You Have No Soul....
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MissTaken
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For a first date or early on in the relationship....Very tacky!
I agree with you, lav. Toss all that stuff away and show me who you really are.
After dating for a bit or even married, that would be very romantic. The scenario could go a long way toward making a gal feel special to her SO.
I agree with you, lav. Toss all that stuff away and show me who you really are.
After dating for a bit or even married, that would be very romantic. The scenario could go a long way toward making a gal feel special to her SO.
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So, ya wanna fuck? Or should we fight first? I like it that way.
JazzManJim
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lavender said:
No, you're not cold at all.
But you'd be surprised how often your above statement really is true. Sure, we put it in other terms, but it has always shown itself to me that a man with money gets laid far more often than a man without money.
On the other hand, there's a hell of a lot of dating history that says that the guy is supposed to do exactly what your friend was doing. He's supposed to flash the cash a little, as part of an ancient and venerable ritual that does show the woman that he has enough money that he can throw some away on frivolous things. It's supposed to show he's a good provider, I suppose, and all that sociological rot.
Then again, I'm far closer to being poor than I am rich, so I'm very biased.
EthiopianPrince
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Lavender,
I agree. A female friend told me something similar ... that flowers on the first date is to soon, some things are nice to build to. I try to keep things unpredictable and with a touch of mystery ... it's fun for me and my past girlfriends seem to have appreciated it too.
I agree. A female friend told me something similar ... that flowers on the first date is to soon, some things are nice to build to. I try to keep things unpredictable and with a touch of mystery ... it's fun for me and my past girlfriends seem to have appreciated it too.
MissTaken
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Hmmmm
Well, I probably like the idea since my ex husb had all the excess money in the household and the only time he bought me roses, he demanded I give him money towards paying for them. (I left less than a week later!)
So while I don't require someone to spend money on me, I do believe we look for the things in our next relationship that was lacking in our last.
Well, I probably like the idea since my ex husb had all the excess money in the household and the only time he bought me roses, he demanded I give him money towards paying for them. (I left less than a week later!)
So while I don't require someone to spend money on me, I do believe we look for the things in our next relationship that was lacking in our last.
Calamity Jane
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I think if a guy had all that planned for me, it would be a damn good indicator that he had no idea who i was. Even just talking to me in a bar, he'd know more about me than to think "Fancy restaurant and roses".
I suppose there ARE girls who would swoon at that sort of treatment... I am most definitely not one of them. Romance is doing things that are special to a specific person... the things no one else would understand... and doing them just because you want to see their face when they realize you know them.
I suppose there ARE girls who would swoon at that sort of treatment... I am most definitely not one of them. Romance is doing things that are special to a specific person... the things no one else would understand... and doing them just because you want to see their face when they realize you know them.
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Not everyone is used to having so many flowers showered on them, Lavy. It may not be a treat for you, but I'm betting it is for some of the rest of us.
I'd be happy if I got flowers. Wouldn't have to be roses, either. A nice bunchy of daisies would be nice. Just something to say "I was thinking of you."
I'd be happy if I got flowers. Wouldn't have to be roses, either. A nice bunchy of daisies would be nice. Just something to say "I was thinking of you."
Natalie Nessus
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It is good sometimes to be treated as a whore
and if that is the case, I prefer expensive to cheap
and if that is the case, I prefer expensive to cheap
Stonedagger
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hummm
'I found it to be boring, tired, and unimpressive. I guess that's me. Spending money on me does absolutely zero to impress me. I want creativity, I want spontaneity, I want sincerity.'
Looks around - strips(a little painfully) ties a ribbon around his genitals holds the body paint in one hand and stands there waiting to be taken to bed.....
( creative and spontaneous and VERY sincere - check, check ,check - now she is mine!!!!)
But I think a nice restaurant - ie a nice quiet place can be nice to be able to talk and get to know one another better is nice - a place I go to is ASHO Gardens - you get your own private room and serving girl knocks first and then enters with food - it is a quiet place with good food - the roses and or flowers are definately a later date thing - otherwise just give her a conodom tree and say lets try and use em all up tonight while we are stil dating cause we probably won't be tomorrow!
