You ever forget that you're gay?

[CandiCame]

So, I smoked for the first time since my sobriety, hotboxing in my car on the way to a friend's house in another city yesterday, and I noticed something really weird. When you're in a relationship for a while, the whole "We're gonna pretend we're not dating because that would be gay" thing goes away because you forget that dating a man is gay. Just, completely forget about it. I had two really weird moments yesterday when I remembered- after hours, that my relationship was gay because my man made a joke about it.


-Hotboxing

-B: Dude, are you serious- in the fucking car?

C: You said that I could smoke, as long as it wasn't cigarettes

B: But not in the fucking car!

C: It's my car!

B: You're almost out of gas- first, we have to stop and get gas

C: OMG, we do! Well, lets stop at at BP- I wanna get a cup of coffee;

B: But it's a cent cheaper at shell-

C: But their coffee sucks-

B: Well, your car has a 20 gallon tank-

C: It's 1 FUCKING cent!

B: That's $20

C: That's 20 CENTS, dumbass!

B: Oh, wait, it is. Yeah, get the coffee. Get me one to, but not anything gay- coffee flavored coffee.

C: * stares at him *

B: I'd apologies more, but you're a bitch.

C: * laughs*



-later

B: Your car is so going to smell like weed

C: And sex

B: What?

C: Oh, yeah, when I'm to high to drive later and you and the GPS have to find our way home, I'm gonna blow you- or you're gonna find somewhere to stop or something

B: Dude, it's raining- but- yeah, actually, I can't remember why I wanted you to stop smoking- let's get food


B: Lets go to McDonalds

C: I've gotta eat cheap- My new job hasn't started paying me yet, and I gotta make rent outta the one I got today

B: I'm buying your food, dumbass. Like I always do- because you're broke- and I'm your boyfriend-

C: aww-

B: Don't make it gay * sigh *




So, yeah- I was wondering if other people did this to...

 

[DarkBee]

Were you still high when you wrote this?

 

[CandiCame]

Were you still high when you wrote this?

Yes

Yes I was. Realizing that was a mistake now.


But- the bullet point to take away from this is;

My relationship now is almost exactly like the relationships I have with women- and I forget that it's supposed to be this socially awkward thing. It makes me second-guess the whole politicization aspect of sexuality. Gay relationships aren't really that gay. As much as they are relationships. It's just that as soon as the um... novelty wears off, it's really easy to forget the gender of your partner is supposed to say something about you.

That's what I was trying to talk about.

 

[Etoile]

Yes

Yes I was. Realizing that was a mistake now.


But- the bullet point to take away from this is;

My relationship now is almost exactly like the relationships I have with women- and I forget that it's supposed to be this socially awkward thing. It makes me second-guess the whole politicization aspect of sexuality. Gay relationships aren't really that gay. As much as they are relationships. It's just that as soon as the um... novelty wears off, it's really easy to forget the gender of your partner is supposed to say something about you.

That's what I was trying to talk about.

Have you ever heard when gay rights activists say "we're just like everyone else"? Well, it's true.

Nothing about your relationship should be inherently different from a heterosexual relationship just because you're gay. Being gay isn't special. Being gay isn't socially awkward. It doesn't say anything about you. You're living your life in a certain way...but it's still just living your life.

 

[PurpleJade]

Have you ever heard when gay rights activists say "we're just like everyone else"? Well, it's true.

Nothing about your relationship should be inherently different from a heterosexual relationship just because you're gay. Being gay isn't special. Being gay isn't socially awkward. It doesn't say anything about you. You're living your life in a certain way...but it's still just living your life.

That was really well put Etoile. If only everyone understood this fact!

 

[strapon_tales]

I don't know why, but this bit

B: I'm buying your food, dumbass. Like I always do- because you're broke- and I'm your boyfriend-

C: aww-

B: Don't make it gay * sigh *

made me feel all fuzzy and happy inside.

 

[CandiCame]

I don't know why, but this bit



made me feel all fuzzy and happy inside.

