Your Mood After Sex? Am I normal?

[Guest]

Hi Everyone. I'm New here. I've been visiting this site for a while and must say it kicks ass.


Now my question is: What is your mood like after you orgasm?

My wife and I have some very intense and erotic love making sensions. We love to push the limits and get as naughty as possible with each other. While we are in the heat of the action I am totally into it. The problem is as soon as I cum I completely snap out of the horny mood I was in. It is as if I snap out of a trance and I become normal again.

Now I'm wondering does this happen to any of you? Do any of you know how I could prolong the sexual trance past my cumming?

I look forward to hearing all of your comments. Thanks )

Mr Briggs

 

[Never]

An orgasm makes me feel like I just got shot in the butt with an elephant tranq. I have trouble lifting my head off my pillow but I always get up and wash up afterwards, I find a splash of cold water in my eyes makes all the difference.

 

[Starfish]

Are you going to be joining us as a member here at lit? If so, Welcome to you Mr. Briggs.

This is interesting to me, because I am perpetually in a state of sexual desire due to the fact that I am rather sensuous by nature.

I need to know a few things, if I dare say anything on the matter...

How often do you and your wife have sex?

When you are not having sex, do you fantasize, or get turned on, without any stimuli or reason, other than your own thoughts, or do you get turned on only when you are in contact with your partner, or when you just had to go extended periods of time and the dick starts thinking for you?

These questions are to determine if this is all more of a biological reason, than a psycological one.

Sorry if they are imposing or intrusive, but I don't think anyone could really tell you what is up, without know the root of the problem.

I am a visual person, so I have pictures/images that accompany my other senses, along with some self willed feelings. I would say that I am 'in the mood' 88.5 % of the time. I attribute it to my vivid imagination (psychological), and my hormonal sex drive (biological), both being quite outrageous. I can't wait till I hit my peak. I'll be comming from my pussy lips touching.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

Starfish I read the board whenever I can. I'll try to contribute as regularly as possible


As for your questions...

We Have sex between 4 and 8 times a week.

I am very sexual. When we are not in contact I do fantasize and get turned without any stimuli.


The desire for sex is very strong.

I'd like to be able to stay in the mood so that my cumming isn't the end of it and I can prolong these amazing love making sensions Which would in turn result in more fun for us.


Mr. Briggs

 

[April]

Errm, I kinda thought that was the whole point. You cum, you're done. No?

 

[luv2tvl69]

There is no normal/abnormal....everyone reacts differently. Does your immediate switch after sex bother your wife? if it doesnt dont worry about it. If it makes her feel undesireable maybe you could just hold her a bit afterwards, gently caress her.

I myself love the afterglow of sex/orgasm. I am very sensous and feel things (just about everything-not just sex) very intensely. It takes me a good 5-10 minutes to get my breathing to return to normal, to stop that shaky feeling, to make my throbbing subside. I actually like all those sensations. I like the cuddling, closeness and warmth of a lover after sex/orgasm.

When I masturbate, I always leave my vibe (on low) inside me and gently run my fingertips over my breasts and nipples until all of those feelings subside. It brings me down really nice and peaceful after orgasm. I especially like that masturbating with WC (now by phone...YEA!) he talks me down with it, caressing me, kissing me. It makes it nicer to hear his voice. Not only do I cum harder, but my afterglow is also sweeter. OK NOW I'M HORNY (seems like always since finding literotica site) AND WC IS AT WORK UNTIL TONITE..... oh well, I guess I should be doing some housework anyways....

Hope you can find what works best for you and wife. Good Luck, and keep us posted on progress.

 

[p_p_man]

Now my question is: What is your mood like after you orgasm?

fucking exhausted...

 

[Mr. Briggs]

Hi luv2tvl69

I agree with you. It doesn't bother my wife. I was just wondering if I was alone in that feeling, you know the big work up with an intense climax and quick return to life lifeless.