'I found it to be boring, tired, and unimpressive. I guess that's me. Spending money on me does absolutely zero to impress me. I want creativity, I want spontaneity, I want sincerity.'
Looks around - strips(a little painfully) ties a ribbon around his genitals holds the body paint in one hand and stands there waiting to be taken to bed.....
( creative and spontaneous and VERY sincere - check, check ,check - now she is mine!!!!)
But I think a nice restaurant - ie a nice quiet place can be nice to be able to talk and get to know one another better is nice - a place I go to is ASHO Gardens - you get your own private room and serving girl knocks first and then enters with food - it is a quiet place with good food - the roses and or flowers are definately a later date thing - otherwise just give her a conodom tree and say lets try and use em all up tonight while we are stil dating cause we probably won't be tomorrow!
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OK, Lavender, let me see if I've got this straight...
Which is unlikely, because I just dropped in from the Fri. night party, & I can't feel my cheeks.
Based on this thread & your post about a Valentine's Day Memory on another, I'm guessing romantic appreciation is measured in how much thought was put into it, not how much money, right?
Which is unlikely, because I just dropped in from the Fri. night party, & I can't feel my cheeks.
Based on this thread & your post about a Valentine's Day Memory on another, I'm guessing romantic appreciation is measured in how much thought was put into it, not how much money, right?
Calamity Jane
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Re: OK, Lavender, let me see if I've got this straight...
*pinching P1's cheeks*
I think that's exactly what she was saying... it's what I was saying anyway. Money doesn't impress me either, I just really really don't care if the guy can afford posh eateries and dozens of roses... if he figures out that dandelions are my favorite flower, is he gonna bring me those?
patient1 said:
*pinching P1's cheeks*
I think that's exactly what she was saying... it's what I was saying anyway. Money doesn't impress me either, I just really really don't care if the guy can afford posh eateries and dozens of roses... if he figures out that dandelions are my favorite flower, is he gonna bring me those?
Stonedagger
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thinking...
I wonder if I can drive in this condition????
Also wondering where the hell Lavy lives....flying might be a better idea....
Wondering if she would let him in looking like frankenstein....
Wondering if he could perform as well as his mind wishes....
Screw it give me the directions I am taking a TAXI!!!!
I wonder if I can drive in this condition????
Also wondering where the hell Lavy lives....flying might be a better idea....
Wondering if she would let him in looking like frankenstein....
Wondering if he could perform as well as his mind wishes....
Screw it give me the directions I am taking a TAXI!!!!
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I have a friend who told me one time she would be thrilled to death if someone gave her roses. I know for a fact that she used to send herself flowers, candy and all that crap in high school, because "she knew no one else would"
She said the most flattering thing that ever happened to her was some guy in a bar bought her a flower, sent it to her table, and then he waved to her and left. He didn't hit on her.
I think what she appreciated so much was the sincerity. Everybody has different ideas of what is romantic. I tend not to give flowers because I feel that (1) its over used and (2) I'm afraid all she'll think I want is to get into her pants. Some women expect it and are disappointed when they don't get it...some women are suspicious of your motives and some women don't want it at all. Its hard to tell.
Nowdays women get offended if you open doors for them. I was brought up to respect women. So I will open a door for you, and I will come around to your side of the car to let you out, and I will stand when you get up from the table. Its the way I was raised.
Lately, I've taken to exposing any new friends to my gang of miscreants. If she survives that, and I can feel her out on what she thinks is romantic, then I try to follow through on that.
But it hasn't been easy. Why do you think I am posting here
on a Friday night.
well anyway my .02
She said the most flattering thing that ever happened to her was some guy in a bar bought her a flower, sent it to her table, and then he waved to her and left. He didn't hit on her.
