Yes, I'm a lesbian... coming out!!!

[Slut_loves_pain]

Hi, my name is Rachael, and I'm a lesbian.
WOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOO
It has taken me ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 6 years to actually decide that!!!
My therapist and I spent 2 hours this arvo talking about me and my relationships (I've always identified as bi) and it was like HELLEEWWWWWWWWOOOO Rach you have NEVER fantasised about men, you never have orgasms through intercourse, you hate touching men's bodies, they actually repulse you, you dont open a mag and go ooooo nice pecs you open it and go god i wanna stroke those breasts, you only have sex to get sperm to make babies and when he's on top of you you wish he had smooth silky skin and breasts, you're only with a man because its more 'comfortable' and you want a family, you dream day and night of women women women. And so many many other things.
I am gay. Yet I got married and am now seperated and in another relationship with a man. Go figure.
I have known who I am for a long time. I really truly have. I just could not face the idea of being 'another' minority group, another oppressed marginilized group, not able to have kids whenever I felt like.
Well now I can.
Kinda.
I live with a man. Our relationship is a little weird. We like each others company, we care about each other, and we have sex because we both want to bring another child into the world. AAAAAND ok while I may be lesbian I also am heavily into BDSM and find he fulfils my needs for domination, something I 'need' from a man
Our friends all think we're fucking crazy and I dont blame them.
I am going to an AIDS conference tomorrow as part of my training. I expect there to be a large gay/lesbian community there. I 'could' use it as an oppurtunity to get myself out there a little.
But I am so scared of being judged. The lesbian community is notorious for not being kind to those who choose to continue relationships with males, for whatever reason. And I cant be fucked with that. I do whatever is right for me, and right now I am comfortable with my roomie I have casual sex with. Doesnt make me any less of a lesbian.
So this is in part my official coming out letter and also a plea for reassurance or techniques to handle the judgement I'm afraid will come.
I'm so so proud of myself, this has taken such a long time.

 

[bytor2112]

pics??

 

[bytor2112]

Hi, my name is Rachael, and I'm a lesbian.
WOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOO
It has taken me ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 6 years to actually decide that!!!
My therapist and I spent 2 hours this arvo talking about me and my relationships (I've always identified as bi) and it was like HELLEEWWWWWWWWOOOO Rach you have NEVER fantasised about men, you never have orgasms through intercourse, you hate touching men's bodies, they actually repulse you, you dont open a mag and go ooooo nice pecs you open it and go god i wanna stroke those breasts, you only have sex to get sperm to make babies and when he's on top of you you wish he had smooth silky skin and breasts, you're only with a man because its more 'comfortable' and you want a family, you dream day and night of women women women. And so many many other things.
I am gay. Yet I got married and am now seperated and in another relationship with a man. Go figure.
I have known who I am for a long time. I really truly have. I just could not face the idea of being 'another' minority group, another oppressed marginilized group, not able to have kids whenever I felt like.
Well now I can.
Kinda.
I live with a man. Our relationship is a little weird. We like each others company, we care about each other, and we have sex because we both want to bring another child into the world. AAAAAND ok while I may be lesbian I also am heavily into BDSM and find he fulfils my needs for domination, something I 'need' from a man
Our friends all think we're fucking crazy and I dont blame them.
I am going to an AIDS conference tomorrow as part of my training. I expect there to be a large gay/lesbian community there. I 'could' use it as an oppurtunity to get myself out there a little.
But I am so scared of being judged. The lesbian community is notorious for not being kind to those who choose to continue relationships with males, for whatever reason. And I cant be fucked with that. I do whatever is right for me, and right now I am comfortable with my roomie I have casual sex with. Doesnt make me any less of a lesbian.
So this is in part my official coming out letter and also a plea for reassurance or techniques to handle the judgement I'm afraid will come.
I'm so so proud of myself, this has taken such a long time.

yeah that child will really be in good hands what with a mother who calls herself Slut loves pain.....

 

[Slut_loves_pain]

grrr

yes, because the two much loved and nurtured children I already have know everything about what their mother does once they've gone to bed or even WORSE what their mother does consentually with her roomie while they are spending 3 days a week with their father.
I cant stand people with bigoted uneducated comments like that.