Me to! This was just part of a big list of conversations- quotes I wanted to save and shit.

It's the novelty wearing off, I think that made me think about this. I actually hadn't meant to post it, I was typing from my phone and I couldn't figure out how to get the internet to go down and my text file to go back up.

 

[Lord_of_Farts]

Have you ever heard when gay rights activists say "we're just like everyone else"? Well, it's true.

Nothing about your relationship should be inherently different from a heterosexual relationship just because you're gay. Being gay isn't special. Being gay isn't socially awkward. It doesn't say anything about you. You're living your life in a certain way...but it's still just living your life.

If you like everybody else how cum you need separate laws to protect you gay people ?

 

[JakeLongman]

you know whats gay?

I'll tell you what's gay.
Spending hours on the internet bashing gay people.
Hey fart smeller....let the fun people enjoy themselves.
Maybe you're just pissed off at life because you realize you have the same urges as the people you are harassing on this site.
You are gay, fart man.
Relax and enjoy it.

 

[CandiCame]

If you like everybody else how cum you need separate laws to protect you gay people ?

Kinda my point. I realized that night- I mean, I had already known, but I realized just how fucking stupid anti-marriage, anti-adoption, ect laws are. What the Fuck society? Seriously?

Wasn't there some comedian that said that marriage was, essentially, eating and fucking? That if you can't stand to fuck someone, and you can't stand to eat with them- then you don't need to be in the relationship? I think that works for any relationship, lol.



So once again, bullet point: What the fuck, society? Same sex restrictions are fucking gay.

 

[Etoile]

Using gay as an epithet isn't cool. Never has been, never will be.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Using gay as an epithet isn't cool. Never has been, never will be.

Strongly agrees!

<3 = Etoile.

 

[PurpleJade]

I also agree. Its seriously not cool.

 

[CandiCame]

Using gay as an epithet isn't cool. Never has been, never will be.

Kinda wondering where it came from. The whole "gay" as synonymous with "bad" thing. Like, I will say that stuff's gay, but I mean it's gay. As in- it's homosexual.

 

[none2_none2]

I think the main reason gay relationships are different is because everybody ELSE won't let you forget that it is different.

On a slightly different topic, one of my favorite Twilight Zone epasodes is about the woman whose looks were pecular to everybody else's. She tried surgery to correct it, but it didn't work. She was still different. I won't spoil it for those who may have not seen it. The first time you see it, it is pretty powerful. Whether you like Sci Fi or not, it was an excellent epasode that lets you feel like what it is like for someone to live a life of feeling "defective" soley because that is how OTHER's perceive you. After a lifetime of that it gets to the point where you believe it. Many gay's spend a good part of their life getting past that indoctrination.

Another example of minor heterosexual indoctrination... Have you ever seen how cute people think it is if a little girl and a little boy kiss? Sometimes it is completely staged, and perhaps sometime it is spontaneous. If two little girls or two little boys did that, how many would say -- "Oh how cute!"?
I seriously think that there would be plenty of people freaking out, and if THAT was staged, those adults would be accused of indoctrination. I also don't think it has that much to do with religion as much as heterosexism.

 

[StacyCD39]

Have you ever heard when gay rights activists say "we're just like everyone else"? Well, it's true.

Nothing about your relationship should be inherently different from a heterosexual relationship just because you're gay. Being gay isn't special. Being gay isn't socially awkward. It doesn't say anything about you. You're living your life in a certain way...but it's still just living your life.

This is absolutely perfect! I forget I'm gay all the time, primarily because I don't focus on labels. I don't believe that we should compartmentalize who we are because society is gets all flustered when things aren't categorized, specifically, when things don't fall into one of their socially constructed categories.

Take me for example. I'm a transgender. I love men. Biologically, I'm one, but everything above the neck, and everything in my heart and soul tells me I'm a woman. So does that make me NOT gay because I truly believe I'm a woman and I love men? The answer is who cares? I've come to accept who I am, free of labels and therefore, limitations. Like Etoile so eloquently said, we're just living our lives, and we're happy, so why should that make us special?