I think what she appreciated so much was the sincerity. Everybody has different ideas of what is romantic. I tend not to give flowers because I feel that (1) its over used and (2) I'm afraid all she'll think I want is to get into her pants. Some women expect it and are disappointed when they don't get it...some women are suspicious of your motives and some women don't want it at all. Its hard to tell.
Nowdays women get offended if you open doors for them. I was brought up to respect women. So I will open a door for you, and I will come around to your side of the car to let you out, and I will stand when you get up from the table. Its the way I was raised.
Lately, I've taken to exposing any new friends to my gang of miscreants. If she survives that, and I can feel her out on what she thinks is romantic, then I try to follow through on that.
But it hasn't been easy. Why do you think I am posting here
on a Friday night.
well anyway my .02
Stonedagger
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Re: Re: thinking...
I don't think so If I am coming all the way from Ontario to Texas I am gonna have to kill him cause I don't share - LOL!!
Unless I get a lady and then I will pay her off on the way down to rebuild up my stamina so that I can make the trip worth while for ya!
lavender said:
I'm in Texas. Tell the Taxi driver I'll let him play too, if he gives you a good deal.
I don't think so If I am coming all the way from Ontario to Texas I am gonna have to kill him cause I don't share - LOL!!
Unless I get a lady and then I will pay her off on the way down to rebuild up my stamina so that I can make the trip worth while for ya!
patient1
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Re: Re: OK, Lavender, let me see if I've got this straight...
HAH! Didn't even feel that.
Dandelions would present an interesting challenge...
You want them as fresh as possible, because wildflowers just don't keep well. But you don't want to have stained hands on a date , either. Is it permissable to pay kids to pick them you're cleaned & dressed to go?
pagancowgirl said:
HAH! Didn't even feel that.
Dandelions would present an interesting challenge...
You want them as fresh as possible, because wildflowers just don't keep well. But you don't want to have stained hands on a date , either. Is it permissable to pay kids to pick them you're cleaned & dressed to go?
Calamity Jane
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Re: Re: Re: OK, Lavender, let me see if I've got this straight...
*pinching P1's other cheeks* Feel that darlin?
if someone actually brought me dandelions, i wouldn't care who picked them
patient1 said:
HAH! Didn't even feel that.
Dandelions would present an interesting challenge...
You want them as fresh as possible, because wildflowers just don't keep well. But you don't want to have stained hands on a date , either. Is it permissable to pay kids to pick them you're cleaned & dressed to go?
*pinching P1's other cheeks* Feel that darlin?
if someone actually brought me dandelions, i wouldn't care who picked them
talk2024
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Read about this last year...
and since I ranted about this to a friend at the time, I'll just clip and paste said rant and insert here
about a web site that offers guys up to, I think, 40 different ways to propose marriage. And that's supposed to be romantic? Paying someone for the idea! One guy actually said this, "I know that getting married is supposed to be one of the most important events of my life, but hey, I'm a busy guy!" Too fuckin' busy to worry about how you're going to propose to your girlfriend, the woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with? One of the scenarios even included having someone to videotape the proposal from a distance. What kind of world is this anyway, where everything needs to be documented? One guy in the article boasts about how he proposed in a restaurant, with violins and a ring on a tray, and he on bended knee and how wives and girlfriends were slapping their significant others for not being as romantic. Shit, if they only knew that this guy paid to set it all up, how romantic is that really?
and since I ranted about this to a friend at the time, I'll just clip and paste said rant and insert here
about a web site that offers guys up to, I think, 40 different ways to propose marriage. And that's supposed to be romantic? Paying someone for the idea! One guy actually said this, "I know that getting married is supposed to be one of the most important events of my life, but hey, I'm a busy guy!" Too fuckin' busy to worry about how you're going to propose to your girlfriend, the woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with? One of the scenarios even included having someone to videotape the proposal from a distance. What kind of world is this anyway, where everything needs to be documented? One guy in the article boasts about how he proposed in a restaurant, with violins and a ring on a tray, and he on bended knee and how wives and girlfriends were slapping their significant others for not being as romantic. Shit, if they only knew that this guy paid to set it all up, how romantic is that really?
