You are a good person!

[pinksateendream]

All of us that are coming out, have come out, will come out, know somone that is, or hesitate, just inside of the closet..... we have and will have really terrible horrible days. Days like today, when a guy called me a "fucking dyke" telling me that he would "allow" me to suck his dick so that I would know what a "real man" tasted like.. as if it would alter my affections and love for the same sex. Many people go through these things. I've been followed in my car, screamed at, rocks have been thrown.... It hasn't been easy and it isn't for so many people. For those of you who have had a good experience... I am so truly happy for you. I hope that one day it will be like that for everyone. For the time being I propose that we make this a "happy" thread ... for people who have had a bad day and need some support. Please leave some words of wisdom, a joke, some support and some love. Some people have no one to talk to as they go through the process, some haven't even begun to start it, and some have felt comfortable with themselves for decades, but still, I think some days we all feel that we could use a little boost. I just want to say, goofy and cheesy as it may sound, that i truly adore you all, there is something incredibly special about each and every one of you, and that you are all incredibly beautiful people who should be proud of yourself and whoever it is that you love. Many people have used God against me... but I will always say that I don't believe that God would punish me for loving anyone... and so I extend that to all of you. I apologize for the cheesiness of this thread, but honestly I think that there are a lot of people out there that could use it. I know there are days when I could. MUAH!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Move to Victoria, BC. Seriously. 10% of our population in this city is GLBT, and I've never heard one word of hate while living here. I heard it on the mainland a whole bunch, but here, people are just really.. open about it.

 

[Quint]

I just started a new job. On day one, we went around and introduced ourselves and said a little shpiel. At break, I started chatting with this boy. Brief description: he is slender, extremely well-groomed, hesitates before making eye contact, has had poetry published, is dating someone.

We get around to joking about how many people in our training group are mothers. I launch into my "I'm never having kids!" speech and notice he's looking a little uncomfortable. I figure it's because I'm talking too much about me, so I ask, "What about you? Are you planning on having them?" (Stupid, stupid me! But it gets better.)

He replies in the negative. I try probing and (here it comes) ask, "Is that mostly your decision or your girlfriend's?"

"Ummmm...I don't have a girlfriend."

DUH!!!! Did I really need it spelled out for me? I'm dating a fuckin' music major! I'm bisexual myself! My gaydar really needs to be checked.

Anyway, I hope this little anecdote made someone else laugh.

 

[Cigan]

Don't worry about it Quint. You don't have to have good dar. It makes finding a date a hell of a lot easier, but I'm sure it's no biggie.

 

[Etoile]

My gaydar sucks too. I usually wind up ogling really hot vaguely androgynous girls...who turn out to be straight. Ah well.

 

[pinksateendream]

No gaydar here either... sadly.....

 

[ExistentialLuv]

My arms reach out to you and all that have had a bad expieriance coming out for a big {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}and lots of s


Love and friendship to all and 13

 

[sexylilmissie]

let me add my support/caring whatever you want to call it

i live in a tiny little town 30 k outside a city that has a pride parade etc every year. we also have a lovely little store called the rainbow connection where all sorts of things can be purchased including pride stickers/pins etc.

i was working as a gas attendant this summer when a lady came in who had really cool looking lightning strike shaped pride stickers in her rear window. i felt bad at the look in her eyes when i asked her where she had bought them. it turned out to be from the same store i had thought but her initial reaction was terror...if she answered my question honestly and outed herself, was i going to react poorly?

she took the risk and was a lot more comfortable when we started chatting about the various items available there and even more so when i mentioned making purchases there, but every time i think of that conversation i remember the look

maybe one day we wont have to look at each other with fear in our eyes and the world will be a much better place