Well it can be good. But I would highly recommend that before you even think of a "discreet encounter" that you fill out your profile, and then give us ladies a chance to get to know you.
Find threads that interest you and join in the discussions. The game threads are a good way to get to your post count up so that you can get a avatar...little pic under your name.
What you post here is public. What you say to someone else in a Private Message or some other medium is only as discrete and the individuals who give and receive the informaiton.