 

[bytor2112]

Re: grrr

yes, because the two much loved and nurtured children I already have know everything about what their mother does once they've gone to bed or even WORSE what their mother does consentually with her roomie while they are spending 3 days a week with their father.
I cant stand people with bigoted uneducated comments like that.

then wise up...if you can't stand the truth....go get your ass whipped

 

[bytor2112]

Re: grrr

yes, because the two much loved and nurtured children I already have know everything about what their mother does once they've gone to bed or even WORSE what their mother does consentually with her roomie while they are spending 3 days a week with their father.
I cant stand people with bigoted uneducated comments like that.

then wise up...if you can't stand the truth....go get your ass whipped whore!!

 

[DarkAurora]

God, you people are mean. Just because she's insto S&M doesn't mean she's not a good mother. I'm not into S&M myself but I don't think I'm better than anyone who is. Coming to terms with your sexuality is a hard thing and you all should show a little support.

 

[Hajar]

bytor is a troll don't mind a word he says.
don't feel the trolls

I wish you the best in your choices, best of luck finding people who will accept your decisions

 

[SweetErika]

Congratulations, and I wish you much happiness in the future! I can't offer techniques on coming out, but take pride in yourself and your choices, and don't let anyone cut you down because of them. People who truly love you (or will in the future) will love you for who you are...your intellect, your heart, your beautiful soul, and the courage you show in being true to yourself and overcoming adversity.
Theodore Seuss Geisel was a smart guy..."Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."

Best of luck to you!

 

[deezire1900]

Ignore is a really great tool.

Good luck on all that is coming your way. I think life is about living, if you can't be who you really are...then you mine as well be dead.

 

[Etoile]

Theodore Seuss Geisel was a smart guy..."Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."

Wow, I like that. Thanks for mentioning it!

 

[bytor2112]

Wow, I like that. Thanks for mentioning it!

etoile, get me my coffee girl!!! and when you get back lick my balls and finger my ass....and then i'll cum on your sexy face!!

 

[Queersetti]

Welcome to Outland, Rachael.

 

[Clea]

yeah that child will really be in good hands what with a mother who calls herself Slut loves pain.....

Prick

then wise up...if you can't stand the truth....go get your ass whipped

Real Prick

etoile, get me my coffee girl!!! and when you get back lick my balls and finger my ass....and then i'll cum on your sexy face!!

Fucking prick

Yes I know you're entitled to your opinion, but it is also my opion you are a prick.

 

[Clea]

Oh and congratulations on coming out rachel

 

[SweetErika]

Prick



Real Prick



Fucking prick

Yes I know you're entitled to your opinion, but it is also my opion you are a prick.

Bytor's a troll, Clea. He posts mean and inflammatory comments for fun. Just add him to your ignore list.

 

[CJontherocks]

My hat is off to you, Rachael. Find your happiness. Raise your children and help them find their happiness. Someday I'll have your strength. If nothing else, the day I say it out loud, I'll think of people like you.

And who came up with that Dr. Seuss quote? I've read all his books, and don't remember that one, Sam I Am.

 

[SweetErika]

And who came up with that Dr. Seuss quote? I've read all his books, and don't remember that one, Sam I Am.

I'm can't find when he said it CJ, but apparently there are a bunch of "Seuss-isms"...he commented on a wide variety of topics. I just stumbled across that quote several years ago, and I liked it so much I've kind of kept it as a theme in my life.
Here are some more:
http://www.dailycelebrations.com/drseuss2.htm
If you click on the Seussisms link, it'll take you to Amazon...apparently there are several books devoted just to his words of wisdom.

 

[CJontherocks]

I'm can't find when he said it CJ, but apparently there are a bunch of "Seuss-isms"...he commented on a wide variety of topics. I just stumbled across that quote several years ago, and I liked it so much I've kind of kept it as a theme in my life.
Here are some more:
http://www.dailycelebrations.com/drseuss2.htm
If you click on the Seussisms link, it'll take you to Amazon...apparently there are several books devoted just to his words of wisdom.

Too cool! I love this one:

"I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living. It's a way of looking at life through the wrong end of the telescope. Which is what I do. And that enables you to laugh at life's realities."

-- Theodore Seuss Geisel

 

[CJontherocks]

And I never thought of Yertle the Turtle as being a political rights activist:

"I know up on top you are seeing great sights, but down on the bottom we, too, should have rights!"

I'm gonna use that one for my signature when I come out!

 

[bmw1080]

Congratulations Rachael from another in Godzone. I hope you have a more enjoyable journey through life now. As always, be relaxed in who you are.

Ciao B

 

[Slut_loves_pain]

Thanks all