Just wanted to make sure it wasn't a problem. I've found literotica to be real good for that. So many topics and different opinions. Good to see what other people's experiences and fantasies are. This place kicks ass!

Mr. Briggs

 

[bluntforcemama]

It depends on how strong the orgasm is. There are times when I can't seem to have a really strong climax, and if that's the case, then I'm ready to go again in about 5 minutes.

 

[Angel]

Errm, I kinda thought that was the whole point. You cum, you're done. No?

Hell no. That would make for a pretty dull sex life! I cum, I want to cum again. And again. And again til I can't move. Then I roll over and fall asleep.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

Angel I have to agree. That sounds like the ideal situation to me

 

[Starfish]

OH, hey, I forgot about this... sorry.

It seems that a lot was covered here in a breif manner... that's good.


I asked those questions to find out if there was a problem, because, pertaining to biological reasons such as hormones, a clear distinction that there is normalities and abnormalities pertaining to sex drive.

I am glad that you see you are fine. You seem to have a very healthy sex life. That is good to see.

From here, it is about timing and trying to plan your orgasm to be last. After some good play with your wife and getting her off, stopping for a time to cool down can help build your stamina, and prolong your staying power for the rest of your incounter. The more you do this, the more you will develop less sensitivity and you'll have longer love making sessions.

If you really are looking to go beyond this to wanting to be able to go again after you've come.......

Here are some suggestions.
Try a break... get a snack... splash your face (like Never said), eat a bannana, do jumping jacks..... Once you've refueled, and the serotonin is picked up by the circulatory system and respirated, you'll feel perky again and maybe up for some more action.


Then...
Try watching porn together.

Try tieing your wife up and spanking her ass, and playing with her pussy, or some other sexual thing, that doesn't envolve your cock. Do this for a while... Have fun tormenting and teasing her.

Take a bath together after sex, and rub her soapy tits, and her body. Once you've relaxed a bit, get out and towel off together. Go back to the bed and lick her clean pussy. Her coming again will surely make your cock grow.

These kinds of things usually get a guy going again because he is stimulating his brain with the sexy thoughts that it takes to get turned on, so if you are refreshed.... Who knows????


Good luck, and have fun

 

[Mr. Briggs]

Agreed Starfish. That is what we currently do. I try to concentrate alot on her and make sure she gets off. Holding back isn't a problem I was just wondering if there were any other tricks.

One thing that seems to work for me is to not cum completely. So as I'm real close to cumming I stop whatever we are doing and let some cum squirt. I then wait about 30 seconds to a minute and I'm still hard and ready to go That allows us to prolong our fun while adding some cum to the mix to play with ))

Mr. Briggs

 

[alexander tzara]

I've read that because of the release of hormones or chemicals or whatever during orgasm that a lot of men become slightly depressed immediately afterwards. It's probably a bit like the 'come down' that amphetamine users get after the rush of using the drug. Maybe you are experiencing this.

I think it's the same reason that men tend to fall asleep after sex whereas a woman is more likely to want to stay awake and cuddle.

 

[p_p_man]

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"What is your mood like after you orgasm?"


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"men tend to fall asleep after sex"



That's what I said...Fucking exhausted!.

 

[cymbidia]

We are almost different species, males and females, with our chemical and biological responses to orgasm. Wonder why? What's the evolutionary advantage to orgasming so totally that it renders a man almost incapable of much in the way of voluntary movement immediately after the occurance? Interesting.

 

[Xander]

My mood after an orgasm.

"More please...More"

Sometimes I dont lose erection either...and can just keep going.....

 

[Mr. Briggs]

Alexander, good to know. I wonder if there are any natural supplements that one can take to offset this. That would be awesome. Guys, imagine being able to cum like crazy and then be able to actually get up and go to the bathroom to clean yourself off


cymbidia I agree. Weird indeed.


Mr. Briggs

 

[Guru]