind was how people who "flirt, hit on, whatever" carefully leave that one little bit of info out .....until something happens...and they get into trouble....)

 

[WhiteRose]

heh I DATED a guy for 4 months before I found out he was married. Lived in his own house, no roommates, just a dog. His friends didn't even tell me. It wasn't until his wife moved back in (they'd been separated and she was living with her parents out of state), that he finally told me. Not to stop seeing me, no. Just to keep me from calling his house so his wife wouldn't find out. What a jerk.

 

[Wiggles]

I've put it right into my profile.

I'm staying out of trouble.

(Yeah, right.)

 

[Silverluna]

What a freak!

I'm sorry about your experience...I just hope the sex was good!! (joke)

 

[Silverluna]

Well...I mean I guess some people don't care...but ...well...it was kinda a shock for me.....ya know lalala everything is peachy...then...BAM! erm....i'm married...all my friends know...didn't they tell you?!!

don't worry i won't mention any names....I'm not THAT cheesed off....just kinda...well puzzled...if you love your parterner SOOOO much...why look for it else where? Either online, in a bar, or whatever....

 

[berkley2955]

Married... but don't know for how long. She told me at first of year she didn't love me like that anymore.

was supposed to put house on market but that hasn't happened yet. I'm confused

 

[Silverluna]

*hugs berkly* i sowwy....

 

[WhiteRose]

I'm not THAT cheesed off....just kinda...well puzzled...if you love your parterner SOOOO much...why look for it else where? Either online, in a bar, or whatever....

I don't understand that either. I get tunnel-vision when I care about someone, I just don't notice anyone else.

 

[Silverluna]

me too....when i was in one of my few major relationships...(ok the only one) I had tunnel vision too.....but what if the light at the end of my tunnel vision .....goes out? blah...

Still no answers to my original questions....

 

[Siren]

everyone knows I am married

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

Hmmm...

I'm married, and my wife knows about it!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I'm not a guy, but I don't see any harm in flirting either. I'm very happily married, and both of us flirt (mostly online). I'm not looking for someone to replace my hubby. I always make sure anyone I chat with or meet IRL knows I'm married and not looking. I have had guys not be up front about that with me too tho, and I know how you feel. What's to be gained by not being honest?

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: everyone knows I am married

I mean I talk about Wolfy enough ............

I even get told I talk too much about him.......

so if someone on lit doesnt know I am married
they are either brand new
or
brain dead.

Or they just don't happen to see the posts, or they forget, etc.

As for wanting to know that, yeah I want to know; I've said it before, but I will say it again for the newcomers and any that might have missed it before - I had a very bad experience messing around with a married woman once. It caused a lot of embaressment not just for me but for my whole family, and I her husband was pissed to boot. Since then I do not get involved with someone who is in any way attached to someone else, especially if they are married. Adultery is still a crime in many states.

Now some innocent public flirting here on Lit. with someone who understands it is innocent, that is okay as this is an erotica board after all, and that is part of the charm of the place. I even have gone so far as to tease Ruby about tying her to my bed and having my way with her mouth, but seriously flirting as in trying to start a relationship with an attached person? Sorry, but no - I still have the burn scars (figuratively) from 25 years ago.

 

[skitch]

little insight from a guy

not too long ago..i was talking to this woman in another state nearby. My insecurities caused me to lie about a great portion of who i am and in the end I finally told her out of necessity. She's a much stronger person than me and forgave me after a month or so. how does this tie in?

Fantasy.

This woman pretty much broke down the whole reason I lied...things i didn't even realize came out. And i agreed with her on almost all of them. She called it a fantasy world where things would be perfect for the two of us. And she's right.

But that's how it ties in...fantasy is what makes up most relationships *any kind* in my estimation. And it's very easy to do what it takes to keep relationships intact over the net by lying or not telling the whole truth. Most guys are jerks. or at least have their moments.

I don't know why this person did this to you, but the only answer i can give you as to maybe why...is that the fantasy relationship became too hard to let go of.

to paraphrase Dennis Miller ...that's just my opinion. I may be wrong

skitch

 

[Shaq]

Re: Just so the world knows

Im not married or involved. I am available and have no secrets.

Same here....except I like to expose myself in shopping malls....but only during Christmas season...

 

[HeidiManshankVA]

Preaching to the choir

AMEN SISTER!

I've been online for about 7 years now. I can't count the number of times this little tiny detail was left out till the very last and usually to late moment.

Honesty from the get go ... its the only way to be a true friend.

 

[Nora]

grrr...

I *always* say that I'm married. Lots of people don't want to "waste time" on married people, and that's their right. I sure as hell don't blame them.

Lemme kick the guy's ass for you, Silverluna. Just on principle, k?

 

[Silverluna]

naw its ok...i called down...but welll...i don't mind innocently flirting ...but don't lead the person on?!

 

[Roy Batty]

Why not ask them straight out?

 

[Silverluna]

i'm not asking for a black list...

And I don't pay attention all the fucking time to everysingle (haha) post and thread.....Pardon my failure.

I too don't see anything wrong with flirting...just well damnit...let them know...its only flirting....i speak from a little bit of experience....but i don't wish anyone else to get into trouble...

 

[nzwookie]

Re: i'm not asking for a black list...

And I don't pay attention all the fucking time to everysingle (haha) post and thread.....Pardon my failure.

I too don't see anything wrong with flirting...just well damnit...let them know...its only flirting....i speak from a little bit of experience....but i don't wish anyone else to get into trouble...

OK---------Guilty as charged but not because of any deliberate act....When I check or update my profile it says clearly in black and white that I am attached.....however both that and my occupation do not show up when accessed from the boards...can anybody help me fix this ??

The fact is well known among the Litsters that I regulary talk to so it tends to slp my mind when talking to a new freind..

I surrender unconditionaly and am prepared to take any punishment or abuse directed my way for this mistake....

Everyone that I flirt with at Lit owns a little peice of my heart....and that peice breaks as easily as the whole......

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